Enough, the Podcast

You're setting more boundaries. You're using your voice more than ever before. Something's rising inside of you.

But setting boundaries and standing in your power challenges existing dynamics – meaning not everyone's going to be delighted by your new-found voice.

How do we build that inner robustness as we start speaking more of our truth? — especially with the inevitable criticism, conflict and occasional meanness that'll happen.

How do we start building our capacity to hold not being liked or agreed with? — especially if this is what you've been encouraged to do since childhood.

In this solo episode, I invite you to consider why you might hesitate to speak up in the first place. I also share a practice you can try when you're in a situation that feels challenging.

Practical and immediately implementable. Join us!

Tara Brach's book, Radical Acceptance.

Kasia Urbaniak's book, Unbound: A Woman's Guide to Power.

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

If you've ever been told something unkind, and it still replays in your head years later, this episode is for you.

Maybe you internalized someone's rude comment about your nose being too big, and ever since that, it's something you secretly fixate on.

Or maybe someone did something to you, and you've carried that painful experience because you didn't know how to stand up for yourself.

So, you're holding the shame around it, not knowing why – or how to dislodge it. You might be wondering, how did this become MY problem to hold?

This conversation explores why those hurtful words and experiences stick, particularly if you've grown up not feeling good enough. My favourite part is what we can do to heal and release those hurts.

I'm in conversation with Sara Milne Rowe, author, podcaster and performance coach.

We get real about the verbal sticks and stones that've been hurled at us — and how we're finally choosing to release them.

Gritty, honest, and freeing. Join us.

Sara's website: https://www.coachingimpact.co.uk/who-we-are

Sara's podcast: https://www.coachingimpact.co.uk/better-under-pressure

Dr Caroline Leaf on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/CjVLSbULpnb/

Are you scared of being "ordinary"? — as if that relegates you to the dull, low-achieving, not-living-life-to-the full bucket.

Or maybe you're afraid of failing, so you only do things you're already good at. You'd love to take more risks, but only if you don't look bad.

Or maybe you're scared of really shining bright, because that would mean you're a bit full of yourself. So, you dim your light and play it safe.

If any of these conundrums have you nodding, you're in the right place. I'm doing a Q&A with author and clinical psychologist, Michaela Thomas.

Michaela specialises in perfectionism and helping busy, stressed-out people find balance over burnout. She also runs the Pause Purpose Play podcast.

You'll learn where the pressure to be extraordinary can come from.

You'll learn techniques to take the sting out of failure.

And you'll consider if you're dimming your light with your accomplishments, even if you are pushing so hard for success.

Join us! Practical and pacey. Michaela is a real delight.

Michaela Thomas' website: https://thethomasconnection.co.uk

Michaela on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_thomas_connection/

Cristiano Ronaldo video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8H_DSErYUZk

Catherine Gray's book: https://www.amazon.com/Unexpected-Joy-Ordinary-Catherine-Gray/dp/1783253371/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1664287683&sr=8-4

Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: https://www.amazon.com/Big-Leap-Conquer-Hidden-Level/dp/0061735361/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1664207990&sr=8-1

Quiz on Mandy's website: https://mandylehto.com/quiz-waiting-for-the-other-shoe-to-drop/

Me on Michaela's podcast: https://thethomasconnection.podbean.com/e/overcoming-perfectionism-with-mandy-lehto/

You're someone who holds yourself to ridiculously high standards, and there's a weird sort of pride in that. You're known for going the extra mile. It's helped to make you successful.

What happens when the ideals that you hold yourself to become unsustainable? How do you reconcile the very human feelings that you're experiencing with the image of who you think you have to be?

Today's guest is author and psychotherapist Anna Mathur. She has featured in the Daily Telegraph, Marie Claire, Stylist, Mother and Baby, and on BBC Radio 4's Women's Hour, amongst others. Her most recent book is The Little Book of Calm for Mums.

We do touch on parenthood, but this episode is much wider.

You'll learn about self-acceptance. It sounds so unsexy, I know. Sorry 'bout that. AND I think you're really doing to dig Anna's take on this.

You'll learn about the Fish Oil Burp Effect, a new term we coined — that alone is worth listening for.

And you'll learn two tools that'll help if you struggle with the impeccable standards that you set for yourself.

Anna's funny, relatable, and wise. Join us!

Anna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annamathur/

Anna's website: https://www.annamathur.com

The Serenity Prayer:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference.

Do you ever notice that you're completely clenched up? As in, your neck has gone missing. Your jaw is a vice grip.

What IS it about the neck and jaw area? And I'm curious if this part of the body might be particularly "clenchy" for people with tendencies towards perfectionism and people pleasing.

Is this area a proverbial lint trap for all the things we don't say, for fear of confrontation or being disliked?

My guest for this exploration is Dominique Antiglio, an acclaimed Sophrologist, best-selling author of "The Life-Changing Power of Sophrology", and Founder of leading online Sophrology platform, BeSophro. She's a regular speaker for Amazon, Asics, the World Economic Forum, the UK government, and gives master classes to the Soho House, Lululemon and many others.

You'll learn why we tend to hold tension in the jaw and neck area, and some brilliant techniques to unclench.

Oh! There's also a cameo with a special guest.

Punchy, practical and jaw-changing. Join us!

