Seeing Other People

Jen Lauren is back for an honest conversation about what really happens after the wedding hype fades. Jen opens up about the emotional side of wedding planning, navigating family dynamics, money, and boundaries, and why the process can feel more traumatic than anyone prepares you for. We also talk running, wellness trends that are overrated, and what actually matters when you’re searching for your person.

ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) 

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today! 

If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by Lena Sisco, former military interrogator and author of The 13 Power Moves of Dark Psychology, to break down how to spot lies, manipulation, and red flags early—especially in dating. We talk about why confidence can be misleading, how manipulators control conversations, and the subtle signs someone is lying or withholding information. Lena shares practical tools for dating apps, first dates, and relationships, including when to trust your gut, what questions to ask, and when walking away is the safest choice.

ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) 

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today! 

If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This Cohosts for Life episode turns into Jake’s year in review, a Jets fandom therapy session, and a brainstorming spiral about the podcasts we’d start next year if motivation magically appeared. We cover the highs and lows of the year, the busiest week we’ve had in months, and just how bad we are at small talk.

ALL links here (submit a question, dating coaching & more) 

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today! 

If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by my friend Emily Griminger to talk about dating in your 30s when your life doesn’t look the way you thought it would. Emily shares how leaving the corporate world to start her own company changed the way she dates, what it’s been like navigating weddings and big milestones without a partner, and why being on a different timeline than her friends has forced her to get more honest about what she actually wants. We get into dating while building a business, why she stopped talking herself into second and third dates, the pressure to “be less picky,” and how loneliness can coexist with being proud of your life.

Follow Emily on IG @getsemmi and TT @getsemmi and learn more about Semmi at getsemmi.com. Code SOP15 for 15% off!

ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) 

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today! 

If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by Dr. Courtney Alexander, OB-GYN and women’s health expert, to break down what women actually need to know about fertility, birth control, and reproductive health in their 20s and 30s. We talk about the biggest myths fueling anxiety around age, timelines, and “falling behind,” and why so much of the information online is doing more harm than good. Dr. Alexander explains what fertility really is (and isn’t), why being healthy doesn’t automatically mean getting pregnant will be easy, and how much age truly matters. We get into PCOS, irregular periods, unexplained infertility, and why birth control isn’t the enemy it’s been made out to be, including the benefits no one talks about.

ALL links here (Shopping links, submit a question, sign up for dating coaching & more) 

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today! 

If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jake and I kick things off with life updates, including his big winnings at the casino, an influencer event I actually enjoyed, a running injury update, and a Taylor Swift debate. Then we get into listener questions about dating when conversations feel one-sided, wondering if you’re being too picky on early dates, and what to do when you end things with a genuinely nice guy and immediately regret it.

ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) 

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today! 

If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Maddy, friend and former SOP intern, joins the pod to talk about surviving a break-in, navigating trauma in your early 20s, and how EMDR therapy helped her finally feel safe again. Maddy opens up about the night a man broke into her bedroom, why healing wasn’t as simple as “moving on,” and how hypervigilance shaped her day-to-day life, dating, and friendships. We get into how how meeting someone who understood her triggers changed everything, including the moment she knew her now-boyfriend Jake was different. We talk trusting your intuition, dating after trauma, learning your needs, and why sometimes the person you’re meant to be with starts as your best friend. 

ALL links here (Shopping links, submit a question, sign up for dating coaching & more) 

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today! 

If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by Emily Durham, recruiter, creator, and host of Clock In, to talk about the surprising overlap between careers and dating in your 20s and 30s. Emily shares how leaving corporate shifted the way she dates, why confidence at work affects confidence in relationships, and the patterns she sees in both job searches and love lives. We get into the pressure of wanting to be chosen, the fear of asking for what you want, and why so many people settle in both careers and relationships. Emily also reacts to listener stories, including dating coworkers, holiday-party hookups, and the office crush that went very wrong.

ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!) 

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today! 

If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jake and I catch up on life and our ongoing messiness at home before getting into a really honest conversation. I talk about seeing other podcasts share huge numbers and noticing my own growth has slowed, and how hard it has been not to compare myself. I also share what success feels like to me right now and how I am trying to build a career that still feels good even when the numbers get in my head. We also unpack a recent clip that went viral in a negative way and how it made me question what kind of content I want to make.

ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!) 

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today! 

If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by my friend Jude Cohen to talk about dating in your 30s and rebuilding your life after everything falls apart at once. Jude shares how losing her job and leaving the corporate world completely shifted the way she dates and sees herself. We get into her best and worst dating stories, from Third Date Club to a friends-with-benefits situation that actually worked to the first-date disaster she still thinks about weekly. She also talks about how running the marathon rebuilt her confidence and what finally helped her stop choosing the wrong people. Follow Jude on IG at @jco10 and TT @jco101

ALL links here (dating coaching, profile revamp, marathon fundraiser, and more!) 

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today! 

If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.