Her Love Upgrade - Break Toxic Cycles, Heal Heartbreak, Healthy Relationships, Cure Anxious Attachment, Boundaries, Red Flags

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Her Love Upgrade - Break Toxic Cycles, Heal Heartbreak, Healthy Relationships, Cure Anxious Attachment, Boundaries, Red Flags episodes

June 12, 2025 25 | Why Wasn't I Good Enough For My Ex? The Real Reason Your Breakup Feels So Painful
Ever wondered why your breakup hurt so much — even when they weren’t right for you? In this episode, we explore the real reason behind your pain: the unmet childhood needs that confuse safety with love. You were never "not enough" — and this shift will set you free.

What if the pain of your breakup isn’t really about them at all?
What if it’s about a much deeper, older wound — one you’ve been carrying since childhood?

In this potent episode, I’ll guide you through the hidden reason your breakup hit so hard — even if the relationship was toxic or unfulfilling. Spoiler: It’s not because you weren’t good enough.

It’s because, like so many of us, you were unknowingly chasing the feeling of love — which your nervous system confused with emotional safety and connection.

We’ll explore:

💔 Why you may still be subconsciously seeking external safety that feels like love
🧠 How your childhood survival patterns became adult relationship struggles
🚩 Why you’re attracted to emotionally unavailable or inconsistent partners
🔥 The shift that sets you free: dating from joy and wholeness, not need
💡 How to stop confusing temporary relief with lasting love — and reclaim your worth

This is the missing piece you’ve been searching for.

The wake-up call your subconscious has been hinting you need.

You were always lovable, even when your early life didn’t reflect that truth.

💫 If this resonates, please share it with a friend who needs to hear it — and leave a review so more women can find this work.

🧠 Want to go deeper? Explore coaching, therapy, and healing support at
👉 www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve -
Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨
1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes.
2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:
www.herloveupgrade.com/community
3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session:
www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching
💌 Need support or want to connect?
Email: [email protected]
WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine
15 min
June 02, 2025 24 | How to Stay Emotionally Safe in a Friend With Benefits Situation (Even If You Have Experienced Anxious Attachment)
Thinking about saying yes to a friends with benefits (FWB) situation - but worried you might catch deeper feelings?
It’s a valid fear - especially if you’ve ever struggled with anxious attachment, emotional vulnerability, or are still healing from heartbreak.
In this episode, I walk you through how to stay grounded, emotionally safe, and in alignment with your true Self before you dive in. Because yes, the chemistry might be fire - but your peace matters more. 🔥💗
Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve -
Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨
1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes.
2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:
www.herloveupgrade.com/community
3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session:
www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching
💌 Need support or want to connect?
Email: [email protected]
WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine
17 min
May 23, 2025 23 | 4 Narcissistic Tendencies We All Have That Block Aligned Love
Sometimes we’re just not in the mood to be our most loving self - how very 'normal human’ of us.

BUT, if you find yourself thinking and acting in these negative ways more often than not, it means you’ve adopted a mindset that just isn’t truly serving you.

Tune in to this episode to take a deep dive into 4 narcissistic tendencies that we all do - and have the power to change.

You’re here because you know you deserve a life that feels wonderful… not one that feels lonely, depressing and lacklustre.

Ready to turn up the dial on the love you’re generating in your life, and make you more of a vibrational match for the warm, abundant, love-rich life you so totally deserve?

Let’s get you closer to the love and life that’s here and waiting for you -
Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨
1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes.
2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:
www.herloveupgrade.com/community
3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session:
www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching
💌 Need support or want to connect?
Email: [email protected]
WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine
34 min
May 13, 2025 22 | Stuck in a Love Life Rut? Why You’re Not Getting What You Want & How To Fix It
Sometimes, it can feel like what we want is so far out of reach that it’s impossible to get, ESPECIALLY when it comes to finding a loving partner and an aligned, healthy relationship.

Even if you have done work on yourself and you thought you’d mastered manifesting, sometimes we’re still not experiencing a reality that reflects what we want. It can feel very sucky indeed… ask me how I know!

The good news? There’s a reason for it.

The even better news? We have the power to change up our reality.

