Earn Your Happy

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

-Chris and Lori’s Become Aligned course

-EventLuv - there are only 11 spots left!

-The impetus behind Trent’s work - he lost a friend to suicide eight years ago

-How he started playing football and the role models that made his success possible

-Living for yourself, not other people

-Breaking relationships down to three levels 

-Trent’s morning ritual - appreciation, affection, accomplishment and activity

-Protecting your peace

-Helping people turn their pain into power

-Accepting everything about yourself

Resources:

-trentshelton.com

-Instagram: @trentshelton

-Read: The Greatest You

-Read: Straight Up

-becomealigned.com

-eventluv.com

Show Notes:

Trent Shelton is a professional footballer turned motivational speaker, writer and coach. His mission is to help people find promise in their darkest hours and be their greatest self. To do this he teaches about riding out storms, having a perspective that life is to serve you and protecting your peace at all costs.

Question Highlights:

-Where do you find the motivation every day to talk to people?

-How do you come back from those moments where you feel like you did something horrible or disappointed people?

-What are some of the rituals that you do to start going in the direction that you want to go each morning?

-How do you handle criticism in your DMs ?

-How do you be content with what's going on right now while also striving to be better and reach your highest potential?

Guest Bio:

Trent Shelton is a former NFL wide receiver (having been a member of the Indianapolis Colts, Seattle Seahawks and the Washington Redskins) that is now considered one of the most impactful speakers of this generation. He reaches over 50 million people weekly through his various social media outlets and non-profit organization, RehabTime. Shelton travels the world sharing his message of creating lasting change in life. He and his wife Maria live in Fort Worth, Texas, with their two children, Tristan and Maya.

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

• Eventluv - it’s in January and spots are running out
• Short-term versus long-term joy
• Giving yourself grace and staying compassionate
• Fully expressing yourself and not caring if other people like it or not
• Bringing more fun to everything

Resources:

• Learn more: eventluv.com

Show Notes:

I’m recording this episode on my 39th birthday. I’m feeling deep gratitude, and I want to share with you the most important thing I have learned about life. Our only job is to stay in joy. Sometimes we are so far from it that we don’t even know what it would look like to be in joy. So to be in joy we need to focus on what fulfills us and what makes us proud of ourselves. Whether it’s taking your vitamins, putting that voodoo doll down or meditating, take all the steps to focus on the good you can do for yourself and in the world.  I hope today’s quickie serves as a reminder or way for you to be able to get back to the heart-centered reason of WHY you’re working on your dreams.

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

-Evans’ real name

-The amazing results we get from being consistent

-Clearing out the clutter

-Preparing for tough conversations

-Giving yourself grace to get emotional

-Recognizing that we don’t always get closure and justice

-Non-threatening ways of opening up communication

Resources:

-Learn more: The Bliss Project

-Learn more: eventluv.com

-Read: A Tribe Called Bliss

Show Notes:

Time for another Q&A Day with me and Evans! Listen in as we answer questions that you have sent in, and hear our favorite quotes of the moment! In today’s “questionably awesome” episode, Evans and I are talking about communication. 

Review of the Week:

Lindsay Klix

"This is actually my second review for this podcast, my first one was back when it first started and there were only a handful of episodes. This is the first podcast that I began listening to on a regular basis, and every podcast I listen to now, I first heard about here. I always listen while working alone in my pottery studio and in every episode I learn such amazing life lessons, gain inspiration, and have fun and laugh. This right here is what the world needs more of! Thank you Lori, and thank you Evans for giving us all this amazing gift!❤️"

Question 1:

@caitlynjansen

How do you overcome crying when in a serious heated argument with a significant other?

Question 2:

@andi_ruth

How do you know when you need to have a tough conversation vs handling the issue within yourself?

Question 3:

@_hales.yea_

In a "sitdown talk" how do you get them to open up when they never have and just don’t know how to?

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

-Chris and Lori’s Become Aligned course

-Facing rejection 

-Being upfront when we’re dating

-Developing a secure sense of self 

-Releasing pressure to be in a serious relationship by a certain time

-Avoiding the unrealistic expectation that your partner meets all your needs

-Learning how to constructively disagree 

Resources:

-stefanossifandos.com

-stefanossifandos.com/bethequeen

-Instagram: @stefanossifandos

-becomealigned.com

Show Notes:

Stefanos Sifandos started studying relationships because he sucked at them. He was pretending he was faithful, happy and unafraid when the opposite was true. Eventually he got tired of trying to hide his childhood traumas and pain and started to look at every aspect of himself. His own journey sparked questions about healing the planet, and now he merges the best of Eastern and Western philosophies to help others enhance their lives and intimate relationships. 

