Enough, the Podcast

Monique DeBose is a transformational entertainer. What's that, you ask?

Well, she writes music, plays, and creates courses for women that change lives. I daresay she'll have that effect on you in this podcast episode too.

We meander into all kinds of provocative places as we unpack how Monique's good girl conditioning has infiltrated her life, right down to what she thinks about going into a store, to how she mothers her sons.

She shares generously about her own experience, as a woman of color, of how she's moving out of good girl, and into sovereign woman.

How? Monique is a big believer in finding a safe, supportive community during your transformative process. She also gives us a powerful exercise to start clearing our "want" and "desire" pipes. The flow in those "want" pipes is often clogged in women with good girl conditioning.

Oh, and I've woven in some music from Monique's new album, You Are The Sovereign One, to make this podcast even more transformational and experiential.

Ready to step into sovereign woman? Press play and join us…

Monique's Course: https://www.moniquedebosemusic.com/sovereign

Monique's website: https://www.moniquedebosemusic.com

Nova Reid's book, The Good Ally: https://novareid.com

The lack of sleep is a crazy-making thing, especially if you're a woman of a certain age.

It worsens anxiety and ruminating thoughts – like, "I need to get a grip."

Which pushes you to work even harder to avoid the chaos of uncompleted to-do lists, meaning you end up ratty and radioactive, not to mention over-caffeinated till the nightly wine brings you down again.

Then heap on the pandemic and Zoom fatigue.

Doesn't bode well, does it?

If this sounds familiar, there's help.

Dr Bella Smith is back for a 20-minute bonus episode, specifically for peri- and menopausal women and sleep. Or lack thereof.

She explains why we're vulnerable to sleep disruption during the "perfect storm" of peri-menopause.

She gives us tips from a GP, and shares what to try if you are utterly desperate with sleeplessness.

It's not you, it's your hormones.

Get a blankie and press play.

Dr Bella Smith on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thewell_hq/

The pandemic has had a disproportionate impact on women. The majority are overwhelmed, exhausted and zombie-walking through the blur work and home, now a boundary-less mush. Maybe self-care has dropped off. Maybe your sleep and hormones are out of whack.

Women are more at risk than ever for declining mental health and burnout.

Enter Dr Bella Smith, a GP with more than 2 decades of experience in the National Health Service.

We talk symptoms of burnout (such a slippery fish, this one). She shares the fascinating hormonal angle, which I didn't have on the radar when I skidded into my own burnout.

It's time to change those ingrained scripts of perfectionism and overachieving and become better advocates for our precious bodies. We've got nowhere else to live. It's time to own that reality.

Bella takes us behind the GP's curtain of how she, as a mom with a big, stressful job, creates boundaries that keep her out of burnout. You need to know this.

Hit play. Your wellbeing will thank you.

Dr Bella Smith on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedigitalgp/

The Well HQ wellness website: https://www.instagram.com/thewell_hq/

Psst…listen up.

You might think that successful folks who appear smugly (nay, gloriously) comfortable in their own skin, have somehow either:

• By-passed the squinchy not-enoughness that the rest of us stew in;

OR

• Have found the holy grail, the tidy ten-step plan to free themselves from their supposed inadequacy.

If you've ever scratched your head and wondered, "Hmm, how does someone actually 'do the inner work?'", today's episode is a peek behind the curtain. Enoughness isn't bestowed on us. It's something we choose, sometimes moment by moment. It's how we create ourselves.

Shelley Paxton had a stellar corporate career, including a global role at Harley-Davidson.

She went onto start the Soulbbatical movement (more later), wrote a best-selling book, and makes massive impact in the world. To boot, she has the coolest urban/industrial loft apartment.

Is super successful Shelley free of miserable, less-than moments? Nope.

We talk about the real-time becoming of our next-level selves. Shedding. Stripping down. Catching ourselves falling into old beliefs, and how we fish ourselves out.

This episode is deliciously conversational, and I think you'll find your shoulders dropping two inches by the end.

Hit play. See you on the other side…

Shelley Paxton on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/soulbbatical/

On LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shelley-paxton-759163/

Website: https://soulbbatical.com

Mandy on Shelley's podcast: https://soulbbatical.com/rebel-souls/quit-overachieving-and-quiet-your-inner-ahole-with-mandy-lehto/

How does not-enoughness manifest for men?

How might perfectionism and the pressures to appear a certain way be even more challenging during a pandemic?

And what's possible for men's mental health in a post-pandemic world?

I wanted to have this urgent conversation because the current statistics on men's mental health and suicide rates are both staggering and heart breaking.

Today's guest is Addison Brasil, men's mental health advocate, and cofounder of Tethr, a men's mental health and wellbeing app that's focused on peer support.

