Heal Your Relationships

In This Episode:

We’ve all experienced feeling frustrated, hurt, irritated, or angry by something that occurs in our day-to-day lives.

Maybe it’s someone cutting in front of you in traffic.

Maybe it’s your boss rolling their eyes at your suggestion, or your child having ANOTHER tantrum.

Whatever it is that triggers you, it is important to deal with those moments in an effective way.

So how do we stay calm in situations where we feel triggered and then go on to maintain this sense of calm in our daily lives?

In this episode of WISEish, I’m sharing an effective three-step tool you can use right now to start taking care of yourself and apply more calm to your daily life.

This tool will not only transform your life but help you show up in an entirely new way of being.

In This Episode:

05:00 Hear how, despite all the work I did on myself, I used to still feel triggered and stuck in the same behavior patterns.

05:27 Do you ever feel like you tantrum alongside your child? Here’s what to do…

07:20 THIS is how to deal with the moments that frustrate you…

12:49 Find out the difference between sympathy, empathy, and compassion.

16:32 Three elements to apply to your situation during difficult moments.

23:06 I’m giving you an example of how I apply this work in my own life to help you do the same in yours.

25:13 Some examples of what taking care of yourself might look like.

30:32 Want to know how you actually transform your life? Do this…

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Rapid Relationship Repair FREE Mini-Course - https://bit.ly/RapidRelationshipRepair

A message that was always passed down to me was that money is hard to come by. You have to work yourself to the bone and sacrifice EVERYTHING else in your life – including your closest relationships – in order to succeed.

This limiting belief affected me for a long time.

But then I learned how to shift it, and everything changed.

Last week we talked about limiting beliefs, what they are, where they come from, and how they hold you back. I gave you the foundations of this work because without knowing what your limiting beliefs are, you can’t change them.

So, you now know what limiting beliefs are, how do you get rid of them?

This week, I’m sharing 3 tools to help you remove limiting beliefs from your subconscious mind.

Hear how these 3 tools have helped me get rid of my own limiting beliefs and create the life I wanted, and just how powerful this work will be in helping you make changes in your own life.

In This Episode:

 01:46 Hear a recap of last week’s episode

02:40 I have recently used this toolkit in my own life. Here’s how…

03:58 Learn one of the biggest limiting beliefs I realized I had and where it came from

07:58 Discover the power of this work and how it can change your life

09:17 Here are the tools to help you start shifting your limiting beliefs

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Rapid Relationship Repair FREE Mini-Course - https://bit.ly/RapidRelationshipRepair

In This Episode:

Do you feel stuck in your life?

Do you want something else, but for some reason just can’t stop doing what you’ve always done and getting the same old results you’ve always had?  

You’re not alone, and there is a reason for it: your limiting beliefs could be holding you back.

Whether you’re struggling with a goal you’ve set at work, stuck in a job you don’t want to be in, or struggling with something in your parenting or relationships, these subconscious beliefs are guiding everything you do. But if you’re not aware of them, you can’t change them.

So how do you find out what your limiting beliefs are and make the changes you want?  

That’s where I can help! In this episode, I’m sharing what limiting beliefs are and 3 ways to uncover your hidden limiting beliefs so you can go after what you want in life.

Hear how I used these 3 tools in my own life to figure out my own limiting beliefs and overcome them to create the life I have now, and why the same is possible for you right now.

In This Episode:

 03:54 Hear some of the limiting beliefs I had about creating the life I have now

07:05 In any kind of inner transformation work, there is ONE thing that is crucial. Here’s what it is…

08:42 Discover the first tool to help you figure out what your limiting beliefs are

11:00 Are you blaming feeling stuck on the struggles you are facing?

12:16 THIS is the second tool that will help you figure out your limiting beliefs

14:15 Find out how to 10X the power and transformation you get from this episode

14:51 The third tool to figure out your limiting beliefs and how to use it to go beneath the surface of your beliefs

18:32 A recap of the three tools to help you uncover your limiting beliefs

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Rapid Relationship Repair FREE Mini-Course - https://bit.ly/RapidRelationshipRepair

In This Episode:

For so long, I didn’t know that those things called triggers existed. I was so fused with thoughts and emotions that I would just react to things, without ever giving them a second thought. 

