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From Micro-Betrayals to Emotional Neglect in your Marriage - with Matthew Fray


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In this episode, I sit down with Matthew Fray, a relationship coach and author of "This is How Your Marriage Ends". He leans on the lessons of his failed marriage and divorce to help others avoid making the same mistakes he did.    


Together, we discuss the importance of mindful validation and communication in marriages. He shares his insights on how small actions can lead to bigger messages and the impact of emotional neglect and micro-betrayals in relationships. Matthew also shares tips on how to embrace uncomfortable conversations and work towards conflict resolution in a marriage. 

  

In this episode, we discuss: 

  • The common struggle between communication and validation when there is a problem  
  • Inadvertently delivering a message through small actions and the long term effects  
  • How to get over your defensive and invalidating tendencies  
  • Mindful validation during disagreements can help couples work through conflicts  
  • How our relationships often reflect the stuff we are working through  
  • The key to working towards conflict resolution is leaning into discomfort and embracing uncomfortable conversations 
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