In todays episode Alana and Amie have a conversation about what it looks like to thrive and step out of victim mentality. 

When you have been a victim of someone else's choices that created chaos and pain in your life. Sometimes undesirable pain, it's understandable how it feels powerless and overwhelmingly paralyzing. Sometimes the term victim takes on a negative connotation, and so it's a place we can often judge ourselves in. 

There are so many subtle ways that we, often subconsciously, keep ourselves in victim mentality and yet are trying so hard to move forward and can't figure out why it's so difficult. Stepping in to your power and seeing what you do have to move forward, one step at a time, will help you not just survive, but thrive!

Join us today, leaving your own self judgment aside, and with curiosity see what your next move is to step into THRIVING!

Karpman Drama Triangle was referenced today 

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Today Amie shares a brief message during this Christmas season. 

Trauma can bring many nights that are not silently filled with peace. I had so many nights where my mind just wouldn't stop thinking and thinking of all the things that were wrong and could go wrong.

So many things that where going on around me that where not holy, calm or bright. Where peace was absent and filled with chaos and turmoil and there was no sleeping in heavily peace. In fact there was no sleeping.

But we have been shown a way to ground and have been given a baby who eventually shows us how, to have a silent night of His peace. Today I share some thoughts that hopefully will give your heart a moment of grounding and perspective, hope and peace. 

Merry Christmas to you all, we hope you enjoy this mini episode

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Joining our conversation today are two of Amie's clients, Jeanine and Jori, who talk about their healing journey after divorce. Each of these women were In a place where they wanted to know how to get to that next level of healing and that included dating again. They first did the work to understand themselves and learned to love themselves fiercely. Each of these women overcame their fears of rejection enough to date again and have been able to trust again which has brought incredible joy to their lives and has made all the work they have done worth it!

We hope that wherever you are at in your own healing, even if you are not getting a divorce, as you listen to how they did the work for themselves first, you will be inspired to continue to do your own work. 

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Today Amie and Alana continue their conversation to those who have loved ones that are trying to understand more of what you, the betrayed, are experiencing. Sometimes it's hard to put into words when you yourself are still trying to figure it out! So we hope that this episode also helps you too. 

Todays episode comes with gratitude for the great feedback we have received from last episode on the topic, yet we had a response from a loved one who has some additional concerns to this topic, and so we thought we would address those In todays episode as there are perhaps more out there who have these same concerns. 

We continue to encourage you to share these episodes with your loved ones to better understand and have empathy for the complexity of the healing that comes with betrayal trauma and the effects of abuse. However their response, please remember that your healing is YOURS and whether people you love support or understand does not have an effect on your ability to heal. 

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This episode is specifically for all those who are the family or friends of those suffering from betrayal trauma. When you are the betrayed partner, It's so hard to explain to others what exactly you are or have been experiencing. Often times others might not believe you or know how to help you in your trauma. This can feel very lonely and frustrating. 

Today Alana and Amie have a message to family and friends in hopes to bring more understanding to the seriousness of this experience, as well as offer some ideas on how to help them in healthy ways. We hope that family and friends will be open to hearing more about what you are experiencing and perhaps know how to assist you in your own journey to healing. 

So share this episode with those who are safe and who you want to be apart of your healing.

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Today Amie and Alana talk about the dangers of comparison in our life and along our healing journey. We do this in so many ways, compare if our partner is or isn't doing the recovery work like the other partners, or why am I still struggling in anger or depression, "I should be over this by now". We compare stories and assess who's is "worse". We compare time and how long it is taking for us to see healing and change. 

So many things! It can be exhausting and we hope todays episode not only help you be aware of your own brains comparing tendencies, but help you release some of those and find more peace along the journey. 

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In todays episode Amie and Alana discuss even deeper into the topic of boundaries. Discussing the importance of having your own value system identified, knowing the difference between a boundary and an ultimatum or demand. Where we sometimes lack in follow through and much more.

Tune in today and whether you are in the beginning stages of boundary work or you feel like you have this down. There is always more to learn and  revisiting your own boundaries to determine if they are actually working for you, or against you. 

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Join the conversation this week as Alana does a training on boundaries! You'll hear from other women who not only have struggled with boundaries but have found growth in their boundaries as well. 

Some of the topics include: 

The Six Basics Of Boundaries

7 Steps to Creating Boundaries

Do you find it easy to give someone else permission to rest, self care, do what they need or want but find it extremely hard to give YOURSELF permission? Perhaps you feel it's selfish, or that it's not necessary? Maybe you just don't think you are worth it, or that you have to change something first. 

In todays episode Alana and Amie discuss the POWER that comes when you give yourself permission to do, well anything! We hope this episode is encouraging and motivates you today. 

We want to give you permission to listen to todays episode and permission to heal, love yourself and move forward. If you would like help please reach out and book a session with one of our coaches so you can start giving yourself permission to LIVE!

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Today we have the amazing hosts of The Healing With WORTH podcast joining our conversation today! We asked Naomi and Janeen to share a little about their stories and how they came be the hosts of the popular podcast. We talk about how important it is to have support when you are going through betrayal trauma or divorce, struggles that can come up in religious culture through healing, how to know we need help, and gaining worth and empowerment in your journey. It's packed with awesomeness!

We hope today will validate and in. spire you in where you are at in your journey.

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