Episode 24: Hey loves, it's been a minute since I last recorded, and today's episode is all about getting real and raw. I'm diving deep into the messy, uncertain parts of my own journey—especially around what it means to live a good life, and how to handle all the emotions that come with it. If you're considering divorce, you're really going to connect with this one.

I'll share some personal struggles, including a recent, challenging moment with my teenage son that left me questioning everything about parenting. I’ll also talk about the surprising emotional work that comes up even in the healthiest relationships and how that’s been shaking up my world.

But here's the heart of today's episode: feeling your feelings. I’ve seen how powerful it can be to stop running from emotions and instead, sit with them in your body. I’ll guide you through a meditation technique that I use with my clients to help process those intense emotions and reclaim your inner power.

I'm also reflecting on the importance of community and how healing together can be so much more powerful than going it alone. We all need a village, and I’m excited to keep building that with you.

So join me as we navigate this wild journey together, with all its messiness, beauty, and growth. And don't miss the separate meditation episode that I’ve created for you to use whenever you need it. 🌟

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Episode 23: Hello, beautiful souls! 💖

I’m diving deep in this spontaneous, heart-to-heart episode. Reflecting on nearly five years since my divorce, I share the messy, beautiful roller coaster of emotions I've experienced. 🌈✨

In this heartfelt chat, I open up about:

• The highs and lows of life post-divorce.
• Moments of joy and pain that have shaped me.
• Embracing life’s duality—the light and the dark. 🌪️❤️

You'll hear about my recent trip to Vegas, deep connections with loved ones, and a song that encapsulated my feelings, leading to a profound realization. This episode is a call to give yourself the love and compassion you deserve. 🌟

We’ll explore the impact of childhood trauma, emotionally abusive relationships, and the importance of filling ourselves up, not just others. I reflect on living a deeply fulfilling life, understanding complex attachment styles, and building a life where you feel truly safe, loved, and deserving. 🌸

Let's embrace the ups and downs together, knowing every step forward is a triumph. Whether it’s the chaos of a late morning or the joy of creating a better life for our children, it's all part of our healing and growth.

So, grab a cozy spot, maybe a cup of tea, and join me on this beautiful, imperfect journey. Remember, it's okay to feel everything—it's what makes us truly alive. 🌟

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Episode 22: Hey beautiful souls! 🌟

In this episode, I'm thrilled to have back my dear friend and former coach, Quinn! 💖 In this episode, I’ll share my post-divorce journey—married young, divorced at 31, and navigating dating with three kids. Quinn, married for 23 years with nine kids, brings her own compelling story of dating post-divorce. 💡

We discuss our beliefs about men, dating and motherhood, and dating apps. I dove in head-first, while Quinn was more cautious. 🌊

Quinn also shares her transformative experience with plant medicine, which helped her process trauma and reclaim her sense of safety. 🌿✨

We’ll cover Quinn's first dating experiences post-divorce, the importance of support and sisterhood, and the concept of a "good goodbye." 💔💖

Finally, we explore navigating friendships with exes and finding our true selves through relationships. We discuss trusting intuition, self-awareness, and setting boundaries. 🌱💪

Join us for a candid, empowering, and laughter-filled chat. 🌟💬✨

Grab a cup of tea, get cozy, and join us for a heartfelt conversation. Let's explore the beautiful mess that is post-divorce dating together. 💪✨

Sending you love and light,
Britta Jo 🌸

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Episode 21: Hey beautiful souls! 🌟

I'm back, and today we're diving into two powerful topics: affairs and the societal shift in romantic relationships. After a family trip to Vegas triggered my CPTSD, I had to press pause and focus on my healing. This break gave me the clarity to bring more depth to our discussions. 🙏

In Part Two of our series on affairs, we'll explore the history of marriage, societal expectations, and the five biggest mistakes husbands make when discovering an affair. These insights will help whether you're dealing with infidelity or contemplating divorce. 💔

Beyond individual marriages, we’re redefining what's acceptable in relationships. Centuries of inequality and hidden abuse towards women are being challenged, and it's time to change that narrative. Let's celebrate our rights to live independently and embrace true mutuality in relationships. 🏡💪

I'll share a personal story about how patriarchy limits men and women, and how embracing our full emotional spectrum can lead to fulfilling partnerships. 🌈❤️ We’ll also discuss "A Court of Thorns and Roses" and its portrayal of relationships based on mutual respect and equality. 📚

Join me as we advocate for a future of true partnership and deep connections. 🌟✨

Tune in, own your truth, and let's navigate this journey together. 💪💖

#Marriage #Affairs #SelfCare #Healing #PersonalGrowth #TrustYourJourney #Mutuality

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Episode 20: Hello, my lovelies! 💖

This is the episode many of you have been waiting for! After a few bumps in the road, I’m back at the mic, grounded and ready to dive into the intricate topic of affairs.