This episode explains how to use neuroscience and the nature of reality to unblock what we want most.

As an added treat, there’s a powerful guided visualisation folded in too. Delicious.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve -
Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨
1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes.
2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:
www.herloveupgrade.com/community
3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session:
www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

💌 Need support or want to connect?
Email: [email protected]
WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

Did you like today's episode? If so, you'd be helping me out so much by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts - thank you! Xx

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine
31 min
May 13, 2025 Introducing Her Love Upgrade
Hi Loving Soul,

I'm honoured to be here serving you up everything you need to get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve!

Let's get to it -
Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨
1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes.
2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:
www.herloveupgrade.com/community
3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session:
www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

💌 Need support or want to connect?
Email: [email protected]
WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

Music Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine
2 min
April 30, 2025 21 | Missing Your Ex? Don’t Message Them, Do THIS to Take Back Your Power Instead!
Breakups don’t have to break you. In this episode, I share the raw truth about post-breakup panic and the paradigm shifts that helped me move from codependency to confidence — and attract aligned, healthy love.

I’m the first to admit that I used to find it VERY hard to deal with breakups well.

I was an emotional wreck every. single. time. and spent most my waking hours consumed with sadness.

No matter how unjust their behaviour was, how brutal the break up was and how poorly they treated me… the fact is I would have done ANYTHING to get them back.

Focusing on my situation this way made me feel lost, alone, and touched very raw childhood wounds around unworthiness and unlovability.

The shock of it all triggered my nervous system and I could only feel raw emotion - my prefrontal cortex literally couldn’t think straight because in this state of high emotional charge, our hard-wired survival instinct shuts down our executive faculties and focuses all our energy and resources on survival - cortisol, fight, flight, freeze, FREAK OUT.

It creates a sense of urgency in us - the reaction makes us feel like we have to take survival action STRAIGHT AWAY… so we make unintelligent, misaligned decisions out of desperation.

We stalk them on social media, we drive past their house, we think about how they’re feeling, we ruminate on what went wrong, we lament over things not being different. We analyse, pull apart, blame, cry, numb ourself and we convince ourself that we have no control.

We feel so separated from them that the desire for re-connection - ANY CONNECTION! - takes over.

We feel in that moment that we have nothing to lose and so….

…we send them a message.

Then we hate ourselves because on some level we know we’ve just handed even more of our power away.

So how can we stop this yucky pattern, and choose self-empowerment instead?

After all, there are people who handle breakups REALLY well (I know this because I became one of them).

In this episode I share the breakup paradigm shifts that helped me to drop codependency and become a magnet for healthy, awesome relationships.

🎧 Tune in now to learn how to reclaim your power and stop chasing the people who don’t deserve your love.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve -
Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨
1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes.
2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:
www.herloveupgrade.com/community
3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session:
www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching
💌 Need support or want to connect?
Email: [email protected]
WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine
26 min
April 15, 2025 20 | How People Pleasing Fuels Toxic Relationships - and the Bold Shift That Changes Everything
Ever feel like no matter how much you give in relationships, it’s never enough?
You end up drained, anxious, or even resentful - despite your best intentions and big heart.
In this episode, we’ll unpack why over-giving and people-pleasing may be keeping you stuck in toxic relationship patterns, and how this subconscious programming could be blocking the love you truly want.
Most importantly, you'll learn practical tools to help you feel safe, loved, and powerful - without having to prove or earn it.
It’s time to stop over-functioning and start receiving.
Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve -
Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨
1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes.
2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:
www.herloveupgrade.com/community
3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session:
www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

💌 Need support or want to connect?
Email: [email protected]
WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine
30 min
April 08, 2025 19 | The 4 Things You Must Do After a Break Up to Heal Heartbreak
Healing after a break up?

Sending you hugs - it can feel rough.

I know this first hand… I had A LOT of practice with breakups in the 13 years I was stuck in a toxic cycle.

Believe it or not though, there came a time when I had successfully healed my wounded inner parts, and overcome my limiting love blocking beliefs to the point where I didn’t need a partner - even though I still truly dreamed of enjoying a loving long-term relationship when the time was right.

