Actions alone are insufficient for healing after betrayal. Today we're talking about the importance of genuine connection, the impact of childhood experiences on emotional safety, and the necessity of self-awareness and self-care in the healing process. A person who has been betrayed has to prioritize their emotional safety and seek deeper, more meaningful connections in their relationships. Let's talk about how...

Key Takeaways:

• Healing requires more than just actions; it needs genuine connection.
• Box checking can create an illusion of safety but lacks depth.
• Emotional safety is often rooted in childhood experiences.
• Resentment can undermine efforts to rebuild trust.
• Real healing often disrupts appearances and requires vulnerability.
• Self-awareness is crucial for understanding emotional needs.
• It's important to communicate needs clearly in relationships.
• Surface-level compliance can lead to deeper feelings of loneliness.
• Creating safety starts from within and requires self-compassion.
• True connection is built on mutual respect and understanding.

More from me:

• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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Today I'm going to share a personal experience of navigating some complex emotions during my daughter's wedding. Let's talk about the importance of making room for all feelings, including joy and grief, and acknowledge the societal expectations surrounding emotional responses to significant life events.

Key Takeaways:

• Emotional maturity involves holding multiple truths at once.
• It's okay to feel both joy and grief simultaneously.
• Cultural expectations can create pressure around how we should feel during significant events.
• Mixed emotions are a natural part of the human experience.
• Self-judgment can intensify emotional struggles.
• Making room for all feelings is essential for healing.
• Emotions are not problems; they are experiences to be felt.
• You don't have to wait for the hard times to celebrate the good.
• All parts of you are welcome in your emotional journey.
• Healing involves embracing complexity and allowing all emotions to coexist.

More from me:

• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode we talk about how important it is to focus on personal growth after infidelity rather than fixating on the actions of the partner. We need to prioritize self-healing, understanding the true nature of remorse, and the significance of moving forward rather than trying to return to the past.

Key Takeaways:

• Focus on personal growth rather than the partner's actions.
• The decision to stay or go should not be the first question.
• Remorse from a partner does not equate to personal healing.
• Healing is not contingent on the partner's regret or recognition.
• Self-care and personal needs should take precedence over monitoring the partner's change.
• Moving forward is essential; returning to the past is not an option.
• Trusting oneself is more powerful than surveillance.
• Liberation from dependency on others is key to healing.
• Ask yourself who you are becoming in the healing process.
• This experience can sharpen important aspects of your character.

More from me:

• Sign up for the class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, we cover the critical concept of integration after infidelity. It's so important to move beyond mere education and understanding and advocate for a deeper embodiment of the lessons learned. True healing comes from slowing down, feeling emotions, and practicing integration. It's not easy facing the challenges of decision-making in the aftermath of infidelity; we have to commit long-term to the healing process.

Key Takeaways:

• Integration is essential for true healing after infidelity.
• Education without integration leads to avoidance.
• Embodying change requires slowing down and feeling emotions.
• Real transformation happens when we practice the pause.
• Making decisions about staying or leaving requires integration.
• Infidelity can be an invitation to learn and grow.
• You already possess the answers within you.
• Courage is needed to move from knowledge to action.
• Long-term commitment is crucial for lasting change.
• Letting knowledge change you is the key to healing.

More from me:

• Sign up for the class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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Today, let's explore the phrase 'happy wife, happy life' and its implications on relationships. We'll discuss the dangers of suppressing emotions, the cost of avoiding truth, and the importance of building true intimacy and honest partnerships. Real happiness in relationships comes from mutual respect, truth-telling, and emotional resilience rather than appeasement and avoidance of conflict.

Key Takeaways:

• The phrase 'happy wife, happy life' promotes dishonesty and emotional withdrawal.
• Suppressing emotions leads to resentment and distance in relationships.
• Real partnership is built on mutual truth and respect, not just keeping one person happy.
• Avoiding conflict can create a false sense of peace that is unsustainable.
• Politeness can kill passion and intimacy in relationships.
• Codependency often disguises itself as love but is rooted in fear.
• True intimacy requires vulnerability and the ability to express needs without blame.
• Conflict is an opportunity for engagement, not something to avoid.
• Creating a culture of honest communication strengthens relationships.
• Reflecting on what conversations are being avoided can lead to deeper understanding.

More from me:

• Sign up for the class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode we're delving into the importance of honesty and truth-telling in the healing process after betrayal. We'll talk about the courage required to face one's own truths and the detrimental effects of withholding honesty in relationships, and we'll explore the concept of 'mini betrayals' and how they can lead to larger issues in relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Honesty is essential for healing and growth.
• Self-honesty requires courage and vulnerability.
• Withholding truth creates distance and resentment.
• Mini betrayals can lead to larger issues in relationships.
• Facing our truths can lead to clarity and alignment.
• Silence in relationships often leads to assumptions and disconnection.
• Truth-telling is a commitment to authenticity.
• Embracing complexity in truth allows for personal evolution.
• Avoiding truth can lead to feelings of being stuck.
• Sharing truths can foster deeper connections with others.

