By Torie Wiksell
Psychotherapist and Coach, Torie Wiksell, is no stranger to talking about challenging and dysfunctional family dynamics. In addition to specializing in working with the adult children of parents wi
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The podcast currently has 12 episodes available.
Today I share my journey from being a skeptic of the coaching industry to launching my own coaching business, Confident Boundaries, earlier this year. You'll hear about my initial frustrations with the unregulated nature of coaching, especially during the COVID-19 boom, and how I came to recognize a pressing need for accessible support for adults who are trying to navigate their relationship with a parent who has borderline and/or narcissistic personality disorder.
Tune in as I breakdown the roles of therapy and coaching, particularly for those struggling with challenging parental relationships. Learn how both can be beneficial depending on your individual needs and goals.
Take Torie's Online Course, The Boundaries Roadmap (Use Code PODCAST10 to get 10% off the course when you pay-in-full!): https://www.confidentboundaries.com/the-boundaries-roadmap
Support the Podcast: https://www.confidentboundaries.com/support-the-podcast
Work with Torie:
Coaching: www.confidentboundaries.com
Therapy: www.toriewikselltherapy.com
Follow Torie on:
Instagram: instagram.com/toriewiksell
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@torie.wiksell
Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.
This week, I tell you why I absolutely refuse to help you suppress your emotional reactions to your parent's toxic behaviors. Listen to hear me out and why I instead recommend focusing on setting boundaries with your parent who has borderline and/or narcissistic personality disorder.
Also, I share why this episode is a little late! As always- thanks so much for your patience and continued support!
Take Torie's Online Course, The Boundaries Roadmap (Use Code PODCAST10 to get 10% off the course when you pay-in-full!): https://www.confidentboundaries.com/the-boundaries-roadmap
Support the Podcast: https://www.confidentboundaries.com/support-the-podcast
Work with Torie:
Coaching: www.confidentboundaries.com
Therapy: www.toriewikselltherapy.com
Follow Torie on:
Instagram: instagram.com/toriewiksell
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@torie.wiksell
Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.
So sorry this episode was up a little late- thanks for bearing with me!
Can you really accept a painful reality without liking it? In this episode of "You're Not Crazy" I share why radical acceptance, a crucial skill for adult children dealing with parents who have borderline and narcissistic personality disorders, can help you do just that.
Understanding radical acceptance will equip you to better manage the emotional turbulence and false hope that often contribute to the stress of these relationships. Tune in to learn more about why I think radical acceptance is one of the most important tools you need in your life!
Take Torie's Online Course, The Boundaries Roadmap (Use Code PODCAST10 to get 10% off the course when you pay-in-full!): https://www.confidentboundaries.com/the-boundaries-roadmap
Support the Podcast: https://www.confidentboundaries.com/support-the-podcast
Work with Torie:
Coaching: www.confidentboundaries.com
Therapy: www.toriewikselltherapy.com
Follow Torie on:
Instagram: instagram.com/toriewiksell
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@torie.wiksell
Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.
This week on You're Not Crazy, I chat about why I loathe the Tony Robbins of the world and why you need to be careful about being the target of charismatic people who want to exploit you. Growing up with parents affected by borderline or narcissistic personality disorders can distort our sense of self and intuition, making us prime targets for re-traumatization by these so-called empowerment experts. We'll explore the deep-seated impact of a dysfunctional upbringing and how it leaves us susceptible to being pulled into manipulative relationships as an adult.
Take Torie's Online Course, The Boundaries Roadmap (Use Code PODCAST10 to get 10% off the course when you pay-in-full!): https://www.confidentboundaries.com/the-boundaries-roadmap
Support the Podcast: https://www.confidentboundaries.com/support-the-podcast
Work with Torie:
Coaching: www.confidentboundaries.com
Therapy: www.toriewikselltherapy.com
Follow Torie on:
Instagram: instagram.com/toriewiksell
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@torie.wiksell
Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.
