Heal Your Relationships

Have the past few years been tough on your relationship? Have you found yourself in long, relentless arguments with your partner whereby you can no longer think compassionately? Not to worry, you’re not alone. In this episode, I unpack six of the most common phrases that poison relationships – and explore alternative responses that ultimately cause less hurt. Let us look at what is underneath the hurt and resentment, and explore how our feelings shut down when we become emotionally overwhelmed.

“Keep your cool, hold onto your truth, and don’t just take on your partner’s ‘why?’ Stay steady within and think: what does this signify? Gently, lovingly, say: ‘I would love to share ‘why’. Do you have some time? Are you really asking and would you really like to know?’ Then your partner is bound to have a curiosity-based conversation.” 

~ Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy

In This Episode:

- Learn to substitute ‘why?’ for ‘what’, ‘how’, ‘where’, or ‘which’, allowing the other person to share their perspective rather than being shut off

- Turn “do you really want to know?” into a matter of curiosity, committing your partner to active listening

- “You made me…” – take ownership of your own actions and responses, and live blame-free

- The pitfalls of diagnosing gaslighting and narcissism in our relationships

- How to buy yourself time so that you’re not forced into an opinion when responding

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FREE tools:

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Boundaries are essential to a good relationship. But when you don’t have enough boundaries, or you have very rigid boundaries, your relationships will be damaged. There are several myths around boundaries that hurt relationships, and in this week’s episode, I’m sharing 5 of them with you and showing you how to see where you are perpetuating them in your own relationships. Learn how deconstructing these myths will help you have thriving, connected relationships, and how to overcome them to create a framework to protect and nourish your relationships instead of hurting them.

Are you ready to set and maintain loving boundaries in your relationships? Join my free 5-day Boundaries challenge inside the Facebook group, where you’ll see amazing transformations from people who are already doing this work. Click here to join and sign up for the challenge!

“Boundaries are for other people, but they are also for you. You need to set boundaries for yourself so that you stay in your own lane.”

Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy

In This Episode:

- Discover the problem with not knowing how to communicate your boundaries in your relationships.

- There are two types of boundaries that damage relationships. Here’s what they are…

- I share a sure-fire way to start the decline of a relationship.

- Find out how I overcame these 5 myths in order to create the boundaries that have led to flourishing relationships in my life.

- Learn how we often think we can’t help our behaviors, but why that’s not true.

Resources:

• Mastery Program 
• Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth

Connect with Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy:

Facebook

Facebook Group

LinkedIn

YouTube

Special Offers: Mastery

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

We’re all attached to something or someone. But, how do we tell if this attachment is healthy or on the borderline of being clingy? Join me in this episode of WISEish as I delve deeper into this topic. I will share how secure attachment differs from insecure attachment, and what could happen if insecure attachment is carried on to adulthood. Find out how learning about your attachment style impacts your marriage and your relationships.

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“How you remember and describe your childhood has a correlation with how you will have an attachment with your children, even when you are pregnant and the child has not come out yet.” - Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy

In This Episode:

- Compare the attachment styles of children versus adult romantic relationships

- Recognize the 3 aspects of insecure attachment

- Here are the 5 skill sets that summarize a secure attachment

- Identify the relationship between your childhood and your adulthood attachment style

- Learn how you can transition from insecure to secure attachment

Resources:

Mastery Program

QUIZ to understand your attachment style:

https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

The book "Attached":

https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139/ref=tmm_pap_title_0

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LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kavetha-sundaramoorthy-2b260668

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Special Offers: Mastery - https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Learning how to change your core beliefs and identity is the key to unlocking everything that you want in your life. You can become whoever you want, no matter what habits, relationships, or behavioral patterns you developed over time. By shifting your “thermostat” you will find yourself achieving emotional freedom without having to work so hard at it.

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To enter, all you have to do is follow the show, listen to an episode (or 2), take a screenshot of your favorite episode and leave it as a comment on my Facebook post https://www.facebook.com/1264591517/videos/454977762771050/. That’s it!

⭐️ One Grand Prize winner will receive a 1:1 call with me ($1,000 value)

⭐️ 3 Runner Ups will receive the “Marriage Communication Magic” Course ($297 value)

⭐️ And everyone who enters will receive an audiobook bundle of my favorite books.

