This episode is for anyone who's tired of outdated dating “rules” that don’t reflect who they are and how we actually connect in 2025. I’ve recently dipped my toe back into the dating world, and the amount of toxic “rules” and overly-perscriptive advice floating around online is wild.

So today, I’m sharing my hot takes and unconventional dating perspectives to prioritize authenticity, connection, and your dating goals — without all the games.

Whether you’re dating for fun, looking for your forever person, or navigating something in between, this episode is a guide to more connected, conscious, and actually authentic dating. If you feel drained by casual dating culture, the fast food nature of apps, mixed signals and fuckboy energy, and attention-seeking games… keep. listening.

We’re debunking relationship myths like:

• Why “keep the first date short” might be killing genuine connection
• Why women shouldn’t always wait to be pursued
• Why “play it cool” and “keep it casual” isn’t always the vibe
• The truth about when to have sex
• Should you talk about your exes on a date?
• When you should consider exclusivity
• How to use intentional conversations, clarity, vulnerability, and feedback to create deeper intimacy

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Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. 

In honour of earth day, we're taking a look at the cost of fast fashion, our consumption habits, and how we can become more sustainable consumers.

We're throwing it back to this perspective-shifting advice on overconsumption with Conni Jespersen, as she explains the impact of overconsumption on our confidence, wallets, and the environment, and how self-accountability for the lifespan of every product we purchase can help end impulse shopping. 

Conni is an educational wardrobe stylist and founder of Art in the Find. She has spent over a decade helping people craft intentional wardrobes, edit their closets, and break free from excessive consumption. Through her Signature Style Method Course, she helps clients edit their closets and uncover their unique style.

Conni has kindly given Teach Me How To Adult listeners a discount on her Signature Style Method Course (which has helped me SO much in understanding the elements of my personal style), so if you’re ready to revamp your wardrobe, check it out here and use the discount code style10 for 10% off. 

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There’s a lot going on in the job market right now, with a looming recession, mass layoffs, and AI changing the way we work. Whether you’re stuck under a micromanaging boss, navigating office drama, dealing with return-to-office mandates, or questioning your entire career path… it’s a lot.

But we gotchu. Back by popular demand, we’re joined by Emily Durham—aka Emily the Recruiter—career coach, content creator, and host of The Straight Shooter Recruiter Podcast. With millions of views across TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube, Emily is known for her no-BS advice on how to land your dream job and deal with workplace dynamics like a boss.

Whether you’re strategizing how to survive a toxic workplace, burnt out and job hunting, or managing conflict on the job, this episode will help you reclaim your power, boost your career confidence, and future-proof your career in a rapidly changing job market.

Tune in for an informative and hilarious conversation about:

• How to spot a toxic workplace (and what to do if you’re in one)
• When to quit your job vs. stick it out—especially in an uncertain job market
• The myth of work-life balance and how to set boundaries
• Dealing with the most common types of bad bosses (looking at you, micromanagers & mood killers)
• How to give your boss constructive feedback (without it backfiring)
• Smart ways to deal with workplace drama and toxic coworkers
• How “authentic” you should be at work—without hurting your career
• Are work besties trust-worthy? 
• What to do when back-to-office mandates hit
• How to stand out and stay relevant as AI reshapes the job market

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Do you ever feel paralyzed by indecision, stuck in a loop of self-doubt, decision overwhelm, and perfectionism? Welcome to the club! We know what it’s like, and what it takes to get unstuck.

Whether you're facing a career crossroads, struggling to start a creative project, or battling the incessant inner monologue of your monkey mind, this episode is here to help.

I’m joined by my friend and brilliant coach, Sasha Patpatia, a multidisciplinary artist, writer, and board-certified career coach for creatives. Sasha has helped me navigate pivotal moments in my career, and equipped me with mindset tools I still use to move from overthinking to action.

Some brain chemistry-altering quotes from Sasha in today’s episode:

“It is only the friction between where you are and where you want to be — which is called tension — that shuts us down and makes us feel stuck.”

“Our definition of success is doing what I said I would do, with clarity, focus, ease & grace.”

If you're feeling stuck, lost, or burnt out, join us for a deep look at how to overcome mental blocks and move forward in alignment with your purpose.

Tune in to hear more about:

✅ How to get unstuck, use stuckness as data, and take consistent action.

✅ Overcoming decision paralysis with a three-part choice and decision reframe (that takes the pressure off!). 

✅ Dealing with self-doubt and monkey mind: Navigating excuses and negativity bias without judgment.

✅ The myth of motivation: Stop waiting for the “right time”!

✅ Reframing our idea of success and failure

✅ What’s behind creative burnout?

✅ How to find the right career coach

✅ The power of emotional regulation, + a combined approach of mindset coaching and somatic bodywork

Just remember, ready is not a feeling, it’s a decision. You’ve got this.

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Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. 

In honour of earth month, we're taking a look at our consumption habits and how we can lower our carbon footprint in a way that's actually sustainable.

So we're throwing it back to tactical advice on sustainable living, with "accidental environmentalist" Jules Grieve. It's easy to let perfect become the enemy of good (sustainability is a game of progress over perfection) so we cover doable ways to cut out plastic and reduce waste, the truth about recycling, and how to change our water consumption. 

