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Have you ever snapped over something small — especially with someone you love — and then felt terrible about it afterwards? You're not a bad person. But there is a reason for that anger.

In today’s episode, we’re going to uncover the real reason why you keep exploding over the tiniest things — especially in your closest relationships. And here’s the truth: it’s almost never about the other person or what triggered you in the moment.

Sounds confusing? We’ll break down what’s really going on inside you — and what it actually takes to stop these reactions for good.

Not by suppressing your emotions or forcing yourself to 'stay calm'... but by understanding and healing the root cause.⁠

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00:59 Anger In Close Relationships

03:21 The Real Reason For Your Anger

05:34 Identifying Your Triggers

09:07 How To Break The Cycle

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Do you feel like something’s always a little off —

like your emotions hit too hard, or not at all…

and no one sees the battle you're fighting inside?

That might not be anxiety. Or burnout.

It could be Complex PTSD —

the result of prolonged emotional trauma that never had space to heal.

In this video, I’ll walk you through every core CPTSD symptom from the most common to the least known — clearly, quickly, and in real human language. But trust me, the last one is sometimes even missed by professionals!

► Links and Resources:

Hypervigilance Episode:

https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=Hyy6p_4o1cLYmrx-

How I Overcame Avoidant Attachment Episode:

Dissociation Episode:

https://youtu.be/UZsTUS_jlYg?si=kE0UyssKllrskiCH

Disorganized Attachment Style:

https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8?si=NJM8ebzQmpYZfU0t

Somatic Symptoms:

https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=YXJUFNCV3YpiCurF

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00:53 CPTSD Simply Explained

01:54 Symptom 1: Big Emotional Swings

02:19 Symptom 2: Always On Edge

03:09 Symptom 3: Overreacting To “Small” Things

04:53 Symptom 4: Trouble Sleeping

05:26 Symptom 5: Reliving and Experiencing The Past

06:02 Symptom 6: Avoiding Anything That Feels Unsafe

06:46 Symptom 7: Zoning Out Or Numbing

07:43 Symptom 8: Push-Pull Relationships

08:36 Symptom 9: Toxic And Abusive Relationship Drama

09:28 Symptom 10: Body Pain, But No Doctor Knows Why

10:22 Symptom 11: Harsh Inner Critic

11:15 Symptom 12: Substance Abuse

12:00 Symptom 13: Bullying

12:56 Symptom 14: Space Out Or Losing Focus

13:34 Symptom 15: Missing Memories And Forgetfulness

14:35 Solutions

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In the past 10 years, I sabotaged five long-term relationships.

At first I thought it was my intuition - my gut feeling - telling me I hadn’t met the right person yet.

But through therapy, I discovered something deeper:

It wasn’t my partners. It was me.

Specifically, my avoidant attachment style… and a deep, hidden fear of commitment I didn’t even know I had.

In this video, I’m sharing the full story of how I went from running away from intimacy… to finally being able to stay—emotionally, mentally, and physically—in a real, loving relationship.

You’ll learn why closeness can feel terrifying when you’re avoidantly attached, how we self-sabotage without knowing it, and most importantly:

The breakthrough that finally helped me stop fearing love.

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Physical Pain Symptoms Episode: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=FZvH__BWNZtkemOV

Anxious Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=dZ46bDFhdfgWBCQx

Ego Defense Mechanisms:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK559106/

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01:06 Signs You’re Having Fear Of Commitment/Avoidant Attachment

05:10 What Is Fear Of Commitment/Avoidant Attachment?

07:16 Ego Defenses And Protection Mechanisms

12:05 Deep Beliefs & Identity Illusion

14:50 Wrong Partner Or Avoidant Attachment?

16:25 Overcoming Avoidant Attachment & Stopping Commitment Fears

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I’ve been digging into these topics for years now:

Trauma, specifically Complex PTSD,

Neurodivergence, aka Autism and ADHD

and also Depression, the number one mental health struggle of our sick society.

And here’s what hit me:

Even though these conditions seem totally different…

they all have one surprising thing in common.

There’s a hidden overlap — and most people, including professionals, miss it.