Ever feel paralyzed by the thought of setting a boundary, let alone enforcing it? You’re not alone. Many of us didn't grow up witnessing healthy boundary-setting, and it can feel like an insurmountable task to learn it as an adult (but good news- it's not!).
In this episode, I discuss practical steps and strategies to help you navigate the path towards a less stressful life. Through relatable anecdotes and expert advice, I hope to support you in reclaiming control of your emotional well-being. Tune in to learn how to make choices that lead to peace and happiness.
Take Torie's Online Course, The Boundaries Roadmap (Use Code PODCAST10 to get 10% off the course when you pay-in-full!): https://www.confidentboundaries.com/the-boundaries-roadmap
Support the Podcast: https://www.confidentboundaries.com/support-the-podcast
Work with Torie:
Coaching: www.confidentboundaries.com
Therapy: www.toriewikselltherapy.com
Follow Torie on:
Instagram: instagram.com/toriewiksell
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@torie.wiksell
Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.
Let's talk about common forms of parental manipulation and abuse. Today, we pull back the curtain on the dysfunctional tactics employed by parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Has your reality has been twisted through gaslighting? Were family rivalries created through triangulation? Today's episode reveals how guilt-tripping and emotional blackmail can devastate your mental health and relationships, and provides insights into recognizing these harmful behaviors.
We'll also shed light on how projection and the silent treatment further strain parent-child dynamics, especially when narcissistic parents view their children as mere extensions of themselves. Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed by jealousy, competitiveness, or manipulative control, this episode is your guide to understanding these dysfunctional behaviors BPD and NPD parents often use to meet their own needs. Tune in for clarity and support, and a reminder that you, in fact, are not crazy.
Also- I dropped the price of my Complete Guide to Setting Boundaries with a Parent with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder down to $39 to make it more accessible. And, Podcast Listeners still receive an extra $10 off by using this link:
https://www.confidentboundaries.com/guide
Take Torie's Online Course, The Boundaries Roadmap (Use Code PODCAST10 to get 10% off the course when you pay-in-full!): https://www.confidentboundaries.com/the-boundaries-roadmap
Support the Podcast: https://www.confidentboundaries.com/support-the-podcast
Work with Torie:
Coaching: www.confidentboundaries.com
Therapy: www.toriewikselltherapy.com
Follow Torie on:
Instagram: instagram.com/toriewiksell
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@torie.wiksell
Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.
Can trauma from growing up with a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder shape the way you see yourself? On this episode of "You're Not Crazy," I'm pulling back the curtain on my own experiences growing up as the child of a parent with unmanaged BPD. For years, I worried that I might have borderline personality disorder (BPD) myself, which was truly one of my biggest fears.
In this episode, I break down the differences between BPD and narcissism, revealing how parents with both disorders can leave lasting emotional scars on their children, even though their symptoms may differ.
Join me as I share practical insights for anyone recovering from a childhood of emotional invalidation. Trusting your own emotions and intuition can be a struggle, but it's possible with the right support and resources. Thank you for being a part of this journey to self-understanding and healthier boundaries!
Take Torie's Online Course, The Boundaries Roadmap (Use Code PODCAST10 to get 10% off the course when you pay-in-full!): https://www.confidentboundaries.com/the-boundaries-roadmap
Support the Podcast: https://www.confidentboundaries.com/support-the-podcast
Work with Torie:
Coaching: www.confidentboundaries.com
Therapy: www.toriewikselltherapy.com
Follow Torie on:
Instagram: instagram.com/toriewiksell
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@torie.wiksell
Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.
Thinking about going no contact with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder? Be careful about how you execute that plan and what advice you follow—a recommendation by a popular therapist YouTuber of sending a letter is probably the worst idea I've ever heard. Join me, Torie Wiksell, as I unpack why this seemingly empowering move could be the worst advice you’ve ever received. You’ll learn when writing might actually be helpful and discover less provocative ways to protect yourself from further emotional harm.
