In this episode of You’re Not Crazy, we’re diving into five toxic traits that I developed from growing up in an emotionally chaotic home—and more importantly, how I'm working on them. If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, overexplaining, or feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions, this episode is for you.

Here’s what we’ll cover:
✨ Why recognizing and naming your emotions is a game-changer
✨ How to stop taking on responsibilities that aren’t yours and set boundaries instead
✨ Transforming negative self-talk into self-compassion
✨ Learning to trust your own voice instead of seeking constant external validation
✨ Breaking the habit of overexplaining and embracing confident communication

This episode is packed with practical tips and personal insights. Tune in now and take the next step toward living life on your terms. 

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• Access to my proven, step-by-step framework for setting and holding boundaries with parents who have borderline or narcissistic personality disorders
• PDF guides like Four Questions to Ask a Potential New Therapist and 5 Rules for Protecting Your Sanity when Dealing with a Parent Who Has BPD or NPD
• Exclusive bonus episodes of You’re Not Crazy
• Exclusive Q&As where you can ask me anything
• A supportive space to connect with others who are on a similar journey
• PLUS live trainings on topics like setting boundaries, dealing with relationship issues, and going no-contact!

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Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up w...

If you grew up with a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, the fear of being abandoned by people you love might run deep. In this episode of You're Not Crazy, we unpack how toxic love from a parent impacts your relationships and self-worth as an adult — and, more importantly, how to break free from those patterns.

We discuss:

• What conditional love from a BPD/NPD parent really looks like and how it contributes to a fear of abandonment
• Choosing yourself
• The power of setting clear, firm boundaries (even when it feels impossible)
• Steps to develop self-acceptance and improve your self-worth

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Download my free guide, 5 Quick Tips for Managing Intense Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent: https://confidentboundaries.myflodesk.com/5quicktips

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What’s waiting for you inside:

• Access to my proven, step-by-step framework for setting and holding boundaries with parents who have borderline or narcissistic personality disorders
• PDF guides like Four Questions to Ask a Potential New Therapist and 5 Rules for Protecting Your Sanity when Dealing with a Parent Who Has BPD or NPD
• Exclusive bonus episodes of You’re Not Crazy
• Exclusive Q&As where you can ask me anything
• A supportive space to connect with others who are on a similar journey
• PLUS live trainings on topics like setting boundaries, dealing with relationship issues, and going no-contact!

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Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up w...

Today I’m reflecting on how I’ve grown this year and what I’m focusing on for 2025. From taking bold action before I felt “ready” to ending a toxic friendship and trusting myself more, I’m sharing the real, unfiltered moments that have shaped my year. This episode is all about celebrating progress, embracing imperfections, and setting clear intentions for a fulfilling year ahead.

Listen to hear my perspective on:

• Taking big steps before feeling “ready”
• Facing fears around sharing my personal journey
• Letting go of toxic relationships faster
• Trusting my gut and valuing my own opinions
• Expanding my impact
• My goals for 2025

Download my free guide, 5 Quick Tips for Managing Intense Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent: https://confidentboundaries.myflodesk.com/5quicktips

Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join

What’s waiting for you inside:

• Access to my proven, step-by-step framework for setting and holding boundaries with parents who have borderline or narcissistic personality disorders
• PDF guides like Four Questions to Ask a Potential New Therapist and 5 Rules for Protecting Your Sanity when Dealing with a Parent Who Has BPD or NPD
• Exclusive bonus episodes of You’re Not Crazy
• Exclusive Q&As where you can ask me anything
• A supportive space to connect with others who are on a similar journey
• PLUS live trainings on topics like setting boundaries, dealing with relationship issues, and going no-contact!

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Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up w...