In this two-part series, we’ll break down the pros and cons of affairs with a realistic approach. Remember, these are just thoughts and stories, so always check in with your inner truth. 💡

We’ll explore the messy and complex world of infidelity, its impact on personal growth, and what choosing an affair might really mean. If you're in or considering an affair, it’s crucial to understand the implications. I’m sharing three pros and two cons from my experiences and those of my clients, highlighting both the highs and lows.

### Pros:
1. Realizing what's been missing in your life. 🌸 Many women marry for stability but later crave deeper physical and emotional intimacy.
2. Awakening to your sexuality and desires, transforming your understanding of love and fulfillment. 💕
3. Show up for yourself and make a move forward towards honoring what you desire most and is missing. 🌿

### Cons:
1. Labeling yourself as a bad person. 😔 The guilt and mind games can be overwhelming, but it's crucial to challenge harmful narratives.
2. Emotional turmoil from secrecy and lying. Affairs can highlight unmet needs but also bring significant emotional challenges.

We’ll also discuss the stereotypes around women who have affairs, the cultural and religious influences on our views, and how these issues are symptoms of deeper problems in marriages. The roles we think we’re supposed to play are not enough. Women are asking for more—emotional connection, intimacy, and authenticity.

Affairs are not the problem but a symptom of deeper issues. Just like in *Les Mis*, where the main character is punished for stealing bread, we need to look beyond the surface and address the root causes.

Join me as we peel back the layers and embrace the possibility of living a fully expressed and authentic life. 💖

Don’t forget to rate and review if you enjoyed this episode! Your support means the world and helps other women find this podcast. If you're looking for one-on-one support, check out my 90-minute intensives. I'm here to hold space for your truth. 🌈

Catch you next week for part two, where we'll dive even deeper! 🌿✨

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Episode 19: Hey beautiful souls! 🌟

Welcome back to another inspiring episode! Today is extra special because I’m kicking off a series of interviews with past clients by chatting with none other than my best friend, Quinn Otrera. 💖

Quinn’s about to launch her podcast, "The Post-Divorce Glow Up Show," and it’s going to be amazing! 🎙️ Quinn has been my personal coach for over two years, guiding me through thick and thin. She’s my go-to for all things mind and heart, and I can’t wait for you to meet her.

In this episode, we dive into Quinn’s journey from staying in her marriage to finding the strength to leave. 🛤️ We talk about trusting yourself, making decisions from a place of self-love, and living your truth bravely.

You'll hear about our initial work together, where Quinn chose to stay in her marriage and found genuine happiness, to the pivotal moments that led her to leave and embrace a new chapter. And of course, we’ll explore her new venture and what a “glow up” truly means. 🌟

For those already on the other side of divorce, Quinn’s show is your next stop. 🚀 She’s passionate about guiding women to find their post-divorce sparkle and live their best lives.

Join us as we reminisce, laugh, and share powerful tools for your own journey. 💕

Can’t wait for you to tune in!

You can find more about Quinn on her Website.

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Episode 18: Hey beautiful souls! 🌟 Today, we’re stepping into something so rich, so tender—and totally you. Imagine being a seal-woman (yes, myth and magic—and yes, you), dancing on land while tucked inside you is this wild, instinctual home under the sea. That’s the soul-skin—your wild woman’s armor, your creativity, your truth. And for so many of us, that seal-skin gets stolen. We dry up. We grow quiet. We lose us.
But babe… you can come back. You can breathe back into your wild skin. This episode is your homecoming. 🌊🦭

I’m drawing inspiration from Chapter 9 of Women Who Run with the Wolves—where Clarissa Pinkola Estés talks about how the seal-woman must return to the sea, to her skin, to her soul—especially after being lost to expectations and survival. That chapter? It had my name written all over it. And I just knew I had to bring it here for you.

We’ll journey through stories of women (including me) who’ve felt that tide pulling them back. We’ll explore what it means when societal pressure steals our sparkle—and how we actually reclaim it, in messy, tender, potent ways that feel like home.

