Libido Lounge

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Libido Lounge episodes

July 17, 2025 Girlfriend Edition #4: Is JEALOUSY Ruining Your Relationship?
Is jealousy ruining your relationship? In this Girlfriend edition of Libido Lounge, you will learn how to identify the signs of jealousy and how to overcome it to build a stronger and healthier partnership. We'll dive into the effects of jealousy on relationships, why people get jealous, and most importantly, how to stop jealousy from destroying your love life. From communication and trust to insecurity and possessiveness, we'll cover it all. If you're tired of feeling trapped in a cycle of jealousy and want to create a more loving and secure connection with your partner, then this video is for you.
(0:00) Introduction and themes: Jealousy and competition in relationships
(2:14) Dr. Diane's personal experience with jealousy
(6:02) The role of communication and emotions in managing jealousy
(13:02) Ownership, personal responsibility, and choice in jealousy
(21:42) Compersion, pleasure, and the role of oxytocin
(28:23) Using orgasms to balance emotions and libido
(31:17) Light and darkness: Maintaining libido through relationship stages
(35:23) Self-pleasure, redefining sex, and maintaining sexual energy
(43:15) Movement, sensual dance, and creative energy for libido
47 min
July 10, 2025 Girlfriend Edition #3: Is AWKWARD SEX Ruining Your Relationship?
Is your intimate life filled with awkward moments that are leaving you and your partner feeling frustrated and disconnected? In this Girlfriend Edition of the Libido Lounge, Dr. Diane and her friends Ruby, Cosmos, and Yonisun talk about their moments of awkward bedroom moments and how to make them more normal and hot! From uncomfortable conversations to awkward positions, we're covering it all. Whether you're in a new relationship or have been with your partner for years, this video is for anyone who wants to improve their intimacy and strengthen their bond. So if you're ready to stop letting awkward moments hold you back and start building a more fulfilling relationship, then keep watching!
(0:00) Awkward sex experiences and sex club mishap
(1:42) Introduction by Dr. Diane Mueller
(2:12) Importance of subscribing and introducing the girlfriends
(3:37) First awkward sex story and farting during sex
(5:35) Misconceptions and normalizing awkward sexual experiences
(10:34) Attraction, chemistry disconnect, and body intelligence
(15:05) Discussing bad sex experiences and the importance of the sensual journey
(19:31) Crying after orgasms and friends becoming sexual partners
(22:05) Making awkwardness okay in relationships
(25:13) Addressing perfectionism in sexual performance and gender differences
(28:06) The dynamics of one-night stands and orgasms
(31:13) The role of novelty and personal sexual evolution
(32:59) Sexual fantasies, changes during pregnancy, and audience engagement
(35:33) Sponsor: hotterlife.com and episode wrap-up
37 min
July 03, 2025 What's Your Attachment Style Doing To Your Relationships? With Bev Mitelman, M.A.
Are you tired of experiencing the same patterns of heartbreak, anxiety, or emotional unavailability in your relationships? It may be time to explore your attachment style. In this video, we'll dive into the three main attachment styles - anxious, avoidant, and secure - and how they impact your relationships. Learn how your attachment style may be driving your relationships and what you can do to break free from unhealthy patterns. Whether you're single, in a relationship, or just curious about yourself, this video will provide you with valuable insights to improve your connections with others.
About the Guest:
Bev Mitelman, M.A. - Founder of Securely Loved
Expertise: Working primarily with women in their peri-menopause and post- menopausal years focused on romantic relationships and sexuality, rebuilding healthy self-esteem and respectful parenting and family dynamics. Bev offers individual and couples sessions
To work with Bev and to take her free attachment theory quiz mentioned in the show go to https://securelyloved.com/
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Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
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Timestamps:
(0:00) Introduction to attachment theory and styles
(1:37) Sponsor: My Libido Doc
(2:13) Introduction of Bev Mitelman and Overview of Securely Loved
(3:37) Importance of attachment theory in relationships
(6:46) Characteristics of different attachment styles and healing relationships
(14:49) Real-life example of attachment styles in action
(16:42) Sponsor: Hot and Modern Monogamy
(17:18) Detailed behaviors of attachment styles and forming a more secure attachment
(27:51) Announcing exclusive part two content
(31:23) Wrapping up and information about Bev Mitelman's services
(33:14) Closing remarks and podcast outro
34 min
June 26, 2025 Pleasure Pitfalls: Are You Making These Common Mistakes? with Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown
Are you unintentionally sabotaging your own pleasure and bed satisfaction? In this video, we're exploring the common mistakes people make when chasing pleasure, and how these pleasure pitfalls can hold you back from achieving true fulfillment. From misguided expectations to unhealthy habits, we're diving into the most frequent errors that prevent individuals from experiencing the pleasure and satisfaction they deserve. By recognizing and overcoming these pleasure pitfalls, you can unlock a more satisfying and enjoyable life. Tune in to discover how to break free from these common mistakes and start living the life you truly desire.
