Dear Dr. Tracy

The Truth About Relationships Postpartum - with Dr. Cassidy


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You’ve prepared everything for baby’s arrival:

✅Birth plan

✅Hospital bag

✅Freezer meals

✅Set up nursery

✅Install car seat

You’ve done the research and checked your list twice.


But did you prepare your relationship?


Many of us have thought that a baby will bring us closer as a couple. Perhaps you haven’t had any noteworthy struggles in your relationship so far and think nothing will change. Or perhaps things have changed a lot since then.


As a mother and a clinician, the thing that strikes me the most is just how much we don’t share our relationship difficulties. The resentment. The moments of anger towards our partner. The feelings of disconnection and like we are ships passing in the night. 

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Cassidy Freitas to talk about the things no one told you would happen in your relationship after having a baby. Dr. Cassidy Freitas is a San Diego based mom to three and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in supporting millennial parents through pregnancy, postpartum, and parenting. She hosts the top-rated parenting podcast HoldingSpace. Every Friday on Instagram Dr. Cassidy shares relatable reels and doses of joy with the funniest TikToks. 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Dr. Cassidy’s experience of becoming a mother [6:30]
  • The one thing Dr. Cassidy and Dr. Tracy didn’t prepare before baby [8:30]
  • Feelings of fear entering motherhood [11:30]
  • Postpartum mental health [12:45]
  • The challenge of being a couples therapist who struggles with their relationship [18:15]
  • The myth that we will feel closer after baby [19:15]
  • What we can do to work through this phase [26:30]
  • Values [30:10]
  • Generous interpretation [31:15]
  • Kids learn by what they observe [37:30]
  • EPISODE LINKS

    Dr Cassidy’s private practice website

    Follow Dr. Cassidy on Instagram

    Listen to her podcast: Holding Space

    Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again

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    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass

    Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected

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