Dominique Antiglio's website: https://be-sophro.com/about-dominique/

Dominque on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/besophrolondon/

Suzy Reading's website: https://www.suzyreading.co.uk

Suzy Reading on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suzyreading/

Julie Peters' article: https://www.spiritualityhealth.com/the-spiritual-meaning-of-jaw-pain

Bessel van der Kolk's book: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=sr_1_2?crid=8RQYLPDG2IHJ&keywords=bessel+van+der+kolk%27s+the+body+keeps+the+score&qid=1661101611&sprefix=bessel%2Caps%2C178&sr=8-2

Mandy Lehto on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandylehto/

Today's episode is a practical, fast-paced conversation about how to raise daughters who know how to be with their emotions. Maybe you were discouraged as a child from being angry, and were told things like, "Calm down" or "that's not very lady-like" or "good girls don't behave like that." My hope is that with more awareness, we can help to raise a generation of girls who self-advocate and speak up.

My guest today is Natalie Costa, speaker, coach and author and founder of Power Thoughts, a coaching service designed to give kids power over their own thoughts. She's featured in the Sunday Times, the Telegraph, Good Morning Britain, and BBC Breakfast, amongst others.

You'll learn a brilliant technique that'll help your kids to see that they are not their emotions (works on all genders – and try it as a grown up too).

You'll learn to help your girls to build their assertiveness and boundary-setting muscle – and that might get a little uncomfortable. But it's worth it.

Join us!

Natalie Costa's website: https://www.powerthoughts.co.uk

Natalie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/powerthoughtsnc/

You work for a challenging boss, and you're struggling. You've tried working harder. You've tried working smarter. But you're still feeling undermined, angry, and your self-belief is taking a nose-dive. As someone who "gets things right", you just can't figure this situation out – and secretly, it's unravelling you.

Enter Dr Laura Crawshaw. She's been researching and coaching abrasive leaders for more than 40 years. She's the author of Taming the Abrasive Manager: How to End Unnecessary Roughness in the Workplace, and her clients range from the UN to NASA.

We get to grips with the following:

If someone's already hard on themselves, are they more susceptible to the damage an abrasive leader can cause?

You'll learn about what the abrasive leader is usually afraid of (erm…YOU!).

You'll learn how to avoid the "boiling-the-frog effect" that makes the dynamic with an abrasive boss especially insidious.

Practical and provocative, you'll get tools (and relief) from Dr Laura. Press play – let's go!

www.whisperingfortheworkingwounded.org

Laura Crawshaw's website https://www.bosswhispering.com

Laura on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/bosswhispering/

Megan Carle's website https://www.megancarle.com

Megan Carle on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/megan-carle/

Let's get real about your relationship with work. You're praised for your stellar work ethic and revered for your awe-inspiring wins. But there's a dark side to achieving that no one talks about. This episode probes that space.

My guest is Dr Mark Goulston, a former professor of psychiatry at UCLA for 25 years, who also trained FBI and police in hostage negotiation. He's written nine books and has featured as a behavioural expert in The New York Times, Oprah, The Wall Street Journal. Mark is also the inventor of Surgical Empathy, a process that unlocks and frees people from attachment to dysfunctional mindsets.

You'll learn where addiction achievement might come from – something Mark calls 'psychological adhesions.'

You'll also learn how to apply Surgical Empathy to yourself with a delightfully unorthodox tool -- which works, I've been trying it!

This conversation is intelligent, tender, and radically practical.

Join us.

Sidebar: Not sure if you might have achievement addiction? I'm not sure any online test can definitely answer that (always seek professional help), but the link below can get you thinking.

Do you have achievement addiction? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201511/are-you-achievement-addicted-person

Dr Mark Goulston's website: https://markgoulston.com/about/

My Wake Up Call podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/my-wakeup-call-with-dr-mark-goulston/id1439752757

Emmy Brunner's book: https://www.amazon.com/Find-Your-True-Voice/dp/0241474531/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1656532862&sr=8-1

It's hard to be playful when you feel the need to get things right.

And yet, deep down, you'd love to lighten up. But it's not that simple, is it? What if you try telling a joke, or striking up a social conversation, and it pancakes? The fear of looking stupid is kryptonite to levity.

Fear not! I've called in the magical unicorns of playfulness (AND they're both highly accomplished in serious things as well – go figure!)

Meet Em Stroud, professional clown, coach, MC, TedX speaker, host of the top-rated podcast, Clowning Around, and author of Lessons from a Clown. She's also the founder of the Laugh, Think, Play movement.

Guest number two is Jason Goldberg, performance and leadership coach for celebrities, change-makers and CEOs. He's the best-selling author of Prison Break: Vanquish the Victim, own your obstacles, and lead your life, and the host of the Jason Goldberg is Ruining Podcasting Podcast. Oh, and he's shared his ha-ha's and AHA's on major international stages, including Mindvalley.

Em and Jason share their refreshing perspectives on how you can lighten up a little. Practical, deep, and deliciously light-hearted. Join us.

Em Stroud's website: https://emmastroud.london

Clowning Around podcast: https://emmastroud.london/clowning-around-podcast/

Jason Goldberg's website: https://thejasongoldberg.com

Jason Goldberg is ruining podcasting: https://thejasongoldberg.com/thepodcast/

Welcome to the SCAM SHOW, a special edition of Enough, the podcast. In this solo episode, I'm talking about the scams that are shrinking down your joy, self-worth, and sense of possibility till your life is so teeny weeny that it fits inside of a match box.

What are scams, you ask? They're the beliefs that you've internalized over the years, that feel like the TRUTH – but they're anything but.

These beliefs have scammed you, and we're busting free (or at least getting free-er) in this episode.

You'll hear three of the scammiest scams on my list, including I AM NOT ALLOWED TO FAIL, and learn what you can do about your own.

Light-hearted with a powerful message. Join us.

Brianna Wiest's book: https://www.amazon.com/When-Youre-Ready-This-Heal/dp/194975944X/ref=sr_1_3?crid=1PDPZHBZE6YBN&keywords=briana+wiest&qid=1653853577&sprefix=Briana%2Caps%2C134&sr=8-3