The Addicted Mind Podcast

By Duane Osterlind, LMFTMedicine Health & Fitness Mental Health

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April 25, 2024TAM+ EP 16: Survival Skills for Sobriety: Creating a Relapse Prevention Plan
In this vital episode of "The Addicted Mind Plus," Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the critical topic of relapse prevention and planning. They stress the importance of being proactive rather than reactive when it comes to maintaining sobriety. The duo discusses how a well-thought-out relapse plan can significantly reduce the overwhelming feelings of anxiety and defeat that often accompany recovery. They also emphasize that making a plan during moments of clarity and health is essential. By incorporating practical strategies, such as identifying triggers and outlining coping mechanisms, listeners are equipped with tools to navigate challenging situations effectively. This episode is not only a guide but also an encouragement for anyone struggling with addiction to take control and prepare for the future.

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Key Topics
The critical importance of a relapse prevention plan
Identifying and preparing for triggers
The role of emotional and situational awareness in relapse
Strategies for immediate response to cravings
Building a support network as part of the relapse plan
Key Moments
[00:01:06] Discussion begins on the significance of relapse prevention.
[00:02:22] Explaining the high risk of relapse and the best time to prepare.
[00:03:15] The proactive benefits of planning are discussed.
[00:06:32] The value of a support network in relapse prevention.
[00:10:00] Detailed guidance on creating a personal relapse plan.
[00:16:48] Conclusion and resources for listeners to create their own plan.

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19 min
April 22, 2024280: Conquering Dependency and Cultivating Vulnerability: Cesar Wurm’s Journey Beyond the Bottle
Discover the transformative journey of overcoming addiction with Cesar Wurm, author of "The Powers of Addiction: Finding Freedom in Acceptance and Recovery." This latest episode delves into Cesar's raw and personal struggle with alcoholism, a battle intensified by the loss of his mother and the pressure of emotional stoicism in his family.
The story unfolds as he recounts a relapse marked by deception at a go-karting event, highlighting the depths of his secret life. Yet, it's through embracing acceptance that Cesar charts a course toward healing, underlining the profound impact that sharing such deeply personal experiences can have on both the speaker and the listener.
Cesar's narrative isn't just about the clutches of addiction; it's also a testament to the power of support and the hard-won victories along the road to recovery. He talks openly about the skepticism he initially held towards groups like Alcoholics Anonymous and the daunting nature of lifelong sobriety. However, it was a heartfelt conversation with his wife that ignited a crucial turning point, one that would lead him to accept his reality and begin the journey of honest healing. Tune in as he sheds more light on self-pity's dangers, honesty's healing potential, and the transformative effect of acceptance.

In this episode, you will hear:
The depths of self-deception
Recognizing and breaking generational trauma
Mutual acceptance and courage in recovery
Journey to empathy and recovery
Overcoming fear to share stories

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41 min
April 18, 2024TAM+ EP 15: Beyond Quick Fixes: The Deeper Transformation of Second-Order Change
Are you making changes but feeling stuck in your recovery journey? It could be because you're focusing on first-order changes. These are the surface-level adjustments we make – quitting a substance, changing routines – but they don't address the root of the problem.
That's where second-order change comes in. This is about digging deeper into your anxieties, past traumas, and the underlying beliefs that drive addictive behaviors. It's a transformation, not just a tweak.
Think of it like this: first-order change is running on a treadmill – you're moving, but not getting anywhere. Second-order change is taking the exit ramp and finding a new path.
Second-order change is the key to lasting recovery. So how do you get there? This episode breaks it down and helps you figure out where you might need extra support along the way.

Download: FIRST-ORDER CHANGE VS. SECOND-ORDER CHANGE
Key Topics
What first-order change is and why it's important early on
Second-order change and how it leads to lasting recovery
Examples of each type of change
How to start that deeper, second-order work
The value of therapy or coaching for this transformation
Key Moments
[00:01:00] – The treadmill trap: Why some changes feel pointless
[00:03:00] – Beyond willpower: What if just stopping isn't enough?
[00:05:00] – Real-world examples to help you identify your type of change
[00:08:00] – When is enough, enough? How to recognize you need deeper work
[00:10:00] – The scary (but worthwhile) path to second-order change
[00:14:00] – "I can see it in them": Signs you've done the deeper work
[00:17:00] – Your action plan: Next steps for leveling up your recovery

