Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. 

Your network is everything. The way you establish and nurture your own network and reputation can make all the difference in your career success, so we're throwing it back to this great advice from Maha Abouelenein on how to add value to your unique network. 

Maha Abouelenein is a strategic communication and personal branding expert who has handled communications for some of world’s largest tech companies in the Middle East - from Google and Netflix to Udacity and Weber Shandwick, along with promotions and sports marketing programs for the Olympics, NASCAR, Women’s Hockey, and the NFL.

Maha consulted on strategic communications with the Obama administration and has worked with powerhouses like Gary Vaynerchuk and Deepak Chopra. She was honored as one of the most influential women in Dubai, and nominated as of one of Forbes Power Women of the Middle East. She’s the CEO of Digital & Savvy, host of the Savvy Talk podcast, and Best-Selling Author of "7 Rules of Self-Reliance”.

Listen to our full episode with Maha here.

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Are you feeling overwhelmed and stressed by the constant flood of negative news? Join the club, friends. News anxiety is at an all-time high as we’re bombarded with breaking headlines and social media coverage of economic instability, political tension, war, tariffs, climate disasters, and more—straight to our phones, 24/7.

Washington D.C. therapist Steven Stosny coined the term "headline stress disorder" to describe the huge mental health impact of our nonstop news cycle. We’re all sucked into the cycle of online fear, and it’s crucial to learn how to consume news responsibly without sacrificing your mental health.

So how do we stay informed and responsible humans while protecting our mental health?

If you're feeling stressed, hopeless, or mentally drained from the overwhelming influx of world events, this episode is for you.

Tune in to hear more about:
✅ How the 24-hour news cycle fuels anxiety & fear-based algorithms
✅ Ways to stay informed without feeling emotionally drained
✅ How to break free from doomscrolling & social media-induced panic
✅ Practical strategies to set news boundaries & curate mindful media consumption
✅ Why focusing on what you CAN control is key to mental resilience
✅ The importance of hope & positive news for your mental well-being

Looking for uplifting news sources? Check these out:

✨ Good Good Good

✨ Good News Movement

✨ Tank’s Good News

🔗 Read more on managing worry & anxiety at metacognitivetherapy.com. 

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Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. 

If you want to rewire your relationship with money and move into an abundant (and informed) financial chapter, we're throwing it back to this helpful reminder from financial coach Nicole Stanley. 

A healthy money mindset is the missing ingredient for a lot of people's financial security. Nicole reminds us that "Money is just a magnifier of who you already are" - so our habits, beliefs, and relationship to money right now will dictate how we approach our financial goals for life. 

Nicole Stanley is the Founder & Head Financial Coach of Arise Financial Coaching. After battling crippling financial anxiety in her early twenties, Nicole enrolled in her first personal finance course and made changes to go from 30K in debt to building over a quarter-million in net worth for her family at age  27. Arise Financial Coaching has now served over 600 clients and has been featured in TIME, Yahoo Finance, & CNET.

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I saw a TikTok about how your toxic traits can be the exact opposite of your love language, and I CANNOT stop thinking about it. If you’re stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage, your toxic behaviours might be the inverse of your love language — aka your loathe language. 🤯

In today's quickie, we’re diving into the connection between our love languages and self-destructive habits so we can recognize the patterns that hold us back. 

If you find yourself defaulting to isolation, negative self-talk, avoidance, deprivation, or burnout, understanding and interrupting your 'loathe language' can help you better meet your needs before you spiral.

Ready to stop blocking yourself from the love and support you deserve? Tune in to hear more about:
✔️ How your self-destructive habits are linked to your love language
✔️ How the shadow side of quality time is isolating from loved ones
✔️ Why people who value acts of service might refuse help and burn themselves out
✔️ How the shadow side of physical touch is withdrawing from affection and neglecting self-care
✔️ Why the shadow of receiving gifts cab turn into impulse shopping or restriction
✔️ How those who value words of affirmation can spiral into self-criticism and silence
✔️ How to break the cycle and give yourself the love you actually need

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I'm SO sick of "having nothing to wear"... I’ve been going through a wardrobe crisis lately—I dread getting dressed, and despite having way too many clothes, I never feel like my wardrobe reflects who I am. I feel disconnected from my style and the things I buy, and I'm not the only one. 

