Couples often get stuck after conflict not because they don’t care, but because the repair never actually lands. Dr. Tracy dives into what she sees in her therapy room: partners getting trapped in their own stories, over-focusing on intent (“I meant well”), and missing the one thing that rebuilds closeness, impact. Real repair starts with seeing the hurt, naming the impact, and staying present long enough for the other person to feel understood.
She also normalizes why repair is so hard for most of us: almost nobody watched their parents actually repair, so we’re trying to build a skill without a blueprint. Dr. Tracy walks through questions you can ask your partner about how conflict was handled in their home, why eye contact and emotional safety matter, and how attachment styles shape who reaches for repair first. The goal isn’t perfection, it’s learning how to come back to each other in a way that restores trust and connection.

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