I’m off to NYC to podcast, so we’re revisiting one of my favorite episodes with the beautiful Lindsey Simcik of the Almost 30 Podcast. We’re talking about trusting the timing of your life, letting go of societal timelines, and falling back in love with your life—even if it looks different from what you once imagined. As always, take whatever you need from this conversation and leave the rest. LOVE YOU.

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Turns out we can’t rush healing…but we can understand it.

Consider this episode your comprehensive breakup guide—Sabrina Bendory, author and relationship coach, is back on Unwineding and is breaking down the psychology of heartbreak so we can learn how to ACTUALLY heal and move on. Sabrina is helping us make sense of why heartbreak hurts so much and giving us tangible steps to heal without hardening.

We talk about why breakups can feel like withdrawal, why you miss someone even when you know they’re not right for you, and why short-term relationships (or situationships) can sometimes hurt even more than long-term ones. Sabrina shares practical tools to help you move on, rebuild self-trust, and stop tying your worth to someone else’s inability to choose you.

Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or still holding onto something that ended a while ago, I promise this episode will help you feel less alone and more grounded in your healing process.

We also chat:
• the right (& wrong) way to get through a breakup
• the psychology behind heartbreak and emotional pain
• why heartbreak feels like physical pain
• no contact: why it works and how to stick to it
• why you still miss your ex (even when they weren’t right for you)
• situationships and why they can be harder to get over
• rebuilding self-worth and self-trust after a breakup
• letting go of the “why wasn’t I enough?” narrative
• healing without becoming closed off or guarded
• how to stop romanticizing the beginning of a relationship

If you’re in the middle of heartbreak right now, I hope this episode feels like a conversation with a friend who gets it—and reminds you that you will be okay. I PROMISE.

As always, take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU.

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Female friendship can shape how we see ourselves, how supported we feel, and how we move through hard seasons of life. In this episode, I’m joined by Elyse Fox, founder of Sad Girls Club, to talk about the role friendship plays in our mental health, identity, and sense of belonging. 

We talk about why female friendship can feel so meaningful—but also why it can feel complicated as we grow, change, and redefine what success looks like for ourselves. Elyse shares the inspiration behind Sad Girls Club, how creating community helped her feel less alone, and why having the right support system can make such a difference when life feels overwhelming.

We also discuss the pressure to “have it all,” how our definition of success evolves over time, and why being sensitive, ambitious, and still figuring things out can all exist at the same time.

I truly didn’t want this conversation to end—Elyse feels like the best friend and safe space we all want and need (once you listen, you’ll see what I mean). I hope our conversation reminds you that you don’t have to do life alone, and that the right friendships can help you feel more grounded, understood, and supported (and that struggling with your mental health doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human). 

You’ll hear us chat about:

And so much more. As always, take whatever resonates and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x

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Remember: you can't be late to your own life. If things feel uncertain, overwhelming, or not how you imagined they would be right now, this episode is for you. It's just us this week and we’re talking about navigating difficult seasons, learning how to sit with the unknown, and finding steadiness when life doesn’t go according to plan. As always, I hope there was something you needed today. Take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x

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The million-dollar question is: why do we love the way we do? I’m no expert, but today’s guest is.

In this episode, I’m joined by clinical psychologist and attachment theory expert Dr. Morgan Anderson to talk about how anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, and disorganized attachment shape the way we connect, communicate, and choose partners.

We talk about why you may feel drawn to emotionally unavailable people, why healthy relationships can sometimes feel uncomfortable, and how past experiences can influence your dating patterns more than you realize.

We also discuss how to move toward secure attachment, how to stop repeating unhealthy relationship dynamics, and how to create more emotionally available, stable, and fulfilling relationships.

We also talk about:

• the difference between anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles
• why you might feel anxious in dating even when someone is treating you well
• why emotionally unavailable partners can feel familiar
• how attachment styles develop through relationships and life experiences
• how to recognize unhealthy dating patterns
• how to stop self-sabotaging relationships
• why secure love can feel unfamiliar at first
• the role of the nervous system in relationships
• why you don’t need to be “fully healed” before dating
• how to build secure attachment over time
• how to communicate your needs in relationships
• how to stop overanalyzing early dating situations
• how attachment theory can help you understand your relationship choices

& so much more. As always, take whatever you need from our conversation and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x

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File this episode under: the dating advice we probably need but don’t always want to hear.

Alyssa Pettinato, host of the Missjudged Podcast, is on Unwineding today and we’re getting into the chaos that is modern dating: from being the “chill girl,” to unrealistic expectations, to whether we’re actually making dating harder than it needs to be.

We talk about why dating feels so confusing right now, why so many women feel burnt out by modern dating culture, and how to balance having high standards without unintentionally limiting yourself.

We also get into how to screen men early, what “dating intentionally” actually means (and why Alyssa is OVER this statement), and how to stop overcomplicating relationships before they even begin. Oh, and how we love a short king.

We also talk:

• why modern dating feels so complicated right now
• the problem with trying to be the “chill girl”
• dating standards vs unrealistic expectations
• how to screen men early in dating
• what “dating intentionally” actually means
• how to know what you want in a partner
• why dating apps can feel draining
• how to have more fun dating again
• mindset shifts for healthier relationships
• navigating avoidant partners and emotional availability
• why dating should feel exciting, not exhausting
• how to stay optimistic about love and relationships

& more.

As always, take whatever you need from our conversation and leave the rest.