More from me:

• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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Today we're talking about the concept of emotional leeches — people or beliefs that drain our energy without giving anything in return. It's so important to recognize these leeches, understand the false narratives attached to them, and to ultimately release them to reclaim our energy and well-being.

Key Takeaways:

• Emotional leeches drain your energy without giving anything in return.
• Recognizing leeches is the first step to reclaiming your energy.
• False narratives often stem from childhood conditioning.
• Healing from infidelity reveals the leeches we carry.
• Setting boundaries is essential for self-care.
• Letting go of leeches is an act of love and kindness.
• You are not responsible for others' emotions.
• Identifying leeches helps in understanding unhealthy dynamics.
• Reclaiming your energy allows for personal growth.
• Healing is a journey that requires self-reflection.

More from me:

• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode we discuss the transformative power of truth in the healing journey after infidelity. There is emphasis on the importance of facing hard truths, both about ourselves and our relationships, and how this process can lead to personal empowerment and freedom. Through various exercises and reflections, listeners are encouraged to embrace their truths and develop emotional maturity, which is essential for genuine healing and growth.

Key Takeaways:

• Truth is the threshold between devastation and transformation.
• The hardest truth to tell is often the one we tell ourselves.
• Ignoring the truth only makes it louder.
• Real healing begins when we stop lying to ourselves.
• Truth is not a weapon; it is a doorway to freedom.
• Emotional maturity is essential for telling and hearing the truth.
• We must integrate the truth we receive into our lives.
• Living in truth requires daily decisions to honor what is real.
• Trusting ourselves is the foundation of personal empowerment.
• Freedom is only possible when we have the emotional maturity to hold it.

More from me:

• Offer for a very special couple - email me for this special offer: [email protected]
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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Today's guest is Julie Cluff, a hope and grief coach, who shares her profound journey of loss and transformation after the tragic death of her two children in a car accident. Julie discusses the impact of grief, the importance of self-compassion, and the process of reclaiming joy after loss. She emphasizes the significance of sharing our stories and the potential for generational healing through personal growth. The conversation highlights the challenges of navigating grief and the transformative power of embracing our experiences to foster healing and connection.

Key Takeaways:

• The hardest things can lead to profound transformation.
• Grief is a complex journey that requires time and compassion.
• Self-compassion is crucial in the healing process.
• Finding joy again is a relearning process after loss.
• Sharing our stories can inspire and help others heal.
• Generational healing can occur through personal growth and self-love.
• Pain often drives us to seek help and change our lives.
• Healing is not linear; it involves ups and downs.
• We can reclaim our space and redefine our relationship with grief.
• Transformation requires us to build a new foundation after loss.

More from Julie:

After losing my brother John to suicide and going through a painful divorce, I was left to pick up the pieces with my three young children. I remarried and following the births of three more children, my husband Ron and I built a remarkable life together blending our beautiful family with our six children.

Then on Mother’s Day, May 13, 2007, tragedy entered our life once again when our two youngest children, Carrie (10) and David (8) were killed in a car accident. For three years, I experienced profound, unimaginable grief. The pain was incomprehensible. However, in May 2010, my soul awakened to the beauty of life, and my life was transformed overnight as the miracle of healing entered my being.

Through my personal healing experiences with spiritual guidance to share my story to help others, I developed the Build a Life After Loss podcast and programs, including the HOPE Model of Healing. Over the years, following these painful losses, I learned to communicate with my brother and children beyond the veil. I have often felt like I live in two worlds – the physical and the spiritual. As I worked with many grief clients I often felt their departed loved ones assisting in bringing love and light to their family members during our sessions.

Then one summer day in 2020 in a remarkable moment I unexpectedly felt the distinct presence of a friend’s son who had recently passed away. Not knowing what else to do I wrote down the messages that I was receiving from him and later shared those messages with his mother. These extraordinary experiences kept happening as I felt the presence of angels, spirit guides and loved ones leading the sessions with clients.

I am forever grateful for the opportunity to bring this love and light to my clients as a spiritual guide between worlds. In addition to training and many years of experience in life and grief coaching, I am trained in energy work, angel readings, religious trauma, reiki, mediumship, EFT tapping, astrology, human design, and more. As we work together, I look forward to customizing a coaching experience specifically for you.

To learn more from Julie:

• Website: http://juliecluff.com/
• Website: http://buildalifeafterloss.com/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/buildalifeafterloss
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliecluffcoaching/
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@juliecluffcoaching

More from me:

• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Today we're going to stop reacting and start leading. Let's talk about the importance of moving from a reactive state to a proactive one in relationships, especially after infidelity. We'll discuss the need for self-leadership, the power of pausing before responding, and the significance of understanding one's triggers.

Key Takeaways:

• Reacting to a partner's choices gives them power over you.
• Responding from strength leads to clarity and control.
• Jumping to conclusions can be dangerous and unproductive.
• Emotional outbursts often stem from a place of fear.
• Making decisions based on a partner's mood undermines your values.
• The power of the pause can transform your responses.
• Self-leadership shifts the power dynamic in relationships.
• Understanding your triggers is key to personal growth.
• Healthy relationships require mutual validation, not begging for it.
• Commit to leading yourself first to foster personal empowerment.

More from me:

• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles