The Loving Truth

So you’ve decided to end your relationship in divorce. What’s the first thing you should do next? The answer might surprise you.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about a much more productive first step you can take instead of the one that most likely immediately comes to mind. I’ll also teach you why it helps you commit to your decision to end your marriage.

1:19 - Your first instinct after you realize divorce is the answer

2:08 - What a wobble list is, and the point of making one

4:18 - The process of creating your wobble list (with examples)

7:00 - Why you will second-guess your commitment to divorce at some point 

7:55 - Scenarios that can cause you to second-guess yourself most often

Mentioned In The First Thing You Should Do When You Decide to Get a Divorce

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You feel like you’re at the end of your rope when it comes to your marriage. Divorce looks like the inevitable next step...but is it?

What if there was another way? What if there was the possibility of still saving your relationship by evolving it into a newer, better version?

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about the divorce alternative that many of my clients have used. I’ll teach you the similarity between relationships and technology and reveal how one client has started evolving her marriage.

1:03 - How “Julie’s” and “Chris’” relationship dynamic changed in 23 years

3:05 - How you need to think of marriage evolution

6:09 - How we get to the point of being stuck in the same miserable cycle in our relationship

9:03 - What the process of evolving your marriage depends on

10:36 - What marriage is and the change in “Julie’s” marriage with “Chris” as it began to evolve

13:11 - What if your marriage can’t evolve beyond where it is right now?

Mentioned In Instead of Divorce, Can You Save Your Marriage By Evolving It?

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“What other people think of you doesn’t matter.”

You can hear that a thousand times. You can even tell it to yourself over and over until you’re blue in the face. And while a select few may not be rattled by it, most of us feel the effects of someone else’s judgment.

But you can bounce back instead of letting it affect you for weeks, months, or a lifetime. In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn three ways of thinking about this that’ll help soften and shorten the blow to just a few days (or even hours) of hurt feelings. I’ll even share with you how I’ve learned to deal with judgment from family members about what I do in my business.

3:24 - Why the way someone feels about you has nothing to do with you

5:50 - What you can’t control (even if you think you can) and why

8:29 - The only opinion that ultimately matters (and a scenario that highlights why)

10:37 - The choices we all face when someone judges us

Mentioned In Worrying About What Others Think of You? How to Bounce Back Quickly

Stay or Go? How to Find Confidence and Clarity So You Can Fix Your Marriage, or Move Forward Without Regret by Sharon Pope

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Want to move forward with decisions in your life and marriage? That’s what my monthly Q&As are designed to help you do! And today, it’s time to answer questions from three more listeners for November.

Sherry is on the verge of going to a divorce lawyer and is afraid. Amanda has a stressful situation that has caused her husband to separate from her and use her as an emotional punching bag. And Tamara has a husband seeking affirmation that she feels she can’t give him.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about how to handle any fear you have about divorcing, separation-causing situations that have you feeling stuck between a rock and a hard place, and unrealized fears from a previous relationship that can give you a sense of deja vu. I’ll also reveal why being asked to do what doesn’t come naturally to you doesn’t have to derail your relationship.

1:01 - Why you should see multiple attorneys if you’re moving toward divorce

6:13 - Helping Sherry navigate through her fear (and how I did it after the breakup of my first marriage)

12:21 - Why Amanda’s husband decided to separate from her

16:30 - Should Amanda completely close the book on her relationship?

18:51 - How Tamara’s unhealed wound from her first marriage is affecting her current relationship

22:30 - How I got through a similar situation and the opportunity Tamara has in front of her right now

26:21 - What’s really behind Tamara’s reluctance to speak her husband’s love language and how she can resolve it

Mentioned In Fearing Divorce, Stressful Separation Point, and Love Language Trepidation

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Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert

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Do you trust your partner? Even when we say no, we often don’t consider exactly what it is we don’t trust about them.

This goes beyond cheating, by the way, which is what most people automatically think of when it comes to trust in a marriage. Having a lack of trust anywhere in a relationship creates disappointment, disconnection, and a lack of intimacy with your spouse.

What areas of your marriage do you need to reconsider when it comes to trust? And how do you resolve it when you find that there’s mistrust?

In this episode of The Loving Truth, you’ll learn about the different types of trust to consider inside your relationship. I’ll give you examples of how these mistrustful issues can affect your marriage and teach you what you can do about it.

00:46 - Why trust is important inside of relationships

4:53 - The biggest type of trust issue I see in my community

7:16 - How lack of physical trust doesn’t always show up as physical abuse

9:03 - The third type of trust that can erode your relationship

10:21 - An area of trust to keep an eye on even if you’re in the process of divorcing

12:43 - Other areas to look at and uncover any trust issues 

Mentioned In Different Types of Trust You Need to Consider in Your Marriage

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You’d think if our society failed at something 40-50% of the time, we’d probably be doing everything we could to solve the problem...

