Hot Mess Habits

okay so this one is a little spicy because i'm talking about the habits we don't even realize we're doing

in this episode i'm sharing 6 micro habits that are quietly ruining your productivity — especially if you have ADHD or tend to run on type B vibes.

we're talking time blindness, doomscrolling, the 100-item to-do list trap, and the self-help content habit that was secretly making me more anxious than motivated.

PLS let me know if you can relate!!!

MENTIONED:

→ Daily planning notepad (use code PODCAST for $10 off): https://bodegoods.co/products/daily-planning-notepad-entrepreneur-wfh-task-list

TIMESTAMPS:1:26 micro habit #1: not making a plan + hoping it works out3:32 micro habit #2: leaning into your struggles instead of figuring them out6:11 micro habit #3: scrolling before bed (and in the morning)8:31 micro habit #4: leaving at the time you're supposed to BE somewhere11:03 micro habit #5: the 100 item to-do list12:22 micro habit #6: too much self help content

💖 ABOUT THE SHOW

I'm Victoria — a WFH mom, content creator & routine-obsessed type B girly living in British Columbia, Canada. Here on Hot Mess Habits, we chat realistic habits, routines, content creation & cozy, everyday lifestyle. We love low-pressure productivity, mom life and building a meaningful life.

💖 LET'S BE FRIENDS:

The blog: https://victoriaharderxo.com/Substack: https://substack.com/@victoriaharderxoInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/victoriaharderxo/Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotmesshabits/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@victoriaharderxo

TODAY'S BLOGPOST: https://victoriaharderxo.com/2026/04/15/micro-habits-ruining-productivity/

if you’re constantly ending your day feeling overwhelmed, behind, or like you didn’t actually get anything done… this is for you.In this video, I’m sharing why you never finish your to-do list (especially as an adhd / type b girly), how to actually plan your day in a way that works for your brain, and the simple system that’s been helping me stay on track lately.This is a realistic, behind-the-scenes chat about productivity, time blindness, overwhelm, and creating routines that feel doable in real life (especially for my adhd multi-passionate girlies)MENTIONED:→ My daily planning notepad: https://bodegoods.co/products/daily-planning-notepad-entrepreneur-wfh-task-list→ Digital version (print at home): https://bodegoods.co/products/productivity-notepad-digital-download→ How to plan your day (blog post): https://victoriaharderxo.com/2026/03/30/how-to-plan-your-day-with-adhd-realistic-type-b-approved/→ Why you never finish your to-do list: https://victoriaharderxo.com/2026/03/30/why-you-never-finish-your-to-do-list/TIME STAMPS:0:00 always feeling overwhelmed2:20 problem one: brain dump vs to do list2:59 mistake two: time blindness4:30 “but this will add more time”6:46 step one: brain dump!!! 8:13 step two: make a plan (what time works)10:13 actually planning14:20 mindset shifts💖 ABOUT THE CHANNELI’m Victoria — a WFH mom, content creator & routine-obsessed type B girly living in British Columbia, Canada.on this channel (and my podcast, Hot Mess Habits), we chat realistic habits, routines, content creation & cozy, everyday lifestyle. We love low-pressure productivity, mom life and building a meaningful lifeSubscriber count: 6984music license: MB01HHDQWNKPKOTLET’S HANG OUT:The blog: https://victoriaharderxo.com/Substack: https://substack.com/@victoriaharderxoInstagram: / victoriaharderxoPodcast Instagram: / hotmesshabitsTikTok: / victoriaharderxoSHOPMY (gift guides, WFH must-haves, mom life faves): https://shopmy.us/shop/victoriaharderxoAmazon Canada storefront: https://www.amazon.ca/shop/leviandvictoria

if you’ve been wondering how to start a podcast as a beginner, this is exactly how I launched mine in 30 days!!

I’m sharing what actually helped me stop overthinking and finally start — without a perfect plan, fancy setup or feeling fully ready.

