Have you ever wondered why you lose it sometimes, and say things you regret later? Or why you get to a certain point where you just cannot talk anymore, and shut down? These are both examples of emotional flooding: Lashing out and withdrawing are two sides of the same coin. Both can be disastrous for your relationship. On today’s episode we’re talking about the reality of emotional flooding, and how to manage it effectively when you’re “coming in hot.”  Join me! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

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How do you have a healthy sexual relationship with your partner after the trauma of infidelity? It's possible, and in fact, going through the process of healing your relationship together can bring you closer in unexpected ways.  But the road to recovery is not an easy one, especially when it comes to sex. Many couples struggle to heal, reconnect, and feel safe again after feeling violated by an affair. But there is a path to repair — for your relationship and your sex life — and that's what we're talking about on today's episode.  Tune in to learn about:   04:32  The Mental and Emotional Well-being of the Injured Party 06:00  Moving Through a Structured Healing Process 07:51  Stages of Sex After Infidelity 12:34  Managing Trauma Triggers During Sexual Encounters 19:16  The Desire for Detailed Sexual Information 29:45  Positive Growth and Conversations About Sexuality 34:37  Educating Yourself and Making Informed Decisions  And more. If you are struggling with sex after infidelity, I hope this episode gives you hope and direction. You deserve it.    xoxo,    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby    P.S. — Want support with healing from infidelity? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

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Are you tired of all the drama that surrounds money conversations in your relationship? This is an issue that so many couples deal with. Money is a highly emotional topic, and it can be very triggering, especially when we don't feel respected or understood.  It takes a high degree of empathy and intention to communicate about a hot-button topic like money and create a financial plan with your partner that both of you can feel good about. But that is a key to long-term success and satisfaction in your relationship.  On today's episode, I'm going to tell you how to talk about money without fighting, so you and your partner can get on the same page and grow together in both money and love. Tune in to learn about:   01:30 The Root Cause of Money Fights in Relationships 03:26 Money as a Symbol of Deeper Problems 04:47 The Emotional Significance of Money 07:39 Respecting Differences Around Money 08:05 The Limitations of Standard Advice 12:50 The Rider and the Elephant Metaphor 16:33 The Structured Process of Financial Counseling 18:39 Unpacking the History and Family Culture Around Money 19:37 Understanding the Value Systems Attached to Money 24:22 Creating a Shared Vision for Managing Finances 26:44 Talking About Finances Productively  And more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll find this episode helpful.  xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. — If you'd like support from an expert couples counselor specializing in financial counseling for couples, schedule a free consultation.   

#402 - How to Talk to Your Partner About Money, Without Fighting!

Introverts are the unsung heroes of the workplace. They're thoughtful, analytical, and they excel at working independently. Still, if you have an introverted personality type, getting ahead at work can be a challenge. This podcast episode is going to tell you how to leverage your introvert superpowers (because I promise, you have them) and WIN in the workplace as an introvert.  Although introverts can be assets to a team, they struggle with visibility. They may hesitate to speak up in meetings and spend lunch hours munching a salad in their car rather than socializing with coworkers. Unfortunately, upper management might mistake your introverted personality for disengagement or even disagreeableness. But there are steps you can take to make your voice heard, highlight your accomplishments, and connect with your colleagues, all while staying true to YOU.  Tune in to learn about:   05:42  Career Paths for Introverts   09:21 Tapping into Your Introvert Superpower   12:09 Signs of a Mismatched Career   16:23 The Impact of Negative Feedback    21:40 Finding Balance as an Introvert   24:19 Why Introverts Kick a$$ in the Workplace   26:30 The Value of Introverted Leaders   30:05 How to Step  Out of Your Comfort Zone   31:29  Self-Acceptance vs. Functioning in the World   38:23 Normalizing the Introvert Experience    And more! I hope you'll join me and my Growing Self colleague Susan for this conversation! She's an experienced career counselor and she has so many excellent career tips for introverts that you won't want to miss!  All of that and more on today's show! xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. — If you want support building a thriving career, schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

#401 - How Introverts Can Win in the Workplace

Do you want to feel happier, have more success, and live your full potential? The key is your mindset. Specifically, whether you've cultivated an abundance mindset, or whether you're living with a scarcity mindset. On this week's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, we're talking about what the abundance mindset is, and how you can put it to work for you in every domain of life.  When you have an abundance mindset, you see possibilities everywhere you look. You're aware of your incredible power to make good things happen in your life, and you can maintain motivation to work toward your goals because you know you're ultimately bound to succeed.  But many of us get stuck in a scarcity mindest, or believing that your opportunities to create the life you want are limited. This mindset makes obstacles feel insurmountable, and keeps you from being and having everything you're capable of.  You deserve better! Tune in to this episode to learn how to shake off your sense of scarcity (which you may not even be aware of) and start embracing an abundant life.  You'll learn:  00:00 What Is an Abundance Mindset? 05:08 Why Mindset Matters 09:44 The Abundance Mindset vs Scarcity Mindset 13:06 Abundance Mindset in the Workplace 20:01 Abundance Mindset and Money 23:14 Abundance Mindset in Relationships 29:07 Internal Benefits of Abundance Mindset 32:00 Developing an Abundance Mindset 37:21 Challenging Your Perspective  And so much more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll find this episode helpful.  xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. — Want support in radically shifting your mindset and getting more out of life? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

#400 - Mindset: How to Live an Abundant Life

We all inherit some baggage from our families of origin — and often, we don't even realize we're carrying it! On today's episode, I'm talking about how you can explore the intergenerational cycles that may be holding you back, and then make some intentional choices about what you want to keep, and what you want to leave behind.  Breaking generational cycles is a self-affirming process. It frees you from ways of thinking and behaving that may have felt like "just the way things are," and allows you to become who you truly are at your core. And if you're parent, breaking generational cycles can be even more important, because it spares your kids from inheriting the junk that's weighing you down.  Tune in to learn all about how this works, including:   06:35  What Are Intergenerational Patterns? 09:49  Recognizing Your Patterns and Making Changes 21:22  Getting Help with Deeply Engrained Patterns 25:30  Emotional Intelligence and Generational Cycles 32:06 The Value of  Structured Emotional Intelligence Work  And more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll feel inspired to break through the patterns that are no longer serving you, so you can start a positive new chapter.    xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby    P.S. — Want help with breaking generational cycles? Schedule a free consulation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/

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