(0:00) Different types of orgasms and the uniqueness of the cervix
(1:00) Principles of tantra, presence, and episode topics
(1:32) Sponsor: My Libido Doc
(3:20) Introduction of guests and discussion on cervical orgasms
(4:29) Nerve pathways, pleasure, and emotional release
(6:33) Achieving and understanding cervical orgasms
(9:59) Personal journeys with cervical pleasure
(11:27) Starting tips and techniques for cervical orgasms
(15:27) Unfurling emotions and spiritual slowing down
(17:54) Expanding into sensations and tantra practices
(21:43) Pelvic floor education and mind-body awareness
(24:34) Enhancing safety through the five senses and body awareness
(25:36) Managing fear and rage in intimacy
(26:22) Introduction to the pilgrimage and its benefits
(28:33) Pilgrimage details and free tantra training offer
(29:31) Encouragement and closing remarks
(30:02) Final thank you, outro, and social engagement prompt
31 min
June 19, 2025 Is Your LUBE Secretly Harming Your Intimate Health? With Heather Florio
Join us as we reveal the shocking truth about the lubricants you're using and how they may be secretly harming your vajayjay. When it comes to intimate wellness, we often overlook the importance of using safe and healthy products. But the reality is that many lubricants on the market contain harmful chemicals that can disrupt our reproductive health. In this video, Heather shares her expertise on what to look out for when choosing a lubricant and how to make informed decisions about your feminine health. You'll be empowered to take control of your intimate wellness and make positive changes that will benefit your overall health. Tune in to learn more about safe lubes and how to prioritize your reproductive health.
About the Guest:
Heather Florio is the second-generation owner and CEO of Desert Harvest, where she has played a vital role since 1993. After studying Leadership and Organizational Management at the University of Denver, Heather built a successful career in the entertainment industry, managing venues and coordinating global events for top-tier musicians. Her diverse leadership background laid the groundwork for her eventual return to the family business. In 2012, upon her parents’ retirement, Heather officially stepped into the role of CEO. Under her visionary leadership, Desert Harvest has experienced remarkable growth—expanding by over 1500%. She has leveraged her deep operational expertise and a lifelong passion for advocacy, channeling her knowledge of women’s health to drive innovation, education, and greater access to care for underserved communities. Heather’s leadership and impact have earned national recognition. She was named one of Authority Magazine’s Top 50 Women in Wellness in 2021 and was featured in Forbes in 2022 as a leading woman in business. Outside of the office, Heather finds joy in spending time with her husband, their three sons, and the family’s three dogs—balancing her professional success with a strong commitment to family and well-being.
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Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
More Libido Lounge
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✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
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✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
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✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
Timestamps:
(0:00) Introduction to vaginal lubricants and their impact on health
(2:30) Importance of choosing the right lube for sexual health
(3:47) Introduction of guest Heather Florio from Desert Harvest
(4:30) Types, pH, and osmolality of lubricants
(10:05) FDA regulations for lubricants
(14:00) Impact of soaps, spermicides, and menstruation on vaginal health
(17:38) Sponsor: Hot and Modern Monogamy Club
(18:45) PFAS chemicals and their health impacts
(20:30) Risks of Yoni/vaginal steaming
(22:02) Issues with petroleum-based lubricants
(24:37) Coconut oil and its antimicrobial properties
(25:26) Interstitial cystitis and bladder health
(27:29) Origins of Desert Harvest and aloe vera research
(31:09) Misdiagnosis and research on interstitial cystitis
(34:17) Holistic approaches to sexual health
(35:32) Summary of key points and consumer advice
(36:06) Links, discounts, and joining Libido Club
(37:47) Final thoughts on pleasure and health
(38:03) Outro and where to find Dr. Diane Mueller
39 min
June 12, 2025 Why Compromise Does Not Work With Dr. Alexandra Stockwell
Do you often find yourself compromising in relationships, work, or life in general? Do you wonder if compromise really works for you or against you? In this thought-provoking video, we explore the concept of compromise and its effects on our personal and professional lives. From the benefits of finding common ground to the potential drawbacks of sacrificing your own needs, we dive into the complexities of compromise and help you determine whether it's a helpful strategy or a recipe for disaster. So, does compromise really work for you? Watch to find out!
