There was a time when sex felt easy, and then life happened. Kids, stress, mental load, exhaustion, being touched out… and suddenly both partners are wondering: is something wrong with me, with you, or with us? Dr. Tracy reframes this in a way most couples have never been taught: you don’t have a desire problem, you have a conditions problem. And that’s hopeful, because conditions are something you can actually work with.
In this conversation, Dr. Tracy and Greg break down the two pathways to desire (spontaneous vs. responsive), why pressure quietly shuts desire down, and why sex can’t exist in a silo when resentment, cortisol, and disconnection are running the show. The goal isn’t to “manufacture the mood” or withdraw completely, it’s to co-create the kind of daily conditions (touch, safety, shared load, emotional closeness) that make desire possible again.

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