In this episode:

- What is the seven layers of Emotional Freedom Formula

- The first layer - Neutral Fact

- The second layer - Your identity and core beliefs

- The third layer - Thoughts

- The fourth to the seventh layers - Feelings, Action, Results and Confirming your core beliefs and your identity

Connect with Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy:

Website - https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/DrKavethaSun

Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/916708345155346

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kavetha-sundaramoorthy-2b260668

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0AKDNQHccT3KoenqbjBcbg

Mastery is open for enrollment!

Mastery is our monthly membership program, where we take the tools I teach and help you apply it to your life.

Because you cannot learn to ride a bike by listening to a podcast or reading a book. You need to get on the bike and have a mentor help you master the skill in real time.

That’s what we do in Mastery.

If you are ready to confidently build a life you love, I invite you to come join us!

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What is the correct way to raise a child? It looks different for everyone, but in today’s episode, I am going to explain how to set your child up for success in the future. Parenting is a controversial topic with many mixed opinions, but one thing we can all agree on, we want to prepare our children for the real world so that they can make it on their own. Join me as I take you through the steps of secure attachment and why it’s so important.

Mastery is open for enrollment!

Mastery is our monthly membership program, where we take the tools I teach and help you apply it to your life.

Because you cannot learn to ride a bike by listening to a podcast or reading a book. You need to get on the bike and have a mentor help you master the skill in real time.

That’s what we do in Mastery.

If you are ready to confidently build a life you love, I invite you to come join us!

You can join month to month

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“It is always helpful to express your anger, but reaction is not a mature expression of our anger.” - Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy

In This Episode:

- What is secure attachment and why is it so important for children?

- Why do children need a safe home space to return to every night?

- Here are the 4 S’s of secure attachment.

- How will secure attachment help you in your romantic relationship?

Resources:

Mastery Program: https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

Connect with Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy:

Website - https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/DrKavethaSun

Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/916708345155346

LinkedIn- https://www.linkedin.com/in/kavetha-sundaramoorthy-2b260668

Special Offers: Mastery - https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

We have all been in difficult situations, what differentiates us is how we deal with them. In today’s episode, I will explain the 3 ways we immaturely deal with feelings, and how to fix this. Typically, as humans, we believe we either have to swallow our emotions or blurt them out, but this is not the answer. Listen as I explain why you should be processing and spending time with your emotions before reacting to them immaturely.

Mastery is open for enrollment!

Mastery is our monthly membership program, where we take the tools I teach and help you apply it to your life.

Because you cannot learn to ride a bike by listening to a podcast or reading a book. You need to get on the bike and have a mentor help you master the skill in real-time.

That’s what we do in Mastery.

If you are ready to confidently build a life you love, I invite you to come join us!

You can join month to month --> HERE: https://buy.stripe.com/4gw28i20h9WocA8bIS

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“It is always helpful to express your anger, but reaction is not a mature expression of our anger.” - Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy

In This Episode:

- How emotional immaturity is like holding a beach ball underwater

- Why do people overwork themselves rather than dealing with their feelings

- Distractions can be helpful in the short-term, but hurtful in the long-term

- What is the difference between emotions and feelings

Resources:

Mastery Program - https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

Connect with Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy:

Website - https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/DrKavethaSun

Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/916708345155346

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kavetha-sundaramoorthy-2b260668

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0AKDNQHccT3KoenqbjBcbg

Special Offers: Mastery - https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Bad communication equals bad relationships. Today, we’re learning the importance of communication and my framework for the best communication skills. One of the basic needs of any human being is to feel understood, and when they do, you will know. It’s reassuring to know that you’re not alone in any situation, so help others feel that. Tune in today as I explain the 4 C’s of communication, how to use them, and understand them.

Mastery is open for enrollment!

Mastery is our monthly membership program, where we take the tools I teach and help you apply it to your life.

Because you cannot learn to ride a bike by listening to a podcast or reading a book. You need to get on the bike and have a mentor help you master the skill in real-time.

That’s what we do in Mastery.

If you are ready to confidently build a life you love, I invite you to come join us!