Hitting different life stages and engaging in a cycle of overconsumption—buying more but feeling less satisfied—has left a lot of us without a clear sense of style and identity. Today, we’re tackling both issues: how to define your personal style with confidence, and how to cut down on mindless shopping and fast fashion.

I’m joined by Conni Jespersen, educational wardrobe stylist and founder of Art in the Find, who has spent over a decade helping people craft intentional wardrobes, edit their closets, and break free from excessive consumption. Through her Signature Style Method Course, she helps clients edit their closets and uncover their unique style.

We uncover how to build a wardrobe that truly feels like you—without the stress, overconsumption, or pressure to keep up with trends. If you’re over impulse buying, feeling lost in your personal style, or staring at a closet full of clothes with “nothing to wear"... we gotchu. 

Conni has kindly given Teach Me How To Adult listeners a discount on her Signature Style Method Course (which has helped me SO much in understanding the elements of my personal style), so if you’re ready to revamp your wardrobe, check it out here and use the discount code style10 for 10% off. 

Tune in as we talk about:

✨ The 5 key elements of personal style: personality, lifestyle, preferences, environment, and influences
✨ How to balance timeless basics with trendy statement pieces
✨ How to shop smarter, avoid overconsumption, and stop impulse buying
✨ The true cost of overconsumption—on our confidence, wallets, and the environment
✨ Closet organization tips to maximize wearability and identify wardrobe gaps
✨ How to shop your own closet and re-style pieces you already own
✨ Secondhand shopping tips to embrace sustainability and cut down on fast fashion
✨ When to tailor or edit down your wardrobe to make it truly work for you

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A lot of us go through life avoiding our feelings — but experiencing our full spectrum of emotions is the key to living a full, authentic life. Whether you're an empath who feels everything deeply, struggling with heartbreak, or working through past wounds, embracing your sensitivity can be your greatest strength. After all, our grief is just a representation of how deeply we love.

In this all-time favourite throwback episode, we explore how to process emotions in a healthy way, break free from fear, and find your authentic voice with bestselling poet, author and incredibly wise friend, Allie Michelle.

Allie captures the depths of human emotion through her beautiful writing and spoken word. Allie is one of my favourite poets, and her latest fantasy novel, Legends of Lemuria, is out now on Thought Catalog! She  runs Pen 2 Publish, a program to help writers create, publish and market their books. Allie co-founded a community for mental health and wellness called We Are Warriors, and she's also a certified meditation, breathwork and yoga teacher.

Tune in as we explore:

✅ How to feel deeply without drowning in emotions
✅ The difference between healthy vs. unhealthy empathy
✅ Inner child work and emotional healing
✅ The power of embracing heartbreak as transformation
✅ How to turn fear into a compass instead of a roadblock
✅ Finding your voice as a writer and storyteller
✅ Allie’s hot take on overcoming writer’s block
✅ Showing up as your most raw, unmasked self
✅ The art of deep breathing and mindfulness

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your emotions or struggled to own your sensitivity, this conversation will remind you that your softness is your strength.

"Break my heart
break it so wide open
that the whole world
can fit in between the pieces."  — Allie Michelle

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Watch Allie's live performance of her poem shared in this episode. 

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What would you do if failure was impossible? What's something you've always wanted to do, but never find "the right time"? To answer these questions, I started one little list in January, and it has completely changed my life. 

We all know about bucket lists — but what if the real game-changer isn’t chasing what excites you, but confronting what scares you? Enter: The Fear List.

Fear has been in the driver's seat of my life for too long, and I realized during my January meltdown, that my avoidance of discomfort and rejection were directly impacting my happiness and growth. Most of the things I was depressed about in my life could be traced to fear-based avoidance and inaction. That's why I created the fear list — it helps you rewire your brain to stop self-rejecting before you even try. Think of it like exposure therapy... this list of things will create proof that you can do scary things, and the more small uncomfortable things you do, the less scary the big things will feel. 

This episode is all about breaking out of fear-based paralysis and taking action on the things that hold you back. If you’ve been feeling stuck, playing small, or letting fear dictate your choices—this is your sign to flip the script.

In this episode, I cover:
✅ How my fear has kept me stuck in life, love, and career

✅ The connection between fear, anxiety, and perfectionism

✅ Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) and why some of us with ADHD/neurodivergence fear rejection more

✅ The power of exposure therapy and why courage is a muscle

✅ How to create your own Fear List to build confidence, resilience, and momentum

✅ Questions that will help you brainstorm your fear list

✅ Getting honest with yourself about the stories you’re telling yourself

✅ Easy examples of things you can include on your fear list

✅ What’s on my list, and the wins I’ve already tackled (LITERALLY LIFE-CHANGING)

✅ Why staying accountable and tracking your progress gamifies fear and makes it fun

Remember: "The risk you’re afraid to take, could be the one that changes your entire life."

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Welcome to this week’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. 

The economy feels more unstable than my high school experience, and we could all use some extra cash to battle inflation and prepare for the potential incoming tariffs. So we're throwing it back to the ultimate lesson in working smarter, not harder, from finance expert Nicole Victoria. Her top tip for making more money, without working harder? Negotiate your bills down and funnel the extra cash into passive income streams, so we can earn cash while we sleep. 

Nicole is a CEO, money coach and financial literacy advocate Nicole Victoria AKA No Budget Babe, who specializes in helping millennial and gen-z women effortlessly manage their money and build bank accounts that never stop growing.

Listen to our full episode with Nicole Victoria of No Budget Babe here!

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After a tough start to the year—dealing with illness, isolation, and a full-on birthday-induced spiral—I knew I needed to make big, immediate changes to pull myself out of a depressive rut. It was time for a full reset.

If you’re feeling stuck, lonely, struggling with seasonal depression, or just lacking motivation and positivity, this episode is your roadmap to breaking free from the cycle and taking control of your mental wellbeing. I’m sharing the 10 game-changing shifts and habits that have worked for me and helped me feel like myself again after a month of testing.

Tune in to hear about:

• The #1 most important step to stop isolating and ask for help
• How mindfulness, breathwork, and cold therapy can rewire your mood
• The journaling practice that helps you take control of your happiness
• Why exercise (without punishment) is a powerful antidepressant
• The one daily habit that can instantly break a depressive cycle
• How to reset your circadian rhythm to fix insomnia and energy dips
• Why we need to limit social media scrolling, Netflix binging, and cheap dopamine
• Science-backed supplements to combat seasonal affective disorder and support mental health
• The unexpected way creativity can help you heal and calm anxiety
• Why human touch matters for mental wellbeing (and how to get it—even without a partner)
• Setting realistic goals for your mental health progress

Sunnier days are ahead so keep going, and please tell someone if you’re struggling. I love you guys, you got this.

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Happy Valentine’s Day, lovers! I hope you are getting showered in love, by someone else or yourself. Whether you’re single and ready to mingle, or in a long-term relationship, I’ve been thinking about how—no matter our relationship status—we all seem to wrestle with the same thoughts: Am I too much? Am I too needy, or should I express my needs more? How can I communicate better? How do I find balance in my relationships? How do I work toward secure attachments

Thankfully, over the years, I’ve had incredible relationship experts and therapists on this podcast who have tackled these very questions. So today, I’m bringing you a roundup of the best relationship advice I’ve learned from three amazing guests.

Tune in to hear from:

❤️ Dr. Morgan Cutlip, Relationship expert and PhD in Psychology: How to find balance and reciprocity in relationships, communicate your needs effectively, and understand the difference between neediness and fair expectations. (Listen to our full episode here)

❤️ Liz Earnshaw, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist: Expert strategies for conflict resolution and communication, including how to handle Gottman’s Four Horsemen and navigating common power struggles in relationships. (Listen to our full episode here)

❤️ Jess Baum, Psychotherapist, Couples Counselor, & Author of Anxiously Attached: How our attachment styles are amplified or healed based on your relationship, breaking our anxious attachment patterns and prioritizing consistent love, recognizing red and green flags in chemistry, and moving from codependency to interdependence. (Listen to our full episode here)

Wherever you are in your relationship journey… I love you guys.

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