On Purpose with Jay Shetty

How often do you check your phone daily?

Do you feel anxious when you’re away from your phone?

Today, Jay addresses the growing concern of excessive phone and internet usage, exploring its detrimental effects on mental and physical health. He begins by explaining how activities like swiping, liking, and commenting on social media provide our brains with dopamine hits, which can create a cycle of dependency and compulsive behavior. Despite the benefits of technology, such as increased connectivity and access to information, many people feel less connected and more distracted, anxious, and impatient.

Jay elaborates on the neurological aspects of dopamine and its role in pleasure-seeking behaviors, emphasizing that problems arise when we expect constant rewards from our online activities. He draws parallels between the brain's response to food and its response to digital consumption, advocating for a balanced approach that avoids overindulgence in either.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to become more conscious of your internet use

How to have wifi-free meals

How to replace morning phone use with healthier habits

How to stay mindful when using technology

How to engage in a cell phone detox

The ultimate goal is to create a healthier, more intentional relationship with technology, leading to a more fulfilling and balanced life.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:46 On Your Phone All the Time?

05:32 Losing Control Over Phone Use

06:19 Six Steps to Phone Detox

07:01 Dopamine

11:23 People Aren’t As Happy As Before

13:39 How Often Do You Check Your Phone?

14:27 Cortisol

17:26 Step 1: Become More Conscious

19:19 Step 2: Wait an Hour Before Going Online

21:18 Step 3: The WiFi-Free Meal

23:45 Step 4: Watch What You Consume Online

24:54 Step 5: Limit Potions

25:48 Step 6: Intermittent Fasting

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How can you start letting your guard down in love?

How can you become more open and vulnerable in your relationships?

Today, let's welcome Alexis Ren and Allie Michelle. Alexis is a model, entrepreneur, and social media influencer with over 18 million followers on Instagram. Known for her advocacy of mental health and self-empowerment, Alexis has leveraged her platform to promote wellness and personal growth. She is also the co-founder of "We Are Warriors," a female-driven wellness community focused on fostering self-love, strength, and growth among women worldwide. 

Allie is a bestselling author, spoken word artist, and certified yoga, breathwork, meditation, Reiki, and craniosacral therapist. She is passionate about holistic health and personal development, which she incorporates into her work. The duo are the co-founders of "We Are Warriors," a female-driven wellness community focused on fostering self-love, strength, and growth among women worldwide. 

Alexis and Allie's friendship began when they were preteens and they share how their relationship has been a cornerstone of their personal growth, providing mutual support through life's challenges. A significant turning point in their friendship occurred when Alexis's mother passed away, leading to Allie’s family adopting Alexis. 

A significant theme throughout the discussion is the balance of masculine and feminine energies, which Alexis and Allie explore in depth. They describe how these energies play out in their lives and work, with Alexis often taking on a more masculine, action-oriented role, while Allie embodies a more feminine, intuitive approach. They emphasize the importance of recognizing and honoring both energies within oneself and in others, as this balance has been crucial in their personal and professional lives.

Alexis and Allie also address the societal pressures that women face, particularly around beauty standards and career expectations. Both women emphasize the importance of breaking free from limiting beliefs and societal expectations to find deeper fulfillment and authenticity.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to support a friend

How to manage criticism

How to build a strong friendship

How to stay authentic

How to handle creative blocks

How to empower others

Embrace the balance of your masculine and feminine energies, break free from societal expectations, and empower each other to thrive on the journey to self-discovery and growth.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

03:38 Beginning of a Friendship 

08:25 Growing Together Independently

10:21 Going Through Big and Small Changes

15:19 Creative and Emotional Intelligence

18:30 Validating and Complimenting Each Other 

21:59 Types of Archetypes

27:18 What's Holding Women Back?

29:46 Start Embracing Your Feminine Energy

33:38 Why Did It Trigger You?

41:00 How to Prepare for Life

45:23 Living an Internally Peaceful Life

52:44 Balance Between Masculine and Feminine Energy

01:02:25 Dealing with the Imbalance in Your Energy

01:07:00 You Can Do Uncomfortable Things

01:10:16 The Best Journaling Practice

01:14:39 Speak to Your Subconscious

01:16:55 Try Leaning Into the Moment

01:23:27 Relationship Checklist 

01:28:38 Alexis and Allie on Final Five 

01:37:46 Giving Each Other the Grace of Change

Episode Resources:

Alexis Ren | YouTube

Alexis Ren | Instagram

Alexis Ren | Facebook

Alexis Ren | TikTok

Allie Michelle | YouTube

Allie Michelle | Instagram

Allie Michelle | TikTok

Allie Michelle | Books

We Are Warriors

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How does unresolved trauma impact your life?

