Men, Sex, and Pleasure with Cam Fraser

Episode #226 of #mensexpleasure with Tantric Hypnotherapist Alexandra Holovitz.

Key points:

Alexandra's background and work

Alexandra introduces herself as a coach and erotic hypnosis practitioner. She runs the brand "Alexandra Guru" and is passionate about supporting men to embrace their masculine and feminine polarity, as well as becoming more multi-orgasmic.

Erotic hypnosis vs. regular hypnosis

Alexandra explains that erotic hypnosis uses an erotic setup to help clients access deeper pleasure, body sensations, and explore fantasies in a safe, visualized space before potentially trying them out in real life. It differs from regular hypnosis in its focus on the erotic and sensual.

Case studies and client experiences

Alexandra shares two case studies - one of a client who used erotic hypnosis to anchor pleasurable sensations that he could access during boring meetings, and another of a couple who used it to explore and overcome shame around trying new practices.

Addressing men's fears around erotic hypnosis

Alexandra discusses how many men are initially hesitant or fearful about losing control or being "mind controlled" through erotic hypnosis. She emphasizes that she cannot make clients do anything they don't want, and that the process is about empowering them to access more pleasure and sensations.

Practical tips and resources

Alexandra recommends clients do an "emotional CV" exercise to reflect on past experiences and emotions, which can provide helpful context. She also offers custom hypnosis recordings and a free "Guided Sub Pleasure" audio for clients to use on their own.

Erotic hypnosis course and closing thoughts

Alexandra shares that she is launching a new course to teach men how to use erotic hypnosis as a "bedroom superpower" to spice up their lives. She encourages men to be curious and open-minded about exploring erotic hypnosis and the many ways it can enhance pleasure and connection.

Relevant links:

Alexandra's website: www.holovitzalexandra.com

Alexandra's Instagram: www.instagram.com/alexandra_guru

Free resources: The Orgasmic Hypno Bundle https://alexandraguru.tentary.com/p/qxVYxb

From episode #72 with Rory Callaghan.

More from that episode:

- Rory talks about his work and his mission

- Rory shares about his recent breakup

- Navigating the post-breakup headspace

- Communication strategies and vulnerability

- Integrity and taking time for yourself

- What is self-care?

- The fundamentals of health

- How to achieve integrated health

- Rory offers some advice for men

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Nicolas Notini Wallin. Nicolas had his first Energyflow awakening at the age of three playing drums. It was life-changing, the greatest magic. Inspired by family friend and music legend Quincy Jones he decided early on to devote his life to exploring this Energy in music, improvisation, compassion and personal growth. It remains his biggest passion in life. He has a career as a recording studio musician and he is a serial entrepreneur and founder in digital entertainment

Key Points:

- Nicolas introduces himself

- Nicolas' passion for transforming energy

- The analogy of music and improvisation to relationships

- Compassion as a framework for living and working

- Nicolas' 100-day challenge for cultivating self-love and positive energy

- Closing reflections

Relevant links:

Nicolas' website: www.warriorsoflove.org

From episode #71 with Sascha Heart)

More from that episode:

- Sascha shares about his passions and work

- Building confidence to have better sex

- Men who feel intimidated by women

- You are not your partner’s coach

- Fear of leaving a relationship

- Entrepreneurship and financial independence

- Nourishment and connecting in with your body

- The masculine seeks freedom

- Semen retention vs conscious ejaculation

- The symbolism of ejaculation

- Ejaculation shaming

- Semen retention and meditation

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Katy Bampton. A passionate and experienced Somatic Sexologist dedicated to empowering individuals on their journey to heightened confidence, effective communication and well-being, Katy brings a unique blend of expertise, compassion, and personalized guidance to those seeking positive transformations in their intimate lives. Katy specializes in helping individuals overcome barriers related to confidence in the bedroom, relationship struggles, navigating ADHD/anxiety, sexual trauma and how to live a life full of pleasure. Her approach is rooted in creating a safe and judgment-free space, where clients can explore their desires, embrace their bodies, and navigate the intricacies with confidence.

Key points:

- Katy introduces herself

- Understanding embodiment

- Overcoming societal conditioning

- The power of breathwork

- Expanding intimacy beyond penetration

- Guiding women to self-touch

- Transcending the bedroom

Relevant links:

Katy’s Instagram: @katybampton

Katy’s website: https://katybampton.com/

From episode #70 with Chloe Adriana.

More from that episode:

- Chloe shares about her transformative journey

- How Chloe defines radiance

- How Cam defines radiance

- The power of travel and exploration

- Masculinity and dark masculine energy

- Relationship with penises

- How penises are portrayed in media

- Rewriting sexual scripts

- Loving your genitals

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Pharrell Shaymar. Pharrell is a professional boxing coach, proud trans man, and LGBTQ+ advocate and community leader. Pharrell uses the prism of boxing through advocacy, breaking down barriers, educational videos, and breaking stereo types of trans people in combat sports. His key message is, "I will never become biologically male, but I am a gentleman."

Key points:

- Pharrell introduces himself

- Pharrell’s journey to advocacy

- Challenges of trans athletes in sports

- Pharrell’s personal experience as a trans man

- Navigating masculinity and identity

- Advice on mental health and self-discovery

Relevant links:

Pharrell’s Instagram: @pharrell_shaymar

Pharrell’s website: https://www.pharrellshaymar.com/

From the solo episode #69 with Cam Fraser. More from that episode:

- The stigmatization of male sex toys

- Celebrating men’s self-pleasuring

- Fifty Shades of Grey Relentless Vibrations Couples Vibrator

- We-Vibe X Lovehoney Clitoral and G-Spot Vibrator

- Blowmotion Warming Vibrating Male Masturbator

- Blowmotion Warming Pulsating Vibrating Male Masturbator

- Blowmotion Real Feel Vibrating Male Masturbator

- Blowmotion Blow Job Real Feel Vibrating Suction Male Masturbator

- Desire Luxury Male Vibator

- Desire Luxury Vibrating Prostate Massager

- Kinky Confessions Card Game

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dave Booda. Dave is a writer, musician and social entrepreneur. He is the co-founder of IntimacyFest and hosts The Darkness Experiment. He has led over 450 workshops on connection, touch and relationships and has consulted for and facilitated experiences for companies, communities, retreats, festivals, conferences, birthday parties, orgies, weddings, funerals, and gatherings of all kinds — with the intention to inspire authenticity, connection and group cohesion. He has published over 200 essays for boodaism.com and played over 1000 shows as a touring singer/songwriter. He is a former Naval Officer and graduate of the U.S. Naval Academy, currently serving on the board of directors for the Foundation for Intentional Community while living at a community in rural San Diego County.

Key points:

- Dave introduces himself

- Exploring the “Pickup Artist” and “Sacred Sexuality” communities

- Authenticity, connection, and community

- Accountability and abuse of power

- Advice for those in dogmatic communities

Relevant links:

Dave’s website: https://boodaism.com/

From episode #68 with Danny Lakey. More from that episode:

- Danny shares about his career on radio

- Showing up authentically

- Australian men and our drinking culture

- Sobriety and masculinity

- Altered states of consciousness

- Experiencing the divine feminine

- Stigma about psychedelics and sex

- Combining sex with psychedelics

- Danny shares some advice