It felt like one minute I was happily riding an elephant without a care in the world and then – BAM – just like that, the elephant was overriding me and throwing me off.

But then something happened that changed EVERYTHING. I learned to see triggers as gifts. 

If there’s one thing you need to know about growth, it’s that it isn’t just a passive activity that happens in the background while you do the dishes. It’s an active engagement; something you need to work on continuously. So I began to work on my triggers, and the shifts I had were amazing.

In this episode, I’m showing you where triggers come from, how to think about them in a new way, and giving you two simple shifts you can make to start healing from the inside out.

Discover the reason you are having huge reactions to things that other people say or do, how to change that, and start handling your relationships and interactions exactly how you want. 

In This Episode:

 02:44 How your triggers can hurt other people

03:13 Triggers are not problems to be gotten rid of

04:11 This simple shift can help you with your triggers

05:16 What my triggers were showing me

07:12 A metaphor to help you think about triggers in a new way

12:00 How to deal with reactivity more effectively

14:22 One thing that is crucial on your healing journey

17:34 Want to learn how to heal from the inside out as quickly as possible? Do this…

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Rapid Relationship Repair FREE Mini-Course - https://bit.ly/RapidRelationshipRepair

So, you gave yourself the pep talk about calmly reacting to difficult people and difficult situations and it worked.

PSYCHE. It only lasted a couple of days! No matter the communication tactics, pep talks, or your deep desire, you find yourself overreacting and not being able to control your emotions. 

Well, today, I’m going to let you in on a little secret…

…you probably need to heal your “Inner Child”

Heard of them?

Everyone has an inner child that reflects our childhood experiences. This inner child shows up in adulthood as our internal thoughts, emotions, and beliefs or as external behaviors and actions.

In this episode, we will be working on an exercise that only requires imagination and will be a reliable resource in preparing you to start healing that inner child. 

The conversation gets tougher, the topics deeper – and as they do, you’ll want to use the 4 resources I share in this episode as a strategy for handling the heavy work of self-healing.

In This Episode:

• 1:30 Why the Inner Child needs work
• 5:03 How your brain will use imagination to heal
• 5:40 Resource # 1 - Find a Safe Space
• 9:23 Resource # 2 - Who is your Wise Counsel? It can even be Dumbledore.
• 11:34 Resource # 3 - Who is your Protector?
• 14:00 Resource # 4 - Who is your Comforter?
• 15:25 Install vividly these resources within you

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Rapid Relationship Repair FREE Mini-Course - https://bit.ly/RapidRelationshipRepair

What do you really want in your life?

What would you say if I told you that your answer to this question may not be coming from your true, authentic self, but from a socialized pseudo-self?

Just because you feel a strong pull towards something, doesn’t mean that it is in alignment with your values and your highest self.

In this episode, I’m diving deeper into the concept of the pseudo-self vs the true self, the difference between the two, and showing you how to recognize where these may show up in your life.

Hear the fork-in-the-road moment that led me to choose the path of my highest desire instead of listening to my pseudo-self, and why the same is possible for you.

If you are trying to make a decision in an area of your life, or you know someone else who is, you don’t want to miss out on this episode.

In This Episode:

[02:20] Learn one of the ways my past trauma shows up in my current life

[4:00] The thing you say you want might not be coming from your true authentic self. Find out where it’s coming from

[05:05] This is how the concept of pseudo vs true self has shown up in my own life and influenced the decisions I have made

[10:00] I’m sharing what the pseudo-self is for me

[14:04] Some questions to ask yourself to see if you are coming from your pseudo or true self

[15:28] There are two sacrifices possible when working with your pseudo-self and true self. Here’s what they are…

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Rapid Relationship Repair FREE Mini-Course - https://bit.ly/RapidRelationshipRepair

Are you using "I statements" as a cheat sheet to dump your feelings on your partner?

Having the tool of owning your feelings only works if you use it properly – otherwise, it breaks something. In this episode, I offer a psychological insight for us all to snack on and ask if we are really using the "I statement" appropriately. 