If you’re the adult child of a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, the holidays can feel more stressful than joyful. In this episode, I’m sharing practical, actionable strategies to help you navigate these tricky family dynamics while prioritizing your mental health. From setting boundaries to managing emotional triggers, we’ll cover everything you need to make it through the season with more peace and less drama.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

• How to set realistic expectations for family interactions.
• The key to creating a holiday game plan that works for you.
• Emotional regulation strategies to stay grounded when you’re triggered.
• Why avoiding conflict can be more powerful than engaging.
• Using the gray rock method to deflect negativity and maintain calm.
• Recognizing scapegoat dynamics—and how to protect yourself.
• Affirming your right to step away from harmful situations.
• Why self-care is non-negotiable during the festive season.

Listen now to reclaim your holidays with confidence and clarity!

Download my free guide, 5 Quick Tips for Managing Intense Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent: https://confidentboundaries.myflodesk.com/5quicktips

Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join

What’s waiting for you inside:

• Access to my proven, step-by-step framework for setting and holding boundaries with parents who have borderline or narcissistic personality disorders
• PDF guides like Four Questions to Ask a Potential New Therapist and 5 Rules for Protecting Your Sanity when Dealing with a Parent Who Has BPD or NPD
• Exclusive bonus episodes of You’re Not Crazy
• Exclusive Q&As where you can ask me anything
• A supportive space to connect with others who are on a similar journey
• PLUS live trainings on topics like setting boundaries, dealing with relationship issues, and going no-contact!

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Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up w...

Can personal experiences spark global change? In this episode, I share the story behind my newest venture, Confident Boundaries, and how my passion for helping adults with parents who have borderline and narcissistic personality disorders has evolved throughout this past year.

Confident Boundaries goes beyond my therapy and coaching practices, offering tools, resources, and a supportive community for adult children ready to heal and reclaim their power.

I’ll also take you behind the scenes of launching this initiative, from the technical hurdles of being a one-woman show to the deep gratitude I feel for this growing community. Your support—whether through listening, sharing your stories, or leaving a review—helps sustain this mission and build a global network of connection and healing.

Ready to break the cycle of trauma and find your strength? Tune in now, and don’t forget to check the show notes for links to join the Confident Boundaries community. Let’s do this together.

Download my free guide, 5 Quick Tips for Managing Intense Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent: https://confidentboundaries.myflodesk.com/5quicktips

Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join

What’s waiting for you inside:

• Access to my proven, step-by-step framework for setting and holding boundaries with parents who have borderline or narcissistic personality disorders
• PDF guides like Four Questions to Ask a Potential New Therapist and 5 Rules for Protecting Your Sanity when Dealing with a Parent Who Has BPD or NPD
• Exclusive bonus episodes of You’re Not Crazy
• Exclusive Q&As where you can ask me anything
• A supportive space to connect with others who are on a similar journey
• PLUS live trainings on topics like setting boundaries, dealing with relationship issues, and going no-contact!

Follow me on Instagram:
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Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up w...

Growing up with a narcissistic mother can feel like navigating a maze of manipulation and emotional chaos. Ever wonder how the image of a "perfect mom" can clash so deeply with reality? In this episode, I share snippets from my own personal journey of growing up with the "perfect" narcissistic mother.

We'll dive into how societal perceptions of motherhood often mask harmful behaviors, the pressure to maintain appearances, and the lasting emotional impact. From public praise to private criticism, I’ll explore the struggle to find independence amidst constant judgment and the manipulative claims of martyrdom.

Download my free guide, 5 Quick Tips for Managing Intense Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent: https://confidentboundaries.myflodesk.com/5quicktips

Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join

What’s waiting for you inside:

• Access to my proven, step-by-step framework for setting and holding boundaries with parents who have borderline or narcissistic personality disorders
• PDF guides like Four Questions to Ask a Potential New Therapist and 5 Rules for Protecting Your Sanity when Dealing with a Parent Who Has BPD or NPD
• Exclusive bonus episodes of You’re Not Crazy
• Exclusive Q&As where you can ask me anything
• A supportive space to connect with others who are on a similar journey
• PLUS live trainings on topics like setting boundaries, dealing with relationship issues, and going no-contact!