How can you rewire your brain to overcome trauma?

Today, in the On Purpose podcast, Jay sits down with actress and LGBT advocate, Laverne Cox. Laverne’s groundbreaking performance on "Orange Is the New Black" made her the first openly transgender person to be nominated for a Primetime Emmy Award. In addition to her acting career, Laverne Cox has been involved in various advocacy and awareness campaigns, making her a significant figure in the ongoing struggle for transgender and LGBTQ+ rights. Her work has contributed to greater visibility and acceptance of transgender individuals in the entertainment industry and society at large.

In this episode, Laverne and Jay dive deep into transgender rights, media representation challenges, and how empathy can make a big difference in our divided world. They also discuss how fake news and false information on the internet can be a problem and why learning how to spot them is crucial. 

Laverne also shares personal experiences and insights that shed light on the struggles and triumphs of the transgender community. She also talked about the need for structural change, greater investment in education, and the role of love and empathy in promoting understanding and healing. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

• The power of personal stories in changing perceptions and fostering empathy
• The struggles and rights of transgender individuals in society
• Ways to challenge and correct misconceptions about transgender individuals
• The importance of uncomfortable conversations and understanding why having difficult discussions is essential for growth and progress.

Remember that understanding and empathy can bridge even the widest divides, and it's through collective efforts that we can work toward a more inclusive and compassionate world. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:10 Childhood Memories That Define Who Laverne Is Today
• 10:51 Reparenting Her Inner Child
• 18:27 Why Is Denial Unhealthy?
• 25:05 Try To Let Go Of All Your Thoughts
• 27:43 The Fear and Freedom of Growing Older in Hollywood
• 31:13 Unlearning Transphobia and White Supremacy
• 46:06 Fight for Trans Rights and Mental Wellness
• 59:03 Bridging the Divide Through Thoughtful Conversations

Episode Resources:

• Laverne Cox | Instagram | 
• Laverne Cox | X 
• Laverne Cox | Facebook
• Laverne Cox | TikTok 

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How do you deal with negative people close to you?

How do you stay positive around negative people?

Today, Jay welcomes Robert Greene, known for his bestsellers like "The 48 Laws of Power" and "The Daily Laws." Robert's works draw on historical figures and events to provide insights into the dynamics of power and social influence. His books are often used as guides for personal development, leadership, and understanding the complexities of human interactions. 

Robert shares tips on dealing with negative people, emphasizing the importance of emotional distance and understanding that everyone has their flaws and shares his thoughts on the idea that our sense of self is just a mental construct, and real enlightenment comes from letting go of our egos. He also stresses the importance of questioning your beliefs to truly understand who you are and what you’re meant to do in life. 

Followed by Jay and Robert's discussion on why it's more important to judge people by their character rather than their intelligence or charm, how a strong character is shown by handling criticism well, working well with others, and managing stress. They also talk about how modern life can make us less empathetic and the need to genuinely connect with others. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to deal with negative people

How to develop empathy in modern life

How to question your own beliefs

How to stay true to yourself

How to handle criticism constructively

How to manage stress effectively

By understanding the nature of the self, maintaining emotional distance from negativity, and focusing on genuine connections, we can foster a stronger sense of empathy and authenticity in our lives.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

05:31 How to Deal with Negative People?

09:04 Look Behind the Mask

13:26 Getting Attracted to the Wrong People

15:02 Filling Up the Emptiness

17:23 Surprising Characteristics in Humans

19:10 Our Capacity for Empathy

21:31 What’s Your Most Repeated Thought?

22:34 How Quiet the Mind

24:54 Becoming More Aware

30:20 How We Process What We’re Experiencing

33:42 Who Really Are You?

37:44 How People Think About You

41:00 People’s Perception of You

43:46 The Before and After

46:57 Timeless Knowledge in Books

49:58 What Makes You Excited?

53:16 The Second Self

55:57 The Core of Your Reality

59:21 Limited Language

01:01:41 The Limited Circle of Harmony

01:04:49 Different Thoughts About the World

01:11:04 Slowing Down

01:13:21 Robert on Final Five  

Episode Resources:

Robert Greene | Website

Robert Greene | Instagram

Robert Greene | TikTok

Robert Greene | YouTube

Robert Greene | Books

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What’s blocking you?