We will look at how to talk without triggering each other, and the difference between owning your personal feelings effectively and simply using the sh*t sandwich that can be the "I statement" to project your feelings onto others. 

This episode also contains the reminder that if you’re not having the goal of connection and greater understanding with your partner, then no amount of "I statements" is going to get you there. Over 90% of communication is non-verbal, so your body language might be saying something completely different too! 

Please join me, Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy, as we explore healthy ways to get your feelings heard and your needs met. 

In This Episode:

[3:35] What is an "I statement"?

[4:42] How to disagree while maintaining a connection

[5:32] If you use the tool for the wrong purpose, you break something

[6:59] Talking without triggering

[7:52] The other side of the sh*t sandwich

[12:11] Focus on the bigger goal of connection, which also means tolerating discomfort

Resource:

Rapid Relationship Repair FREE Mini-Course - https://bit.ly/RapidRelationshipRepair

Should I stay or should I go?

This is something I get asked a lot in our Mastery program.

Whether you are in a romantic or platonic relationship, I’ve developed five questions to help you decide whether or not a relationship is working for you. 

I wish someone had taught me to ask myself these questions when I was younger! 

In this episode, I’ll share with you my insights into the red flags that you need to look out for – as well as how to keep your side of the street clean (spoiler alert: that’s the bonus 6th question). 

If you are struggling with a relationship, or if you know of someone who is, please listen and share this episode as I believe it may be of great value to them.

In This Episode:

(10:35) Is there repetitive secrecy or lying to do with major aspects of your relationship?

(13:25) Do I have – or have I ever had – physical attraction to my spouse? 

(15:40) Am I able to celebrate small and big things with my partner? 

Resources:

Rapid Relationship Repair FREE Mini-Course - https://bit.ly/RapidRelationshipRepair

Have you felt more comfortable than ever in recent times but still find yourself unhappy? Is your instant gratification laced with a lining of anxiety that pervades your day-to-day? In this episode of Wise-ish, Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy explains why the misuse of dopamine has become the biggest culprit for causing our societal dis-ease. This fascinating insight into how we’ve used dopamine to move towards cooperative living explains the ‘pleasure/pain paradox’ and how we can achieve better equilibrium in our levels of contentment by abstaining from some pleasures and welcoming some pain. 

“I firmly believe that the people who succeed in the next generation (our children) will be those that learn how to control and manage their attention. That is going to be the currency of the future.” ~ Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy

In This Episode:

- Understanding dopamine as the molecule of craving - why instant gratification leads to long-term discontentment

- Why we need to fight back against this modern health crisis to build better relationships and emotional health

- How social media leaks away our capacity for deep thinking

- The value of taking your time to master a skill and the importance of ‘plateaus’

- Intermittent fasting and designated tech time as tools you can use to create a better pain/pleasure equilibrium

Resources:

The book: Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke

The app: Freedom

Connect with Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy:

- Facebook

- Facebook Group

- LinkedIn

- YouTube

- Special Offers: Mastery

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

What do you want to be a lifelong student of? Is it a relationship, a craft, a mission project? What are you truly committed to? In this episode of Wise-ish, Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy shares the insights on learning that she gained from reading George Leonard’s book, Mastery. Peppered with her own experience, Kavetha unpacks why taking a lifelong approach to learning will help you to frame purpose and meaning in your life. It’s all about finding beauty and joy in simple processes so that you end up not wanting the process to end. 

“If you are truly passionate about something and you want to gain some level of mastery in that, your first order of business is to set aside this notion that you’re going to arrive somewhere, and to take on the identity of a lifelong learner.” ~ Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy

In This Episode:

- There is no such thing as an expert - only those on the path of mastery

- The four personality types that reveal the ways in which we learn

- Are you the dabbler, the obsessive, the hacker, or the master?

- Debunking the cultural myth and messaging that we should be moving from climax to climax

- Love the process so much that for every mile that you take towards your goal, you hope that the destination has moved two miles further out

- How to welcome plateaus, obstacles, and resistance as opportunities to deepen your learning of the fundamentals of your craft

Resources:

The book: Mastery by George Leonard

Connect with Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy:

- Facebook

- Facebook Group

- LinkedIn

- YouTube

- Special Offers: Mastery

FREE tools:

Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun