Today's guest is Julie Cluff, a hope and grief coach, who shares her profound journey of loss and transformation after the tragic death of her two children in a car accident. Julie discusses the impact of grief, the importance of self-compassion, and the process of reclaiming joy after loss. She emphasizes the significance of sharing our stories and the potential for generational healing through personal growth. The conversation highlights the challenges of navigating grief and the transformative power of embracing our experiences to foster healing and connection.

Key Takeaways:

• The hardest things can lead to profound transformation.
• Grief is a complex journey that requires time and compassion.
• Self-compassion is crucial in the healing process.
• Finding joy again is a relearning process after loss.
• Sharing our stories can inspire and help others heal.
• Generational healing can occur through personal growth and self-love.
• Pain often drives us to seek help and change our lives.
• Healing is not linear; it involves ups and downs.
• We can reclaim our space and redefine our relationship with grief.
• Transformation requires us to build a new foundation after loss.

More from Julie:

After losing my brother John to suicide and going through a painful divorce, I was left to pick up the pieces with my three young children. I remarried and following the births of three more children, my husband Ron and I built a remarkable life together blending our beautiful family with our six children.

Then on Mother’s Day, May 13, 2007, tragedy entered our life once again when our two youngest children, Carrie (10) and David (8) were killed in a car accident. For three years, I experienced profound, unimaginable grief. The pain was incomprehensible. However, in May 2010, my soul awakened to the beauty of life, and my life was transformed overnight as the miracle of healing entered my being.

Through my personal healing experiences with spiritual guidance to share my story to help others, I developed the Build a Life After Loss podcast and programs, including the HOPE Model of Healing. Over the years, following these painful losses, I learned to communicate with my brother and children beyond the veil. I have often felt like I live in two worlds – the physical and the spiritual. As I worked with many grief clients I often felt their departed loved ones assisting in bringing love and light to their family members during our sessions.

Then one summer day in 2020 in a remarkable moment I unexpectedly felt the distinct presence of a friend’s son who had recently passed away. Not knowing what else to do I wrote down the messages that I was receiving from him and later shared those messages with his mother. These extraordinary experiences kept happening as I felt the presence of angels, spirit guides and loved ones leading the sessions with clients.

I am forever grateful for the opportunity to bring this love and light to my clients as a spiritual guide between worlds. In addition to training and many years of experience in life and grief coaching, I am trained in energy work, angel readings, religious trauma, reiki, mediumship, EFT tapping, astrology, human design, and more. As we work together, I look forward to customizing a coaching experience specifically for you.

To learn more from Julie:

• Website: http://juliecluff.com/
• Website: http://buildalifeafterloss.com/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/buildalifeafterloss
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliecluffcoaching/
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@juliecluffcoaching

More from me:

• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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Today we're going to stop reacting and start leading. Let's talk about the importance of moving from a reactive state to a proactive one in relationships, especially after infidelity. We'll discuss the need for self-leadership, the power of pausing before responding, and the significance of understanding one's triggers.

Key Takeaways:

• Reacting to a partner's choices gives them power over you.
• Responding from strength leads to clarity and control.
• Jumping to conclusions can be dangerous and unproductive.
• Emotional outbursts often stem from a place of fear.
• Making decisions based on a partner's mood undermines your values.
• The power of the pause can transform your responses.
• Self-leadership shifts the power dynamic in relationships.
• Understanding your triggers is key to personal growth.
• Healthy relationships require mutual validation, not begging for it.
• Commit to leading yourself first to foster personal empowerment.

More from me:

• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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Today we discuss the essential process of self-repair after experiencing betrayal with an emphasis on the importance of focusing on your relationship with yourself rather than solely on repairing the relationship with your partner. We explore how infidelity can shatter self-trust, the urgency of self-repair, and practical steps to rebuild self-trust, set boundaries, and engage from a place of choice. Ultimately, the episode highlights that true healing begins with you and that nurturing a strong relationship with yourself leads to healthier external relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Self-repair is often neglected after infidelity.
• Healing the relationship with yourself is crucial.
• Infidelity can lead to a deep rupture in self-trust.
• Many focus on repairing the relationship first due to urgency.
• Self-repair involves rebuilding self-trust and listening to intuition.
• Setting boundaries is essential for self-care.
• Engaging from a place of choice enhances relationships.
• The stronger your self-relationship, the better your external relationships.
• Healing starts with individual actions and self-awareness.
• Knowing oneself intimately is invaluable for personal growth.

More from me:

• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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Today we explore the critical importance of investing in oneself for healing and personal growth after infidelity. Those who commit financially and emotionally to their healing journey tend to see the most significant transformations. We address some common objections to investing in oneself, the concept of money as an energetic exchange, the high costs associated with remaining stuck in unhealthy patterns and the impact of personal healing on future generations.

Key Takeaways:

• Healing from infidelity requires courage and self-discovery.
• Personal growth often involves stepping out of comfort zones.
• Choosing how to respond to challenges is crucial for growth.
• Micro choices can significantly impact emotional resilience.
• Feeling pressured can hinder personal progress.
• It's essential to take ownership of one's healing journey.
• Difficult conversations can lead to personal empowerment.
• Learning new skills can enhance confidence and self-esteem.
• Embracing challenges can broaden one's horizons.
• Repairing relationships starts with self-awareness and choice.