But here’s the twist that is interesting for YOU and me:

That overlap doesn’t just explain why so many of us are misdiagnosed…

…it also reveals a whole new way to actually manage and heal what you’re going through.

And I’ll show you exactly how at the end of this episode, after we dived into each of these three.

► Links and Resources:

Avoidance Episode:

https://youtu.be/PP9dvNWZ8p4?si=eNtPPfjQnaMJcNdw

Hyposensitivity Episode:

https://youtu.be/A6USY9ECbkM?si=N2iJqqzuf8QGtKVt

Borderline vs Bipolar Episode:

https://youtu.be/KuYopjLnGLs

Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx

Depression Paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15953797/

Nature vs Nurture in PTSD: https://news.yale.edu/2020/10/01/nurture-trumps-nature-determining-severity-ptsd-symptoms

Nature vs Nurture in Autism/ADHD: https://www.sequoiabehavioralhealth.org/blogs/nature-vs-nurture

History of Depression:

https://www.verywellmind.com/who-discovered-depression-1066770

ADHD & Depression:

https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Attention_deficit_hyperactivity_disorder

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01:01 Overview: Trauma, Autism/ADHD, Depression

02:35 Trauma

08:40 Neurodivergence

14:03 Depression

18:22 The Overlap

22:11 Managing And Healing

24:46 Solutions Storytelling

29:11 Final Thoughts

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“I got misdiagnosed with borderline, when I actually had bipolar disorder”

“I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder years ago, but this was a misdiagnosis.”

“I was misdiagnosed with bipolar depression, when I had BPD”.

These stories are more common than you’d think.

Borderline Personality Disorder and Bipolar Disorder overlap so much - that even professionals get confused - even tho we can see real differences in the brain between them.

But how can you actually tell the difference?

And more importantly — what do they feel like from the inside for those who are affected?

Today, we’re going to break this down in the simplest way possible.

► Links and Resources:

ADHD Video with Hyperfocus: https://youtu.be/HOCbK52R9eg

Borderline criteria article: https://www.verywellmind.com/borderline-personality-disorder-diagnosis-425174

Bipolar criteria:

https://www.mdcalc.com/calc/10196/dsm-5-criteria-bipolar-disorder

Brain differences:

https://www.mdpi.com/2079-9721/7/3/49

Gunderson Video: https://youtu.be/h15OnmUqFj8?si=-Et1m3vVaJsON4eR

BPD Parent Video:

https://youtu.be/WoO4VMWjIuo?si=7Fa0uO1BJP0z3qg9

BPD in Women Podcast:

https://youtu.be/KHgt7qiiPkw?si=CfmbONJTveFP9-yz

Bipolar Docu:

https://youtu.be/HOCbK52R9eg

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01:23 Borderline vs. Bipolar - What’s The Difference?

04:00 Borderline (BPD): What It Feels Like

06:24 Experience 1: Unstable Relationships

07:05 Experience 2: Identity Struggles

07:37 Experience 3: Emotional Volatility

08:28 Experience 4: Impulsivity

09:10 Experience 5: Self-Harm/Suicidal Ideation

10:14 Bipolar Disorder: What It Feels Like

13:17 Experience 1: Mood Episodes

13:46 Experience 2: Depression

14:36 Experience 3: Mania or Hypermania

17:18 BPD vs. BD: The Overlap

22:42 BPD/BP vs. Other Conditions

24:33 Why This All Matters

25:22 Final Thoughts

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I’ve worked with four therapists over the years for my own CPTSD.

I’ve read the books, done the work, and researched dozens of methods to heal from complex trauma.

But here’s the hard truth I had to face:

Most CPTSD treatments don’t actually work.

At least, not for the kind of deep, long-term wounds many of us carry.

But… some approaches to me at least did improve my symptoms drastically.

And in this video, I’ll share which therapies were a waste of time… and which ones actually helped me to successfully work through my childhood trauma and finally let me again embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence.

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CPTSD & Substance Abuse: https://www.verywellmind.com/connection-trauma-and-substance-abuse-7269368

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01:30 Medication

03:16 Cognitive Behaviral Therapy (CBT)

04:42 Talk Therapy & Couples Counselling

06:20 Which Therapies Do Work and Why?

