Seeing Other People

Talia Bombola is a Psychoanalytic LMFT, Professor, Speaker, and the host of Heal Through Humor, and theco-host of The Couple’s Guide Podcast as well as Between Two Clinicians. Talia and I chat about where our own self-worth stems from and how important it is to learn about who you are in order to set yourself up for relationship success. We talk about how to notice and break unhealthy dating patterns, how Talia overcame her anxious attachment, and the importance of communicating your needs. Finally, we answer listener questions about dating someone who doesn't text you enough, getting dumped by someone who wasn't looking for something serious only to see them in a relationship a month later, and if you should be financially stable when actively dating. 

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Erica Shea is back on the pod to catch up with us about taking time off from dating and finding the strength to end her most recent situationship. We talk about how it's normal (and sometimes beneficial) to be in a dating drought, how she knew it was time to end the situationship instead of continuing in discomfort, as many of us do. Later we discuss mindset shifts and laugh off some hilarious bad date stories.  

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I’m joined by Iris Jardiel to chat about why she broke off her engagement to her longtime partner, Luke, who proposed on Temptation Island Season 4. We hear why they decided to go on the show, what it was like having their relationship tested, and how she felt when he proposed. She shares how she caught him cheating and wanted to believe he could change, but after repeatedly being proven wrong, she eventually found the courage to walk away. Finally, we hear how her life has changed for the better since leaving him. 

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I’m joined by an anonymous 27-year-old woman who opens up about starting to date someone and suddenly not hearing from him for days. She shares how she thought she was getting ghosted and assumed he blocked her, only to find out via Instagram that he was hit by a car and was in a coma. We hear how she processed this news, how she was not in a position to get updates on his condition because of how recently they had met, and how what led them to getting back in touch, and how they navigated their new friendship turned relationship. Finally, we discuss inter-abled dating, and how we’re so quick to judge people and often have limitations in our mind about who we can and can’t date.

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I’m joined by Evan Marc Katz, the world’s first dating coach (2003!), four-time author, and host of the Love U Podcast. Evan and I chat about where women are going wrong in dating when it comes to taking breaks from dating, going on dates, and getting into relationships. We learn which dealbreakers matter, ways to figure out if a relationship is right and how to know if it’s time to leave. Evan helps answer listener questions about getting over someone, whether or not you’re wasting your time, and more.

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I’m joined by Liz Mina to talk about approaching dating from a place of security and curiosity rather than the fear of being alone. We chat about dating as an adult after never having romantic interests in high school, why society should stop putting pressure on people to find partners at a certain age, how being an only child has impacted her dating life, and the importance of having vulnerable conversations on early dates. Finally, Liz shares what it’s like dating as a Middle Eastern woman and how religion and family values have played a role in her relationships. 

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In honor of my 29th birthday, I spent time reflecting on some of the most meaningful moments, the biggest turning points, and the hardest lessons learned in my 28 years. I put together a list and I'm so excited to share them with you in this special episode. We cover life, love, friendship, career, family, and everything in between. Thanks for being on this journey with me and cheers to 29! 

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I'm joined by Rachel Schwab, AKA @justbecauseitspretty, to discuss what her dating life was like before meeting her person and how she ended up getting engaged to her first ever Hinge date. She shares how she felt going into her first date with her now-fiancé, whether or not she was anxious after it, why she's glad they talked about exes on their third date, and when/how they DTRd. We hear how they navigated long distances while he was also a full-time medical student and how they communicated their needs. Finally, we discuss Instagram vs. Reality of getting engaged!

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TW: Eating disorders & body image struggles. Julie Griggs and Danielle Dietzek, my friends and the cofounders of Fourplay Social, are back on Seeing Other People. We discuss why the question "Why are you still single?" is so problematic and how society perpetuates the belief that we aren't complete until we find our partner. Danielle opens up about her struggle with body image and weight gain, sharing how it's held her back in her dating life along with ways she's worked to overcome her insecurities. We talk about do's and don'ts for getting your personality across on your profiles, why you should not write people off too soon, and what we've all learned from each other.  

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I'm joined by a 36-year-old woman who opens up about the relationship she found herself in shortly after getting divorced from her ex-husband of 11 years (and the father of her two children). We hear how she and this man met, what their relationship started out like, and how they soon developed a dominant/submissive relationship. She shares how she later found out he was still married and that she was not the only "other woman."

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