✨ Are you avoiding life just to avoid alcohol? In this episode, I share why that strategy will never work—and how to start optimizing the energy you’re already spending so your efforts don’t go to waste.

We talk about how to:

• Stop avoiding people and places just because alcohol might be present
• Use discernment to practice your sacred yes and no
• Shift from controlling circumstances to mastering your mindset
• Build belief brick by brick until alcohol becomes irrelevant

🔗 And if you’re ready to create predictable, sustainable results, click here to book a  1:1 consult with Mary to identify exactly where you're holding yourself back—and build the bridge to change.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Hey beautiful listener 💋

This week’s challenge? Throw a better party. Not for your friends—for your life. We’re not talking balloons and cake (unless you want that)—we’re talking energy. Mood. Vibe. Frequency.

Whether you’re waking up hungover or just heavy with life, this episode is a big warm hug and a nudge to try one thingthat shifts you back into alignment with the woman you want to be.

Take yourself on a coffee walk. Smile at strangers. Put on some music and dance in your kitchen. Seriously—sometimes it’s that simple. You’re not solving for alcohol. You’re solving for aliveness, regulation, and the space to hold your realemotions—yes, even the exciting ones.

✨ Here’s what we get into:

• Why your hangover isn’t really about alcohol
• What “throw a better party” means and how to do it today
• The nervous system's role in holding pleasure, excitement, and desire
• A personal DJ win that made me feel like I could explode with joy (and how I did it without a drink)

💌 Tell me how you throw a better party! Did you take the coffee walk? Did you try the happy juice? Did my DJ set make you cry tears of joy?! Email me at [email protected] or drop into my DMs on Instagram @marywagstaffcoach. I live for your shares.

Let’s make this week a vibe. You’re not just here to get through it—you’re here to feel it all.

With so much love,
Mary

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

You don’t have to quit drinking to start changing your relationship with alcohol. In this episode, I share why the process might already be working in your favor—even if it doesn’t look like it yet. I talk about what’s been helping me lately: from gut health and hormone shifts to the supplement that’s actually making a difference. Plus, the one mindset shift that changes everything: asking yourself what you’re really reaching for before the drink.

Takeaways:

• Why mindset is only half the story
• How physical support (like healing your gut and regulating hormones) can reduce cravings
• The supplement that helped stabilize my moods
• How to shift from black-and-white thinking to real progress
• The question that puts you back in control—without needing to be “perfect”

Give your body a chance to balance and optimize your efforts:

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Your craving for alcohol isn’t about the drink — it’s about what you think the drink will give you. Connection. Joy. Freedom.

Over time, your brain has fused alcohol with emotional relief, narrowing your perspective. You believe drinking is the only way to get what you want — but it's actually blocking you from it.

The key is knowing the difference between desire and attachment. Desire is the emotional state you long for. Attachment is insisting alcohol is the only way to get there. That grip keeps the cycle going — even when the drink stops delivering.

Breaking free isn't about willpower. It’s about nervous system regulation, aligned values, and radical self-honesty. Next time you’re triggered, ask: What am I really seeking? Why does it matter?

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

If you’ve ever thought, “Is this as good as it gets?” or “I don’t want to keep doing this,” this episode is for you.

I invite you to consider a radical new idea: What if your rock bottom doesn’t have to be dramatic, destructive, or public? What if it’s just a quiet whisper—telling you that you’re meant for more? This episode explores the hidden beliefs and subconscious fears that keep us stuck in drinking patterns, even when our lives look “fine” from the outside. We unpack why alcohol feels so hard to let go of, the societal conditioning around what it means to have a "problem," and why making this shift is more about self-honoring than self-discipline.

Whether you're waking up foggy, skipping your morning intentions, or just feel out of alignment with the woman you know you could be—this episode is your loving nudge that it’s okay to want more. You don’t need to crash to rise.

What We Cover:

• The subconscious fear of what quitting might “mean” about you
• Why the label “alcoholic” keeps many women stuck in secrecy
• How cultural narratives and inner child wounds fuel the habit
• Why “not bad enough” is the biggest trap
• The biology of change—why alcohol affects us differently as we age
• How honoring the whisper is more powerful than waiting for a crash
• Why your desire for more is enough
• Real examples of women from all walks of life outgrowing alcohol
• What happens when we show up in integrity—with energy, clarity, and courage
• The transformational power of private coaching & sacred support

🌀 Free Private Coaching Consultation – Explore your own whisper in a confidential, zero-pressure call. Book now via the link in the show notes.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

One of the most surprising and empowering truths in the alcohol-free journey:

The best time to change your relationship with alcohol is when you’re already feeling good.