(0:00) Introduction to Low Desire and Sexual Satisfaction
(1:01) Libidos, Relationship Dynamics, and Pleasure Focus
(1:36) Sponsor: My Libido Doc
(2:11) Introduction to Libido Lounge with Dr. Alexandra Stockwell
(2:33) Uncompromising Intimacy and Relationship Compromise Issues
(5:00) Misconceptions and Importance of Uncompromising Intimacy
(10:40) Uncompromising Intimacy and Effective Communication Techniques
(15:03) Sponsor: Hot and Modern Monogamy Club
(15:51) Vulnerability and Communication in Relationships
(22:10) Mutual Respect and Navigating Communication Responses
(26:32) Teamwork and Empowerment in Addressing Desire Mismatch
(30:11) Daily Sensory Experiences and Enhancing Pleasure
(32:33) Part Two Introduction: Nourishing Sex and Pleasure Communication
(33:59) Dr. Alexandra Stockwell's Resources
(34:41) Closing Remarks and Gratitude
(35:24) Outro and Additional Information
36 min
June 05, 2025 Can You Heal From Betrayal with Dr. Bruce Chalmer
Healing from betrayal can be a daunting task, but is it possible to truly move on from the hurt and pain? In this video, we explore the concept of healing from betrayal and provide guidance on how to start the process of recovery. From understanding the emotions that come with being betrayed to learning how to forgive and trust again, we'll dive into the steps you can take to heal and move forward. Whether you're struggling with feelings of anger, sadness, or resentment, this video aims to provide you with the tools and insights you need to begin your journey towards healing and recovery. Can you truly heal from betrayal? Let's find out.
(0:00) Finding meaning in pain and steps to forgiveness
(0:46) Levels of sexual intimacy: plain, good, and sacred
(1:16) Sponsor: My Libido Doc
(1:52) Introduction and defining forgiveness with Dr. Bruce Chalmer
(3:07) The role of forgiveness in healing
(4:45) Understanding different definitions of forgiveness
(6:00) The link between processing trauma and forgiveness
(9:28) Forgiving the universe or God
(10:17) Rebuilding trust after betrayal
(13:02) Sponsor: Hot and Modern Monogamy Club
(13:51) Techniques for trauma processing and trust restoration
(18:12) Evaluating relationship continuation post-breach
(20:07) Managing anxiety in relationship struggles
(22:54) Exploring the spectrum of sexual experiences
(24:03) The significance of anatomy and physiology in good sex
(24:43) Enhancing intimacy and presence in sexual relationships
(26:15) Sacred sex and spiritual connection
(28:29) Guiding couples in sexual exploration
(30:13) Accessing Dr. Bruce Chalmer's resources
(32:21) Closing thoughts and call to action
34 min
June 05, 2025 Can You Heal From Betrayal with Dr. Bruce Chalmer| EP 87
Healing from betrayal can be a daunting task, but is it possible to truly move on from the hurt and pain? In this video, we explore the concept of healing from betrayal and provide guidance on how to start the process of recovery. From understanding the emotions that come with being betrayed to learning how to forgive and trust again, we'll dive into the steps you can take to heal and move forward. Whether you're struggling with feelings of anger, sadness, or resentment, this video aims to provide you with the tools and insights you need to begin your journey towards healing and recovery. Can you truly heal from betrayal? Let's find out.
(0:00) Introduction to faith, forgiveness, and "good sex"
(1:16) Sponsor: My Libido Doc
(1:52) Guest introduction: Dr. Bruce Chalman
(2:10) Defining forgiveness in relationships
(3:07) The necessity of self-forgiveness
(4:35) Forgiveness as a personal journey
(6:00) Dealing with trauma and forgiving
(7:32) Trust rebuilding post-forgiveness
(10:17) Examining trust and its role in partnerships
(13:03) Sponsor: Hot and Modern Monogamy Club
(22:54) Differentiating good sex from sacred sex
(23:10) Discussing the basics of plain old sex
(24:13) Intimacy's role in enhancing sexual experiences
(26:22) Understanding the concept of sacred sex
(27:26) Comparing sacred sex and meditation
(28:39) Encouraging couples to explore sexual variations
(30:13) Conclusion on sex, intimacy, and Dr. Chalmer's insights
(30:26) Dr. Bruce Chalmer's work and publications
(32:21) Show notes and additional resources
34 min
May 29, 2025 Overcome Eating Disorders and ADHD using the power of PLEASURE with August McLaughlin
Discover the power of pleasure in overcoming eating disorders and ADHD! In this video, we'll explore how focusing on pleasure can help you break free from the restrictive patterns of eating disorders and find freedom in your relationship with food. By incorporating pleasure into your daily life, you can also improve your focus, motivation, and overall well-being, making it an effective strategy for managing ADHD symptoms. Get ready to transform your relationship with food and your body, and find joy and pleasure in the process!
