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Episode 81 – KNOW part 4 – Knowing Yourself Through Self-Confrontation

This is the 4th episode in the Know, Love, Grow series.

Self-confrontation is the willingness to take an honest look at the parts of us we really don’t want to see- the parts of us we choose to keep hidden from ourselves and others because they are too painful to see.

Self-confrontation is a way we can grow ourselves up emotionally. It’s not an easy thing to do, but if you are willing to look at yourself honestly and open yourself up to the things you don’t really want to know about yourself, you have the potential for exponential growth. 

We will each have discomfort in our lives. We can accept unproductive growth of not embracing self-confrontation, or we can choose to move into productive grown with self-confrontation. You get to choose with discomfort you allow in your life.

I have a free pdf for you – 30 journaling questions to help you begin to know yourself better. Click below to download

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 80 - KNOW part 3, How Parents are Making Their Young Adults' Lives Harder, with Clarice Paulson and Caleb Price

This episode is the 3rd in the KNOW, LOVE, GROW series and is all about getting to know your children better, specifically your young adult. 

 

Download a free pdf training – 30 journaling questions to help you begin to know yourself on a new and deeper level. This is the first step in creating your own strong foundation for your life and relationships.

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Episode 19: Parents' Hardest Questions Answered with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife 

A special thank you to Clarice Paulson and Caleb Price for being open and honest in the questions I asked them. 

I have coached many parents, and also coached many young adults. I have seen how often both groups are misunderstanding each other and working against each other instead of together. 

The two main ways Clarice and Caleb said parents are making their lives harder are:

#1 – Parents are trying to limit their YA choices and take away their agency because they are afraid of the choices their YA will make. They don’t want to allow their YA to experience failure and the consequences of their actions, so they are trying to control what their YA’s life looks like. 

#2 – When young adults are making choices and they are not the ones the parents want them to make, the parents are labeling themselves as a failure as a parent. Parents are putting their own value and success on the line depending on what choices their YA makes, and that puts a tremendous amount of pressure on their YA. 

Tune in after the interview for my insights into how you can start to combat these issues in your parenting and in your family. 

Want to contact Clarice?

https://www.balancedrecovery.coach/

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Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 79 – KNOW part 2, Expectations and Your Family, with Leah Davidson 

This is the 2nd episode in the Know, Love, Grow series.

Have you ever taken a personality test to get to know yourself better? This week’s episode is all about getting to know yourself better through different personality tests. I focus on one test in particular – The 4 Tendencies. I focused on this particular test because the #1 problem I coach people on is their unmet expectations. My clients are not meeting the expectations they have for themselves and their family members are not meeting the expectations my clients have for them. Lots of disappointment shows up in both circumstances. 

The 4 Tendencies test gives us information about ourselves that can be very useful in this area! Knowing our natural tendency in how we keep expectations and having this same information about our family members is powerful. 

Personality tests can be very powerful, but they can open our eyes to things we don’t want to see about ourselves because they expose our weaknesses. Be open to all of it – including the parts you don’t want to see. Allow it to give you information about yourself that you can decide what to do with when you’re ready.

Knowing who you are, what your strengths are, and taking an honest look at the things you don’t like about yourself is how you begin to accept yourself and then grow yourself. 

 

Are you ready to begin KNOWing yourself better? If you answered “Yes!” you will want to download my free pdf “Coming to KNOW Yourself Better” 

You’ll find 30 journaling questions that will help you begin finding out who you are so that you can become more tethered to yourself and have more confidence in who you are and who you are becoming. 

DOWNLOAD THE FREE PDF HERE

 

Do you want to take one (or all) of the personality tests mentioned in this podcast? Links are below.

Via Stren

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Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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#078 – Coming to Know Who You Are, with Aimee Gianni

Welcome to the first episode in the Know, Love, Grow series. January is dedicated to knowing yourself and knowing your family members in new and different ways. 

The Know, Love, Grow model was created by Aimee Gianni, and she will be a podcast guest the first week of each January, February, and March to teach us about what it really means to Know, Love, and Grow and why it's so important to do to create healthy, happy family relationships. 

Knowing who you are and getting rid of the stories that keep you from growing and connecting with others is foundational work. Doing this work is the work that helps you get what you want most in your life. 

Sign up for Aimee Gianni’s Love Notes: HERE

Download the free pdf to begin working on KNOWING yourself: HERE

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 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

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Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 77 - Top 5 Lessons Learned in 2022, with Micah Gosney

Micah is back and we talk about some of the things we've learned this year that were significant to us.
 
Micah's List:
1. Differentiation
2. Thoughts create feelings
3. Letting go of old habits is necessary to become your new self
4. Learning new information and practice using it
5. Learning to access creativity

Tina's list:
1. The stories in our heads are really just stories and we get to choose what story to tell.
2. I can talk to myself more than I listen to myself.
3. I'm in charge of me and make my choices consciously
4. The way you do one thing is the way you do everything.
5. This work doesn't end, you just keep spiraling up through your life.

