Unwineding

A conversation for my fellow anxious, perfectionist overthinkers who are really good at holding it all together but have a much harder time slowing down. I'm Unwineding with Therapist Debbie Missud & unpacking the psychology behind high-functioning anxiety, perfectionism, burnout, and unresolved trauma.

We're talking about why we tie our self-worth to productivity, why rest can feel so uncomfortable, the hidden ways trauma can show up in our minds, bodies, and relationships, what functional freeze actually looks like, and how to recognize when your nervous system is overwhelmed.

We also get into our need for control, the changing dynamics of female friendships, why being sensitive isn't something you need to fix, and how to start breaking the patterns that keep us stuck. My favorite reminder from this episode, though? Your worth was never something you had to earn. As always, take whatever you need from our conversation and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x

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Why do we keep repeating patterns we know aren't good for us, even when we're self-aware enough to recognize them?

This week, I'm Unwineding (again) with the incredible Sabrina Zohar to talk about love, dating, self-sabotage, attachment styles, and why understanding yourself is only the beginning of actually changing.

We get into overthinking, hyper-independence, emotionally unavailable partners, why almost-relationships hurt so much, how to navigate conflict, and what it really takes to build healthier relationships—with ourselves and others.

We're also celebrating Sabrina's new book, Why Am I Like This? A conversation every woman needs to hear. As always, take whatever you need and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x

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Just us today for a life update, a big milestone, and a few of the lessons I've learned along the way. Unwineding has a new home (hi Podcast Nation!!!), and it inspired today's conversation on the power of consistency, trusting the process when you're not seeing results, getting comfortable with being seen, and letting go of the timelines we place on ourselves. As always, take whatever you need and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x

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What happens when your own brain becomes the thing you’re constantly trying to reason with?

This week, I’m Unwineding with therapist and OCD advocate Tara Montazeri for a conversation about what OCD actually looks and feels like—especially when the struggle is happening entirely inside your head.

We talk about the cycle of intrusive thoughts, anxiety, compulsions, and temporary relief; why reassurance can actually keep us stuck; the overlap between OCD, ADHD, perfectionism, and overthinking; and what happens when the traits causing you distress are the same ones the world has rewarded you for.

Tara also explains why OCD is so obsessed with certainty, how it can show up in dating and friendships, why our thoughts aren't always trustworthy, and how learning to tolerate uncertainty can ultimately become an exercise in trusting yourself.

Plus, we get into mental compulsions, relationship OCD, the problem with diagnosing ourselves on TikTok, how to support someone with OCD without accidentally reinforcing the cycle, and why someone can look completely put together while privately fighting a battle you know nothing about.

And, as always: this episode is meant to increase awareness and curiosity—not to diagnose yourself, your boyfriend, your situationship, or anyone else in your life, okay???! Take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x

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What happens when you've become so good at taking care of yourself that letting someone else love you feels uncomfortable?

This week, I'm Unwineding with psychologist Dr. Suzanne Wallach for a conversation about the psychology of connection: how we build meaningful female friendships as adults, why modern dating feels increasingly complicated, and how to stop letting hyper-independence get in the way of the relationships we actually want.

We get into adult friendship breakups, making friends in your late 20s and 30s, dating app fatigue, attachment styles, and why ambitious, independent women can struggle with vulnerability and receiving love. Dr. Wolek also breaks down how childhood experiences and parentification can shape our relationships, why self-awareness alone isn't enough to change our patterns, and how behavioral therapy can help us learn to let people in.

Because being capable of doing everything yourself doesn't mean you have to. And you can build a beautiful, independent life while still allowing yourself to be loved, supported, and cared for. As always, take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x

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What happens when you've built a life you love, but letting someone else into it feels like the scariest part?

This week, I'm Unwineding with psychologist Dr. Susanne Wallach for a conversation about the psychology of connection: how we build meaningful female friendships as adults, why modern dating feels increasingly complicated, and how to stop letting hyper-independence get in the way of the relationships we actually want.

A conversation for anyone who's really good at giving love, but still learning how to receive it. Because you can build a beautiful, independent life and still allow yourself to be loved, supported, and cared for. As always, take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x

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Female friendship is one of the great loves of our lives—and sometimes one of the most complicated.

This week, we're revisiting one of my favorite conversations with Elyse Fox, founder of Sad Girls Club, about making friends as an adult, finding your people, outgrowing friendships that no longer fit, and becoming the kind of friend you want to have.

We talk friendship breakups, reciprocity, making the first move with a potential new friend, supporting the people you love through hard seasons, and why some of the best friendships might not come in the packaging you expected.

As always, take whatever you need from this episode & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x

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I heard you!!! You wanted part two of the law of detachment, and I’m here to deliver. Because understanding detachment in theory is one thing—actually practicing it when you really, really want something is a whole different story. It's just us this week & we’re talking about why overthinking is sometimes just our very convincing attempt to escape uncertainty, what happens when we make an outcome responsible for validating us, and how to want the relationship, career, opportunity, timeline (whatever it is!!) without gripping it for dear life. Plus, the five questions I ask myself when I can feel myself getting a little too attached. I (lowkey) love this episode & hope you do, too. All I want is for you to learn how to trust yourself through anything & everything, that's it. LOVE YOU. x

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Class is in session, ladies—we're Niko Emanuilidis, host of The Daddy Academy, is here with your complete guide to dating in 2026.

We’re revisiting one of my favorite conversations this week & we're getting into what actually makes a man want to commit, why dating feels so confusing right now, and how to actually attract the relationship you’ve always wanted. Niko shares what men are truly thinking in the early stages of dating, how to get approached more IRL, and the biggest mistakes women are making. We explore why you attract who you are—and why you might be attracting emotionally unavailable partners (and how to stop).

Ultimately, this is your guide to shifting your patterns, dating from a place of true confidence, and raising your standards to attract a healthy, beautiful relationship.

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Whether you’re dating, single, healing, or in a situationship you’re lowkey tired of explaining, this episode will help you understand dating dynamics and feel more empowered in your choices.

As always, take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x

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What if the problem isn’t that you don’t know what you want, but that there’s a gap between what you want and what you repeatedly do?

With four months left of the year, consider this our official check-in. Our September reset guide. Not to panic about everything you haven’t accomplished or attempt to reinvent yourself by January 1st, but to get honest about what still matters to you, what doesn’t anymore, and how you actually want to spend the rest of your year.

We’re talking about the psychology behind fresh starts, why changing your mind about a goal isn’t the same as giving up, and the difference between relying on motivation and building systems that actually help you follow through (I'm obsessed with systems rn). I’m sharing tangible ways to reassess your goals, turn intentions into repeatable behaviors, use implementation intentions to make action easier, and finally close some of the open loops quietly taking up space in your brain.

And because I refuse to let ambition become another reason we postpone our actual lives, we’re also talking about how to make meaningful progress without spending the next four months waiting to finally “arrive.”

Four months is actually a long time. Let’s be intentional about what we do with them. As always, take whatever you need from this episode & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x

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