How do you inspire change in others without pushing them away?

Paul Martino never really enjoyed drinking. It was something he did to fit in. When he and Stacey Martino became intentional about their health, they decided to change their relationship with alcohol. During a difficult time in their marriage, Stacey tried pushing Paul to do things her way but when she shifted her focus to her own growth, Paul felt inspired to change on his terms. Now, 25 years later, they haven’t had a drink, by choice, because it aligns with their values. In this episode, Paul and Stacey join Annie to share tools to navigate different drinking habits as a couple and how to inspire change in others without pressure or judgment.

In this episode, Annie, Paul, and Stacey will discuss:

- Why social drinking never felt right for Paul

- Prioritizing health and rethinking alcohol

- How to navigate different drinking habits as a couple

- Managing triggers and responses in relationships

- Owning your growth without relying on others

- Choosing patience over judgment

- How to inspire change without being forceful

- Building trust while respecting each other’s choices

- Letting go of “if you loved me, you would” thinking

- Addressing safety concerns with care

- Facing challenges and growing through discomfort

- And other topics…

Related Episodes:

EP 41: Relationships, Marriage & Alcohol with Stacey Martino https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-41-relationships-marriage-alcohol-with-stacey-martino/

EP 278: Reader Question – How Can Friends and Family Support Someone Who Is Changing Their Relationship With Alcohol? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-278-reader-question-how-can-friends-and-family-support-someone-who-is-changing-their-relationship-with-alcohol 

EP 364: Reader Question – Do I Have to Choose Between Being Alcohol-Free or My Relationship? https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-364-reader-question-do-i-have-to-choose-between-being-alcohol-free-or-my-relationship/ 

Resources Mentioned:

Paul & Stacey’s Website: relationshipdevelopment.org 

Paul & Stacey’s Book, The Missing Piece: A Proven Method to Single-Handedly Transform Your Relationship and Create Harmony in Your Home: https://www.amazon.com/Missing-Piece-Single-Handedly-Transform-Relationship/dp/1401993907 

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