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We hear it so often when we are about to become mother’s for the first time, “Oh, you’re not going to get any sleep!” But the problem is there’s not a plan in place for how the mom’s sleep is actually going to happen. And we think this is something that needs to be talked about more!

Today we have Dr. Shelby Harris on the show. She is a mom, a clinical psychologist, and is board certified in behavioral sleep medicine by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. We are absolutely obsessed with this interview! We go off script so many times, in a good way, because we ask all the follow-up questions that all of us have.

Dr. Shelby answers our questions around whether or not women really do need more sleep than men, how to enhance the quality of sleep when more sleep is just simply too hard to come by, and how caffeine really affects our sleep.

Do you ever wonder if naps are good for you?  What about the term “revenge bedtime” that we are seeing all over the internet? Should we be taking sleep aids? And what to do on those nights that you just can’t fall asleep, no matter what. Dr. Shelby answers those questions and so many more!

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Dr. Morgan Cutlip is back on the show today. She first joined us for episode 162. Today we are focusing on how we take care of ourselves as mothers; how do we feel good inside motherhood? So many of her answers spoke directly to both of us.

In her upcoming book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself, Dr. Morgan explains three core concepts moms face. She chats with us about these concepts including what we can do to help ourselves with the conflict of sacrificing our own identities in motherhood. We also discuss the core concept of idealization of motherhood and how intense our standards are on ourselves as parents. 

Ever feel like your needs aren’t being met by your partner when it comes to sharing the load? Do you ask them for help but it never seems to go anywhere? Dr. Morgan shares actionable steps we can take when our own needs are not being met. She talks about how we can best manage all of our commitments and why that means we can’t be 100 percent committed to everything at once. 

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If you’ve been wanting to minimize the clutter and simplify your life, we have a podcast episode that’s going to hit today! We are speaking with Denaye Barahona who has her Ph.D. in child development, is a licensed clinical social worker, and a mom of two. 

She shares her own journey when it comes to decluttering and simplifying her life. Denaye brings in the research side of things to help coach parents to adjust and eliminate the shame around feeling inadequate as a parent when you can’t say yes to everything.

Struggle with all the “stuff” that comes along with raising kids? Denaye gives us her top three strategies for coping with clutter and simplifying our physical spaces. She explains how when the space around us is peaceful, it puts our minds at ease as well.

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We know that many of you might be in vacation mode this week due to the Fourth of July holiday so we thought we would do a more casual episode. We are answering your questions that you submitted via Instagram and we have not seen these questions beforehand so we are answering off the cusp!

We talk about whether or not each of us takes naps and if the nutrition changes we have made have had an effect on how tired we get throughout the day. Things get a little spicy when we share what our favorite and least favorite quality of our spouses are. 

Parenting is a roller coaster, as we all know. We dive into what the peak and pit of parenthood looks like for both of us and how we each built our confidence level as mothers. 

If you enjoy this type of episode, know that we release ones just like this every month for our exclusive Patreon members only. Also, as part of our Patreon community, we do a monthly book club. This month we are reading The Midnight Library. If you’re interested in being a part of this, be sure to join by clicking on the link below!

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Are your kids starting to ask the really difficult questions especially when it comes to race? Then today’s episode is going to be a great one for you to learn from. Our guest, Dr. Traci Baxley is a cultural and race identity coach and she supports families in creating a safe place to have these types of conversations.

Dr. Traci approaches all of the subjects we cover in a non-judgmental way. She explains how being an educator in the classroom for years and being a parent of five children has led her to the work she does with social justice parenting. Dr. Traci describes why shielding our children from the ugliness of the world makes it more difficult for them to empathize with the struggles other people are going through. She goes into details on why she coaches parents to acknowledge race and shares tangible examples of age appropriate ways we can talk about these things with both our school aged children and younger kiddos as well.

Have you ever been in a situation where your child has asked a question right in front of another person? Dr. Traci walks us through what to do when this happens and explains how to go about handling that other person’s reaction as well.

