Are you a positive person feeling defeated by your drinking habit?

It’s hard to feel optimistic when you’re struggling with intrusive thoughts and anxiety due to overdrinking. Worrying feels like the responsible thing to do. 

But if beating yourself up was an effective strategy against alcohol use disorder, your cravings for alcohol would disappear. 

It’s counterintuitive to let go of the shame and guilt before you have proof that you’re cured. But you can’t solve the problem using the mindset that is creating the problem. Your negative thoughts and feelings are just making it worse.

You already know that feeling better allows you to do better. When you manage to get it right…whatever that means to you , you feel inspired and optimistic. Which means you’re going to have to learn how to cultivate those emotions even when you’re hungover.

Michael Hunter is an acupuncturist with a master’s degree in Taoism, and the founder of UpSpiral Life, a program for people who want to learn how to use the Law of Attraction and manifestation practices to change their lives. In this episode, you’ll hear:

• How the Law of Attraction works to expand your capacity for positive emotions (and naturally reduce your desire to use alcohol as a crutch)

• Daily practices to decondition your brain from negative thinking habits

• How prioritizing a sense of optimism and peace will uplevel your life in ways you can’t even imagine

• Whether or not it’s actually possible to manifest a million bucks while you sit on the couch

Find Michael’s website at www.UpSpiral.Life, and join him on social media @sleepfix on TikTok and @UpSpiral.Life on Instagram

Come find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer

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EP130 Three skills to manage your mind so it works for you (instead of against you)

Are you tired of worrying about alcohol because no matter how hard you try to change, you always end up back in the same place?

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. But most people who are serious about cutting back on their alcohol consumption have actually tried a lot of different strategies. 

You may have taken a break to reset your tolerance, tried medications that reduce cravings, used apps like Sunnyside and Reframe for accountability or switched to beverages with lower alcohol content.

It’s impossible to have hope when you feel like a failure. The shame, guilt and frustration consume your energy and motivation, and undermine your relationships, career and mental health. 

In this episode, Colleen explains why the more you worry about alcohol, the worse it gets. Because alcohol use disorder is a thinking problem, not a drinking problem. Changing how you think will naturally and easily change how you drink. You’ll learn:

• The difference between negative and positive goals and why setting the goal to “drink less” causes you to drink more

• How to move from an all-or-nothing perfectionistic mindset to a growth mindset with a less-is-more attitude towards alcohol

• The difference between identity-based and behavior-based change and how to become someone who values her relationship with herself (so you can stop worrying about your relationship with alcohol)

Come find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

Do you have credit card debt or feel like you have to hide purchases from your partner?

Feeling bad about spending money triggers cycles of shame, overwhelm and uncertainty. Which often lead to excessive spending because heck, what’s another thousand bucks on the card?

Most people assume that solving money problems requires money. So they work longer and harder to try and get ahead. Yet somehow, life always seems to cost more than they make. 

If you feel like you’re stuck in a scarcity mindset, you already know the fastest way to financial freedom is to tune into the energetics of abundance. But what does that even mean?

Paige Prichard is the founder of Overcoming Overspending and the host of the top-rated The Money Love podcast. In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to tell the difference between a love of shopping and a shopping addiction

• How cutting up credit cards or living on a highly restrictive budget can keep you stuck (and what to do instead)

• How your internal money thermostat blocks wealth accumulation even when you’re doing everything right

• Why overspending is a mindset issue, not a money problem

Find Paige Pritchard at OvercomingOverspending.com and @overcoming_overspending on Instagram and YouTube.

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

Do you feel stuck in your marriage and assume that life after divorce will only get worse?

The only reason most of us stay in relationships that have run their course is because we think that staying married is somehow easier than getting a divorce. We want to avoid the shame, blame and fear of being alone.

But your well-being does not depend on your decision to stay married or get a divorce. Choosing to take full responsibility for how you feel and what you want allows you to be okay no matter what. 

My guest today is Sadie Marie, host of the top-rated Sadie’s Divorced and Happy podcast. She’s here to share the five things she didn’t know about life after divorce. You’ll hear:

• The process of self-discovery that allows you to stop worrying about what other people think

• How dating changes when you’re not looking for a life partner

• Why (after years of marriage) the best part of your day can be going to bed alone

• How learning to do things by yourself and for yourself is one of the best gifts you can give yourself (whether you’re divorced or not) 

• The freedom you experience when you stop relying on other people to give you what you need

Find Sadie at DivorcedandHappy.net and on social media @sadiesdivorcedandhappy

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Were you raised to believe that thoughts and feelings that don’t align with your religious values are wrong and even “sinful?”

Many of us who grew up in church are in the habit of ignoring emotions that contradict what we’ve been taught to believe is “right.” 