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“Anything worth doing in this world is going to require cooperating with other human beings.” - Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy

In This Episode:

- How I learned to communicate at a young age

- Why you should think about improving the relationship after every conversation

- How do you make someone feel understood

- Here’s how to reach new solutions in conversations

- How to come up with new solutions that will work

Resources:

- Mastery Program - https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Connect with Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy:

Website - https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/DrKavethaSun

Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/916708345155346

LinkedIn- https://www.linkedin.com/in/kavetha-sundaramoorthy-2b260668

YouTube- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0AKDNQHccT3KoenqbjBcbg

Special Offers: Mastery - https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

By the time we turn 30, we have all experienced some trauma in our life. The question is, have you healed from that trauma? In today’s episode, I will explain how trauma has affected my life and how it affects yours too. Although it appears you have worked on your trauma from the outside, you need to look at yourself from the inside and understand that is where the healing process begins.

Join me today as I walk you through the signs of your hidden trauma and how to start healing.

Mastery is open for enrollment!

Mastery is our monthly membership program, where we take the tools I teach and help you apply it to your life.

Because you cannot learn to ride a bike by listening to a podcast or reading a book. You need to get on the bike and have a mentor help you master the skill in real-time.

That’s what we do in Mastery.

If you are ready to confidently build a life you love, I invite you to come join us!

You can join month to month

-- HERE: https://buy.stripe.com/4gw28i20h9WocA8bIS

or annual option (save $500)

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“When we’re not sure we can tolerate emotions, we won’t even try to heal.” - Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy

In This Episode:

- Here are the 3 ways trauma can show up in your life: mind, body, and behavior.

- What to look for in people who have trouble releasing the trauma they experienced.

- How I define the presence of trauma in my life"

- Why you need a psychologically safe space before you can start healing?

- Why do you recreate your trauma in every aspect of your life

Resources:

Mastery Program: https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Connect with Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy:

Website - https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/DrKavethaSun

Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/916708345155346

LinkedIn- https://www.linkedin.com/in/kavetha-sundaramoorthy-2b260668

Special Offers: Mastery - https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

Stress is normal! And, it’s not always bad. Welcome to another episode of WISEish, today we’re talking about what causes stress and how to deal with it. As humans, we don’t encounter life or death situations daily, meaning our chronic stress is low grade and under the surface.

Tune in to learn why low-grade stressors lead to chronic stress and how to reduce it.

Mastery is open for enrollment!

Mastery is our monthly membership program, where we take the tools I teach and help you apply it to your life.

Because you cannot learn to ride a bike by listening to a podcast or reading a book. You need to get on the bike and have a mentor help you master the skill in real-time.

That’s what we do in Mastery.

If you are ready to confidently build a life you love, I invite you to come join us!

You can join month to month

-- HERE: https://buy.stripe.com/4gw28i20h9WocA8bIS

or annual option (save $500)

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“If you are a living being, you are always going to experience some amount of stress.” - Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy

In This Episode:

- How chronic stress can damage your physical and mental health?

- Why animals in the wild don’t have chronic stress?

- Here’s my framework to reduce stress in real-time.

- What is the physiological sigh?

- How to do the physiological sigh to reduce your perception of stress?

Resources:

Mastery Program: https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Connect with Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy:

Website - https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/DrKavethaSun

Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/916708345155346

LinkedIn- https://www.linkedin.com/in/kavetha-sundaramoorthy-2b260668

Special Offers: Mastery - https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

Do you tend to argue about the same stuff over and over again? I know how frustrating that is, because I struggled with it too. And when those topics come up, it often leads to circular arguments and hurt feelings.

In today’s episode, I will show you a NEW way to approach these conversations. This is an excerpt from a talk I gave recently to a group of several thousand women physicians. If you apply these 3 tools, I guarantee there will be a big SHIFT in the conversation….

…AND in the relationship as a whole.

Take notes, and then go try it out!

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Connect with Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy:

Website - https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate

Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/DrKavethaSun

Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/916708345155346

LinkedIn- https://www.linkedin.com/in/kavetha-sundaramoorthy-2b260668

YouTube- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0AKDNQHccT3KoenqbjBcbg

Special Offers: Mastery - https://bit.ly/MastersOfFate