Moving in with your partner? Before you sign the lease, you need to talk about money.

As I prepare to move in with my partner for the first time (your girl’s growing up!), I revisited our practical and helpful conversation with personal finance expert and author, Alyssa Davies, about how to navigate your finances when you’re merging lives with your partner, and how to set yourself up for success when you’re moving in together.

We dive into the financial conversations every couple should have before moving in — from how to split rent and household expenses when your income is different, to structuring joint finances in a way that feels equitable and aligned with your shared goals.

Because merging lives means merging money — and that’s hella vulnerable.

Alyssa Davies is a 2x author and the mastermind behind award-winning Canadian personal finance website and YouTube channel, Mixed Up Money, where she dishes out financial content for women who care about their money. 

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Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. 

Your to-do list Is lying to you… not everything is urgent, and productivity isn’t about doing more. It’s about doing what matters most.

As Greg McKeown says: “When you prioritize the important over the urgent, you don’t just get more done, you get the right things done.” And that’s the difference between a busy life and a meaningful one.

We’re throwing it back to 3 practical steps to master prioritization using principles from productivity minimalism and Essentialism. We cover the Law of Inverse Prioritization, and effective decision-making questions to filter every task and commitment.

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Feeling lost in your career? Questioning your life direction? So many of us spend our 20s and 30s chasing the job titles we’re told we “should” have, lofty income goals, or status, only to end up feeling disconnected, unfulfilled, and like we’ve sold our soul along the way.

What if the answer to career clarity and job satisfaction isn’t ahead of you… it’s behind you?

Research shows that people whose adult careers align with their early interests experience higher job satisfaction, better income, and greater educational attainment. If you loved writing, building, organizing, performing, asking questions, leading groups, solving problems, or creating things as a kid, those patterns can still guide what feels meaningful and easeful in adulthood.

So in today’s episode, we explore how your childhood interests and your true nature as a kid can offer clues for what will bring you long-term career fulfillment — and why reconnecting with who you were as a child is an evidence-based career strategy.

Tune in to hear about:

• Why so many adults feel lost or misaligned in their careers
• The disconnect between societal expectations and your authentic self
• How your childhood “essence” reveals your natural strengths
• Prompts to uncover your core nature
• The new research linking childhood interests to adult job satisfaction
• How interests are often more stable than personality traits
• Holland’s RIASEC career theory in the 6 interest categories
• How to use your younger self as a practical career compass

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Do you ever struggle with shame, pain, numbness, or disconnection in your sex life?

So many of us have done inner child work, attachment work, and therapy for our mental health — but we’ve never applied that same lens to our sexuality. Cultural conditioning, religious messaging, porn, performance pressure, trauma, and body shame all shape how safe (or unsafe) we feel in intimacy. And often, it’s our sexual selves that become fragmented.

In this episode, I’m joined by trauma-informed somatic sex educator and Erotic Wholeness coach Darshana Avila (featured on Goop’s podcast and TV show) to explore how to heal sexual shame, navigating painful sex, ways to deepen intimacy, and confidently asking for the pleasure you actually want. Darshana has dedicated her career to helping people tune in to their truth, desires, and authentic relationships. Her work has been featured on Netflix’s Sex, Love & goop, and she’s spent over a decade guiding people out of the cultural patterns that keep them stuck.

This conversation explores sex and the erotic not as performance, but as attunement, embodiment, and healing.

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• What Erotic Wholeness actually means
• How trauma and upbringing impact desire and shutdown
• Why so many women experience painful sex — and what might be happening physiologically and emotionally
• Why orgasms can feel difficult or inconsistent
• How to feel more confident and comfortable in your body
• How to give feedback in bed without shame or conflict
• What to do when you “don’t even know what you like”
• How to slow down, build anticipation, and deepen attunement
• Why presence and nervous system regulation are key to better sex

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Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed. 

Do you and your boo constantly feel "too tired" for sex? The answer might not be your energy levels (or even your libido). We're throwing it back to realtalk with TikTok’s #1 sex educator, Dr. Tara, on how to initiate intimacy when you're busy/tired, what to do with a low libido, and how stress, hormones, and mental health impact desire.

Dr. Tara is a certified sexologist, award-winning researcher, tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, TV host, radio host, a coach and the Internet’s Resident Sex Expert. She’s the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration, and she just released her new book, How Do You Like It? A Guide for Getting What You Want (in Bed).

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Hi lovers, it’s officially love month, and leading into Valentine’s Day, we’re revisiting some of the most powerful relationship advice we’ve heard on the podcast, from 3 of the internet’s top couples therapists and relationship experts.

Whether you’re single or in a long-term relationship, this episode is for you if you’re grappling with an anxious or avoidant attachment, fear around intimacy/relationships, or learning how to regulate and rebuild during conflict.

Thankfully, I’ve had the privilege of talking with the best when it comes to navigating love and partnership, which has helped me immeasurably in building the foundation of my own relationship. 

So today, I’m bringing you a roundup of the top advice from:

❤️ Baya Voce, MSW, Relationship Repair Expert (Supervised by Esther Perez): The art of repair, and how to maintain love and connection through conflict. Baya’s 4-step relationship repair framework, why curiosity is the antidote to defensiveness, and how to stay regulated during conflict. (Listen to our full episode here.)