What’s Waiting for You Inside This Episode:

• The mythic map of soul-skin loss and recovery (spoiler: it’s a wild✨ride)
• Personal stories of losing my own soul-skin—and the simple, sacred steps I took to find it again
• Why those whispers from your heart (even when you're scared to listen) are actually the truest thing you’ll ever hold
• A peek at what’s coming next—spoiler alert: our next episode is diving into the impact of affairs on our soulhood (mark your calendars!) 📆

This episode is for the woman who feels untethered, the one who senses she’s been living someone else’s version of love, strength, or identity. This is your permission to lean into your wildness, your pain, your soft edges—and gently stitch yourself back together with soul-led devotion.

Your soul-skin is sacred. It’s rad. It’s yours—and it’s waiting to bloom again.

With fierce love and full-hearted hugs,
 Britta

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Episode 17: Hey babes 💖 I’m back after a couple of soul-stretching weeks, and whew... this topic deserves every bit of it 😮‍💨✨ We’re diving deep into the real, raw truth about what needs to happen before you make a life-altering decision like divorce.

This episode came straight from the heart of two 🔥 90-minute coaching intensives. One client was stuck in guilt + people-pleasing with a total man-child 🙄 (you know the type), while another was swimming in anxiety and realized... it wasn’t even about her marriage 😳 Her nervous system was screaming way before the vows.

This is what I need you to know: before you walk away (or decide to stay), you have to come home to YOU 🏡💫

Knowing yourself, understanding your patterns, calming your nervous system—that’s the real game changer. Whether you're leaning toward freedom or finding your way back to connection, your healing comes first, always 🌸🦋

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again—clarity doesn’t come from obsessing, fixing him, or spiraling 💫 It comes from getting real with your own shadows, desires, and truth.

This one is a love note to your soul 💌 Because you deserve peace, power, and a life that feels like YES 🔥

If you’re craving that next-level clarity, those 90-minute intensives are here for you 💥 Let’s go deep, together 💕

Love you babes, always 💕 Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, share—it means the world 🌍💖

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Episode 16: Hey loves—picture this: stormy clouds drifting past my office window, like the universe was whispering, “This one’s for the brave.” 🌧️✨ And yep, it is. We’re going deep and raw today—diving into a love so twisted it wears kindness like a costume.

We’re unpacking true love vs. manipulation that masquerades as love—and learning to recognize which one you're actually in.

Here’s what we’re touching on:

💔 Love isn’t about sacrificing your truth
True love doesn’t ask you to shrink or rewrite yourself. If you’re bending to fit someone else’s mold, that’s not love—it’s control in drag.

🔥 Trust. Respect. Authenticity.
Love shows up in whispers, not walls. It’s safe, steady, and soft. We’re breaking apart the Beloved Myth that “love means everything”—sometimes, it means none of what you need.

💬 Stories from the front lines
I’m bringing in real talk—from my clients and from my own journey—on the sharp-edged difference between empowerment and emotional pull.

🛑 Red flags aren’t romantic
Subtle authority plays. Enmeshment disguised as closeness. The gaslit whisper, “You’re the only one I love like this.”—we’re calling them out for what they are: control wrapped in a lover’s jacket.

✨ Wrapping it all with freedom
True love empowers each partner to walk their path—even if it splits. Manipulation says, “Don’t go.” Love says, “I trust you—even when we’re miles apart.”

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Episode 15: Let’s be real—this shit gets messy. 😅
If you’re deep in the weeds of considering divorce, you’re probably tangled in a mess of emotions, fears, and a million “what ifs.” And babe... that’s not just normal—it’s human. 💖

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the real inner work that happens when we stop pretending we’ve got it all together 🙃 and actually lean into the mess. 🌪️

We’re talking:

🌑 Why your “dark sides” aren’t flaws—they’re clues 🧭
 😬 How shame keeps us quiet... and stuck
 💡 The beauty of self-awareness (even when it feels like a hot damn mess)
 🌱 Real stories—from my life + my clients—that show how healing begins when you stop trying to be perfect

Because here’s the truth: growth isn’t tidy. 🧼
 It’s crying in your car, it’s journaling at midnight, it’s saying “WTF am I even doing?” and still showing up for yourself anyway. 👏🏼

So if you're scared, conflicted, and feeling like a disaster lately—this one’s for you, babe. 💌
 You’re not broken. You’re waking up. 💥

Let’s normalize the mess—and maybe even learn to love it a little. 🥹

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