Happy New Year, and we'll see you in 2023!

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Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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#076 - Let's talk about "Original Grace" by Adam Miller, with Micah Gosney

I've saved this episode for the week of Christmas because this book - Original Grace - was pivotal this year in the growth I've experienced this year in understanding grace, justice, Christ, and the Atonement.

Adam Miller, a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and a professor of philosophy, and a prolific author of many great books you can find at Deseret Book and on Amazon.

Adam Miller proposes this idea: grace and justice are the same. "It is never morally legitimate to use God's law to judge what someone deserves. Rather, God's law can only be used to judge what good someone needs. "
What someone needs is good for good, and good for evil.

Micah and I read this book together this year and this podcast is a discussion on our thoughts about this book. There is much more in the book we did not cover, and we encourage you to purchase the book and read it for yourself. And, the ideas presented in this podcast are just a few things that stood out to us and were meaningful to us.

Purchase Original Grace HERE

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Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 75 - Strengthening Your Marriage in Times of Stress, with Aimee Gianni

Your overall life satisfaction and happiness will directly relate to the connection in your most intimate relationship. Stress can pull you apart from your spouse or you can use it to grow together. It all depends on how you handle it and how you view your spouse during stressful times. Master life coach and Marriage and Family Therapist, Aimee Gianni talks about what to watch out for, what to avoid, and how to grow together with your spouse during difficult times. 

Want to contact Aimee and sign up for her Love Notes?

Website: https://aimeegianni.com/

Instagram: @aimeegiannims

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Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 74 – The Pyramid of Influence, What Other People Hear, with Brent Bartel - part 5 of 5

This episode finishes the Pyramid of Influence series. Stephen R. Covey’s Pyramid of Influence tells us how to have ethical and positive influence on other people. Brent Bartel is a certified life coach and spent many years as a Stephen R Covey leadership facilitator. 

If you are wanting to have more influence in the life of your family members, but are not sure where to start, these episodes will be a crash course in how to be a more influential person.  

12:30 - Prepare your mind and heart before the speech

35:20 - Avoid fight or flight – talk through differences

50:45 - Recognize and take time to teach

54:20 - Agree on limits, rules, expectations, and consequences

1:03:30 - Don’t give up and don’t give in

1:17:00 - Be there at the crossroads

1:28:30 - Train them in the law of the harvest

 

To contact Brent Bartel, email [email protected]

 

Other podcasts in this series:

The Pyramid of Influence, What Other People See, part 1 CLICK HERE 

The Pyramid of Influence, What Other People See, part 2 CLICK HERE

The Pyramid of Influence, What Other People Feel, part 1 CLICK HERE 

The Pyramid of Influence, What Other People Feel, part 2 CLICK HERE

 

If you’re a parent of a young adult, you need my newest free download:
“10 Important Tips to Improve Your Relationship with Your Young Adult”
Parenting definitely doesn’t get easier when your child enters their young adult years, and you need these tips!

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 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
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Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 73 - Being an LGBTQ+ Family at Church with Allison Dayton from Lift + Love
I’m releasing this episode at the beginning of December for a reason. This month as we celebrate the birth of Christ, I think of it as celebrating the greatest gift of Love that God could give us – the savior Jesus Christ. This episode is about how to love better, how to extend that love to those who are having some trouble finding it in the walls of their church building and church communities. 

This topic is close to my heart today and will be very close to the hearts of many special families I know. Allison Dayton, the founder of Lift + Love and I had a conversation about being an LGBTQ family in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. It’s not an easy road we walk as we try to navigate our membership and the reality of our families. 

If you don’t have an LGBTQ child, I ask you to listen with an open mind and an open heart to the experience of two mothers who do. And if our experience doesn’t match your experience in the church, please respect ours as we respect yours. 

There are hundreds, and most likely thousands of families like mine and Allison’s in the church today. So many of us are struggling to feel at home in a place that always felt so much like home and used to be so comfortable, but often isn’t anymore. And because it can be so uncomfortable and feel very unwelcoming at times, many of those families have left. 

The Law of Love written by Steve Young

Lift + Love website

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 72 - Giving and Receiving Gratitude

This is not just another podcast on why you should be grateful! This podcast presents ideas from the Dalai Lama, Archbishop Desmond Tutu, and Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife.

You will see how cultivating a grateful heart creates joy in your life and puts more joy and happiness into the world. These ideas come from The Book of Joy

I talk about what I've learned from Dr. Fife as I have been taking one of her courses. This includes what true giving and receiving look like and how bad we are each of them.  

True giving takes yourself and others into account and what it really needed. It is different than service. 

True receiving is allowing ourselves to be influenced by another person. Not allowing ourselves to receive from others is a prideful position and keeps us from expanding ourselves and the goodness in the world. 

Listen to this episode to find out more. 

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 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

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Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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