Question Highlights:

-How did you start to fall in love with the dynamics of relationships?

-How can you attract a partner who’s really in alignment with what you’re doing?

-How do you know what your partner should be to you and what should be being filled by other people?

-How do we release stories and timelines around when we’re supposed to be married or have found a partner?

-What advice do you have for people that want to take a risk but fear they might end up worse off?

-You're about to be married. How do you share your truth with your fiancée, and what does it look like when you fight?

Guest Bio:

Stefanos Sifandos has traversed the depths of his own pain, suicidal thoughts and profound fears and created innovative methodologies and models for navigating the often difficult path of contemporary manhood and intimate relationships. His work merges the best of Eastern and Western philosophies to bring people closer to their potential. On this journey Stefanos has worked with thousands of men and women from all over the world including elite special forces soldiers, Olympic gold medalists and world champion fighters.

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

-Eventluv

-Developing a mindset to live the life you want

-Forgiving other people and yourself

-Getting your power back

Resources:

-Learn more: eventluv.com

-Learn more: The Bliss Project

-Read: A Tribe Called Bliss

Show Notes:

To live the life you want, you have to change your mindset. You have to be able to let go of the things that have happened to you. You have to have the mindset to be able to forgive yourself and others. It’s so easy to self sabotage, to beat yourself up for something you ate or said. If you’re blaming someone else, what would you need to do to start getting your power back? I hope today’s quickie serves as a reminder or way for you to be able to get back to the heart-centered reason of WHY you’re working on your dreams.

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

-Our Thanksgiving plans

-Why change is so hard in the beginning

-How monetizing a passion can make it feel less fun

-People who jump from passion to passion

-The 90-day rule

-Giving yourself the freedom to cancel things

Resources:

-Learn more: The Bliss Project

-Learn more: eventluv.com

-Read: A Tribe Called Bliss

-Watch: Radical Candor

Show Notes:

Time for another Q&A Day with me and Evans! Listen in as we answer questions that you have sent in, and hear our favorite quotes of the moment! In today’s “questionably awesome” episode, Evans and I are talking about ending good things to welcome the great, putting fierce boundaries around your calendar and our favorite ways to practice self-care.

Review of the Week:

Gabs2595

"My daily brew. I have to admit Lori's podcast has transformed my life one podcast at the time. I just wanted to say thank you for reminding me that I can unapologetically be myself day in and day out. I look forward to each Monday, Wednesday and Thursday. Her talks, guest and co-host, Evans, have become part of my morning routine. Again I would EXTREMELY recommend this to anyone. ☺️"

Question 1:@meg_mcbell_

How do you find your passion, and how do you know where to take it from there?

Question 2:

@addiemicaela

How do you know when you start to lose your sense of balance in life, and how do you correct it?

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

-Chris and Lori’s Become Aligned course

-EventLuv

-Annie’s experience of losing her mom in high school

-How her mom fueled her success by cheering her on

-Spending the first year of her marriage unemployed and living at her father-in-law’s

-Moving away from family and friends

-Being bullied at work

-Finding an online business community

-Dedicating your time to the things that fuel you

-Hosting an event where lots of things went wrong

-Testing your business idea before jumping all-in

-Having self-awareness and compassion for others

Resources:

-stylecollective.us 

-anniespano.com

-Instagram: @stylecollective

-Instagram: @annie_spano

-becomealigned.com

-eventluv.com

Show Notes:

In 2015 Annie Spano was lost and depressed because she was being bullied at her corporate job. Then she started blogging and connected with other women bloggers. Having that community made her feel like herself again. She decided to leave her job and create a membership-based blogger tribe for women, Style Collective.  

Question Highlights:

-How did you build a dream when you and your husband were both unemployed? 

-Is it possible for people to figure out what they want if they’re in a bad environment?

-How do you deal when people say you’re selfish for prioritizing your needs?

-What is the worst thing you’ve experienced in business?

-How can people start building a support system from nothing?

-How do you operate from abundance even when people take advantage?

Guest Bio:

Annie Spano is a former math teacher and corporate marketer with a BS in mathematics education and an MBA. She is the Founder of Style Collective, an online supportive community with influencer education that empowers women to find their purpose, be inclusive and achieve success. 

Style Collective was created in reaction to an experience no other woman should ever have. In late 2015, Annie left her job in corporate marketing after being bullied and harassed by another woman in the workplace. The experience left her feeling defeated and emotionally drained. She wished there was a way for women to work together and help each other achieve success. Annie has since made it her mission to empower other women, improve their happiness, and help them achieve their goals through sisterhood and support of a shared passion. Style Collective is the realization of that mission.