This is a behind-the-scenes, honest chat about starting a podcast from scratch, especially if you struggle with perfectionism or feeling overwhelmed (hellooo fellow adhd multi passionate girlies)

MENTIONED:

→ My full podcast setup + equipment: https://victoriaharderxo.com/2026/03/24/everything-you-need-to-launch-an-aesthetic-podcast/

→ This episodes blog post so you can read through: https://victoriaharderxo.com/2026/03/24/how-to-start-a-podcast-in-30-days/

💖 ABOUT THE PODCAST

I’m Victoria — a WFH mom, content creator & routine-obsessed type B girly living in British Columbia, Canada.

Hot Mess Habits is all about realistic habits, routines, content creation & cozy, everyday lifestyle. We love low-pressure productivity, mom life and building a meaningful life

music license: MB01HHDQWNKPKOT

LET’S HANG OUT:

My Blog: https://victoriaharderxo.com/

Substack: https://substack.com/@victoriaharderxo?

Instagram: https://instagram.com/victoriaharderxo

Podcast Instagram: https://instagram.com/hotmesshabits

TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@victoriaharderxo

SHOPMY (gift guides, WFH must-haves, mom life faves): https://shopmy.us/shop/victoriaharderxo

Amazon Canada storefront: https://www.amazon.ca/shop/leviandvictoria

this is your gentle winter reset!! we’re talking cozy home vibes, drink rituals, adhd-friendly movement, winter mom life, and the small things that actually help when the dark months feel heavy.

WELCOMING ALL THE:

🤎 type b girlies who thrive in summer but struggle in winter

🧠 adhd dreamers who lose motivation when it gets dark at 4pm

☕ moms feeling stir-crazy, overstimulated & stuck inside

🕯️ cozy girls trying to romanticize winter instead of resent it

whether you’re feeling seasonally low, low-energy, stuck in doom scrolling, or just craving sunshine — this episode is about creating soft, realistic winter habits that make the season feel a little more doable!

timestamps:

0:00 missing the sun + winter reality check

3:26 romanticizing winter (vibes + ambience)

6:45 habit stacking your cozy routines (essential oils)

12:02 drink rituals as self care

15:40 self care station: drinks

18:05 winter movement ideas

21:08 winter mom life

23:39 my winter must-haves + favourite products!!

💌 FULL BLOG POST:

https://victoriaharderxo.com/2026/02/22/winter-self-care-for-the-type-b-girl/

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WINTER FAVES LINEUP:

Salty Face self tanner (my glow all winter): go.shopmy.us/p-37227899

UltraHuman Ring (sleep + steps tracker): http://ultrahuman.com/victoriaharderxo

Sage Wellness oils (liquid sunshine blend): https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/4069611

Revive Oils (non-MLM essential oil dupe brand): https://www.revive-eo.com/?rfsn=8945782.676df4

Blume Super Belly – strawberry hibiscus: https://amzn.to/4rWiUIy

Sunrise alarm clock: https://amzn.to/4aZtOrf

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OTHER WINTER RESET CONTENT:

• how to not be seasonally depressed → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CTJSTPMV5jE&t=767s

• digital life reset → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VZDxWyTjAmg&t=327s

• we are getting un-addicted to our phones → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iPk6EHc0jzE&t=191s

🎧 about the podcast:

Hot Mess Habits is the podcast for the high-achieving, want-to-be-organized girly who struggles with consistency and traditional productivity advice. we chat habits, routines, cozy resets, and current obsessions for the everyday Type B girl. new episodes every week.

music license: MB01HHDQWNKPKOT

LINKS

Instagram: https://instagram.com/victoriaharderxo

Podcast Instagram: https://instagram.com/hotmesshabits

TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@victoriaharderxo

SHOPMY (gift guides, WFH must-haves, mom life faves): https://shopmy.us/shop/victoriaharderxo

Amazon CANADA storefront (best gift guides!!): https://www.amazon.ca/shop/leviandvictoria

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💖 about me

I’m Victoria — a work-from-home mom, content creator, and routine-obsessed Type B girly living in British Columbia, Canada. Here you’ll find realistic habits, WFH vlogs, cozy lifestyle content, ADHD-friendly routines + mom-life resets.

your gentle winter pep talk. we’re talking bare minimum days, cozy habits, ADHD-friendly routines, and how to protect your mental health during the long, heavy winter months!!

