The voice of the "should" -- the things we know we should be doing but can't seem to do. Maybe we consume so much self-help information and don't feel like we can apply any of it. Why does this happen? What can we do about it? 

• Shift of language: “I’d like to” or “I can” instead of “I should” or “I need to”
• Stef’s experience of the should voice in yoga
• Permission to do things inconsistently
• Do we feel better about doing things that are non-negotiable?
• How do we deal with the disappointment in ourselves?
• The somatics of “shoulds” and overwhelm
• The vague-ness of our shoulds - can we make the goal more specifi?
• The diet culture associations of certain goals
• What do Stef & Sarah feel like they “should” do today?

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Have you ever looked at a photograph of yourself (or passed by your reflection in a mirror) and felt a surge of shock or body image distress run through your whole body? This is what Stef calls a "flood," and in this episode we dive a little deeper into why this happens and what we can do about it. 

• We’re coming to NYC!

• Fatphobia is implicit in feeling disgust or disapproval of our image

• Disorientation of an image versus our mental self image

• Do body image coaches have floods?

• How our perspective of our image can change within short periods of time

• Stef’s flood in London

• So What?

• How do we handle emotional reactions like this?

• What about the younger generations who have body image pressures?

• PHYSIS

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Have you noticed difficulty or discomfort in the small transitions of life, like coming home from work or preparing to wind-down for the night? Why are transitions a time we turn to food for help? In this episode, we talk about:

• What is transition eating
• Sarah’s afternoon walk
• Stef’s nighttime transition and home/work transition
• When the kids go to bed
• Transitioning back to work after lunch
• Eating while traveling
• Eating after a nap
• Eating on autopilot after bingeing
• Autopilot can be a form of dissociation
• Tools: naming, slowing down, speeding up, rituals

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Many of us have tried to reduce or eliminate white sugar, flour, carbohydrates, and/or processed foods in order to improve our relationship with food, reduce overeating, and lose weight. Does this approach make sense? Does it help? Is it a problem with the approach or a problem with us? In this episode, we explore:

• Stef’s experience of feeling good on keto, and it’s unraveling
• Is it a psychological or a physiological issue?
• Bright Line Eating and the science of insulin and leptin
• Stef’s “close-to-the-bathroom” analogy
• How community impacts this process
• The rebel spirit
• Can we separate abstinence from morality? Does anyone?
• Personal responsibility when consuming content around these concepts

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Has your body changed in recovery, or as a result of your disordered eating patterns? This can be hard enough in our fatphobic society, but there is often an added layer of “clothing grief.” Fashion can be part of a creative expression that feels like part of our identity; and its not secret that fashion culture caters to smaller bodies.

In this episode, we talk to Dacy of Mindful Closet. Dacy empowers women “to be their authentic selves through their clothes” even when body image feels like a barrier to that expression. We discuss:

• Clothing as a gateway to identifying what we really like and want
• Creating a Pinterest board
• How Dacy helps people deal with clothing that looks one way on the model/mannequin and completely different on our own body
• How Dacy ended up working with women with fashion and body image issues
• Sarah’s aphantasia (not having a mind’s eye) and copying outfits as a strategy
• The “frumpy” insecurity
• How support in this area creates conditions for self acceptance we may not have access to alone
• What about people who can’t accept the size of their body and don’t want to spend money and energy on shopping for clothes?
• Dressing for special occasions

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Dacy's Instagram handle: @mindfulcloset

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Many people who've struggled with binge eating for a long time have come across the book "Brain Over Binge" by Kathryn Hansen. Sarah and Stef, co-hosts, both read the book as they tried to recover and are discussing how the method landed for them. The episode looks into:

• Stef’s history and experience with reading BOB and taking the official BOB course
• Sarah’s experience of “looking forward to” the next binge urge to learn a new response.
• Dismissal of urges as irresponsible – what if those messages from the primal brain are valid, asks Stef
• Weight and eating as pathological
• Minimization (demonization?) of conventional therapy
• Do some personality types find this approach easier than others?
• Sarah’s use of RALIC to ride out binge urges - but not with the goal of not bingeing itself.
• What if giving yourself permission to binge does NOT feel okay?
• Does it work to delay a binge?
• What can we take from BOB, in S&S’s perspective?

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Restricting and bingeing (and the spectrum of these behaviors) can be attempts to numb our emotional experience. This episode looks at different ways of numbing and how Sarah & Stef experienced using food as an escape. We cover:

• Numbing via eating and numbing via restriction
• Do binges make us “not feel” or feel more?
• Stef’s recollection of numbing in London circa 2000
• The feeling that tomorrow it will be different.
• Connection to break the numbing cycle
• Somatic practices, embodiment, checking in with the body
• Difficulty with empty time, in the gaps of life
• Numbing doesn’t exist in a vacuum; food can numb AND do other things like provide comfort, soothe boredom, etc
• Low level existential blah
• How did Sarah and Stef stop needing to numb so much?

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Control is an unavoidable theme in the subject of eating disorder recovery. What is your relationship to control and how do you define it? The hosts explore their own experience of the concept and also highlight its important (and at times, healthy) role in navigating recovery. Sarah & Stef discuss:

• Light podcast banter. What podcasts do we listen to?
• The thrill of control/restriction
• Stef feels like control is safety; Sarah feels like control is dominance.
• The role of control in bulimia and/or restriction
• The illusion of control; if we see that it’s an illusion, does it break the spell?
• Is control always at the root of EDs? Not true for Sarah!
• Control as related to sense of self or emotional magnitude
• Control and rebellion. We need to know we have agency & choice.
• Surrender: higher power and the inner compass
• We can’t control what’s hard
• How much control is healthy? How else can we make it productive?

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What role does food play in grief (around death, breakups, or existential itchiness)? In this episode Sarah & Stef share some personal stories, including a little cry!

• Sarah’s loss of her Mum
• Stef’s losses of relationships
• The idea of a “revenge body”
• Weight gain as a “sign” of a breakup?
• Stef’s loss of a primary friendship in college, and what happened after
• Nostalgia (grief) for places and eras of life
• Searching for food that will take that feeling away
• Existential grief, even as experienced by 11 year olds
• The role of acceptance 
• Sarah literally working through a grief moment in real time on the podcast

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In this episode, Sarah and Stef talk about their relationship with food from a recovered perspective. Do we ever feel binge urges? Does a disordered tendency ever really disappear?

• Stef’s experience of over-hunger and how it impacts her urge to eat
• Sarah’s experience of brunch last Sunday
• Cake as a habit and compulsion (minus guilt) – Sarah’s story
• Food neutrality does not mean some foods aren’t more appealing
• What about dopamine?
• What about emotional urges to eat? And cravings?
• Do urges to restrict ever go away?
• Binge eating as something we always have to manage, and the difference of opinion on that
• Are there any conditions in which Sarah or Stef feel their binges would come back?
• Are there advantages to having a history of binge eating, once recovered?
• Do urges to eat just turn into other types of urges?

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