Julia is a TV personality, entrepreneur, fashion designer, former international model, and founder of the incredible Preloved, North America’s leading sustainable fashion brand that has diverted over a million sweaters from landfills. She’s CityLine’s eco expert and regularly appears on Global News and in Canada’s biggest media outlets. Her mission is to show people how simple changes, over time, can have a huge impact, and she’s showing the world how we can take an eco-friendly approach to home design, health, food, fashion and lifestyle. 

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Feeling constantly busy but not actually making progress? Struggling with overwhelm, burnout, and an endless to-do list? Honestly, same.

I’ve been stuck in an overwhelming cycle of too much work and not enough impact, so I started experimenting with different productivity hacks—and this week I’m sharing one that’s really helping.

We’re diving into the 80/20 Rule—also known as the Pareto Principle—a game-changing productivity method that helps you work smarter, not harder by focusing on the tasks that actually move the needle.

The Pareto Principle isn’t just a theory; it applies to work, relationships, finances, and general productivity so you can ditch busywork and operate in your zone of genius.

Ready to break free from the grind? Tune in to hear about:

✅ How to apply the 80/20 rule to your work and daily tasks

✅ The difference between being “busy” vs. being productive

✅ How to identify and prioritize high-impact tasks to maximize your productivity and efficiency

✅ How to stop wasting time and operate in your zone of genius

✅ Why urgency doesn’t always mean importance

✅ How this principle improves relationships, finances, style, and more

I hope this helps you take back control of your time and break free from burnout!

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Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. 

Your network is everything. The way you establish and nurture your own network and reputation can make all the difference in your career success, so we're throwing it back to this great advice from Maha Abouelenein on how to add value to your unique network. 

Maha Abouelenein is a strategic communication and personal branding expert who has handled communications for some of world’s largest tech companies in the Middle East - from Google and Netflix to Udacity and Weber Shandwick, along with promotions and sports marketing programs for the Olympics, NASCAR, Women’s Hockey, and the NFL.

Maha consulted on strategic communications with the Obama administration and has worked with powerhouses like Gary Vaynerchuk and Deepak Chopra. She was honored as one of the most influential women in Dubai, and nominated as of one of Forbes Power Women of the Middle East. She’s the CEO of Digital & Savvy, host of the Savvy Talk podcast, and Best-Selling Author of "7 Rules of Self-Reliance”.

Listen to our full episode with Maha here.

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Are you feeling overwhelmed and stressed by the constant flood of negative news? Join the club, friends. News anxiety is at an all-time high as we’re bombarded with breaking headlines and social media coverage of economic instability, political tension, war, tariffs, climate disasters, and more—straight to our phones, 24/7.

Washington D.C. therapist Steven Stosny coined the term "headline stress disorder" to describe the huge mental health impact of our nonstop news cycle. We’re all sucked into the cycle of online fear, and it’s crucial to learn how to consume news responsibly without sacrificing your mental health.

So how do we stay informed and responsible humans while protecting our mental health?

If you're feeling stressed, hopeless, or mentally drained from the overwhelming influx of world events, this episode is for you.

Tune in to hear more about:
✅ How the 24-hour news cycle fuels anxiety & fear-based algorithms
✅ Ways to stay informed without feeling emotionally drained
✅ How to break free from doomscrolling & social media-induced panic
✅ Practical strategies to set news boundaries & curate mindful media consumption
✅ Why focusing on what you CAN control is key to mental resilience
✅ The importance of hope & positive news for your mental well-being

Looking for uplifting news sources? Check these out:

✨ Good Good Good

✨ Good News Movement

✨ Tank’s Good News

🔗 Read more on managing worry & anxiety at metacognitivetherapy.com. 

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Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. 

If you want to rewire your relationship with money and move into an abundant (and informed) financial chapter, we're throwing it back to this helpful reminder from financial coach Nicole Stanley. 

A healthy money mindset is the missing ingredient for a lot of people's financial security. Nicole reminds us that "Money is just a magnifier of who you already are" - so our habits, beliefs, and relationship to money right now will dictate how we approach our financial goals for life. 

Nicole Stanley is the Founder & Head Financial Coach of Arise Financial Coaching. After battling crippling financial anxiety in her early twenties, Nicole enrolled in her first personal finance course and made changes to go from 30K in debt to building over a quarter-million in net worth for her family at age  27. Arise Financial Coaching has now served over 600 clients and has been featured in TIME, Yahoo Finance, & CNET.

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I saw a TikTok about how your toxic traits can be the exact opposite of your love language, and I CANNOT stop thinking about it. If you’re stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage, your toxic behaviours might be the inverse of your love language — aka your loathe language. 🤯

In today's quickie, we’re diving into the connection between our love languages and self-destructive habits so we can recognize the patterns that hold us back. 

If you find yourself defaulting to isolation, negative self-talk, avoidance, deprivation, or burnout, understanding and interrupting your 'loathe language' can help you better meet your needs before you spiral.

Ready to stop blocking yourself from the love and support you deserve? Tune in to hear more about:
✔️ How your self-destructive habits are linked to your love language
✔️ How the shadow side of quality time is isolating from loved ones
✔️ Why people who value acts of service might refuse help and burn themselves out
✔️ How the shadow side of physical touch is withdrawing from affection and neglecting self-care
✔️ Why the shadow of receiving gifts cab turn into impulse shopping or restriction
✔️ How those who value words of affirmation can spiral into self-criticism and silence
✔️ How to break the cycle and give yourself the love you actually need

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