07:55 Re-Regulations Tools & Resources

10:00 Building True Inner Safety

12: 33 Outro

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Last week, my therapist messaged me that she finally had capacity again.

I responded kindly… but told her I don’t need sessions right now.

But the truth is: after 4 years of real therapy… I’ve started using ChatGPT instead.

Yes — you’ve heard that right. I replaced my therapist with an AI. And no, this isn’t clickbait.

Therefore today I will share with you why I turned to ChatGPT, what it did to my mental health

But also the deeper concerns we all need to talk about when using AI for healing.

But let me tell you this up front: the results were shocking.

► Links and Resources:

Therapy for Highly Sensitive People: https://youtu.be/7sh2uHxWbKk?si=Mwy6NLDEByVC1aTf

Avoidant Attachment Style Video: https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18?si=hu5uNNmhLzLfjv5S

LLMs:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Large_language_model

AGI: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Artificial_general_intelligence

Wired ChatGPT Article: https://www.wired.com/story/chatgpt-poem-forever-security-roundup/

TheGuardian Article: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/mar/02/can-ai-chatbot-therapists-do-better-than-the-real-thing?utm_source=chatgpt.com

Albertatech Concerns: https://youtube.com/shorts/ARIt2684fiM?si=mXUaWXOe4cddqUps

Sebastian Teller Experience:

https://youtu.be/h2DJVwlr9S8?si=tyE3alV1WN4zntdu

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00:57 The Problem With Classical Therapy

03:37 Chat GPT For “Therapy” Experiment

06:53 Therapy VS. ChatGPT 

12:08 Ethical & Personal Concerns

17:05 Reasons To Work With An AI-Self Help Assistant?

19:24 Will AI Replace Therapy?

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ASMR. Millions and millions and millions of views. Whis pering. Ripping. Stirring a bowl of ramen.

It’s so mainstream now, even car commercials and vogue cover models are doing it.

But seriously… why are we so obsessed with this stuff that is weirdly comforting for one person yet so discomforting for others?

What’s actually going on in your brain when you feel that tingle?

And what do ASMR, Bob Ross, trauma therapy, and yes, even porn all have in common?

► Links and Resources:

EMDR Video:

https://youtu.be/x8f0535zyK4

Bob Ross:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bob_Ross

ASMR in Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sleepless-in-america/201809/what-is-asmr-and-why-are-people-watching-these-videos

Slate Bull and Car Commercial: 📌 Quelle des verwendeten Werbeclips:

Lincoln Motor Company (2014). *McConaughey and the MKC: “Bull” Official Commercial*. Verfügbar unter: https://slate.com/culture/2014/09/matthew-mcconaughey-lincoln-car-ad-directed-by-nicolas-winding-refn-makes-rust-cohle-joke-video.html

ASMR Statistics: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/202311/the-psychology-of-asmr

Nara Smith: https://www.instagram.com/naraaziza/reel/DJ__wjNxagX/?hl=de

ASMR Experience paper: https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0196645

AMSR origin: https://asmruniversity.com/2014/08/03/scientist-view-term-autonomous-sensory-meridian-response/#more-716

Bob Ross Video:

https://youtu.be/mT0RNrTDHkI?si=2xVnYiJ_t0pe_1w0

Ear Massage:

https://youtu.be/YDeMme7yVJI?si=090OMhL60n7OY12D

Misophonia:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Misophonia

AMSR Fluffy:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gs-iqvX6pOA&ab_channel=GentleWhisperingASMR

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00:55 What Even Is ASMR?

03:23 The Woman Behind ASMR

05:08 ASMR And Bob Ross

05:45 Why ASMR Feels So Good

09:06 ASMR Triggers

10:18 The Weird Sexual Tension

11:51 But, What If You Hate ASMR?

13:02 Why Everyone Is Obsessed With ASMR

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If you haven’t been living under a rock lately…

you’ve probably seen this everywhere: EMDR therapy.

Prince Harry is using EMDR to cope with his past. Miley Cyrus credits it for her healing. Even Sandra Bullock has opened up about her experience with it.

EMDR is rapidly gaining mainstream attention — but is it truly a miracle, or just another overhyped trend?

