Narcissism Decoder

By Dr. Anthony MazzellaHealth & Fitness Mental Health Education

Narcissism Decoder episodes

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Dr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.
2 min
July 30, 2025 When Connection Feels Dangerous: How Shame Makes You Disappear
What if the reason you shut down, disappear, or attack yourself… isn’t weakness, but shame? In this clip with Renee Swanson, we uncover how shame hides behind perfectionism, silence, and even grandiosity—and why naming it is the first step to healing.

To listen to the full interview check out Renee's channel here:
https://bleav.com/shows/the-covert-narcissism-podcast/episodes/shame-vs-self-the-invisible-wound-behind-narcissistic-traits/
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Dr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.
25 min
July 23, 2025 I Know Why I Get Angry and Defensive—So Why Can’t I Stop?
In this episode, we look at the painful moment so many of us know too well: when you understand why you get angry, defensive, or shut down—and yet, you still do it. We examine this problem through the lens of one man’s story about a frustrating moment that spirals into rage and self-loathing. But understanding this isn’t the most important thing. We tackle the real question: what actually helps when knowing yourself isn’t enough? If you’ve ever found yourself caught in a loop—knowing better, but still hurting yourself or someone else—this episode will meet you there.
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Dr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.
27 min
July 16, 2025 I Know It’s Small… So Why Does It Hurt So Much?
Why do small letdowns—like a late reply or a minor change of plans—sometimes feel like a gut punch? This episode unpacks how everyday disappointments can stir up deep feelings of shame, rooted in early relational wounds. It’s not about the delay itself—it’s about what it awakens in you. If you've ever felt "too sensitive" or overreactive in relationships, this might be the real reason why.
If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.
Contact me directly with observations, questions, or comments:
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Dr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.
28 min
July 12, 2025 Entangled! Pathological Lovers and Malignant Narcissism
Why do toxic relationships feel impossible to leave? In this episode, Dr. Nae and I explore trauma bonds—how narcissistic abuse uses love bombing, control, and betrayal to trap partners. We reveal why hope for change keeps the cycle alive and what true healing looks like: creating a safe space for empowerment and growth. If toxic love has you stuck, this episode offers real insight and hope.
Here is a chapter of Dr. Nae's "Run Like Hell" for free. https://heal.drnae.com/podcast-book-giveaway
Contact her directly here: https://drnae.com/
If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.
Contact me directly with observations, questions, or comments:
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Dr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.
42 min
July 09, 2025 How Mindfulness and Psychodynamic Therapy Can Change Your Life
What if the real challenge in healing from narcissism isn’t just the big moments, but the subtle, often invisible patterns shaping your relationships and inner world? In this episode, Lindsey Miller and I reveal how narcissistic dynamics quietly influence parenting, emotional containment, and self-awareness. If you want to uncover what’s beneath the surface and start creating lasting change, this conversation is a must-listen.
To Listen to the full interview and learn more about Lindsay’s work: https://www.thestressnanny.com/
If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.
Contact me directly with observations, questions, or comments:
[email protected]
Follow The Narcissism Decoder on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube
Dr. Mazzella’s personal website: drmazzella.com
Dr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.
23 min
July 02, 2025 Why Mindfulness and Containment Are Game-Changers in Narcissism Recovery
What keeps us trapped in toxic narcissistic relationships—and how can we finally break free? In this clip from my interview with Lindsey Miller, we uncover the hidden emotional forces and subtle dynamics that keep these patterns alive. Discover why mindfulness and containment aren’t just buzzwords but essential tools for healing, and why leaving is just the first step on a challenging journey toward reclaiming your true self. If you’ve ever felt "split", stuck, or unsure how to move forward, this conversation offers powerful insights and hope for real change.

To Listen to the full interview and learn more about Lindsay’s work: https://www.thestressnanny.com/
If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.
Contact me directly with observations, questions, or comments:
[email protected]
Follow The Narcissism Decoder on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube
Dr. Mazzella’s personal website: drmazzella.com
Dr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.
23 min
June 28, 2025 Toxic Relationships: How I Learned to Stay Grounded
What if healing from narcissistic relationships isn’t about fixing or avoiding pain—but learning to truly sit with it? In this episode with Lindsay, she uses a beautiful metaphor of sitting on different benches in Central Park. If you’re ready to rethink healing and face your emotions with new curiosity, this conversation is for you.
To Listen to the full interview and learn more about Lindsay’s work: https://www.thestressnanny.com/
If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.
Contact me directly with observations, questions, or comments:
[email protected]
Follow The Narcissism Decoder on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube
Dr. Mazzella’s personal website: drmazzella.com
Dr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.
35 min
June 25, 2025 Healing the Wounds Narcissism Left Behind
In this episode clip from Lindsey Miller’s The Stress Nanny podcast, we unpack the hidden dynamics of narcissistic relationships. Discover why emotional availability matters, how mindfulness and psychodynamic therapy work together, and the subtle red flags that often go unnoticed. Plus, we explore the emotional aftermath of leaving narcissistic love and how healing truly begins.
To Listen to the full interview and learn more about Lindsay’s work: https://www.thestressnanny.com/
If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.
Contact me directly with observations, questions, or comments:
[email protected]
Follow The Narcissism Decoder on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube
Dr. Mazzella’s personal website: drmazzella.com
Dr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.
24 min
June 21, 2025 Why Can’t I Let Go of My Ex? I feel guilty for moving on!
In this episode, we dive into the quiet, tormenting force of unresolved guilt—and how it can entrap us in relationships long after they've ended. Through the lens of one man’s struggle to say no to an ex he no longer loves but still feels tethered to, we explore how guilt becomes more than remorse—it becomes identity. What begins as an effort to repair harm quietly reveals a deeper conflict: the belief that having needs, choosing oneself, or pursuing autonomy makes you fundamentally unloving. This episode isn’t just about setting boundaries—it’s about healing the parts of ourselves we fear make us unworthy of love, and learning to hold both care for others and care for ourselves in the same breath.
If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.
Contact me directly with observations, questions, or comments:
[email protected]
Follow The Narcissism Decoder on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube
Dr. Mazzella’s personal website: drmazzella.com
Dr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.
26 min

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