ASK EMMA is back — and it’s more honest, blunt, slap-you-out-of-your-delulu than ever. Emma kicks off spooky season with chaos, clarity, and even a chilling ghost story you won’t forget (that comes bearing receipts). But before the paranormal, comes the personal.

Emma goes down the rabbit hole of your rawest questions — from “Why am I still single?” to “How do I stop thinking about my avoidant ex?” — and delivers the tough love no one else will. She breaks down why being single is a choice, not a curse, why hypersensitive employees need to toughen up (sorry, not sorry), and what it takes to really heal.

We’re getting real about a fear of men, friendship breakups, workplace boundaries, and what it actually means when your partner won’t unfollow their ex. 

And then? Emma ends the episode with a true terrifying story caught on camera — “The Figure in the Hallway” — that’ll have you triple-checking your locks tonight.

If you love relationship psychology, unfiltered advice, hot takes, and horror season chills, this one’s for you.

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In this week’s episode, Emma finally goes down the rabbit hole of the infamous “Washington” story — the 32-day first date that started with a DM, detoured through Scottsdale and Palm Springs, and fast-tracked into moving in (or as she likes to say, “squatting”). What started as a spontaneous road trip turned into a  a crash course in love bombing and a year-long lesson in anxious attachment, mixed signals, and the danger of mistaking chemistry for compatibility.

Emma reflects on why actions always speak louder than words, how sunk-cost thinking can keep us trapped, and why real intimacy grows slowly, not in a flash. It’s a story of ignoring gut instincts, chasing potential, and eventually choosing freedom over fantasy.

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This week, Emma and newly engaged Ashley Nichole go down the bachelorette party rabbit hole — and it’s not all cute matching outfits and tequila shots. They call out the parts everyone not-so-secretly hates: power-tripping maids of honor, passive-aggressive "games" that feel like the Hunger Games, Splitwise drama, budget shaming, and the politics of who’s “close enough” to make the cut. But don't worry, they talk about the fun stuff too.

Ashley breaks down her proposal story (yes, it was perfect) and Emma shares two of her very important hot takes that may have just cracked the code on how to make bachelorette parties drama-free. Consider this episode a permission slip to set boundaries, skip the cringe, and plan a celebration that fits the bride—not the group chat.

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Self-sabotage is one of those things we all do, but rarely admit to. From procrastination and perfectionism to negative self-talk, toxic relationship cycles, and numbing habits — we’ve all been guilty of standing in our own way. In this episode, Emma is going down the rabbit hole about self-sabotage, why it’s rooted in fear and survival, and how it disguises itself as “logic” or “discipline.”

Emma is sharing her own stories — everything from missed opportunities in her twenties to how hyper-independence and people-pleasing played into the patterns. More importantly, she's giving you the tools to recognize these habits, reframe them, and start building momentum again.

If you’ve ever caught yourself saying “I’ll do it later,” picked the wrong partner because it felt easier, or sabotaged an opportunity out of fear of success, this episode is your wake-up call.

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Moving out, moving in, and moving on — today’s Emma is going down the rabbit hole on one of the most defining parts of adulthood: living with someone. From her first chaotic dorm to years of living solo, and then finally moving in with Mr. Right, Emma is breaking down the lessons, horror stories, and hilarious realities of sharing your space.

We’re talking communication, compromise, boundaries, and why the people you live with shape you more than you realize. Emma is sharing what living alone taught her about independence, why living with friends can make or break a relationship, and how cohabiting with a partner brings up insecurities, intimacy shifts, and a whole new level of vulnerability.

Whether you’re debating your first solo apartment, dreading your roommate’s loud chewing, or considering moving in with your partner, this episode gives you the tools (and the warning signs) to set yourself up for success.

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We’re talking attachment styles — the blueprint for how you love, fight, chase, or push people away. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, why you freak out when someone pulls back, or why “secure” feels boring compared to chaos — this episode is for you.

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It’s part psych lesson, part roast of my own past dating choices, and part pep talk to stop choosing the bad boy just because he makes your nervous system light up. Secure isn’t boring. Secure is freedom.

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Running on three hours of sleep, possible vertigo, and zero filter — this episode goes straight down the rabbit hole of making the first move. Why is it so terrifying to walk up to someone you’re interested in? From caveman survival instincts to modern-day gender norms, Emma breaks down the psychology behind fear of rejection, overthinking, and why we all get stuck in the “what if” loop.

But here’s the twist — sometimes shooting your shot can lead to the wildest rewards. Case in point: the infamous Zac Efron story you’ve all been begging Emma to retell. Yes, it involves spilled drinks, secret hallways, a Gabriella Montez dance performance, and a weekend that changed everything.

We’re talking confidence, reciprocity, proximity, and why the regret of not trying will always sting worse than a no. Whether you’re a guy paralyzed by the fear of being “creepy”, a girl told making the first move makes you “too much,” or just someone sick of waiting to be approached — this is your pep talk to stop sitting on the sidelines of your own life.

It's time to apply Emma's tips to get what you've always wanted. Worse case scenario, you hear a "no." Best case scenario? You walk away with your own Zac Efron story.

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This week on Too Much, Emma sits down for a roller coaster conversation with Lucie Fink — the OG content creator who went from student vlogging at Johns Hopkins in 2010, to being one of Refinery29’s first video stars, to running her own media brand while raising two kids. She’s a video producer, host of The Real Stuff podcast, and a TEDx speaker.

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Losing friends, making new ones and boyfriends who make you question your worth — today’s episode is a masterclass in calling it like it is. Emma is going down the rabbit hole dug by the stories and questions YOU submitted, from a 20-year friendship imploding over a bridesmaid invite and a boyfriend who weaponized your personality against you, to the friend who always makes you feel like the “backup plan.” We’re talking emotional maturity (or lack thereof), knowing if he's the one, spotting narcissistic tactics and how to walk away — whether it’s from a toxic friend, an insecure partner, or a situationship that’s going nowhere. This one’s equal parts tough love, big sister pep talk, and a reminder that protecting your peace is never the wrong move.

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By popular demand, Hyper-Independence Part 2 is here. In this follow-up to one of our most downloaded episodes, Emma is going even deeper down the rabbit hole into what it really means to be hyper-independent — not just the self-help jargon, but the real-life impact it has on relationships, intimacy, and the ability to let love in.

She breaks down the difference between healthy independence and emotional isolation, the invisible alarm bells that go off when someone tries to take care of you, and the subconscious belief that needing anyone equals weakness. Emma also explores the stages of a relationship and how hyper-independence disrupts them, how it overlaps with (but isn’t the same as) avoidant attachment, and why being “low maintenance” is often just a wall dressed up as a compliment.

If you’re someone who always says “I’m fine” when you’re not, would rather break your back than ask for help, or is dating someone like that and wondering why they feel emotionally shut out — this episode is your survival guide. Consider this your how-to on letting people in (or lovingly being there for someone who won’t).

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