LOVE YOU. x

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He’s not your soulmate if you have to lower your standards, I promise.

It’s just us this week—and we’re unpacking the subtle but powerful difference between being kept around and being chosen— and why the two can feel almost identical in the beginning (which is incredibly mind-f*cking, pardon my French).

We talk about why consistency alone isn’t enough, how situationships create emotional attachment without real security, and why feeling confused in dating is often the biggest sign that something isn’t fully aligned.

Because the truth is: someone can enjoy you, care about you, and still not have the capacity to choose you (which is insane). And when that happens, the most important question becomes…why are we accepting dynamics that make us question ourselves?

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering where you stand, overanalyzing mixed signals, or feeling like something is almost right but not quite… this episode is for you.

We’re also exploring:
• the emotional difference between attention and commitment
• why clarity is one of the biggest green flags in dating
• the role of capacity in relationships
• why confusion is not a normal stage of a healthy relationship
• how to stop overriding your intuition
• why being “almost chosen” can feel so painful
• choosing self-respect over uncertainty

You deserve clarity. You deserve effort. You deserve someone who is certain about you. And you deserve someone who would never risk losing you. OKAYYYYY?!

As per ujje, take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x

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We talk so much about intention and communication in romantic relationships, but our friendships deserve the same amount of effort.

My beautiful girl (and Unwineding Podcast regular), Angie Lassman, is back and we’re doing what we do best: talking about female friendships.

We’re exploring how the love languages show up in friendship (vs. romantic relationships) and why understanding how your friends feel loved can completely change the way you show up for each other. We also talk about the importance of communication, navigating misunderstandings, and why friendships deserve the same level of care and intention we often reserve for romantic relationships.

And we’re circling back on a challenge we gave each other last summer—on being less avoidant (lol). Angie worked on her avoidance with friends (and killed it), and I worked on my avoidance with men (and didn’t exactly kill it). But we live and we learn.

We also chat about:

• love languages in friendship and how they show up differently than in romantic relationships
• why understanding your friends’ love languages can strengthen your friendship
• how to communicate better in friendships
• asking for what you need from your friends
• why healthy friendships require effort, intention, and communication
• navigating misunderstandings and conflict in friendship
• how we’re working on our people-pleasing tendencies
• why many of us struggle to voice our needs in relationships
• how small acts of care can make friends feel loved and supported
• the importance of nurturing female friendships
• why strong friendships are built (they don’t just exist)

As always, I hope there’s something in this conversation you needed today—take whatever resonates and leave the rest. See you next week. x

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Why do we glamorize not caring? Why are we so embarrassed to be seen trying?

In the second installment of our DEBRIEF series, we’re exploring the cultural obsession with being effortless and why pretending you don’t care about something might actually be holding you back.

From dating advice and relationships to careers, confidence, and personal growth, we’re constantly told to play it cool: don’t try too hard, don’t text first, don’t show how much you care. But the truth is that the most meaningful things in life—deep friendships, healthy relationships, successful careers, and personal development—are built through effort, intention, and perseverance (not magic. and most DEF not by pretending you don’t care).

If you’ve ever wondered whether struggle means something isn’t meant for you, or felt embarrassed for wanting something badly, this conversation will shift how you think about effort, discipline, and success.

We’re debriefing:

• why society glamorizes effortlessness and natural talent
• the pressure to appear unbothered in dating and relationships
• why trying hard isn’t embarrassing (and why we think it is)
• the difference between forcing something vs. putting in effort
• why hard doesn’t mean something isn’t meant for you
• the psychology of grit, perseverance, and skill development
• how discipline and consistency shape success more than talent
• the fear of visible effort and public failure (especially on social media)
• why the most meaningful things in life require intentional effort
• a closing journaling prompt for self-reflection and personal growth

As always, take whatever resonates & leave the rest. And please remember: nothing meaningful is built by pretending you don’t care.

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No one teaches you how to lose a parent. And no one teaches you what to say to someone who has.
In this episode of Unwineding, Destinee and I talk about what it actually means to navigate grief—especially after losing a parent. We open up about losing our dads, the identity shift that comes with that kind of loss, and the strange, quiet ways grief shows up long after everyone else thinks you’re “okay.”
Because sometimes grief is so loud.
But sometimes it’s subtle.
Sometimes it hits you months later on a random Wednesday.

And then there’s the other side of it:
What do you do when someone you love is grieving?
How do you support someone coping with loss when you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing?
How do you show up when you can’t fix it?

In this conversation, we talk:
• what navigating grief really looks like after losing a parent
• how coping with loss can reshape your identity
• why grief doesn’t follow a timeline
• the unexpected emotional waves of grieving
• what actually helps when you’re grieving—and what doesn’t
• how to support someone who is grieving
• what to say to someone grieving (and what to avoid)
• how to be there for someone navigating loss without trying to solve it
• why grief doesn’t end—it evolves

This episode is for anyone who is grieving a parent, coping with loss, or trying to figure out how to support someone who is grieving.
Because grief is universal (unfortunately) we will all experience loss, but the way we carry it is deeply personal. So if you’re navigating grief right now, I hope this makes you feel seen and understood (we truly feel you).
If you love someone who is grieving, I hope this gives you clarity and confidence in how to show up for them (because we need you).
And remember, sometimes support isn’t about having perfect words.
It’s just about staying.

Welcome to a conversation about love, loss, and the kind of grief that changes you forever.

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