What’s holding you back?

Today, Jay talks about the concept of self-sabotage, examining how it manifests in various aspects of our lives and offering strategies for overcoming it. Self-sabotage is defined as behaviors that undermine our own success, happiness, and stated goals. These actions often occur subconsciously, rooted in deep psychological patterns formed during early childhood.

Jay outlines four primary ways people self-sabotage: chronic lateness, procrastination, putting oneself down, and perfectionism. He also discusses the habit of putting oneself down, which can manifest through over-apologizing or refusing to take credit for accomplishments. This behavior is often linked to low self-esteem or an internalized critical voice from childhood.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Recognize Self-Sabotage

How to Stop Putting Yourself Down

How to Change Negative Self-Talk

How to Understand Your Triggers

How to Set Boundaries

By understanding and working through these patterns, you can unlock your full potential and achieve the success and happiness you desire.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

03:08 What is Self-Sabotage?

05:41 Passive-Aggressive Behavior

08:22 Behavior that Counters What We Tell Ourselves

11:08 What Leads to Self-Sabotage?

14:26 #1: Chronic Lateness

16:22 #2: Procrastination

19:53 #3: Putting Yourself Down

23:15 #4: Perfectionism

27:01 Three Ways to Deal with Your Self-Sabotaging Behavior

28:53 weird noise in the background

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What was your biggest challenge after hitting rock bottom?

How did you manage to overcome your failures?

Today, let's welcome the one and only Fat Joe, a renowned American rapper and music industry executive. He began his music career in the early 1990s and quickly gained recognition with his debut album "Represent" in 1993, featuring the hit single "Flow Joe." Fat Joe has played a crucial role in promoting other artists, notably Big Pun, who achieved significant success before his untimely death. His journey from the streets of the Bronx to international stardom is a testament to his talent, perseverance, and enduring impact on the world of hip hop.

Fat Joe provides an honest look at the gritty realities of his early life, including hustling for money and living through dangerous encounters. He shares how the aggressive nature of hip hop initially required him to hide his true, more personable self behind a tough exterior. However, he credits the genre for saving his life and offering a legitimate path out of the streets.

The conversation takes a turn as Fat Joe talks about the devastating losses he endured, including the deaths of his sister, Big Pun, and his grandfather, all within a short span. These tragedies plunged him into a deep depression, from which he emerged with the help of therapy, highlighting the importance of mental health and seeking help. Despite facing financial mismanagement and betrayals, Fat Joe maintains his integrity and commitment to his values. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to balance career and family

How turn negative experiences into positives

How to build a resilient mindset

How to give back to your community

How to stay true to yourself

Fat Joe's story is a source of inspiration, demonstrating that with determination and support, it is possible to overcome adversity and achieve lasting success and happiness.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

Special thanks to Soho Home at Soho Works 55 Water where the taping took place.

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:04 Earliest Childhood Memory

03:52 Bullying

07:53 Developing resilience 

08:37 Life and Death Choices

09:51 Thug Life

12:42 Ambition to Succeed

16:43 Figure It Out

22:03 Family Tree

27:43 Losing Family Over Addiction

31:57 Loss and Grief

39:21 Sister Love

41:13 Big Pun

46:56 Financial Literacy

50:19 Take Care of Your Parents

52:13 Money and Trust

56:25 Stick Around

57:44 Kids with Special Needs

01:02:30 Channeling Energy Through Music

01:04:30 Interview Gone VIral

01:08:30 Doing Good in Silence

01:11:05 The HipHop Culture

01:13:30 Spiritual and Healing Journey

01:16:34 Hair Care

01:19:47 Weight Loss

01:25:02 Joe on Final Five 

Episode Resources:

Fat Joe | Instagram

Fat Joe | TikTok

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What do you look for in a partner?

What do you think makes a relationship interesting?

Today, let's talk about the disparity between what people say they want in a partner — traits like kindness, empathy, and thoughtfulness — and what they often find themselves attracted to, which may be more superficial qualities like physical attractiveness.

Jay references research from the Pew Research Center to highlight that 35% of men value physical attractiveness most in women, while 33% of women value honesty and morality most in men. He discusses how societal pressures and media influence shape these preferences and often lead people to prioritize the wrong traits, which can result in unsatisfying relationships.