But rejecting our emotions requires us to reject ourselves, leaving us fractured instead of whole . And the disconnect between our head and our heart leads to pain, confusion and blind adherence to rules that keep us in bondage.

Sara Bybee Fisk is the host of the top-rated Ex-Good-Girl podcast. She’s here to share how learning to feel and trust her own truth liberated her from the need to seek other people’s approval. You’ll hear:

• Why Sara left the LDS Mormon community even though she deeply loved her life

• The true cost of being a people-pleasing perfectionist

• Where Sara got the courage to break the rules and listen to her heart

• How to overcome the fear of disapproval and trust yourself to know exactly who you are

Connect with Sara:

https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach?lang=en https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 https://www.linkedin.com/in/sara-bybee-fisk/

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

Do you struggle to show up as your best self because you feel fat, tired and grumpy?

Most high achieving women diagnose themselves as lazy or bitchy when our bodies feel like “one more problem” we have to deal with. We push through our feelings and try harder to do better, but deep down wonder what is wrong with us.

But even if we’re diagnosed with a legit hormone imbalance, medications can only bandaid the symptoms and enable us to continue behaviors that lead to burnout.

Blaming your body for the deficits your behaviors are creating, and restricting your food intake while using coffee (and wine) to get through the day makes life harder, not easier. 

Leisha Drews is a holistic hormone coach who teaches women how to heal their relationship with their bodies so their bodies can heal. In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The beliefs and behaviors that cause cravings, fatigue and moodiness

• How to escape the “on and off the wagon” lifestyle so you can live in a permanent state of wellbeing

• Simple daily self-care practices that support hormone health and give you the energy you need to not only function but to enjoy your life

Click here to find more on Leisha's website, LeishaDrews.com. 

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

How often do you hear yourself say the following: “I don’t know,” “This is going to suck,” “I don’t have time,” “The problem is…” and “Whatever, I don’t care?”

Most people don’t question the stories they tell themselves. They believe everything they think and act as though it’s true. And then feel like a failure when they repeatedly try and fail to break a bad habit.

The words in your brain are like familiar songs that come on the radio. You sing along even when you don’t like the tune because you know the words.  

Thoughts are habits too. And the more often you repeat a phrase in your head, the more “right” it feels in your body. And that prevents you from asking, “what else might be true?”

In this episode, you’ll learn how to overcome the five biggest lies you tell yourself so that you can finally gain the momentum you need to escape the cycle of self sabotage.

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

Are you in the habit of beating yourself up and trying to willpower your way into being a better person?

Most high achieving women who use alcohol to cope with their stress are caught in a cycle of punishment and reward. They work hard and believe they deserve to play hard. And when they overdo it, they actually embrace their shame because they believe that feeling bad will motivate them to do better. 

The problem with using shame to motivate yourself to drink less is that when you get it right, the shame disappears--taking with it the motivation to make a new habit out of your good behavior. The cycle is frustrating and exhausting because it’s unpredictable. You can’t ever be certain that you can trust yourself. 

Being unable to trust yourself is the crux of alcohol use disorder. The shame and guilt undermine your sense of self worth and motivation in other areas of your life. You go from feeling like a woman who is capable of doing anything you set your mind to someone who just wants to get through the day. Long term goals get farther and farther away. 

Continuing to focus on the problem makes the problem worse. In this episode, you’ll learn the three elements of self-compassion…which are mindfulness, kindness and recognizing your humanity. I’ll explain the science that reveals that the secret to change is allowing yourself to be where you’re at. 

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

Do you believe that accepting your overweight body as she is will make you lazy and complacent? 

Most of us claim the reason we want to lose weight is so we can feel healthy. However, let’s be honest. Your brain reminds you every five seconds that the extra pounds are gross and disgusting. And you just want to be free.

You may embrace the idea that big can be beautiful, but you don’t identify as a plus-size woman. You refuse to let yourself feel better until you look better.

But the bottom line is the more shame you’re carrying about how you look, the harder it gets to lose weight. 

In this episode, I’ll walk you through the step-by-step process for how to apply my 7 core skills of emotional sobriety to your weight loss goals. So you can free yourself of the mental roadblocks that undermine the sense of safety and confidence you need to accomplish your goals.   

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

And for today's episode....

Is your motivation to change your drinking habits strongest  when you’re hungover…but less so when you’re actually drinking?

Most high performing perfectionists are capable of doing anything they set their mind to. Which is why the frustration that comes with feeling like you can’t control your drinking can quickly erode your self-confidence. 

Which causes you to beat yourself up even more…and get stuck in your head trying to figure out what the hell is wrong with you. Because how do you solve a problem if the problem is you?

In this episode, I’ll teach you the step-by-step process for how to apply my 7 core principles of emotional sobriety to your next hangover. This is the exact framework my high achieving professional clients follow to reduce their drinking by 80 percent so that alcohol can go back to being a pleasure instead of a problem.

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