About the Guest:
August McLaughlin
Expertise: August McLaughlin is a journalist, author and host/producer of Girl Boner Radio, which was named “one of the best sex podcasts you should be listening to” by Romper and one of the top feminist podcasts by Bellesa. Her articles and expertise have been featured in Cosmopolitan, The Washington Post, O: The Oprah Magazine, DailyOM, Forbes, Shape and more. August has presented for TEDx Women and the Centers for Disease Control headquarters, ghostwritten hundreds of works for gynecologists and physicians and participated in orgasm fMRI research at Rutgers University. She’s also a trauma-informed certified sex educator with related expertise in eating disorders and ADHD.
https://augustmclaughlin.com/
https://augustmclaughlin.com/podcast/
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
More Libido Lounge
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✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
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Timestamps:
(0:00) Introduction to Women, ADHD, and Sexuality
(1:31) Sponsor: My Libido Doc
(2:27) Body Image, Eating Disorders, and Sexuality
(3:36) Guest Introduction: August McLaughlin
(4:22) August's Journey with Body Confidence and Eating Disorders
(7:25) Rediscovering Pleasure and Healing Body Image
(10:28) Healing through Self-Pleasure and Tools for Positive Self-Talk
(13:33) Tools for Feeling Comfortable During Sex and Real-Time Negative Thought Management
(16:49) Sponsor: Hot and Modern Monogamy Club
(17:37) Redirecting Energy and Addressing Thoughts During Intimacy
(20:24) ADHD's Impact on Sex and Intimacy, Benefits and Challenges
(23:51) Novelty, Exploration, and Meditation in Sex
(26:24) Sharing Fantasies and Creating a Novelty Jar
(29:20) Overcoming Apprehension in Sharing Fantasies
(30:16) Teaser for Next Episode: Brain and Orgasm
(31:26) The Role of Fantasy and Imagination in Enhancing Sex
(31:49) Where to Find August McLaughlin's Work
(32:26) Closing Remarks and Gratitude
(32:40) Outro and Call to Action
33 min
May 22, 2025 Improve Your RELATIONSHIPS Now with Proven Communication Secrets with Dr. Robin Buckley
Explore the intricate relationship between the emotional brain and intimacy in this episode with Dr. Robin Buckley. Uncover the myth that relationships are "hard work" and discover how emotional, intellectual, and spiritual intimacy play crucial roles in a fulfilling sex life. Delve into the importance of experiential intimacy and learn how to use SWOT analysis for relationship growth. Discover how strategic discussions can foster deeper connections and why difficult conversations shouldn't happen in bed. Gain insights into developing relationship and sexual mission statements, and get introduced to the CBT framework. Wrap up with Dr. Buckley's insights and resources for further exploration.
About the Guest:
Dr. Robin Buckley
Expertise: Dr. Robin Buckley earned her PhD in clinical psychology from Hofstra University, with specialized training in cognitive behavioral methodology and executive coaching. Her work as an expert in the field has been featured on multiple media platforms, including Entrepreneur, Chief, Authority Magazine, Nike, and on the 2023 TED stage. As an international speaker, Robin focuses on the application of cognitive behavioral strategies to mental wellness and optimal functioning in the workplace, and women’s equity and empowerment. As a coach, Robin applies data-driven, cognitive behavioral tactics to help organizations, couples, and individuals create strategic plans for professional and personal success. Her proprietary coaching model uses a business framework to support clients in creating and executing concrete, strategic plans for developing their relationships. Robin has published three books and her newest book, Marriage Inc.: Build a thriving relationship like a successful business is due to be published in 2025.
https://www.instagram.com/drrobinbuckley/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-robin-buckley/
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/
✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
Timestamps:
(0:00) Emotional intimacy, the amygdala, and its balance with rational intimacy
(1:06) Relationship foundation and debunking relationship myths
(1:38) Sponsor: MyLibidoDoc
(2:14) Introduction: Sex, intimacy, and business strategies in relationships
(3:54) Breaking down intimacy: types and challenges
(7:23) Vulnerability and the four types of intimacy
(12:53) SWOT analysis and relationship growth
(15:20) Sponsor: Hot and Modern Monogamy Club
(16:08) Engaging the prefrontal cortex and diversifying intimacy sources
(19:31) Intimacy needs and the value of relationship reviews
(22:52) Rational discussions and business frameworks for relationship enhancement
(26:30) Mission statements and team dynamics in relationships
(28:20) CBT framework and Dr. Robin Buckley's insights
(29:53) Complimentary coaching session and final thoughts
(31:11) Closing remarks and contact information
32 min

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