In this episode of 'You're Not Crazy,' I dissect the controversial advice of announcing no contact through a letter and outline the potential risks involved. We'll explore the delicate art of boundary-setting, navigating complex family dynamics, and the importance of maintaining your peace of mind. By the end, you’ll have a clearer understanding of why a discreet approach could be your safest bet. Tune in for practical insights and real-world strategies for handling emotionally abusive parents more effectively.
Take Torie's Online Course, The Boundaries Roadmap (Use Code PODCAST10 to get 10% off the course when you pay-in-full!): https://www.confidentboundaries.com/the-boundaries-roadmap
Support the Podcast: https://www.confidentboundaries.com/support-the-podcast
Work with Torie:
Coaching: www.confidentboundaries.com
Therapy: www.toriewikselltherapy.com
Follow Torie on:
Instagram: instagram.com/toriewiksell
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@torie.wiksell
Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.
Finding the right therapist can feel like navigating a minefield, especially when you're dealing with the complexities of a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. Ever been told to maintain contact with toxic family members because it's "good for your mental health"? I have, and let me tell you, it was eye-opening—and not in a good way. On this episode of "You're Not Crazy," I share my personal journey, the highs and lows, and the invaluable lessons learned from both stellar and subpar therapists.
We challenge outdated beliefs in the mental health community, particularly the harmful notion that family ties should always be preserved. Imagine if we advised victims of other types of abuse in the same way! Listen in as I discuss how I found the right therapeutic support and the red flags to watch out for. Empower yourself to seek out therapists who genuinely understand the unique challenges you face, even if it means breaking away from traditional advice. Join this candid conversation aimed at validating your experiences and prioritizing your well-being.
Take Torie's Online Course, The Boundaries Roadmap (Use Code PODCAST10 to get 10% off the course when you pay-in-full!): https://www.confidentboundaries.com/the-boundaries-roadmap
Support the Podcast: https://www.confidentboundaries.com/support-the-podcast
Work with Torie:
Coaching: www.confidentboundaries.com
Therapy: www.toriewikselltherapy.com
Follow Torie on:
Instagram: instagram.com/toriewiksell
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@torie.wiksell
Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.
What if understanding your anger could be the key to your emotional freedom? Join me, Torie Wiksell, on "You're Not Crazy" as we explore the intricate and often terrifying relationship that adult children of parents with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) have with anger. Growing up in these environments can make anger feel unpredictable and scary, whether it’s due to the emotional volatility associated with BPD or the calculated, punishing behaviors typical of NPD. In this episode, we break down the crucial distinction between emotions and behaviors, emphasizing that while emotions like anger are natural, it’s our response to them that truly matters. By understanding and embracing anger, you can validate your experiences and start to heal, breaking the cycle of dysfunctional emotional responses.
Afraid of turning into your parents? You're not alone. We delve into the fear many adult children of BPD or NPD parents have of replicating their parents' toxic behaviors. Therapy can be a powerful tool in unpacking the trauma and fear associated with anger, helping you understand and manage these complex emotions. Tune in as I highlight the importance of seeking professional help and share resources to guide you on this journey. For more support, be sure to follow my Instagram account or visit my therapy and coaching websites. This episode could be your first step toward managing anger constructively and embarking on your path to emotional healing. See you next episode!
Take Torie's Online Course, The Boundaries Roadmap (Use Code PODCAST10 to get 10% off the course when you pay-in-full!): https://www.confidentboundaries.com/the-boundaries-roadmap
Support the Podcast: https://www.confidentboundaries.com/support-the-podcast
Work with Torie:
Coaching: www.confidentboundaries.com
Therapy: www.toriewikselltherapy.com
Follow Torie on:
Instagram: instagram.com/toriewiksell
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@torie.wiksell
Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.
The podcast currently has 12 episodes available.