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

-EventLuv

-Giving up on martyring yourself

-Taking 100% responsibility for your life

-Moving past trauma

-Giving yourself grace and loving yourself into better decisions

-Asking better questions to get better answers

Resources:

-Learn more: eventluv.com

-Learn more: The Bliss Project

-Read: A Tribe Called Bliss

Show Notes:

Today we are talking about giving yourself what you need. That means giving yourself great questions to solve and forgiving or releasing people who have harmed you so that you can move forward. A lot of us are saying that we feel hopeless or anxious or we don't have the friends or life that we want. But if we ask the right questions, we’ll get better answers, so I’ve put together some questions for you.

1. How are you feeling?
2. What do you need to do to change those feelings?
3. How often do you need to do it?
4. What’s your first step to getting started?
5. How will you make this happen?
6. How long will it take until it becomes a habit?

Promise yourself that you won’t give up until your needs are met. 

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

-Evans’ wedding -- it happened!

-Post-wedding depression -- it’s a thing!

-How having purpose makes us happy

-Scheduling time for your passion

Resources:

-Learn more: The Bliss Project

-Learn more: eventluv.com

-Read: A Tribe Called Bliss

-Read: Maybe You Should Talk To Someone

Show Notes:

Time for another Q&A Day with me and Evans! Listen in as we answer questions that you have sent in, and hear our favorite quotes of the moment! In today’s “questionably awesome” episode, Evans and I are talking about passion. We cover what we’re loving right now, why people who say what they don’t know what their passion is are being kind of lazy and why following your passion is not always super fun.

Review of the Week:

Alli Stewart

Satisfied beyond ultimate satisfaction. When Lori’s Quickies are just as satisfying as her interview based podcasts, your life changes, the heavens open up and your heart and brain align. I cannot get over the way that Lori mixes up what Earn Your Happy provides to listeners. She has something for everyone, even if they are in different seasons of their life. To Lori and Evans, thank you for being the girlfriends, coaches, sisters, and mentors we all need. Xoxo

Question 1:

@mrs.christinaricks

How in the heckenbob do you actually figure out what your passion is?!

Question 2:

@chelsey.bird

Lori and Evans, what are you passionate about right now?

Question 3:

@klintner

How do you keep your passion moving in a forward direction without letting little distractions detour you?

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

-Chris and Lori’s Become Aligned course

-EventLuv

-How being an author in 2019 is really five jobs in one

-The third door to success

-Avoiding the comparison spiral

-Giving yourself permission to be mindfully angry 

-Being a work in progress

-The lessons of betrayal

-Letting people show you who they are

Resources:

-becomealigned.com

-eventluv.com

-Twitter: @AlexBanayan

-Facebook: @AlexBanayan

-Instagram: @alexbanayan

-The Third Door: The Wild Quest to Uncover How the World’s Most Successful People Launched Their Careers

Show Notes:

Author of The Third Door Alex Banayan returns to the podcast to talk about what his life has been like since his book came out. In this conversation we don’t just cover the positive aspects of his success. We also go deep into pain, betrayal and anger, and the lessons we can draw from them. 

Question Highlights:

• How do you get your book out there once it’s written? 
• What is one of the biggest lessons that you've extracted from pushing something out into the world that has been such a labor of love? 
• How do you manage your mindset when things aren’t looking perfect?
• How do you deal with things that feel incomplete and are never going to feel right to you?
• How do you balance the desire to not offend and disappoint but also own who you are and where you've come from?
• How do you learn to walk away and know that you can’t fix a relationships?

Guest Bio:

Alex Banayan is the only nationally bestselling business author under 30 in America. His book The Third Door: The Wild Quest to Uncover How the World’s Most Successful People Launched Their Careers has been translated into more than a dozen languages. Over the course of his unprecedented seven-year journey, Banayan interviewed the most innovative leaders of the past half-century, including Bill Gates, Lady Gaga, Larry King, Maya Angelou, Steve Wozniak, Jane Goodall, Jessica Alba, Quincy Jones, and more.

The day before his freshman-year final exams Banayan hacked The Price is Right, won a sailboat, sold it, and used the money to fund his larger-than-life adventure. Since then, Banayan has been named to Forbes’ 30 Under 30 list, Business Insider’s Most Powerful People Under 30, and has been featured in major media, including The Washington Post, Fortune, CNBC, MSNBC, Fox News, and NBC News. An acclaimed keynote speaker, Banayan has presented the Third Door framework to business conferences and corporate leadership teams around the world, including Apple, Google, Nike, IBM, Snapchat, Salesforce and Disney.