Additionally, Jay addresses the issues of men looking for nurturing qualities in women, sometimes in an unhealthy, maternal sense, and the pressure on men to achieve professional and financial success. He also touches on the societal expectations and challenges faced by successful women who feel they need to downplay their achievements to attract partners.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to identify cover values in a partner

How to balance attraction and values

How to avoid common relationship pitfalls

How to build a connection based on values

How to foster a healthy relationship

By focusing on qualities like kindness, empathy, and honesty, we can build deeper, more meaningful connections. True compatibility goes beyond physical attraction and societal expectations, it's rooted in shared values and mutual respect.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:26 What Is More Important to Us in a Partner?

04:44 #1: Physical Attractiveness

05:16 #2: Honesty and Morality

08:37 #3: Empathy, Nurturing, Kindness

15:30 #4: Professional, Financial Success

18:49 #5: Intelligence

23:06 Looking for Love in the Wrong Places

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What’s your go-to nutrition hack?

Is it truly beneficial for your body’s health?

Today, let's welcome Elissa Goodman, a renowned integrative holistic nutritionist known for her expertise in cleansing and nutrition. She has gained recognition for her personal journey of overcoming significant health challenges, including cancer and autoimmune issues, which inspired her to take control of her health and help others do the same. Elissa has developed her own kitchen cleanse program, which delivers nourishing and healing foods directly to people's homes.

Elissa explains the concept of cleansing, which is often misunderstood as deprivation and starvation. Her approach focuses on nourishment and reducing inflammation through a diet rich in a variety of vegetables and plant-based foods. She describes the benefits of her cleanses, which help people reset their bodies, improve digestion, and enhance overall well-being.

Jay and Elissa also significance of habits such as regular blood work, proper sleep, meditation, and journaling for maintaining health. We get to hear practical advice, including tips on how to read supplement and food labels, avoiding additives and fillers, and the benefits of simple, whole foods and maintaining a balanced diet. Always listen to our body and make health decisions based on individual needs. .

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to hydrate properly

How to improve digestion

How to manage stress for better health

How to address emotional well-being

How to understand your body's needs

How to use plant-based proteins

Take the first step towards a healthier you by embracing these holistic approaches, and experience the transformative benefits for yourself.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

04:23 What is Cleansing?

05:58 Is Cleansing Necessary?

06:48 How Often Should You Cleanse?

08:47 Surviving Cancer

14:39 You Can Heal Cancer

18:05 The Benefits of Juicing

19:54 Celery Juice

25:06 Habit Change

28:00 Muscle Testing Supplements

29:44 The Right Supplements

33:11 Read Product Labels

37:42 Different Types of Cleansing

41:11 How the Digestive Tract Works

42:47 There’s No One Diet for All

46:02 Supplement Misconceptions

49:16 Going Back to Basics

52:37 Tap Into Your Subconscious

55:30 My Plant Medicine Journey

58:07 Releasing Kept Emotions

01:00:28 Takeaways

01:02:06 The Sickly Child

01:05:52 Hypnotism

01:07:32 Programing of Our Subconscious

01:10:33 Forgiveness

01:11:59 Elissa on Final Five

01:14:21 Manifesting Positivity   

Episode Resources:

Elissa Goodman | Website

Elissa Goodman | Instagram

Elissa Goodman | LinkedIn

Elissa Goodman | Facebook

Elissa Goodman | YouTube

Elissa Goodman | TikTok

Cancer Hacks: A Holistic Guide to Overcoming your Fears and Healing Cancer

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Do you have a cause you want to pursue?

How do you give back to your community?

Today's guests are two very purpose-driven women behind the Baby2Baby, a nonprofit organization dedicated to providing basic necessities to children living in poverty across the United States. Let's welcome Baby2Baby Co-CEOs Norah Weinstein and Kelly Sawyer Patricof. Since its inception, Baby2Baby has grown into a $80 million organization serving over 1 million children annually by distributing essential items such as diapers, formula, and clothing.  

Norah and Kelly share their personal motivations and backgrounds, with Norah’s commitment rooted in her childhood and reinforced during her pro bono work as a lawyer, and Kelly’s passion stemming from her volunteer work with children during her modeling career. Their mission is driven by the immediate and tangible needs of the communities they serve, highlighting how even basic items like diapers can make a significant difference in the lives of children and their families.

The duo emphasizes on the importance of listening to the communities they serve to understand their specific needs, and how practical items like diapers are crucial for enabling parents to work and children to attend daycare. The power of celebrity endorsements and corporate partnerships has been pivotal in raising awareness and securing resources for Baby2Baby's mission.  