If that sounds counterintuitive, you’re not alone. Most of us only commit to change when we’ve hit a low—after a fight, a blackout, a painful moment of regret. But what if that’s why it hasn’t stuck?

Inside this episode:

• Why feeling good can be the most powerful time to quit drinking
• How your brain tricks you into thinking it’s “not that bad”
• Why waiting for a rock-bottom moment often backfires
• How to leverage joy, momentum, and natural alignment for lasting change
• What it means to build a life you don’t need to escape from
• Why “just feeling better” isn’t a reason to stop doing the work
• How I use dance, connection, and embodiment as part of my own alcohol-free lifestyle

You’ll also hear about my first-ever ecstatic dance DJ gig (dreams do come true!), and the kind of weekend that reminds me why I keep choosing this path, over and over again.

If you’re ready to stop outsourcing your joy and learn how to amplify your good feelings instead of dulling them, this episode is your invitation.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

I’m sharing about what it actually takes to make a lasting shift in your relationship with alcohol—and why “feeling good” can often be the very thing that triggers a return to old habits.

We explore:

• Why you break your promises to yourself (and how to rebuild trust)
• What really needs to change to create a new self-concept
• How intention, not willpower, changes everything
• What clients say made this time different—and how it can be different for you too
• The truth about emotional alignment and identity shifts
• Why accountability and presence are essential, especially when you feel good

This is about so much more than just “not drinking.” It’s about stepping into the woman you know you are. One who leads. One who listens to herself. One who lives from her values.

Ready to finally do this differently?

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

It’s been six years since I took my last sip of alcohol—and not only do I not miss it, I truly don’t want it. In this soul-deep episode, I’m reflecting on what made lasting change possible for me (spoiler: it wasn’t willpower) and sharing the feminine path that helped me create a life so rich and connected, alcohol couldn’t compete.

Whether you’re just starting or somewhere in the middle, I want to show you how to stop drinking in a way that actually feels nourishing, powerful, and aligned with who you really are. If you’re ready to do it better—not harder—this one’s for you.

Key Takeaways:

• Honor the feminine journey—rooted in rhythm, intuition, and wholeness
• You don’t need to start over—awareness is always progress
• Real change happens when you build a life that’s better than the buzz
• There is no “one way”—but the feminine way is often the missing link 
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Are you ready to do what alcohol promises—but better? My private coaching experience, From Burnout to Bliss Out, is open for enrollment. Let this be the summer you stop drinking and start living, fully and freely. Schedule a private consultation now. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

There is no greater honor than reconnecting with a client years after we’ve worked together and seeing her thriving—more empowered, more present, and more alive than ever before.

In this episode, I sit down with Bonnie, a mother of four, a generational cycle-breaker, and a woman who has redefined what’s possible when you choose yourself. Two years after going through my holistic alcohol coaching container, she’s not only still sober—she’s living her truth out loud.

When Bonnie found me, she was navigating a painful divorce and the deep overwhelm of motherhood. She could have easily chosen to numb, to check out, to drink. But instead, she said yes to herself. She said yes to healing. And in doing so, she didn’t just learn how to stop drinking—she learned how to live fully.

Today, she’s her own career as a holistic alcohol coach, using the very same tools she practiced in our work together.

✨ In this episode, we talk about:

• How to stay rooted through big transitions
• What it means to embody your emotions instead of escape them
• The power of breaking generational cycles
• And how sobriety can be the portal to your most empowered self

Bonnie’s story is your story. If you’re going through a major life shift, know that grounding into your power—without checking out—is the most courageous gift you can give yourself and your family.

Ready to take the first step? Join me in my private coaching container and learn how to create little shifts that make a big impact. The first step is to schedule a private consultation so I can help you navigate your biggest sticking points. Click here!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Let’s talk about something so many high-achieving women struggle with: relaxation resistance. That underlying belief that if you relax, everything will fall apart. That if you slow down, you're lazy. That your worth is tied to your productivity.

This week, we’re unraveling the deep-seated patterns that keep you stuck in fight-or-flight mode, constantly "doing" instead of simply "being." Because the truth is:

💡 You don’t fall apart when things get hard. You rise.
💡 The real challenge is learning to soften when life is good.
💡 Your worth is NOT measured by how much you get done.

In this episode, we’ll break down:

✨ Why you resist relaxation and what’s really behind it
✨ How busyness and stress addiction keep you disconnected from pleasure
✨ The power of intentionally softening & creating safety in rest
✨ How to shift from exhaustion to luxurious spaciousness—without guilt
✨ Why “I don’t have time” is a lie & how to own your choices

⚡ It's time to stop proving your worth through over-functioning and start living in your feminine power.

👂 Let’s keep the conversation going! What landed for you in this episode? How do you resist relaxation? Slip into my DMs on Instagram—I’d love to hear from you!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.