We know that today’s episode is going to help you grow both as a person and as a parent. We would love it if you shared this episode with a friend who you know would enjoy it as well. As always, thanks for being here.

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Oftentimes as parents we focus so much on our kid’s emotions that we forget to give ourselves grace in this area. Today’s guest, Liz Fosslien is an emotions expert, an illustrator, and best-selling author of two books; No Hard Feelings and Big Feelings.

Liz explains why it is so hard for us as adults to focus on our own emotional needs. She also talks about why demonstrating our emotions to our children is so important and why editing them all out isn’t a good idea. Liz touches on the touchy subject of regret and explains why it isn’t always a bad thing.

Amy and I couldn’t help but feel the whole range of human emotions when we did this interview with Liz because not only does she allow that, she expects it. As women we often shove down emotions like anger or frustration when in reality those feelings should be invited. Having our kids see us work through those emotions is in fact very healthy!

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Destini Ann Davis is our guest today. She is a parenting coach, a working mom, and the author of Very Intentional Parenting: How to Raise Empowered Kids. She approaches parenting in a peaceful manner. Today, she talks with us about what this means and explains it in a way that we are all on the same team and we’re all trying to figure things out together.

Destini focuses on the energy that we can bring to parenting to really help everyone be more positive and peaceful and in return, we can raise children who are the same. She answers our questions on whether or not peaceful parents are raising entitled children, what to do when our approach to parenting differs from our partner, and how to use reflection and intention setting in parenting.

The continuing message throughout our conversation is centered around encouraging the parent and child to connect and communicate. If this episode resonated with you, we would love for you to share it on your Instagram stories and tag both @herselfpodcast and @destini.ann.

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We are bringing you something we’ve never really spoken about in the past. We are talking about adolescents and teenagers. We cover really hot topics including when it’s appropriate to give your child a cell phone. Our guest is Dr. Lisa Damour. She is a mom of two daughters, a psychologist, and the author of three New York Times best selling books that help parents untangle family life.

Dr. Lisa answers our questions on when we should start laying the groundwork with our children so that they can be resilient and cope with the challenges that come with the adolescent years. She covers how we can help our kids develop a solid self-esteem even if they’re not one of the stars. Body autonomy, expressing feelings, and how to support your kids in school are just a few of the topics we cover in today’s episode.

If you are the parent of an adolescent, or will be transitioning to this stage soon, you are not going to want to miss this episode! Be sure to tag both @herselfpodcast and @lisadamour on your Instagram stories and share this episode!

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The Dude Therapist is back with us today! We have Eli Weinstein on again, this time to focus on communication and conflict in relationships. This is a real conversation of what it’s like to be in a long term relationship with kids. There are challenges that come up and figuring out how to work through these and stay on the same page is so crucial.

Eli walks us through how couples that stay together deal with conflict. He touches on how to deal with heated issues when kids are in the room and how to work around that feeling of wanting to solve an argument right now.

Have you and your partner ever had the same disagreement over and over? Eli shares his tips on how to resolve this so that the same issues don’t keep coming up. If you’ve ever felt like your relationship is more transactional than anything else, tune in to hear what Eli recommends when things with your other half start feeling this way.

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We are shaking things up today by bringing you a male voice from the therapy, personal development, relationship, and parenting space. Our guest, Eli Weinstein, is a Dad of two and a psychotherapist that isn’t afraid to give it to people straight. He has an honest, blunt, but always kind style.

Eli has been working as a therapist for over eight years and shares some of the struggles he has faced since becoming a Dad. Him and his wife have experienced loss and infertility and Eli shares what that is like to go through as a Dad. 

As women, we often ask ourselves if Dad’s ever feel the mental load? Eli shares his perspective on this and what advice he has for women who are feeling the mental load burden. We cover the topic of postpartum mood disorders in men, what it’s like to be the starting player versus the bench warmer in parenthood, and how we have to be able to switch on and off as the preferred parent even when our children aren’t as comfortable with it.

You guys are always asking us for more episodes that center around a male’s perspective. This one's for you. You are going to want to share this with your male partner as well as any friend that you think might benefit from this episode!

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