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19 min
April 15, 2024279: The Ripple Effect of Healing in Community-Based Addiction Treatment with Dr. Mark Lasko
When healing takes center stage, hope is never far behind. Dr. Mark Lasko joins Duane as they step into the conversation space with a heart full of empathy and a wealth of knowledge on the intricate dance of addiction treatment and recovery. Mark’s journey, touched by the struggles of addiction within his own family, has fueled a passion that's evident as we navigate the subject of client-focused care. Mark's insights, derived from his hands-on experience in the criminal justice system, bring to light the deep-seated connection between addiction, family dynamics, and societal impact. He candidly shares how nurturing one person's path to wellness can send waves of healing throughout entire communities – reshaping not only individual lives but the societal fabric as a whole.
In our conversation, we explore the Samaritan Recovery Community's mission, where personal connection and community engagement are the cornerstones of healing. Mark and Duane discuss the importance of creating environments that foster long-term recovery, emphasizing the role of alumni networks and monthly client gatherings. These touchpoints form the heart of a compassionate community-based approach, demonstrating that the path to sobriety is about so much more than abstaining – but about finding one's place in the world and forming meaningful relationships.
In this episode, you will hear:
Client-focused care in addiction treatment
Compassionate community-based recovery approach
Building compassionate communities in recovery
Providing evidence-based care in therapy
Barriers to success for homeless individuals
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39 min
April 11, 2024TAM+ EP 14: Unlocking Resilience: The Transformative Power of Self-Talk
Join hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind as they explore the profound impact of internal dialogue on recovery and mental wellness in this insightful episode of the Addicted Mind Plus. Discover how the words we tell ourselves can either hinder or help our journey toward healing. Learn practical tips on reshaping self-talk to foster resilience, overcome addiction, and enhance overall well-being. Whether you're looking to break free from negative thought patterns or simply seeking a mental boost, this episode offers valuable insights into the power of language in shaping our lives. Tune in to empower your path to wellness, one word at a time.

Key Topics:
The significant role of internal dialogue in recovery
Differences between thoughts and internal monologues
How changing language can alter emotional responses
Common myths about self-talk and how to overcome them
Practical tips for reshaping narrative to support mental health
Key Moments:
[00:01:00] Introduction to the power of language in recovery
[00:02:01] Discussion on internal monologues vs. abstract thoughts
[00:04:00] The influence of internal dialogue on emotional regulation
[00:06:00] Examples of how self-talk can reshape personal narratives
[00:09:00] Addressing myths and misunderstandings about self-talk
[00:12:00] Strategies for changing internal narratives effectively
[00:16:00] Closing thoughts and resources for further learning

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18 min
April 04, 2024TAM+ EP13 The Johari Window: How Self-Understanding Transforms Recovery and Relationships
In this exciting episode of Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the fascinating world of the Johari Window, a powerful tool for enhancing self-awareness and understanding in relationships. They explore how this simple yet profound model can illuminate the various aspects of ourselves—what we know, what we don't know, and what others see in us. From discussing how to navigate personal blind spots to the significance of revealing hidden strengths, this episode is packed with insights on improving communication, recovery, and personal growth. Whether you're on a quest for self-discovery or aiming to deepen your connections with others, this episode offers valuable strategies to expand your open area, embracing both the visible and hidden parts of your identity.
Download: The Johari Window Worksheet
Key Topics:
The basics and importance of the Johari Window in self-awareness.
Strategies for exploring and expanding the open area of the Johari Window.
The role of recovery communities in identifying and addressing blind spots.
The impact of self-awareness on personal growth and recovery.
How to safely navigate the hidden and unknown areas of ourselves.
Key Moments:
- [00:00:00] Introduction to the episode and significance of the Johari Window.
- [00:01:34] Explanation of how self-awareness affects decision-making and relationships.
- [00:02:46] The Johari Window as a tool for recovery and growth.
- [00:03:46] Detailed breakdown of each quadrant in the Johari Window.
- [00:07:29] Discussing the hidden area and its impact on personal and relational dynamics.
- [00:11:03] Exploration of the unknown quadrant and its mysteries.
- [00:14:06] Conclusion and resources for applying the Johari Window to one's life.

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16 min
April 01, 2024278: Revolutionizing Love and Connection in the Digital Era with Topaz Adizes
Join us as Emmy award-winning writer and director Topaz Adizes unveils the art of creating deep, human connections through conversation. In this discussion, Duane sits down with Topaz who shares his journey with the documentary series {The And} – revealing how authentic dialogues between various pairs, from family members to romantic partners, can transform our understanding of communication.
By spotlighting the powerful effect of listening and the role of the listener, we're invited to explore how true connection can serve as an antidote to addiction, providing methods to cultivate meaningful relationships even in the face of past trauma. Listen in as we further discuss the changing landscape of human connections in our tech-driven era, contemplating whether the emotional experiences of love and connection have shifted with the rise of digital communication.
From documenting intimate conversations with couples to the implications of technology on relationships without physical proximity, this episode offers insights into using technology to strengthen bonds. Plus, we examine the importance of process over solutions in couples therapy, highlighting the significance of couples engaging directly with each other to foster a neurobiological need for connection. Tune in for an enlightening conversation with Topaz that could change how you approach communication and connection in your life.
In this episode, you will hear:
Deep human connection through conversation
The evolution of human connection
Couples therapy through connection practice
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47 min
March 28, 2024 TAM+ EP12: Stuck at a Crossroads? The Only Four Choices You Really Have
Welcome to an eye-opening episode that could change how you face life's big moments. Today, we're exploring the idea that when you hit a tough spot, you actually only have four choices. Sounds simple, right? But it's a game-changer. Imagine feeling stuck, like you're at a crossroads with no clear direction. It happens to all of us. We overthink, get overwhelmed, and just feel more and more stuck. But what if you could see your options clearly and make a choice that really fits? We dive into solving the problem, changing how you see the problem, accepting what's happening, or, yes, even choosing to stay stuck for a bit. These options can lighten the load of decision-making, giving you a clear path forward. It's not just about the tough times; it's about knowing you have the power to choose your next step. So, ready to see what those four choices are and how they can help you? Let's get into it!