This is a timely, necessary conversation whether you're a man feeling the pressures of life in extended lockdown, or whether you want to be a better ally to the men in your life.

This episode is also radically practical, as Addison shares insights and ideas from his own lived experience, and from the thousands-strong online community that he helps to support.

We talk perfectionism, grief (wowzers, this bit!), and daily emotional fitness. Provocative, helpful, practical.

Let's go!

Addison Brasil on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/addisonbrasil/

Tethr on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tethrformen/

Tethr website: https://www.tethr.men

Can you love yourself when you no longer relate to yourself?

Maybe a big life event – a redundancy, a divorce, an illness, or an accident – has changed how you feel in your own skin.

You know that you're unlikely to get back to the "old you," which is hard to accept. #somuchrage

So, you're in this fog, thinking, "Well fug, I didn't expect my life to turn out like this."

How do you surrender to a new reality that you never wanted?

How do you move forward?

Can you ever thrive again?

Catherine Kell was at the top of her corporate career game when her life went badly wrong. She was unable to walk, and was in constant pain. She wished she hadn't survived.

This is a raw, relatable, life-affirming story of how you can learn radical self-compassion.

And even if your life hasn't been upended, Catherine's practical teachings on being less of a jerk to yourself is a balm.

Need another reason to listen?

Two words: Scottish accent.

You're welcome.

Hit play and join us.

Catherine on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/selfcompassioncommunity/

Does shame run your life?

Jen Pastiloff is the best-selling author of On Being Human: A Memoir of Waking Up, Living Real, and Listening Hard.

For years, Jen stuffed down shame around her body, her hearing loss, her depression and anxiety. When she stopped denying her challenges, something wonderful happened. Folks responded to her authenticity.

Nowadays, Jen's real. Like unapologetically real. You'll find her on Instagram creating art and doing compassionate acts for other humans – sometimes with spinach in her teeth, and in the same yoga clothes she's worn for days.

She refuses to be shackled by shame. And she'll show you how to free yourself too.

You'll learn some of the rituals she teaches in her popular workshops, including her morning prayer, and how you can let yourself off the hook before bed, "in case you ended up being a dick today."

Inspiring and radically practical. Hit play and grab your cuppa.

Jen Pastiloff on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenpastiloff/

Her website: https://jenniferpastiloff.com

Abbey Gibb had her own TV show, a Chanel purse, a walk-in wardrobe, a door man. But inside, she was miserable.

Abbey is an Emmy winning journalist, two-time TEDx speaker, business and media mentor, and host of the Full Body F*ck Yes podcast.

We have a raw, deeply honest conversation about coming back to ourselves after years of "performing" perfection (for TV, for lovers, for life…)

She shares how she "finally buried her last fuck, and created strong boundaries," and now feels present in her own body. It's powerful. Really powerful.

This ain't your usual kind of episode. It's a conversation, not an interview. It's sweary. We talk sex and drugs – amongst other things. I cry-laugh at her Cowboy Lawyer story (don't we all have one of these in our history?)

This episode defies bullet-pointing.

Grab your earphones and hit play. I'll meet you there.

Abbey Gibb on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbeygibb/

The Full Body F*ck Yes Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/full-body-f-ck-yes/id1572880788

Ahh perfectionism, that crafty distraction from all the yucky feelings bubbling under the surface…

Perfectionism has also been a handy survival strategy, am I right?

But you're here because it's time to part ways.

Perfectionism is like an ultra-high-maintenance partner, filing its nails, always underwhelmed and critical. Never an encouraging word. Cuts you zero slack.

Exhausted much?

You're in luck. Today's guest is Sarah Normandin, the Imperfection Specialist.

She puts her therapist and coach hats on and teaches us how to change our relationship with perfectionism.

• We get stoned (not what you think, sorry…)
• We talk mantras while vacuuming
• We think about what a lovey-dovey auntie said about you (or a beloved teacher, perhaps)

Grab your cuppa and join us…

http://www.sarahnormandin.com

https://www.instagram.com/sarahnormandinmsw/

Knackered and overwhelmed? Maybe your sleep is rubbish. You're fried and don't know how to fix it. If this sounds familiar, this week's episode will be a tonic.

Farzanah Nasser, nutritional therapist and functional medicine expert, explains what's going on inside your body when you feel frazzled. Your heroic little adrenal glands are probably taking the brunt of it.

So what can you do?

In this episode, you'll learn practical (and fascinating) ways to improve your sleep – which really is a power tool.

You'll get immediately actionable ways to support your nervous system, and learn how to tonify your vagus nerve (even if you don't know what that is yet…)

Your adrenal glands are encouraging you to join us.

Find Farzanah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/farzanahnasser_nutrition/

And on her website: https://www.farzanahnasser.com