The Mark Groves Podcast

What if you learned that everything you’ve been taught about what it means to be a man, was wrong? Tune into my recent conversation with addictions counselor and men’s coach Ben Goresky and learn how to reconnect to your masculinity and your partner with a new sense of compassion and curiosity. In this episode we talk about how to call ourselves and others on the bullshit stories that hold us back, the social norms that perpetuate addiction, why who you spend time with matters, and how you can get back in alignment with who you really are.

In this episode you’ll learn about:

Addiction myths (15:30)

Men and addictions: (34:20)

The connection solution for men and women (48:40)

The antidote to defensiveness (53:10)

The cycle of codependency (1:00:00)

You can find Ben through his group for The Samurai Brotherhood, an organization that connects men to their masculine core and leads the way for the evolution of conscious men. 

Ben also hosts The Evolving Man podcast and runs relationship workshops for couples with his fiancee Sheleana Aiyana. He specializes in transpersonal psychology, shadow work, men’s work, and conscious relationship work. He lives a happy, healthy life in Vancouver, Canada. 

Episode Resources:

Freedom From Addiction Program

Gabor Mate Russel Brand Podcast

Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin - Anne Katherine

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Have you ever wondered about manifestation? Can we truly "make" something happen for us? In life and love, how can we get the things that we say we want? This week, I'm jamming with Lacy Phillips, a Manifestation Advisor specializing in unblocking beliefs of unworthiness and expanding into alignment with what one is calling in. We talk about how to develop a good relationship with yourself, with romantic partners, and with money. Find out how you can tap into your subconscious mind and how to grow your worth. This is one you don't want to miss!

In this episode you'll learn:

- The science behind manifestation (5:36)

- How to "get" the partner you deserve (12:20)

- The connection between love and money (49:05)

- And so much more!

 

Where can you find more of Lacy Phillips?

Website: FreeAndNative.com

Podcast: Expanded Podcast

Instagram: @FreeAndNative

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Human connection is such a powerful and necessary component of our lives. As a human connection specialist myself, I thought what better way to dive deep into this topic than to sit down with none other than Baya Voce? For the past decade, Baya has studied relationships and human connection, most recently giving one of the most-viewed TEDx talks of all time, titled "The Simple Cure for Loneliness," with more than 3.5 million views. Here we get a little taste of the nuggets from her TEDx talk, and we go deep into the work it takes to feel connected to ourselves and others.

In this episode, you’ll get answers to these questions:

Are breakups harder on men? (10:30)

What is betrayal? (22:35)

Do ‘mixed messages’ actually exist? (31:20)

And so much more!

 

Where can you find more of Baya Voce?

Website: BayaVoce.com

Instagram: @Baya_Voce

 

References and Recommendations:

Baya Voce TEDx Talk: The Simple Cure for Loneliness

Jayson Gaddis: The Smart Couple Podcast

Glennon Doyle: Oprah’s Soul Session 

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“Marriage is complicated.” “Once you’re married, sex goes out the window.” “It’s all downhill after the honeymoon phase.” Have you heard people say this to you? Have you actually uttered these words yourself? Vienna Pharaon and I sat down and talked about the stories we tell ourselves around getting married and how we can make the shift and define marriage in whatever way we want. Vienna is a licensed marriage and family therapist based in New York City, where she runs her own practice. She is currently the number 1 Google search result when looking for couples counseling in NYC and she and I co-created a Relationships 101 workshop. Grab your pen and paper -- this episode is dynamite!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How honoring your vows are important, but honoring promises can help too (8:44)

How to hold an “Annual General Meeting” with your spouse or partner (13:00)

How to lower your negativity threshold (17:25) 

And so much more! 

 

Where can you find more of Vienna Pharaon?

@MindfulMFT on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter

NewYorkCouplesCounseling.com

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Are you struggling in the dating world? Do you feel like finding love is the equivalent to working a full time job? In this episode, I talk to Amy Young all about dating in the modern world and her unpopular opinion that dating is actually fun and how it should never feel like an obligation. Amy is a life coach extraordinaire who previously worked as an actor and comedienne, bringing her silly and irreverent approach to empowering single women to understand themselves and set themselves up for relationship success. She is self-proclaimed “Captain Raise the Bar” and she and I jammed on all the goodness there is in today’s modern dating world when you look for it.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

The importance of raising your standards (8:08)

Can people have casual sex without getting hurt? (15:00)

Is it OK for a woman to need a man? (36:30)

And so much more!

 

References and Recommendations:

Viral Wedding Photo of pretend blowjob 

Dr. Glover / "No More Mr. Nice Guy"

Katie Byron / "The Work"

Article: Why You Might Not Be Ready For The Evolved Man You Say You Want

 

 

Where can you find more of Amy Young?

AmyYoungCoaching.com

https://www.youtube.com/user/AMYoungster

Email: [email protected]

Instagram: @AmyYoungCo

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What is the difference between wanting to make your partner happy and being accommodating to the point of losing yourself? What is the recipe for self-love that allows you to deepen your connection in relationships? In this episode, I speak with Ivy Kwong, a licensed marriage & family therapist, speaker, and writer who specializes in self-love and connection to heal codependency.

Ivy also lets us in on an emotional intimacy exercise you can start putting into practice right away (55:05). Make a new nightly routine of checking in with yourself and sharing with your partner about the following areas: anger, pain, sadness, fear, shame, guilt, joy, and loneliness. Tune in to hear exactly how this exercise works and more tips and tricks you can use to help yourself (and your partner) grow. 

In this episode, you’ll also learn:

The definition and different degrees of codependency (19:17)

The value of self-esteem and self-love (27:45)

What you need in order to sustain a relationship (48:05)

And so much more!

 

Where can you find more about Ivy Kwong?

Website: BareIvy.com

Instagram: @BareIvy

Email: [email protected]

Additional Website: https://www.shellbreaker.com/

 

Recommendations and references:

Article: “F*ck Yes or No” by Mark Manson 

Book: “Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself” by Melody Beattie

 

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What makes long-term relationships go the distance? I’m speaking with author and licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon, who you might know as the “Relationship Architect” and author of the transformational book, “Loving Bravely.” We talk about what’s really needed to make a relationship work – spoiler alert — it goes way beyond good sexual chemistry (although that’s needed, too). Today, we bring you the tools that will get you started both as an individual and as a couple.

Alexandra is a clinical assistant professor at Northwestern University teaching and training marriage and family therapy graduate students. In addition, she teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.” If all of that wasn’t enough, Dr. Solomon is also a highly sought-after speaker and media commentator on relationship topics.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How messages we received as children shape how we show up in relationships today (5:50)

What makes relationships able to go the distance? (17:32)

Primary sexual desire vs. responsive desire – is sexual chemistry different for men and women? (21:35)

What does “sexy” mean for women? (29:30)

When there is sexual disconnection in a relationship, what can the couple do? (44:45)

And so much more!

Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Website - www.dralexandrasolomon.com/

Instagram - @dr.alexandra.solomon

Book - Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want

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In this episode I discuss my journey and why I the subject of relationships is so important. I talk about the misconceptions about love, my (our) struggles, healing wounds, and how we can best begin to learn to create connection and deepen our relationships with ourselves and others.

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Join me on my journey as I seek to understand and discover what is it that makes great couples great!

Why is it that some people seem to be able to keep love alive for a lifetime and others can't seem to even make it through a moment?

Why are we attracted to certain types of people who are bad for us?

I've discovered that the quality of our relationships ultimately determines the quality of our lives and our health. I've had so many amazing wonderful conversations with brilliant people about the subject to understand it myself and I wanted to share these conversations with you.

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