WELCOMING ALL THE:

🤎 type b girlies

🧠 adhd dreamers who lose motivation in winter

☕ moms who feel extra overstimulated this season

🕯️ cozy souls trying to romanticize winter instead of resent it

whether you’re feeling seasonally depressed, stuck in doom scrolling, low on energy, or just not like yourself lately, this episode will help you reset in a way that feels kind and realistic

timestamps:

0:00 winter feels heavy (and that’s okay)

5:53 the art of a bare minimum day

10:08 what my “hard day” list looks like

14:33 screen time + evening habits in winter

21:08 romanticizing winter instead of resisting it

23:28 sick season helpers

24:12 connection, community & getting through the season

💌 LINKS + FULL BLOG POST

https://victoriaharderxo.com/how-to-deal-with-seasonal-depression-winter

OTHER COZY RESET CONTENT:

• realistic goal setting for women → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mCwO46w20u8&t=1016s

• screen time addiction reset → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iPk6EHc0jzE&t=191s

🎧 about the podcast:

Hot Mess Habits is the podcast for the high-achieving, want-to-be-organized girly who struggles with consistency and traditional productivity advice. we chat habits, routines, cozy resets, and current obsessions for the everyday Type B girl. new episodes every week

current subscriber count: 6875

music license: MB01P3LS645GYU1

LINKS

Instagram: https://instagram.com/victoriaharderxo

Podcast Instagram: https://instagram.com/hotmesshabits

TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@victoriaharderxo

SHOPMY (gift guides, WFH must-haves, mom life faves): https://shopmy.us/shop/victoriaharderxo

Amazon CANADA storefront (best gift guides!!): https://www.amazon.ca/shop/leviandvic

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💖 about me

I’m Victoria — a work-from-home mom, content creator, and routine-obsessed Type B girly living in British Columbia, Canada. Here you’ll find realistic habits, WFH vlogs, cozy lifestyle content, ADHD-friendly routines + mom-life resets.

let’s chat postpartum 🤍

this is all about what postpartum was actually like for me the first time, the mistakes I made, and everything I’m doing differently this time to prepare in a more supportive, realistic way. from meal prep and recovery to self-care, support systems, and slowing down — this is postpartum prep for the wellness-loving, Type B, real-life mom.

WELCOMING ALL THE:

🤎 mamas preparing for postpartum

🧠 adhd / Type B girlies who need realistic systems

🍼 first-time moms who don’t know what to expect

☕ moms who want to feel supported

whether you're pregnant, newly postpartum, or reflecting on your own experience, I hope this feels like a cozy, honest chat that helps you feel a little less alone and a little more prepared 🤍

timestamps:

0:00 why I’m focusing more on postpartum than birth this time

3:42 what my first postpartum was really like

7:55 going back to work too soon (and how it affected me)

11:20 the biggest mindset shift I have now

14:05 my postpartum meal prep plan

18:30 prebooking pelvic floor physio + recovery support

20:40 lounge sets, self-care, and feeling like myself at home

24:15 creating nursing + care stations around the house

27:10 asking for help & setting expectations with support people

30:05 the text scripts + postpartum binder idea

32:12 final thoughts for anyone entering this season

💌 LINKS + FULL BLOG POST

POSTPARTUM RESOURCES MENTIONED:

• postpartum essentials blog post

• postpartum amazon essentials

🎧 about the podcast:

Hot Mess Habits is the podcast for the high-achieving, want-to-be-organized girly who struggles with consistency and traditional productivity advice. we chat habits, routines, and current obsessions for the everyday, Type B girl. new episodes every week

music license: MB01P3LS645GYU1

LINKS

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/victoriaharderxo/

Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotmesshabits/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@victoriaharderxo

SHOPMY (gift guides, wfh must-haves, mom life faves): https://shopmy.us/shop/victoriaharderxo

Amazon CANADA storefront (best gift guides!!): https://www.amazon.ca/shop/leviandvictoria

💖 about me

I’m Victoria — a work-from-home mom, content creator, and routine-obsessed Type B girly living in British Columbia, Canada. Here you’ll find realistic habits, WFH vlogs, cozy lifestyle content + mom-life routines.

let's chat realistic goal setting for women who want more meaning in 2026

this episode is all about gentle goal setting, vision-led planning, and actually creating systems that support your real life. especially if you’re Type B, ADHD, in a new season!

WELCOMING ALL THE:

🤎 type b girlies

🧠 adhd dreamers

☕ moms who want realistic goals

📅 goal-setters who want more meaning, less pressure

whether you’re planning your entire 2026, setting a few fresh goals, or just craving more direction + clarity, this episode will help you reset in a way that feels good

timestamps:

0:00 why it's not too late / letting go of the January 1st pressure

2:56 life update

6:44 the dreaming phase: what would your dream life actually look like?

12:13 finding your year anchors + non-negotiables

13:07 defining your vision + your why

14:51 refining your goals so they actually align with your values

17:34 creating systems

22:30 final mindset shifts to make this sustainable

💌 LINKS + FULL BLOG POST:

https://victoriaharderxo.com/2026/01/21/realistic-goal-setting-for-women-2026/

🎧 about the podcast:

Hot Mess Habits is the podcast for the high-achieving, want-to-be-organized girly who struggles with consistency and traditional productivity advice. we chat habits, routines, and current obsessions for the everyday, Type B girl. new episodes every week

music license: MB01P3LS645GYU1

LINKS

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/victoriaharderxo/

Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotmesshabits/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@victoriaharderxo

SHOPMY (gift guides, wfh must-haves, mom life faves): https://shopmy.us/shop/victoriaharderxo

Amazon CANADA storefront (best gift guides!!): https://www.amazon.ca/shop/leviandvictoria

💖 about me

I’m Victoria — a work-from-home mom, content creator, and routine-obsessed Type B girly living in British Columbia, Canada. Here you’ll find realistic habits, WFH vlogs, cozy lifestyle content + mom-life routines.

let's chat how to reset your digital life for 2026 in a realistic, cozy, sustainable way!this episode is all about clearing digital clutter in a way that feels doable — organizing your phone, laptop, inbox, camera roll + more — especially if you're ADHD, Type B, a creative, a mom, or all of the above.WELCOMING ALL THE:📱 digital chaos girlies🧠 adhd brains📓 2026 reset + rebrand lovers☕ busy moms craving less mental clutterwhether you're a content creator, working from home, or just craving less noise + more peace — this digital reset will help you start 2026 feeling more focused, calm & clear.timestamps:0:00 intro: your digital life matters too!!1:45 my digital backstory (aka how I won my first laptop at age 10)5:20 we can't ignore the darker side of the online space8:46 quick wins10:40 home screen detox14:35 phone contacts16:10 camera roll18:50 unsubscribe from emails20:03 social media audit24:06 update all passwords25:14 refresh calendar26:57 in depth camera roll28:08 in depth app look28:54 computer desktop31:03 digital notes32:14 declutter subscriptions34:02 business owners this is for you36:52 systems for 202638:35 personal digital habits💌 LINKS MENTIONED + FULL BLOG POST:https://victoriaharderxo.com/2026/01/14/digital-reset-2026/

GETTING UN-ADDICTED TO YOUR PHONE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iPk6EHc0jzE&t=229s🎧 about the podcast:Hot Mess Habits is the podcast for the high-achieving, want-to-be-organized girly who struggles with consistency and traditional productivity advice. we chat habits, routines, and current obsessions for the everyday, Type B girl.new episodes every weekmusic license: MB01P3LS645GYU1LET'S HANG OUT:InstagramPodcast InstagramTikTokSHOP W ME:SHOPMY (gift guides, wfh must-haves, mom life faves):Amazon CANADA storefront (best gift guides!!)💖 About MeI’m Victoria — a work-from-home mom, content creator, and routine-obsessed Type B girly living in British Columbia, Canada. Here you’ll find realistic habits, WFH vlogs, cozy lifestyle content + mom-life routines.

let's chat how to reset your entire life for 2026 in a realistic, sustainable way that actually helps you achieve your goals, without extreme routines, toxic productivity or buying a new planner and hoping it fixes everything (guilty hehe)

This episode is all about honest reflection, intentional vision setting & setting your focus for habits that work long term, especially if you’re Type B, ADHD, a mom or just overall burnt out by traditional productivity advice.

WELCOMING ALL THE:

🤎 type b girls

🧠 ADHD brains

📓 2026 reset + rebrand lovers

☕ busy moms who want realistic routines

Whether you’re doing a full 2026 life reset, setting goals for the new year or just looking for a calmer way to plan, this episode will help you slow down and move forward into the new year with intention!

timestamps:

0:00 resetting for 2026 (realistic + intentional)
6:02 the 3 reflection questions you need before goal setting
13:28 building a vision for 2026 (not just goals)
16:58 using notion for long-term planning + vision
22:12 creating routine menus that actually stick
25:00 simplifying food + meal planning for real life seasons
30:14 final encouragement for a sustainable reset

💌 LINKS + FULL BLOG POST:

https://victoriaharderxo.com

🎧 about the podcast:

Hot Mess Habits is the podcast for the high-achieving, want-to-be-organized girly who struggles with consistency and traditional productivity advice. we chat habits, routines, and current obsessions for the everyday, Type B girl.

new episodes every week

music license: MB01P3LS645GYU1

LET'S HANG OUT:

My Instagram

Podcast Instagram

TikTok:

SHOP W ME:

SHOPMY (gift guides, wfh must-haves, mom life faves): https://shopmy.us/shop/victoriaharderxo

Amazon CANADA storefront (best gift guides!!): https://www.amazon.ca/shop/leviandvictoria

💖 About Me

I’m Victoria — a work-from-home mom, content creator, and routine-obsessed Type B girly living in British Columbia, Canada. Here you’ll find realistic habits, WFH vlogs, cozy lifestyle content + mom-life routines.

Today I’m sharing 20+ wellness habits & products that genuinely made my life easier this year — realistic, affordable, Type B–friendly, ADHD-approved things that supported my routines through one of the most chaotic seasons of my life.

Wellness doesn’t need to be expensive, aesthetic, or curated to “count.” Some of these are $0 habits, some are small upgrades & some are tools that simply made my everyday feel calmer and easier!

WELCOMING ALL THE:

🤎 type b girls

🧠 ADHD brains

☕ busy moms who want simple habits that actually work

Whether you try one or all, these are the things that helped me build gentle routines, feel more put together in a year that was very choatic

timestamps:

0:00 wellness doesn’t have to be expensive

2:45 a chaotic year and what actually supported me

5:15 tech that made my routines easier

14:40 self-care swaps that changed my daily life

22:10 creative habits that supported my mental health

28:45 daily life upgrades and quick wins

💌 LINKS + PRODUCTS MENTIONED: https://victoriaharderxo.com/2025/12/10/realistic-wellness-habits-and-products/

OTHER REALISTIC RESET CONTENT:

• digital detox habits for overstimulated girlies → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iPk6EHc0jzE

• how to plan your week *realistic edition* → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cXjY1J799R8&t=767s

🎧 about the podcast:

Hot Mess Habits is the podcast for the high-achieving, want-to-be-organized girly who struggles with consistency and traditional productivity advice. we chat habits, routines, and current obsessions for the everyday, Type B girl.

new episodes every week

current subscriber count: 5,200

music license: MB01P3LS645GYU1

LET'S HANG OUT:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/victoriaharderxo/

Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotmesshabits/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@victoriaharderxo

SHOP W ME:

SHOPMY (gift guides, wfh must-haves, mom life faves): https://shopmy.us/shop/victoriaharderxo

Amazon CANADA storefront (best gift guides!!): https://www.amazon.ca/shop/leviandvictoria

💖 About Me

I’m Victoria — a work-from-home mom, content creator, and routine-obsessed Type B girly living in British Columbia, Canada. Here you’ll find realistic habits, WFH vlogs, cozy lifestyle content + mom-life routines.