Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing

Have you ever thought about betrayal trauma’s impact on your brain health? After watching her dad lose his life to Dementia last year, Hali Roderick began to gain an interest in the connection between the physical brain and emotional healing.

As Hali looked into ways to prevent her physical brain from cognitive decline, she recognized a lot of the signs of brain injury are similar to the symptoms of betrayal trauma. 

Tune in to this episode with our guests, Hali and Jeff Roderick to learn:

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Schedule a complimentary session to learn more, go to: https://haliroderickcoaching.youcanbook.me/

Join Hali for a women's betrayal trauma retreat September 13-17th in Queen Creek, Arizona.  https://docs.google.com/document/d/1s3HWCrkXn0dQ4OR-ZExLFEQ4EKZLCIqL56vN3GGeBpI/edit?usp=sharing

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As the partner who betrayed works through their recovery, we often see that they start to increase their efforts to help their partner. They may help out more with the kids, take the trash out without being asked, or bring home dinner when their partner is having a hard day. 

The betrayed partner may find themselves rejecting these efforts, which causes both partners to become frustrated, angry, and disconnected. The partner who betrayed starts wondering why these kind gestures aren’t working.

On this episode of Choose to Be, we will talk about what to do when helping doesn’t actually help, and we’ll share what you can do instead that will make a difference in your relationship. 

Join us for the conversation on questions such as:

Groups, Classes, and Resources from Choose Recovery Services

⁠Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women⁠⁠⁠ - Support group is for women who have recently gone through betrayal to help them in those beginning stages.

⁠⁠Choose 90 | Gaining Sobriety⁠⁠⁠ - This course provides support, guidance, and resources to individuals who struggle with compulsive sexual behaviors.

⁠⁠Choose 180 Male Support Group⁠⁠⁠⁠ - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction while healing from shame.

⁠⁠⁠Road to Recovery⁠⁠⁠ - Join Luke and Alana for a free monthly couples webinar to navigate the relational aspects that come on the road to recovery.

⁠⁠Choosing to Stay Webinar⁠⁠ - Hali Roderick teaches a free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.

⁠⁠⁠Should I Stay or Should I Go⁠⁠⁠ - Join this FREE group coaching call with Amie for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.

⁠⁠Am I In An Abusive Relationship?⁠⁠⁠ - FREE, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags in your relationship.

You can also find Amie on⁠⁠⁠ The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠!

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When you find out that your partner has been acting out in sexually compulsive ways, it can feel scary and concerning to then leave them alone. Perhaps most of the sexually compulsive behavior was done while you were away, so of course you would feel worried leaving them alone.

Join Amie and Alana today as they discuss what you can do when this situation is part of your journey.

Finding support along your healing from betrayal is key and here at Choose Recovery Services, we want to give you the highest quality care, tools and support. If you are considering separation, divorcing or divorced then we also have support, tools and care for you as well. The first 12 weeks are FREE when you register HERE

Groups, Classes, and Resources from Choose Recovery Services

⁠Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women⁠⁠⁠ - Support group is for women who have recently gone through betrayal to help them in those beginning stages.

⁠⁠Choose 90 | Gaining Sobriety⁠⁠⁠ - This course provides support, guidance, and resources to individuals who struggle with compulsive sexual behaviors.

⁠⁠Choose 180 Male Support Group⁠⁠⁠⁠ - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction while healing from shame.

⁠⁠⁠Road to Recovery⁠⁠⁠ - Join Luke and Alana for a free monthly couples webinar to navigate the relational aspects that come on the road to recovery.

⁠⁠Choosing to Stay Webinar⁠⁠ - Hali Roderick teaches a free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.

⁠⁠⁠Should I Stay or Should I Go⁠⁠⁠ - Join this FREE group coaching call with Amie for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.

⁠⁠Am I In An Abusive Relationship?⁠⁠⁠ - FREE, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags in your relationship.

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These terms have been used to describe someone who is struggling with any addictive behavior and who becomes sober from that particular destructive addiction, and becomes addicted to another less destructive behavior. However, the root issue behind the addiction is yet to be resolved.