Follow me on Instagram:
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Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up w...

In this episode of You’re Not Crazy, I’m diving into the challenges of navigating family dynamics during the holiday season—especially when you’re dealing with parents who have narcissistic or borderline personality traits. I’ll share actionable strategies for conserving your emotional energy and prioritizing your peace and happiness.

Together, we’ll reflect on past holiday interactions, plan for healthier gatherings, and embrace a mindset that prioritizes your well-being in the new year. Join me as we take steps to reclaim our peace and navigate the holidays with confidence!

Also- if you want to hear about my own challenging Thanksgiving this year, check out the bonus podcast episode I just posted on Patreon: patreon.com/yncpodcast

Download my free guide, 5 Quick Tips for Managing Intense Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent: https://confidentboundaries.myflodesk.com/5quicktips

Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join

What’s waiting for you inside:

• Access to my proven, step-by-step framework for setting and holding boundaries with parents who have borderline or narcissistic personality disorders
• PDF guides like Four Questions to Ask a Potential New Therapist and 5 Rules for Protecting Your Sanity when Dealing with a Parent Who Has BPD or NPD
• Exclusive bonus episodes of You’re Not Crazy
• Exclusive Q&As where you can ask me anything
• A supportive space to connect with others who are on a similar journey
• PLUS live trainings on topics like setting boundaries, dealing with relationship issues, and going no-contact!

Follow me on Instagram:
instagram.com/toriewiksell

Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up w...

In this episode, I explore how growing up with parents who have borderline or narcissistic personality disorders impacts the way we handle political and family stressors. With the holidays quickly approaching, I unpack why these events can feel so overwhelming and how past experiences play a part in our current stress.

Using the power and control wheel, I break down the cycle of narcissistic abuse and how that is more relevant than ever now. With Thanksgiving right around the corner, I share practical tips to help you assess your emotional readiness, set boundaries with toxic family members, and prioritize your mental health. 

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1️⃣ Take The Boundaries Roadmap Online Course
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Today I'm going to try to convince you that embracing stress is the secret to your long term peace and happiness. Discover how the cycle of avoidance, driven by the fear of upsetting a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, might be keeping you stuck in a loop of burnout and resentment.

By shifting your mindset and recognizing this pattern, you can start prioritizing long-term peace over fleeting comfort. This episode promises to guide you through practical strategies that help maintain your boundaries and manage stress, especially during the challenging holiday season.

I'll be dropping a second podcast episode on either Tuesday or Wednesday this week!

Download my free guide, 5 Quick Tips for Managing Intense Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent: https://confidentboundaries.myflodesk.com/5quicktips

Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join

What’s waiting for you inside:

• Access to my proven, step-by-step framework for setting and holding boundaries with parents who have borderline or narcissistic personality disorders
• PDF guides like Four Questions to Ask a Potential New Therapist and 5 Rules for Protecting Your Sanity when Dealing with a Parent Who Has BPD or NPD
• Exclusive bonus episodes of You’re Not Crazy
• Exclusive Q&As where you can ask me anything
• A supportive space to connect with others who are on a similar journey
• PLUS live trainings on topics like setting boundaries, dealing with relationship issues, and going no-contact!

Follow me on Instagram:
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Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up w...

For the next 48 hours, you can grab a copy of my guide, Surviving the Holidays with a Difficult Parent or purchase The Boundaries Roadmap, my self-guided online course for effective boundary setting with a parent who has borderline and/or narcissistic personality disorder for 50% off! No coupon code needed.

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What's inside the community?

• Access to The Boundaries Roadmap, my step-by-step course for setting boundaries ($297-$340 value)
• Exclusive guides like Surviving the Holidays with a Difficult Parent
• Bonus podcast episodes of You're Not Crazy
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Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.

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