As someone who’s worked with multiple therapists on childhood trauma, I’ve spent years searching for effective healing methods. So when I first heard about EMDR, I had to try it.

Some moments felt genuinely transformative. But others left me questioning everything.

In this video, we’ll explore the full truth about EMDR: its origins, the science, the controversy — and yes, the personal stories, including my own.

And what you maybe don't expect: The dark and surprising story of its founder… which almost no one talks about.

So — is EMDR the breakthrough it claims to be? Or is there something deeper beneath the surface?

► Links and Resources:

15 Trauma Treatments:

https://youtu.be/UaslCkvMpws?si=u0lqaj2rAqQz0KdE

PVT-Episode:

https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0?si=-D1bPftsdgTjY0Xq Prince Harry EMDR:

https://www.emdria.org/blog/prince-harry-speaks-out-about-his-experience-with-emdr-therapy/

Miley Cyrus EMDR:

https://meaww.com/miley-cyrus-reveals-eye-movement-therapy-really-helped-her-heal

Sandra Bullock EMDR: https://www.accessonline.com/articles/sandra-bullock-reveals-she-uses-emdr-therapy-i-was-so-scared-to-do-it-exclusive

EMDR Video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hKrfH43srg8

Francine Shapiro: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/07/11/science/francine-shapiro-dead.html

and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Francine_Shapiro

Pseudoscience Paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11098395/

Dr. Roger McFillin Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6ysuiHyy7TGOnFZlOWeU9l?si=i6ieKqDwRP6zk8ihj5bCoQ

NLP article:

https://efektasgroup.com/why-nlp-is-criticised/

Self-Administered EMDR Video: https://youtu.be/DALbwI7m1vM?si=syoWZLAM_s2HXTp7

Neuro Transmission Video EMDR: https://youtu.be/PZmvk30gJEQ?si=UdY65__84e57bjOM

Vagus Nerve:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vagus_nerve

EMDR Fingers:

https://riverpointbehavioral.com/blog/emdr-what-it-is-how-it-works-and-its-phases/

EMDR WHO:

https://www.who.int/news/item/06-08-2013-who-releases-guidance-on-mental-health-care-after-trauma

EMDR APA:

https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/treatments/eye-movement-reprocessing

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04:37 The Controversy About EMDR

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Damn, I love these reddit posts!

That’s actually a pretty lighthearted way to start such a heavy topic.

But here’s what those funny posts don’t show you — the dark side of limerence.

Because this isn’t just a quirky crush or intense attraction.

No, Limerence is actually a form of love addiction.

And it can cause real emotional pain, self-abandonment, and obsession.

So today, we’re breaking it down. I created a roadmap for that. We’ll start with the most subtle sign No 1…

and end with the biggest — but also the most invisible No 10.

And most importantly — throughout the signs, you’ll also see how to recognize limerence, understand it, and begin to finally let it go.

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Limerence & Self-Regulation Episode: https://youtu.be/ozIbtcDmNVA?si=vTLRifpT75jQXmvg

Hypervigilance Episode:

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Anxious Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=HJYM3_IGuWfsAFtc

Maladaptive Daydreaming Article: https://www.adhdcentre.co.uk/adhd-maladaptive-daydreaming-common-signs-of-adhd/

Limerent Object Article: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence⁠

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01:28 Limerence

04:56 True Love

07:33 Sign 1: You Feel High When They Text… And Crash When They Don’t.

08:52 Sign 2: You Fantasize More Than You Interact.

10:06 Sign 3: You Ignore Red Flags Because The Fantasy Feels Too Good.

11:29 Sign 4: You Overanalyze Everything They Say/Do.

12:49 Sign 5: You Base Your Worth On Their Interest Or Attention.

14:27 Sign 6: You Feel Urgent Fear Of Losing Them - Even If You Barely Know Them.

15:51 Sign 7: You Confuse Longing With Love.

17:32 Sign 8: You Hold Onto Breadcrumbs, Not Mutual Care.

19:04 Sign 9: You Don’t Feel Safe - Just Addicted.

20:29 Sign 10: You Lose Yourself In The Idea Of “Them”.

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents a therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.