We are describing this a compulsive sexual behavior transfer. So many of our clients will see their partner become sober from the compulsive sexual acting out behaviors, but become compulsive around another behavior such as video games, food, exercise, etc.

What we are seeing is that, even though this is a healthier behavior, and part of what the one struggling with compulsive behavior is encouraged to do as a way to find healthier coping behaviors, they are still not getting to the root of the emotional exploration that leads to the compulsivity in the first place.

This can cause a lot of conflict int he betrayed partners body when there still feels as if things are not right, but k nows that her partner is not acting out sexually.

Today we hope to validate you if this is whats going on, to help educate those of you who perhaps might be in the compulsive sexual behavior transfer, and to help encourage you to all to continue to choose healing, choose recovery and choose YOU!

Groups, Classes, and Resources from Choose Recovery Services

Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women⁠⁠ - Support group is for women who have recently gone through betrayal to help them in those beginning stages.

⁠Choose 90 | Gaining Sobriety⁠⁠ - This course provides support, guidance, and resources to individuals who struggle with compulsive sexual behaviors.

⁠Choose 180 Male Support Group⁠⁠⁠ - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction while healing from shame.

⁠⁠Road to Recovery⁠⁠ - Join Luke and Alana for a free monthly couples webinar to navigate the relational aspects that come on the road to recovery.

⁠Choosing to Stay Webinar⁠ - Hali Roderick teaches a free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.

⁠⁠Should I Stay or Should I Go⁠⁠ - Join this FREE group coaching call with Amie for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.

⁠Am I In An Abusive Relationship?⁠⁠ - FREE, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags in your relationship.

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Acceptance is a critical and difficult part of the healing process. Many people get stuck in acceptance, thinking that by accepting their reality it means they approve of their situation. Join Amie Woolsey this week as she shares the difference between acceptance and approval, and gives examples of what acceptance looks like.

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Have you lost your voice? Do you believe that what you think and feel matters? It may be surprising to really think about your answers to those questions. In this episode, Amie and Alana discuss the importance of honoring your voice, honoring yourself, and honoring your needs to reclaim your voice.

This episode covers topics like:

Groups, Classes, and Resources from Choose Recovery Services

Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - Support group is for women who have recently gone through betrayal to help them in those beginning stages.

Choose 90 | Gaining Sobriety - This course provides support, guidance, and resources to individuals who struggle with compulsive sexual behaviors.

Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana for a free monthly couples webinar to navigate the relational aspects that come on the road to recovery.

Should I Stay or Should I Go - Join this FREE group coaching call with Amie for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.

Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - FREE, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags in your relationship.

Choose 180 Male Support Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction while healing from shame.

You can also find Amie on The Empowered Divorce Podcast!

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How can you start to trust yourself again after betrayal? Being betrayed by a partner is traumatizing physiologically, emotionally, and mentally. This can leave trauma on your body even long after the betrayal has occurred. When you’ve had this kind of blow in your life, it affects your sense of self, sense of safety, and self identity. This makes trusting yourself difficult. 

This is a very natural response when you’ve experienced betrayal, but learning to trust yourself again is the first key to healing. Join Amie Woolsey in this episode as she shares:

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Today Amie and Alana talk about trust using the work of Brené Brown, and American professor, who created specific elements of trust by using the acronym BRAVING. Because it's BRAVE to trust, especially after betrayal.

When you are trying to watch your partner's feet move back up the ladder of trust, it can be confusing to know what you are even watching for! So they break down these tools she offers as elements of trust and make them more tangible and betrayal trauma relatable. These are NOT all the ways that trust is restored and yet this gives a nice place to start and easy to remember way that can help you begin leaning into trust.

The Acronym BRAVING

B- Boundaries

R- Reliability

A-Accountability

V-Vault/Vulnerability

I- Integrity

N- Non-judgment

G-Grace

Remember, when there is no honesty and safety in the relationship, there can't be trust. So please evaluate your own situation as to if this is ready to be practiced in a relational way at this time.