Yet, we don’t do that with the institution of marriage, which sees that rate of divorce among first-timers (it’s even worse for second and third marriages). Instead, we assume our partner is the problem; therefore, the solution is just getting out of the relationship.

But we still take ourselves with us to the next relationship. What we really need to do is change the ways we approach marriage itself.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn five ways to upgrade your marriage. I’ll also teach you three big reasons why people as a society tend to give up on their relationships and contribute to this thrashing of the institution.

1:56 - Three significant ingredients that can cause people to give up on their marriages

6:39 - The first perspective to help you be more conscious and much happier inside your relationships

11:41 - Expecting and embracing lots of changes in your marriage

13:42 - Why it takes a village to exist in relationships with people

17:00 - Why owning your shit is essential for a healthy relationship

18:28 - The last upgrade that leads to more ease and connection in your marriage

23:18 - How you can start implementing these upgrades

Mentioned In Five Ways to Upgrade Your Marriage for More Relationship Success

Stay or Go? How to Find Confidence and Clarity So You Can Fix Your Marriage, or Move Forward Without Regret by Sharon Pope

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You’ll find stuff that scares the crap out of you as a parent, if you search Google on the impact of divorce on kids. And while it’s not wrong, it’s not the full story either.

There’s something missing from statistics that show the effects of parents divorcing on their children. How you and your husband go through the process is really what’s critical to their emotional well-being.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about how the way you go through the divorce process can affect your kids and their relationship with you and your soon-to-be ex. I’ll also reveal some tools that provide better options to help them understand and accept what’s happening.

3:05 - Examples of the downstream impact of how you divorce

10:32 - The destructive impact of sharing intimate details of your marriage with your children (even if they’re adults now)

12:46 - Examples of better ways to handle divorcing so that it doesn’t cause your kids to suffer

15:39 - How to talk (and listen) to your kids when going through a divorce

20:12 - Why it’s okay for your children to see you struggle (and where it gets unhealthy)

21:09 - One last practical thing to help your kids get through their parent’s divorce

Mentioned In The Missing Piece to the Research on the Impact of Divorce on Your Kids

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Do you cringe at the thought of sex with your husband? Do you even recoil from his intimate touch?

After helping sooo many women in my work, I can count on one hand the number of women contemplating divorce who still enjoy sex with their spouse. But how do we get from “til death do us part” and the honeymoon night to moving away when he reaches for you for some intimacy?

While there are several reasons why you might be avoiding sex with your partner, in this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, we’ll focus on one specific reason. You’ll also learn how to stop getting in your own way and take things into your own hands (so to speak) regarding sex.

1:28 - Some things that can lead to not wanting sex with your husband

2:53 - The myth about men and sex and what’s necessary for women to be into sex

4:44 - What you can’t be doing when you’re trying to orgasm

6:10 - Why you shouldn’t leave him in charge of sex all the time

8:33 - Advocacy for yourself and what you shouldn’t make a lack of craving sex say about you

Mentioned In Why You REALLY Don’t Want to Have Sex With Your Husband (& How to Fix It)

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Vanessa Marin

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Infidelity involving a husband and his wife’s sisters, a hesitation to leave Mr. (Fake) Nice Guy behind, and a curious question about vibrators, oh my! These are the circumstances involved in the relationship questions I answer on today’s show.

You’ll hear from Sylvia, Sarah, and Kim in this episode of The Loving Truth podcast. You’ll learn about moving forward after a triple betrayal involving siblings, the fear behind the hesitation to leave even after things seem to have changed for the better, and the need to listen to your inner voice over others when making decisions about your marriage. In the process, I’ll also teach you what forgiving others is really all about.

0:55 - How to end trauma when your sisters had an affair with your husband

7:37 - Rebuilding trust and friendship after a triple betrayal: is it possible for Sylvia?

13:34 - What’s really causing Sarah to question whether or not she should leave her husband

18:55 - An opportunity to teach your kids even deeper lessons

25:03 - My hunch about the real reason why Kim chose to ask a relationship expert about vibrators

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Mentioned In The Real Point of Forgiveness, Honoring Yourself, and Other Questions Answered

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Sex With Emily podcast

Emily Morse’s Sex and Communication Masterclass 

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Are you trying to remain in your relationship after an affair but fear that it’s going to happen again?

Whether it was you who cheated on your partner or vice versa, you need to understand the reasons behind it. Otherwise, the relationship will never heal, the trust will remain eroded, and you might just find yourself back in the same situation.

So in this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about the possible motivating factors behind infidelity. I’ll also reveal how you can best prevent it from happening again.

2:30 - Three general reasons why people cheat on their partner

6:56 - Two other reasons why people in a bad marriage may have an affair

9:30 - Why you need to get introspective about your cheating and write it down

11:18 - Three journaling prompts to help you understand what’s going on inside of you

15:23 - An example showing why getting to the bottom of the cheating is important for you and your spouse

Mentioned In Understanding the Reasons Why You Cheated (or Got Cheated On)

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