Have you ever felt like your reactions are out of your control? Today, Rosie and Tamara explore the roots of self-judgment and shame with Coaches Cole and Hayley, Alcohol Freedom Guides for The Path. Rosie is working to reframe her reactive responses to stress and anxiety, which she realizes are tied to a childhood feeling of being "shut down." Tamara uncovers her core belief that she isn’t "good enough," a pattern reinforced by past relationships and growing up with a parent who struggled with alcohol use. These conversations show how identifying deeply rooted beliefs can be the first step in breaking the cycle of self-criticism and building a new way forward.

Rosie's Session:

Understanding her "knee-jerk reactions" to stress & anxiety

Linking current reactivity to past experiences of feeling shut down or unheard

Reframing shame & self-judgmentUsing curiosity and awareness with emotional responses

Creating a "pause" between an external trigger & her reaction

Practicing new skills for changing long-standing patterns

Seeing her anger as a "guard dog" trying to protect her

Tamara's Session:

Facing fear of rejection & feeling "not good enough"

Naming the origin of her core beliefs in childhood experiences of feeling a lack of attention & love

Seeing how her beliefs were reinforced by a parent's alcohol use & pressure to "over-excel"

Noticing how anxiety & panic led her to drink to cope

Finding other tools for self-regulation like journaling & yoga

Embracing glimmers of joy & self-worth

Listing positive qualities to build self-validation & quiet her inner critic

Using self-reflection as a catalyst for growth

Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. For years, he felt lost and used alcohol as a way to cope, until he decided to go alcohol-free and focus on finding his purpose. Through curiosity, self-compassion, and adventure, he transformed his life. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps young men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning.

More on Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/

Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Drawing from personal experiences, Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. She believes that with the right mindset, anyone can change their life at any time.

More on Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/

Episode links:

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