Join Amie next week as she will talk about rebuilding trust with YOURSELF FIRST.

Link to the original Brene Brown's Talk on BRAVING

Finding Yourself After Betrayal -Amie Woolsey and the ladder of trust in more depth

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Don't miss these new groups by Choose Recovery Services:

❤️‍🩹 Choose Recovery for Couples - A comprehensive support group for couples to get the support they need to work through the pain of infidelity and betrayal and begin rebuilding their relationship. Taught by Luke and Alana Gordon. ⁠Learn more.⁠

👩 Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. ⁠Learn more.⁠

🧑 Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from addiction, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. ⁠Learn more.⁠

💕 YSA Healthy Dating & Empowerment Course - For young, single women who are navigating the dating scene, Amie Woolsey from Choose Recovery Services educates and empowers women with the knowledge to understand boundaries, self-care, red flags, 7 levels of intimacy, and so much more! ⁠Learn more.⁠

💪 Believing in You - Program to help you work with your brain rather than against it with Amie Woolsey. You’ll learn tools and concepts to gain a better awareness of your thoughts and emotions and how to gently push back on automatic thoughts. ⁠Learn more.⁠

Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - FREE, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags in your relationship.

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.What would you guess is the #1 thing people want help with when they go to see a therapist or a coach? Here’s a hint…whether you’re dealing with betrayal, trauma, or just simple disruptions in a relationship growing apart, all these roads lead to a need for better communication. 

We are hard-wired for connection, and a core part of connection is communication. Join Alana on this episode for the first step to better communication in your relationship – learning the difference between communicating in a way that is passive, aggressive, passive aggressive, and assertive. 

A few topics covered on this episode include:

Don't miss these new groups by Choose Recovery Services:

❤️‍🩹 Choose Recovery for Couples - A comprehensive support group for couples to get the support they need to work through the pain of infidelity and betrayal and begin rebuilding their relationship. Taught by Luke and Alana Gordon. Learn more.

👩 Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more.

🧑 Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from addiction, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more.

💕 YSA Healthy Dating & Empowerment Course - For young, single women who are navigating the dating scene, Amie Woolsey from Choose Recovery Services educates and empowers women with the knowledge to understand boundaries, self-care, red flags, 7 levels of intimacy, and so much more! Learn more.

💪 Believing in You - Program to help you work with your brain rather than against it with Amie Woolsey. You’ll learn tools and concepts to gain a better awareness of your thoughts and emotions and how to gently push back on automatic thoughts. Learn more.

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🎙️ We’re closing out the last episode of a 3-part series on the topic of adult children of sex addicts featuring Dr. Kenneth M. Adams Ph.D., CSAT-S, and author of the new book, A Light in the Dark: The Hidden Legacy of Adult Children of Sex Addicts.

This week, we respond to listener questions such as:

Amie and Alana are excited about the questions this book has brought up for you, and they encourage you to keep asking questions as you heal. Your path to healing will be filled with pain and fear, but as you do this difficult work, there is healing, beauty, strength, and post-traumatic growth to be found along the way.

Amie and Alana referenced Vicki Tidwell Palmer’s Bill of Rights in this episode. You can find the full list here.

Don’t miss these new groups offered by Choose Recovery Services:

❤️‍🩹 Choose Recovery for Couples - A comprehensive support group for couples to get the support they need to work through the pain of infidelity and betrayal and begin rebuilding their relationship. Taught by Luke and Alana Gordon. Learn more.

👩 Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more.

🧑 Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from addiction, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more.

💕 YSA Healthy Dating & Empowerment Course - For young, single women who are navigating the dating scene, Amie Woolsey from Choose Recovery Services educates and empowers women with the knowledge to understand boundaries, self-care, red flags, 7 levels of intimacy, and so much more! Learn more.

💪 Believing in You - Program to helps you work with your brain rather than against it with Amie Woolsey. You’ll learn tools and concepts to gain a better awareness of your thoughts and emotions and how to gently push back on automatic thoughts. Learn more.

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