Download the worksheet: THE FOUR CHOICES CHEAT SHEET: NAVIGATING LIFE'S CHALLENGES

Key Topics:
- The concept of having only four choices in problematic situations
- Strategies for effective decision-making and problem-solving
- The importance of changing perception and acceptance
- The role of self-compassion in choosing to stay miserable
- Practical tools and frameworks for applying these concepts in real life

List of Key Moments:
- [00:01:25] Introduction to the four choices concept
- [00:03:24] Discussion on decision paralysis and overcoming challenges
- [00:04:18] Deep dive into solving the problem
- [00:07:09] Changing our perception of the problem
- [00:09:06] The difficult choice of acceptance
- [00:11:09] Exploring the choice to stay miserable
- [00:13:57] Summarization and resources for listeners

Download the worksheet: THE FOUR CHOICES CHEAT SHEET: NAVIGATING LIFE'S CHALLENGES

Additional TAM+ episodes that support this episode.

Episode 6 : Unstuck Your Thoughts: 7 Cognitive Distortions Sabotaging Your Recovery

Episode 9: Embrace the Now: How Radically Accepting Reality Can Transform Your Life

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16 min
March 25, 2024277: Healing from Addiction by Embracing the Inner Child with Lacy Bentley & Heather Cronemiller
Struggling with love and sex addiction can feel like an isolating battle, but this recent conversation with Lacy Bentley and Heather Cronemiller casts a ray of hope on this often-shadowed topic. Lacy, a relationship and recovery coach, and Heather, a seasoned therapist, join Duane to shed light on their personal journeys and their book, "Going Deeper for Women: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Love and Sex Addiction." Their stories are a testament to the power of understanding the inner child in forging a path to recovery. By intertwining their professional insights with the raw reality of their experiences, they offer listeners an intimate look at overcoming addictive behaviors in relationships.
Attachment wounds can create a labyrinth of confusion in our adult lives, often surfacing unexpectedly in the therapeutic setting as erotic transference. Lacy and Heather guide us through understanding attachment styles – secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized – and their influence on our relationships. This discussion navigates the delicate terrain of arousal, the misinterpretation of kindness, and the critical role of a therapist's boundaries. It's an exploration of the human craving for connection juxtaposed with the fear of intimacy, offering a compass for those seeking to understand the complicated dance of closeness and retreat.

In this episode, you will hear:
Exploring inner child impacts on addiction
Love and sex addiction gender differences
Understanding attachment in therapy
Understanding the Inner Child Model
Systemic disempowerment in gender and culture

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44 min
March 21, 2024 TAM+ EP11: Beyond Recovery: Cultivating Curiosity for Emotional Wellness
In this episode of "The Addicted Mind Plus," hosts Duane and Eric Osterlund dive into the power of a curious mindset in recovery and emotional stability. They explore how curiosity can shift our nervous system from fight-or-flight to rest-and-digest, leading to less stress and more emotional resilience. The discussion covers the simple yet profound ways asking questions about ourselves and the world can open up new possibilities and foster a fulfilling life. By embracing curiosity, we can improve memory, creativity, and even our ability to age well, while developing the grit necessary for recovery. Whether you're struggling with recovery or seeking a more satisfying life, this episode offers actionable insights and encouragement to start asking more questions and embracing the unknown.

Get The Online Course: The Curiosity Blueprint for Addiction Recovery: How to Harness Your Curiosity and Achieve Emotional Stability in 5 Easy Steps

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Key Topics:
- The role of curiosity in shifting the nervous system toward wellness
- How curiosity can lead to less stress and more emotional resilience
- The relationship between a curious mindset, grit, and successful recovery
- Overcoming myths and challenges in cultivating curiosity
- Practical steps to foster curiosity for improved mental health and recovery

Key Moments:
- [00:00] Introduction to the episode's focus on curiosity in recovery
- [02:04] Explanation of curiosity and its impact on the nervous system
- [04:24] The benefits of curiosity for emotional and mental wellness
- [07:37] The association between curiosity, grit, and recovery success
- [09:43] Overcoming challenges and embracing emotional vulnerability through curiosity
- [11:55] Debunking myths about curiosity and its importance
- [14:30] Closing thoughts and resources for further exploration

Get The Online Course: The Curiosity Blueprint for Addiction Recovery: How to Harness Your Curiosity and Achieve Emotional Stability in 5 Easy Steps

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17 min

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"The Addicted Mind Podcast" offers hope, understanding, and guidance for those dealing with addiction, with real stories and research to inspire and show the journey to recovery is worth…