From that place, being free from need for the first time, I found recalibrating after a breakup to be a positive experience - rather than a the shocking time of deep sadness and anxiety that I used to go through. It was such an amazing shift.

You might not be there yet, and that’s ok. Where you’re at is where you’re at, and your journey is divine (just like you are).

No matter how dark, lonely or hopeless you’re feeling right now, this episode will guide you through your four best next steps to take before you do anything else.

It’s tonic for heartbreak.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -
Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ***

1.) Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases.

2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:
www.herloveupgrade.com/community

3.) Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.
It’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for.
Learn more & book in:
www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch:
Email: [email protected]
WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine
39 min
March 31, 2025 18 | Is Your Boundary Ruining Your Love Life? 5 Shifts to Safely Stop Dating Self-Sabotage
Are you keeping yourself hidden away behind a bullet-proof boundary that’s keeping you safe from heartbreak, but stifled from love?

While building high walls might seem like the best way to keep you safe from potential pain, there’s a better way to stay protected AND safely allow in abundant love… which is what your True Self wants, for all the right reasons - a.k.a. to experience the joy, growth and divine experience that comes from having an intimate relationship with an aligned partner.

In this episode, we’re breaking down why staying ‘too safe’ is actually NOT serving you - and the 5 powerful shifts that will empower you to live aligned with your True Self instead.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -
Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ***

1.) Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases.

2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:
www.herloveupgrade.com/community

3.) Feeling stuck in your love journey?
No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.
If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here:
www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch:
Email: [email protected]
WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine
34 min
March 24, 2025 17 | Can You Fix a Narcissist?
You are a loving, caring, loyal woman who is dedicated to your relationship.

BUT you know in your heart that something’s not quite right here…

Your partner is hard to deal with and their needs come first… but when it’s good, oh my! it feels AMAZING.

You think “If only I could fix them, this relationship could be amazing all the time” ...so you try everything to make them happy and support them, and yet you always seem to be doing it wrong, and feeling anxious all the time.

I see you, please know you’re not alone.

It IS possible to be free of this bind - and this episode sheds light on exactly how.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -
Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ***

1.) Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases.

2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:
www.herloveupgrade.com/community

3.) Feeling stuck in your love journey?
No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.
If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here:
www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch:
Email: [email protected]
WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine
28 min

About Her Love Upgrade - Break Toxic Cycles, Heal Heartbreak, Healthy Relationships, Cure Anxious Attachment, Boundaries, Red Flags

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Top 10% Podcast for Women Ready to Break Toxic Relationship Cycles & Attract Aligned, Healthy Love

You’re successful in many areas of your life… but when it comes to love, you keep hitting the same painful wall.

You give so much, but it’s never enough. You’ve attracted emotionally unavailable partners. You feel stuck in a cycle of heartbreak, anxiety, or loneliness—and you’re quietly wondering if it’s just easier to be single… even though your heart craves more.

Lovely one, if that sounds familiar—you’re in exactly the right place.

Welcome to Her Love Upgrade — the podcast that helps high-achieving, self-aware women heal from heartbreak, break old patterns, and become a magnetic match for the healthy love they deeply deserve.

I’m Remy—mum of two, a recovered co-dependent and anxious dater who once believed love had to be hard. After years of attracting the wrong partners and thinking I just had to “try harder,” I hit my breaking point post-divorce… and finally woke up to the unconscious patterns that were running my love life.

Once I rewired my beliefs and reconnected to my true self, everything changed. I met my aligned partner during a dream trip to Thailand—and now, years later, I’m a Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner, EFT Facilitator, and Love & Life Coach, here to help you rewrite your story too.

Through a mix of psychology, subconscious healing, and energetic alignment, this podcast will guide you to:

✨ Heal your heart and ditch toxic dynamics

✨ Rewire your beliefs and stop self-sabotage

✨ Set powerful standards and boundaries

✨ Become the version of you that effortlessly attracts love

Ready to upgrade your mindset, your energy, and your entire love life?

It’s time to put beautiful you first for a change, so hush those notifications and let’s dive in!

I hope this podcast brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for -

Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨

1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes.

2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: