In today's episode, I'm discussing some of the most common beliefs I see coming up time and time again for my clients.

And the impact they have on our relationships.

Including:

• Believing you cause other people's emotions
• Making rejection mean something about YOU
• Believing you have to be a certain way / have a certain quality to be lovable
• AND MORE!

PS. There were be a part 2 next week! <3

Mentioned in the episode:

• Self Esteem Building Kit
• Join my email list
• Email me - [email protected]

Does your brain have a very all-or-nothing way of looking at yourself and your relationships?

You either did it perfectly or you're terrible.

You're a good friend or a bad friend.

Your partner either says the exact right thing or they must not care about you at all.

If so - you're not alone!

Our brains are actually predisposed to be very black & white in the way they think - preferring things to fit neatly into set categories - leaving very little room for nuance or shades of grey.

In today's episode I'm covering:

• A recent example of my own perfectionist brain
• How black & white thinking impacts our relationship with ourselves
• How it impacts our relationships with others
• How it can mess with our expectations and overall enjoyment of a relationship
• And some easy thought work hacks to take your brain to a more nuanced place!

Mentioned in the episode

• Email me about coaching opportunities: [email protected]

In today's episode, I'm talking about relationships doubts and anxiety - something which is often referred to as ROCD (Relationship OCD).

For many of my clients, they're in relationships with loving partners & they don't want to break up with them - BUT their brains will not let them relax.

They find themselves constantly questioning 'Am I in the right relationship?' and overthinking and nit-picking everything their partner says and does.

If you can relate, here's what I'm covering today:

• Why asking 'Am I in the 'right' relationship'? is the wrong question
• The myth of 'The One'
• The unreasonable relationship expectations that may be f*cking with you
• How to discover what your brain is trying to keep you safe from
• A process to guide yourself through a moment of doubt
• AND how to change the way you think about your partner's flaws

Mentioned in the episode:

• Contact Rebecca about coaching: [email protected]
• Join my email list

When we're not honest with the people in our lives - we can create so much harm and disconnection.

And yet... sometimes humans lie!

In today's episode, I'm discussing:

• Why humans lie
• The act of self-preservation 
• Bringing curiosity to situations - instead of black & white thinking
• How to handle conversations around lying
• And the fear of being lied to

Ready?

Mentioned in the episode:

• Spring 5 week 1:1 coaching package - email: [email protected]

Do you often find yourself thinking:

'Why am I still thinking this?!'

'What's wrong with me!'

'I shouldn't STILL feel this way...'

Maybe you've done the work of challenging your unhelpful thoughts, but find them still popping up and ruining your day? 

If you're feeling disheartened and frustrated with your brain right now - this episode is for YOU.

I'm going to be covering:

• Why changing the way you think isn't quick and easy
• The unfair expectations we have of ourselves and our brains
• The montage fallacy - and how it messes with our ideas of growth and personal development
• What the reality of changing your brain actually looks like
• My own journey with changing the way my brain thinks
• AND why changing your relationship to your brain is THE most important thing you can do

Mentioned in the episode:

• Self Esteem Building Kit
• Processing Emotions Meditation
• Get on my email list

In today's episode - I'm answering questions written in by some of you lovely listeners.

We're going to cover a wide range of topics, including:

• Feeling guilt for things like finding other people attractive
• Should I tell my partner about the work I'm doing on myself?
• The fear of missing a sign that you're being cheated on
• Feeling like you attract busy partners - and how to get your needs met
• How to catch yourself before you project your insecurities 
• Dealing with a partner with female friends

NOTE - Just because these things may not directly describe what you're struggling with, that doesn't mean the coaching won't still apply to YOUR brain.

No one is going to be in your exact situation - but the fears, thought errors, and behavioural patterns will be surprisingly similar! 

Mentioned in the episode:

• Join my email list!

Do you often feel jealous in your relationships?

Maybe your partner mentions a new co-worker, or a friend you're a little insecure about, or maybe you get that pit in your stomach when your best friend mentions one of their other friends...

Jealousy is a normal human emotion.

But it can cause so much havoc when left unchecked.

In this episode we're talking about:

• What jealousy is
• Having compassion for our jealous brains
• Types of jealousy
• The biggest lies jealousy tells us 
• How to coach your brain out of moments of jealousy
• AND how to deal with situations where a boundary might be being violated by your partner

Mentioned in the episode:

• Processing Emotions Meditation
• Join my email list

This episode is for anyone that's tired of feeling like a slave to their anxious brain.

One of the biggest shifts for me was changing my relationship to my anxious thoughts.

Most of us take our thoughts verrrrry seriously. We think the fact our brain is saying something to us MUST mean it's true. 

We place a lot of importance on the thoughts in our brain - and then end up ruminating, spiralling, and acting in ways we really don't love.

In today's episode, I'm talking about:

• Why we have such unhelpful thoughts
• Why understanding the purpose of these thoughts is powerful
• And I'm sharing practical tools for shifting into the observer of the thoughts - instead of feeling at the mercy of them

Mentioned in the episode:

• How to handle 'What if...' thoughts
• Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet

I HAVE 1:1 COACHING SPOTS AVAILABLE. Email: [email protected]

In today's episode, I'm talking about how knowing our core values can help guide us in and out of our relationships.

We'll be covering:

• What values are
• How yours and your partner's values may differ
• Whether that's a problem
• And how to let your values guide you when making decisions

Mentioned in the episode:

• James Clear's list of values
• Sign up to my email list
• Contact me: [email protected]

In today's episode, I'm interviewing one of my past clients and amazing friends - Mariah Kay. 

Mariah speaks openly about her journey navigating her husband's alcohol addiction and talks about how you can help your partner in their recovery.

Mariah now coaches women facing the same struggles.

• Find her at @myhusbandsaddiction
• Check out her website: https://www.mariahkaycoaching.com/