❤️ Trevor Hanson, Marriage & Family Therapist, Founder of The Art of Healing: Why fear is the #1 killer of relationships and how to communicate through it. Plus, how to navigate common communication “landmines” and how anxious & avoidant partners can build safe emotional intimacy. (Listen to our full episode here.)

❤️ Jess Baum, Psychotherapist, Couples Counselor, & Author of Anxiously Attached: How our attachment styles are amplified or healed based on your relationship, breaking our anxious attachment patterns and prioritizing consistent love, recognizing red and green flags in chemistry, and moving from codependency to interdependence. (Listen to our full episode here.)

Wherever you are in your relationship journey, know that you are loved!

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The world feels heavy right now. We can’t fix everything, but we can show up for our loved ones and our communities (and strangers for that matter) with more empathy, humility, and care.

Welcome to this week’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. The world feels like a dumpsterfire right now, and in our current political climate, with constant uncertainty, collective stress, and real human suffering, the need to show up better for one another has never been more important. 

So we're throwing it back to three key tips for how to actually help and support people in crisis without minimizing their pain, rushing their healing, or placing more burden on them.

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A friend said something to me a few months ago (while I was complaining) that stopped me in my tracks: “Everyone wants a village — but nobody wants to be a villager.”

And once I heard it, I couldn’t un-know it. So many of us (AKA, me!) say we want deeper friendships, stronger community, people who show up for us… yet we’re participating in a culture that prioritizes convenience, hyper-independence, comfort, and productivity over closeness. We’ve optimized ourselves out of connection. We interact with services, not people. We protect our peace so hard, we don’t even consider the needs of others. We complain about loneliness and how hard it is to make friends as adults, but most people opt out of the effort and inconvenience that comes with community and togetherness.

So today, we’re unpacking the loneliness epidemic, the friendship recession, and what modern society is getting wrong about community-building. Most importantly, we cover how to actually be a villager, even when you’re busy, burnt out, uncomfortable, or socially awkward.

We weren’t meant to do life alone. And the village you’re looking for might start with you.

If you’ve been craving deeper friendships, more support and belonging, and being a part of something bigger than yourself, this episode is your reminder that community is built through effort, presence, generosity, and a willingness to be inconvenienced for the sake of care and connection.

Tune in to hear:

• What it really means to “be a villager” (and why closeness comes at a cost)
• The role convenience culture plays in loneliness and isolation
• The mental and physical health benefits of strong social ties
• Why self-care is overrated, because healing isn’t a solo sport
• How to start building your village through consistent micro-connections
• Reciprocity, generosity, and why community is about equity, not equality
• Saying yes more, and becoming a supportive attendee
• How to avoid social burnout and people-pleasing
• How to show up as a village leader (the art of hosting and building what doesn’t exist)
• Taking social risks and dealing with rejection
• Letting yourself show up imperfectly — messy house, bad mood, and all

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Welcome to this week’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. 

To navigate the onslaught of January "dieting" goals and diet industry campaigns, we're throwing it back to this necessary advice from expert Abbey Sharp on the realities of bloating, why gut health matters, natural remedies for your gut and bloating, and the new face of diet culture. Tune in if you want to free yourself from the mental weight of food guilt. 

Abbey is a Registered Dietitian, food writer and blogger, best-selling author, TV and radio personality, and founder of Abbey’s Kitchen. You might know her from her insanely popular Youtube channel, TikTok and Instagram, which are followed by millions of fans for her empowering nutrition facts, wellness myth debunking, and highly entertaining critiques of BS celebrity diets.

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I just celebrated my 35th birthday, and this year, instead of fearing aging or buying into the narrative that getting older is something to dread, I decided to approach this milestone with gratitude, reflection, and intention.

Aging is a privilege denied to many, and at 35, I can honestly say: I’ve never felt more like myself, and I wouldn’t want to go back to who I was at 25.

In this deeply personal and reflective episode, I’m sharing the 35 most life-changing lessons I’ve amassed about everything from confidence, mental health, and communication, to boundaries, purpose, willpower, and courage. Many of these insights were hard-earned over the last decade, and all of them have been shaped by the time I’ve spent hosting this podcast.

This episode is for anyone navigating their 30s, questioning their timeline, rebuilding self-trust, and learning how to live with more intention and alignment instead of fear.

Tune in to hear lessons including:

• Why motivation is a myth and systems matter more than discipline
• How confidence is built by keeping promises to yourself
• The importance of finding your career North Star
• An antidote to anxiety, and why communication requires emotional regulation
• Why community and relationships are essential to healing
• Using boundaries properly, ending people-pleasing, and learning to say yes and no with clarity
• The health and wellness changes that moved the needle for me
• Redefining success and how I use my time and money
• Courage over comfort… and why fear doesn’t have to disappear
• Changing paths, changing your mind, and embracing life in chapters
• Why you are NOT behind in life (there is no correct timeline!)

If any of these lessons resonate with you, I’d love to hear which one hit hardest. Comment what you connected with below, or share this episode with someone who’s navigating a similar season of life.

Thank you for being here, and for the continued gift of getting to grow up with the Teach Me How To Adult community throughout my 30s. I love you, and you’ve got this!

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