In this episode of SHE MD Podcast, Lisa Damour sits down with Dr. Thaïs Aliabadi and Mary Alice Haney to discuss raising tweens and teens, mental health, and emotional development. They explore handling independence, fostering respect and self-esteem, navigating romantic relationships, and managing discipline with repair-focused consequences. Learn how to support healthy boundaries, recognize signs of depression and anxiety, and cultivate resilience and responsibility in their teens. 

Lisa explains how parents can differentiate typical adolescent behavior from potential mental health concerns and provides practical tips to maintain perspective and empathy. Listeners leave with strategies to help their teens grow in confidence, independence, and healthy emotional regulation, while also understanding that mental health is about having feelings that fit the moment, not always feeling good.

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What You’ll Learn

How to help teens take responsibility for self-care and safety

Strategies for guiding emotional regulation and handling big feelings

Ways to navigate adolescent romance while setting healthy boundaries

Repair-focused discipline strategies that teach accountability

Key Timestamps

00:00 Introduction and podcast disclaimer

03:18 Talking about big feelings

05:23 Navigating independence and teens using relationships to fill emotional needs

10:22 Understanding self-care and responsibility for teens

15:56 How to deal with punishment and set expectations with a teenager

19:28  How to balance between holding teenagers accountable without stressing them out

28:03 Examples of repair-focused consequences

31:00 Emotional regulation and helping teens manage feelings that fit the moment

49:58 How to respond when parents dismiss teen depression and anxiety

55:21 How to answer when a teen says they feel depressed

1:01:17 Parenting boys vs girls and applying Untangled principles

1:02:10 How to access the AI resource “Ask Rosalie”

Key Takeaways

Adolescents need guidance to take responsibility for self-care and safety

Emotional health is about feelings that fit the moment, not always feeling good

Repair-focused discipline strengthens accountability and problem-solving

Parents can foster self-esteem through diverse sources of validation, not just romance

Early identification of depression and anxiety is critical for healthy development

Guest Bio

Dr. Lisa Damour is the author of three New York Times best sellers: Untangled, Under Pressure, and The Emotional Lives of Teenagers, which have been translated into twenty-three languages. She co-hosts the Ask Lisa podcast, works with UNICEF, and is recognized as a thought leader by the American Psychological Association. Dr. Damour created Untangling 10to20, a digital library supporting teens and caregivers, maintains a clinical practice, and speaks internationally on adolescent development, family mental health, and adult well-being. She was a consultant to Pixar on Inside Out 2.

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🌐 Ask Rosalie – AI-powered parenting resource on Dr. Lisa Damour’s website

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