More from me:

• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Get on my email list here: https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/z9q3x1
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, we discuss the journey of healing from infidelity through personal growth and empowerment. Using a skiing experience as a metaphor, I emphasize the importance of making conscious choices in response to challenges and triggers. The episode highlights the significance of micro choices in shaping our emotional responses and the power of taking ownership of our healing journey.

Key Takeaways:

• Healing from infidelity requires courage and self-discovery.
• Personal growth often involves stepping out of comfort zones.
• Choosing how to respond to challenges is crucial for growth.
• Micro choices can significantly impact emotional resilience.
• Feeling pressured can hinder personal progress.
• It's essential to take ownership of one's healing journey.
• Difficult conversations can lead to personal empowerment.
• Learning new skills can enhance confidence and self-esteem.
• Embracing challenges can broaden one's horizons.
• Repairing relationships starts with self-awareness and choice.

Join me on February 11th, I'm hosting an all-day virtual retreat called "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity." It's going to be from 9 am to 4 pm MT all online with amazing content and amazing guests. Come learn how to get out of your own way - how to stop self-sabotaging, how to let go of the painful stories that continue to hurt you so that you can call in the things that you really need. Get access for this day, and you also get access to a call replay. So if you can't come to the whole call, you will have access to the replay and can watch it later. Get in here! https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9wXtaLU6/checkout

More from me:

• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, we explore the critical differences between healthy love and love addiction. We discuss the emotional dependencies that characterize love addiction, the signs to recognize it, and the traits of healthy love. The conversation delves into the root causes of love addiction, including unresolved childhood wounds and attachment styles, and offers practical steps for healing and cultivating healthy relationships. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, emotional independence, and the need for mutual respect and growth in relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Healthy love is about mutual respect and emotional security.
• Love addiction often involves prioritizing the relationship over self-respect.
• Signs of love addiction include intense anxiety and worthlessness when alone.
• Healthy love allows for individuality and personal boundaries.
• Unresolved childhood wounds can lead to love addiction.
• Awareness and acceptance are the first steps to healing.
• Cultivating a fulfilling life outside of relationships is essential.
• Setting boundaries is crucial for healthy relationships.
• Love addiction is rooted in fear and compulsion.
• You deserve love that feels steady and secure.

More from me:

• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, we discuss the importance of self-leadership in the healing process after infidelity. Self-leadership involves taking responsibility for one's thoughts, emotions, and actions, which can significantly influence relationships. We cover various aspects of self-leadership, including emotional regulation, integrity, accountability, setting boundaries, and the ripple effect of personal growth. Reflect on your control, set intentions, and seek support as you navigate your healing journey.

Key Takeaways:

• Self-leadership is crucial for personal growth after infidelity.
• Emotional regulation is key to fostering trust in relationships.
• Living with integrity inspires others and builds credibility.
• Setting healthy boundaries is essential for effective communication.
• Vulnerability is necessary for authentic connection.
• The ripple effect of self-leadership can influence future relationships.
• Reflecting on control helps in managing emotions and actions.
• Daily intentions can guide personal behavior and choices.
• Support systems are vital for deeper self-leadership.
• Leading yourself forward is a continuous journey of growth.

More from me:

• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, we look at the concepts of transactional versus generous giving in relationships, particularly in the context of healing after infidelity. We discuss the motivations behind giving, the emotional toll of transactional giving, and the importance of genuine generosity without expectations. The episode emphasizes the need for self-awareness and communication in rebuilding trust and intimacy after betrayal.

Key Takeaways:

• Transactional giving seeks control or an outcome.
• Generous giving is rooted in love and authenticity.
• Trust is rebuilt through consistent, small gestures.
• Expectations can complicate the act of giving.
• Generosity should not come at the expense of one's own needs.
• Self-awareness is key in understanding motivations for giving.
• Both partners can struggle with feelings of insecurity after infidelity.
• Genuine giving fosters connection and mutual respect.
• It's important to communicate expectations honestly.
• Shifting from transactional to generous giving is a courageous act.

More from me:

• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode we discuss the challenges of navigating personal change and grief after infidelity. I share my own experiences of emotional upheaval as my son leaves for college, exploring the triggers that arise during significant life transitions. We'll emphasize the importance of self-awareness, healthy communication, and grounding techniques to manage intense emotions. 

Please embrace your healing journey and consider joining my transformative program for support and growth.

In this episode:

• Navigating Personal Change and Grief
• Understanding Triggers and Emotional Responses
• Tools for Managing Change and Grief
• Embracing Healing and Growth

More from me:

• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, we discuss the concept of false confidence, particularly in the context of healing from infidelity. We explore the difference between true empowerment and the illusion of strength, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and vulnerability in the healing process. The episode highlights how performative behaviors can hinder emotional recovery and the significance of assertiveness over control in rebuilding trust. I provide actionable steps for listeners to cultivate true confidence, including acknowledging pain, taking ownership of healing, and focusing on personal growth.

In this episode:

• The Illusion of Strength vs. True Empowerment
• The Impact of Performative Behavior
• Understanding Remorse and Authenticity
• Navigating Control and Assertiveness
• Building True Confidence After Betrayal

Mentioned in this episode:

Ep #149 - The Three Phases of Recovery

More from me:

• The January Workshop: How to Decide to Stay or Go After Infidelity will be held January 9th from 9-12 AM MST. Go here to sign up: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/QvudToxz/checkout
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back-application
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles