Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

Ever wonder: Why am I the way that I am?

Why does an unanswered text ruin my day?

Why does criticism seem so big and scary?

Why can’t I ever stop worrying about what might go wrong?

Well in today’s episode - I’m talking about some of the most common beliefs we learn in childhood that could be at the root of your relationship anxiety.

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• 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - [email protected]
• Your Self-Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection - FREE masterclass - SIGN UP NOW

• They’re distracted on their phone - so you go in a mood and make a passive aggressive comment.
• They didn’t ask about an important meeting you had - so you assume they don’t care and don’t bring it up.
• You haven’t heard from a friend for a while - so you imagine she’s having fun with people she likes more - and don’t bother reaching out to see when she’s next free.

What do all of these examples have in common?

You're being sabotaged by your unmanaged mind.

Let’s talk about it.

Mentioned in the episode:

• FREE MASTERCLASS SERIES - Your Self-Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection
• 1:1 coaching - Book a free 45 minute Relationship Anxiety Breakthrough Call - [email protected]

I’m sharing something vulnerable in today’s episode.

My wife recently told me she didn’t want children - when we’d always agreed and said that we would.

This has of course thrown a huge spanner in the works of our relationship and our marriage - and it’s bringing up a lot of uncertainty.

And so I wanted to talk you through how I’m handling that uncertainty - in the hopes that whatever uncertainty you’re facing right now - you can perhaps use a similar approach and help create a feeling of peace, calmness and self-trust.

Note: This episode was inspired in part by the How to Be a Better Human podcast episode featuring Simone Stolzoff discussing uncertainty. Some of the ideas explored in this episode prompted me to reflect on my own experience, and this episode shares my personal perspective and how I apply those ideas in my own life and coaching practice. 

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When someone is upset with you or you suspect they might be annoyed about something you’ve done - do you instantly feel guilty?

When you see someone experiencing negative emotion - do you feel like it’s your job to try and fix it? And feel super uncomfortable until you know they’re okay again?

If so - this episode is for YOU.

I’m talking all about the difference between empathy and taking responsibility for other people’s emotions.

And how to let go of responsibility, while still being a compassionate friend, partner, or family member. 

Mentioned in the episode:

• 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - [email protected]
• Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp - Use code 'SUN' to get 30% off

When I was at my most anxious in my relationships - I realised I had been depending on things outside of me being a certain way for me to feel safe, secure or calm.

Can you relate?

If so - I’m going to be talking today about the difference between internal and external safety.

And I’m going to offer you concrete exercises to do to start building your internal safety muscle.

So you can feel emotionally safe and secure - regardless of what’s going on outside of you.

Mentioned in the episode:

• 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - email [email protected]

Are you facing rejection?

A setback at work?

A difficult friendship dynamic?

An uncertain outcome?

Someone who keeps crossing your boundaries?

Whatever feels tough right now - I want to offer you a question that is going to transform the way you approach it.


Mentioned in the episode:

• 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - [email protected]

This week, I’m answering two questions from listeners.

The first is all about taking back a cheating, avoidant partner.

The second is dealing with a jealous partner who has very different thoughts around a friendship with an ex.

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People that work with me learn to STOP using the phrase ‘They made me feel…’

Because they’re finally able to take back responsibility for how they feel and respond to any situation in their life…

And I call this taking radical responsibility for your own feelings.

It’s something I did years ago - and it changed my life and relationships forever.

And in today’s episode I’m going to help you understand what it really means to take radical responsibility AND how to start doing it today!

Mentioned in the episode:

• 1:1 coaching with Rebecca

Are you struggling with resentment in your relationships right now?

• Maybe it’s a friend that’s always late.
• A partner that doesn’t pull their weight around the house.
• A mother in law that keeps asking for too much of your partner’s time.

Whatever it is - this episode is going to help you step out of resentment, and back into self-responsibility and self-empowerment.

Mentioned in the episode:

• Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp - £99
• 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - [email protected]

Today I’m answering real life questions from listeners covering two topics.

• 1) How do I know the difference between a real red flag vs my anxious attachment?
• 2) How do I navigate jealousy in a friendship trio?

Ready? Let’s dive in!

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• Get 10% off 1:1 coaching in May- email [email protected]