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to raise public awareness for your cause

How to scale a nonprofit organization

How to run a successful fundraising event

How to nurture a culture of giving back

How to instill the giving back culture to children

Norah and Kelly's incredible journey with Baby2Baby shows us the power of compassion and community. Each one of us has the ability to create meaningful change. Take action today.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 04:09 The Culture of Giving Back
• 08:19 Pro-Bono Cases
• 09:55 Giving Back Can Be Fun
• 14:00 The First Meeting
• 17:04 Ask the People Who Need Help
• 19:46 Full Time Commitment
• 26:09 Real-Time Challenges
• 27:44 Diaper is a Symbol of Poverty
• 34:36 Pushing Boundaries
• 39:05 Giving Back in an Unhelpful Way
• 44:50 Yes-Days, No-Days
• 53:50 Ambassadors and Partnerships
• 57:32 The Power of Celebrity Moms
• 01:02:29 Maui Wildfires
• 01:05:09 How Can You Help
• 01:10:29 How to Create a Culture of Giving
• 01:16:11 Instill Giving Back in Children Early
• 01:19:42 There’s a Lot More to Be Done
• 01:23:07 Norah and Kelly on Final Five 

Episode Resources:

• Baby2Baby
• Baby2Baby | YouTube
• Baby2Baby | Instagram
• Baby2Baby | Facebook
• Norah Weinstein | LinkedIn
• Norah Weinstein | Instagram
• Kelly Sawyer Patricof | LinkedIn
• Kelly Sawyer Patricof | Instagram

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Do you often remember your dreams?

What was the last dream you can remember?

Today, let's welcome Dr. Rahul Jandial. Rahul is a dual-trained brain surgeon and neuroscientist based at City of Hope in Los Angeles. He leads the Jandial Lab, which explores the intersection of neurobiology and cancer. Beyond his research, Dr. Jandial is dedicated to global health, performing pediatric neurosurgery in charity hospitals across South America and Eastern Europe. He is also the author of the book "This Is Why You Dream," which delves into the science and significance of dreaming.

Jay and Rahul explore the significance of dreams and their impact on our lives, and that the brain is highly active during sleep, generating as much electricity as when awake. This activity suggests that dreaming is not a passive process but an essential function for the brain, helping it process and rehearse experiences, emotions, and creativity.

There are common themes in dreams, such as nightmares, erotic dreams, and motifs like falling or being chased. Rahul highlights that these themes are linked to the brain's imaginative and emotional networks, which are more active during dreaming. Nightmares, for instance, play a crucial role in developing a sense of self and other in children, while in adults, they can indicate unresolved emotional issues or trauma. He also discusses the concept of lucid dreaming, where one becomes aware of dreaming and can exert some control over the dream narrative. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to enhance dream recall

How to induce lucid dreaming

How to utilize dreams for creative problem solving

How to reduce nightmare in children

How to cultivate positive morning thoughts 

How to improve sleep quality for better dreams

Embrace the power of your dreams to boost creativity and emotional well-being. Take the first step tonight for a healthier, more vibrant tomorrow!

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

03:05 Does Everyone Dream?

05:01 Why Do We Dream?

09:01 Dreams in a Scientific Perspective

13:30 Making Sense of a Dream

19:05 Sleep Entry

23:20 Erotic Dreams

29:02 Dreams Should Not be Neglected

32:09 Are We Meaning Makers?

37:02 Recurrent Dreams

38:36 Unwanted Recurrent Dream

42:11 Thoughts, Emotions, and Activities in the Brain Level

48:48 How Do You Explain Nightmares?

54:01 Task On

56:52 Sleep Exit

01:01:39 Cross Section of AI and Dreams

01:04:08 Can Dreams Predict the Future?

01:08:02 Mental Workspace in Uncertainty

01:12:58 Flashbacks vs PTSD

01:17:33 Lucid Dreaming

01:23:33 Can You Practice Lucid Dreaming?

01:25:15 The Right Approach to Understanding Dreams

01:47 The Dreaming Brain

01:33:34 When to Take a Nap

01:35:29 The Feeling of Falling While Asleep

01:37:35 Rahul on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Dr. Rahul Jandial | Instagram

Dr. Rahul Jandial | Facebook

This Is Why You Dream: What Your Sleeping Brain Reveals About Your Waking Life

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