Healing with WORTH

Luke Gordon,  director of the Men of Moroni program for Life Changing Services as well as a former missionary of an Addiction Recovery Meeting for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, joins hosts to discuss gaslighting and how it affects the betrayed spouse. Gaslighting is considered a pattern of manipulation and emotional abuse in which a person seeks to sow seeds of doubt with a person making them question their own memory, perception and sanity.  

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Luke Gordon, director of the Men of Moroni program for Life Changing Services and who has also been a missionary of an Addiction Recovery Meeting for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, joins hosts to discuss part of his recovery journey.  After being trapped in sexual addiction for many years, he is now sharing his experience of recovery and hope with others who are trapped in the plague sexual addiction.

https://lifechangingservices.online/menofmoroni/

Hosts continue their discussion on emotions. They describe briefly the science behind our emotions and how our brain process them, and different tools that are helpful to deal with them.

https://positivepsychology.com/emotion-wheel/

No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotion at Work Liz Fosslien

Like Dragons Did They Fight Maurice W. Harker, CMHC

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Can We Trust Our Feelings and Intuition? Eckhart Tolle

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ci8ZAj6Z8C4

Intense feelings and emotions surface during a betrayal. Hosts share what they have learned about emotions, and why it is important to develop a strong emotional awareness. They share tips on how to navigate through the turbulent water of our feelings without getting lost or overwhelmed. It is a skill that can be developed that will benefit all aspects of our lives and will allow us to connect with others and respond rather than react. When we can put a name to our emotions it will help us to understand ourselves and the impact it has on others. Our emotions affect health, performance, well-being, motivation, sense of fulfillment, and decision-making skills.

https://positivepsychology.com/emotion-wheel/

The Journey from Abandonment to Healing Susan Anderson

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Bessel van der Kolk.

There are basic needs that each of us needs in a relationship such as honesty and trust.  For the betrayed, we wonder how we are ever going to get these needs met when we have no control over the behavior of the addict.  In this episode, we discuss authentic power and how to take care of ourselves and navigate through this difficult stage of the recovery process.

Moving Beyond Betrayal The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts" by Vicki Tidwell Palmer

Women can experience a crisis of faith when dealing with betrayal trauma. While each crisis will be unique to the individual, when it does happen it seems like our whole world comes crashing down. Generally,  a faith crisis points to a kind of falling apart, a disintegration of one's former world that was previously held up by beliefs and propositions.

Each of the hosts shares their heart-wrenching crisis of faith and how they got through it. While each of their stories is filled with pain and sorrow they realized that God is merciful and will buoy us up in times of challenge. 

The hosts also share the many gifts that they have been given through the tender mercies of God. Many times these gifts came in such an unusual manner and with such precise timing that it really did confirm to us the reality of God’s existence that he has and always will buoy us up in times of trials.

Life hurts us all in different ways, but it is how we respond — and who we become — that determines whether a trauma becomes a tragedy, and how the victim becomes the victor.

Worth the Wrestle - Sheri Dew

Women and the Priesthood - Sheri Dew

Live up to our Privileges - Wendy Ulrich

Increase in Learning - David A. Bednar

Act in Doctrine - David A. Bednar

Power to Become - David A. Bednar

Healing through Christ

https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/general-conference?lang=eng

https://www.byupathway.org/

Emotional Self Care is all about how human beings have an innate desire to connect, to experience dynamic relationships with one another.  

In addiction, however, this attachment is severed and leaves the betrayed feeling unsafe, which produces the fight, flight, or freeze response. 

Though they are all three natural survival instincts none of these responses promote healing from trauma or rebuilding of a relationship.

Learning what these strong emotions look like, sounds like and feels like, and applying the 7 suggested strategies, will help you be more aware of those responses in your own body and you will be better equipped to connect with those around you. 

Hosts share stories and discuss the importance of physical self care in order to maintain balance and deal with the added stress betrayal trauma creates in the body.  

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

Solving the Autoimmune Puzzle by Dr. Keesha Ewers

Be Faithful, Not Faithless by Steven W. Owen Young Men General President https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2019/10/13owen?lang=eng

Watchful unto Prayer Continually - Elder David A. Bednar https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2019/10/22bednar?lang=eng

Check out Life Changing Services other podcasts:

Mothers Who Know https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mothers-who-know/id1444889135

Eternal Warriors https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-eternal-warrior-podcast/id1451471172