Soul Led Living Podcast with Nikki Novo

The reason so many of us hate dating is because many times it feels very far from romantic. The swiping, meeting strangers... it can all feel really transactional. Which is really just another word for masculine. Let's change that, shall we?

In today's episode of The Final Swipe podcast, feminine energy coach Anya Grace is here to school us on how we can make the process more feminine, flowy and joyful.

I really enjoyed this conversation, because Anya explains so well how we can tap into our own inner strength even when our tendency is feel scared, pain, grief, etc. She's shifting energy in this episode, no doubt.

What we cover:

• What is the Divine Feminine?
• How can we date from that place?
• How to access our inner power
• Reprogramming our instinct to give away our power
• What is the Divine Masculine and the balanced way to use it in our lives
• What is surrender and how can we do it when we like to make things happen
• How to not be so hard on ourselves
• The difference between yearning and actually working with the law of attraction

Resources:

• Anya's site: https://elevatedwomantraining.com/
• -Anya's programs: https://elevatedwomantraining.com/collections/all

Updates:

• Join our free Facebook group The Final Swipe Podcast group to connect with Nikki and other like-minded daters https://www.facebook.com/groups/315515769244846/?ref=bookmarks
• Nikki will be teaching live in Miami alongside her sisters Krista and Lindsey of Almost 30. Grab your tickets https://www.universe.com/events/almost-30-in-miami-with-nikki-novo-tickets-miami-2QB1LM

We all love to hear stories of how couples meet. For one, it gives us hope.

But also, because we feel like we're listening to a magical story that actually occurred. It's like a real-life romantic comedy.

Finding love seems like magic, because it often feels like we have no say in the matter. We think it happens by chance, by luck, by fate.

And it doesn't help that most people will tell you these crazy stories of how they met their partner by chance. They're beautiful stories, but they also feel really disempowering.

I recommend you ask someone who has actually spent the time to analyze what brought them to find their partner.

You guys, it does not happen out of pure magic. Anyone who has found love, has found it because there was energy and focus behind that desire. Most people don't like to admit that they were "looking for love," but they were.

I know I was on a mission to find love every time I found it. My clients who are successful in dating have all put an energy behind dating that eliminates fear. They have strategy!

In today's episode, I chat with my friend and love expert, Coach Cass, who agrees with me — finding love isn't magic!

She shares with us some tips and tricks that have worked for so many of her clients, which really help to take the mystery out of dating.

If you're ready to eliminate that fear and doubt surrounded around your love life, this episode is for you.

Resources:

• Coach Cass' Site: https://inspiremany.com/
• Cass’ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inspiremany/
• The Love Deck: https://zq255.infusionsoft.app/app/storeFront/showProductDetail?productId=280

Updates:

• Join our free Facebook group The Final Swipe Podcast group to connect with Nikki and other like-minded daters
• Nikki will be teaching live in Miami alongside her soul sisters Krista and Lindsey of Almost 30. Grab your tickets!

It’s that time of the year! When all your family members and old friends get all up in your love life! So fun.

You can hear it now, “Sweetie, why haven’t you met anyone yet? You’re so smart, beautiful, and successful.”

Ugh, yeah, that’s what I’m saying!

Have no fear! We are going to make you holiday dinner table ready with today’s episode.

We’re going to learn how to navigate that energy, how to lessen it, and how to make it work in your favor.

Get your notebook ready, because we have some scripts for ya that are perfect for run-in with tipsy relatives. Another thing to be thankful for!

We talk about:

• How you can feel whole even when people look at you as not
• How to not allow that energy to affect you
• How to enjoy family gatherings even when they usually cause anxiety

Links to resources:

• The Final Swipe book

Updates:

• The Final Swipe Facebook group
• Grab tickets to my event with Almost30 in Miami

Alright, so manifesting is all the rage, right? You’ve studied up on it, made the lists, closed your eyes, and still nothing.

There’s even people out there that will tell you to demand from the Universe. Expect the Universe to deliver! And yet…. nada.

What’s going on? Why isn't it working?

Well, my friend, let me tell you about the one step you may be missing. The part where you take inspired action!

Yeah, my friend, you’re going to need some dates to manifest that relationship.

Yes lady, you’re going to have go out to places where you don’t just huddle around your friends who you’ve known since grade school.

In other words, you have to open up funnels in order for the Universe to deliver your package.

In this episode of The Final Swipe, I teach you what these funnels are and how to create them. I also teach how to not be in constant push or controlling mode. That’s for my recovering control freaks. Love you, guys!

Let’s help the Universe out, yo. Listen to this episode.

We talk about:

• Why manifesting might not be working for you
• How to understand what dating strategy will work best for you
• How to get over the anxious feeling of putting yourself out there
• How to hear your own intuition

Links to resources:

• The Final Swipe book

Updates:

• The Final Swipe Facebook group
• Grab tickets to my event with Almost30 in Miami

Before every reading I do, I meditate. I focus on the person’s energy like a nosey mom going through her child’s drawers. I’m looking for what’s working, what trauma remains, what fears exist, and what future is set in place.

Everyone is different, and there’s a ton of variation in people’s energy, but one thing I see 9 out of 10 times is a little fence around the heart. Some look like a thin curtain and others look like a full-on fortress.

I see it so often because most of us want to protect our hearts. We’re afraid of what might happen if we allow anyone to get too close. We’re scared of what would happen if we let someone in who might hurt us later. Or, we may have suffered deep hurt in the past, causing us to close up shop.

Funny enough, this doesn’t affect our ability to be a good person. What it does get in the way of is leading a heart-centered life.

The heart chakra is the center chakra, because it’s our center. It’s the closest connection to our essence. When we live from this place, we connect more, experience more, love more.

Sounds pretty amazing, right? But how are we supposed to knock down that damn wall?!

On today’s episode of The Final Swipe, we speak to heart wall expert Nick K. Who get this guys, lives in Loveland, Colorado. I mean, talk about living your purpose.

Nick was so kind to explain what the wall is, how we can work to release it, and what happens when we do. Get your journal ready!

We talk about:

• What is a heart wall
• How to know if you have a heart wall
• How to release it if you do
• How walls can affect our dating life

Links to resources:

• Nick’s website
• How to book a session with Nick
• How to clear your heart chakra meditation

Updates:

• Join the Final Swipe Facebook group
• Meet me in Miami at the Almost30 event. Grab your tickets here today!

I see life in dating metaphors. Always have. Always will.

And that started because, one day I just started to see my insides based off what I was doing in my dating life. It was the beginning of my awakening.

Apparently, I’m not the only one.

On today’s episode of The Final Swipe, we have author Kacie Main with us, whose dating experience was so spiritual that she gave it up for lent.

This is such an insightful conversation on how we can let go the constant search for love, but also still be an energetic match for it.

Kacie explains how she did it. How she let go, but in the end found herself and love.

Enjoy!

What we cover:

• How to use your journal to find love

Resources:

• Kacie's website
• Kacie’s Instagram
• Kacie's book

Updates:

• Join our free Facebook group, The Final Swipe Podcast group to connect with Nikki and other like-minded daters
• Nikki will be teaching live in Miami alongside her sisters Krista and Lindsey of Almost 30. Grab your tickets today!

The reason we look for soul mates is because we're looking for a feeling.

We're looking for a feeling of depth and intimacy.

There's a misconception that intimacy and depth happens with some people and doesn't with others.

When in fact, WE create the space for that. We can either make an environment that doesn't allow for depth or we can make one that does.

In today's episode, I'm going to teach you how to make depth in a relationship. And spoiler alert: It has nothing to do with talking your way to closeness. As women, that's are go-to!

In this episode, learn how to:

• Create depth and connection in dating and relationships
• How to make space for someone to show up
• How to spot people who are not able to create depth — or those who are not ready

I'm excited for this one! Give it a listen.

xo,

Nikki

I know, I know. You want to meet people organically and in person, because that is how you get a better read on people. I get it! But it's 2019, and dating apps are a thing. So let's embrace it, rather than romanticize our old flip phones.

Today on the pod, I offer three steps to help you get a read on those online profiles. Here they are:

1. Recognize your judgements

It's important just to note that the first few seconds of looking at someone's profile, you're coming from your judgement. Based off your past experiences, you're going to decide who this person is. Don't judge your judgements, lol! Let them come through, and let them past. And then give the profile a second look.

2. Connect to your heart

As you give that second look, bring your attention to your heart center. See if you can connect to that part of you rather than your mind.

3. Align with you courage

Lastly, once you feel from your heart and receive some sort of knowing, you may quickly fall into fear again. Ask yourself, "What would I do if I was coming from a place of courage," and then make your move.

If you're liking this info, make sure to listen to the full episode where I give a lot more detail. Enjoy!

Today we go over a common question I receive often: How do I manifest, but not feel obsessive over calling in a partner?

Such a good question!

Here are my tips. I have three for you:

1. When manifesting is not working, it's because we're being called to a journey of letting go

It's important to understand that manifesting is natural. We're doing it all the time. We want something, and within little time, it shows up. If manifesting is not working, it's because we're being called to walk a journey of letting go — of releasing all the baggage and false beliefs so that our energy is clean and light.

2. Focus on the feeling

What makes us feel obsessive is that we're focused on the union, on the partner, on the person. When in fact, we want to focus on the feeling. Being in a relationship represents some kind of feeling for us. For some of us it's security, fun, companionship, and so on. That feeling is what we're trying to manifest, and that's what we want to focus on, which in return eliminates a lot of pressure.

3. Keep track of your actions

Lastly, we feel crazy when manifesting because we're all up in our heads. We're thinking about it and visualizing it, but we also want to get honest about what we're physically doing to help co-create this relationship. Remember, we live on this place called Earth that's physical! So let's keep track of what we're doing to help ourselves.

Enjoy the episode. Let me know if you have questions.

Conscious dating, you guys, is a thing! And today, we have the godmother of conscious dating, Angela Holton on the pod sharing wisdom.

She shares with us her own personal experience — how she turned her dating life completely around to something positive and empowering. We chat about not feeling bad for ourselves when dating, how to reduce shame around dating, and how to attract without obsessing.

Lots of great tips in this one! Check it out.

Connect with Angela:

Website: www.lovesanctuary.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/angelanholton/

Online Course Waitlist: Conscious Dating: “Become The ONE You Want & Attract The Love You Desire”: https://www.lovesanctuary.com/conscious-dating