If you're feeling suffocated by societal expectations and constantly striving to fit in, then you are not alone! You may already be sacrificing your true self in order to please others, only to find that it's still not enough. You may be experiencing a constant sense of dissatisfaction, despite following the rules and norms that society has set for you. It's time to break free from the cycle of conformity and embrace your unique identity, because the result you're seeking is not found in conformity.

My guest, Sandra Possing, is an advocate for living authentically and embracing non-conformity and the host of the podcast "Oh Hi, Self". With a wealth of personal experience, Sandra has dedicated her life to helping others break free from societal expectations and live on their own terms. Her mission is to empower individuals to create relationships and lifestyles that align with their true selves. Through her open and honest approach, she aims to normalize unconventional relationship dynamics and inspire others to explore beyond traditional boundaries. Sandra's candid and relatable insights make her a valuable voice in the journey towards authenticity and self-discovery.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Embracing Non-Monogamy 
• Living Unconventionally 
• Normalizing Open Relationships 
• Radical Honesty and Boundaries 
• Embracing Change and Permission to Explore 
• Surprising Challenges: Dealing with Jealousy 
• Navigating Jealousy and Self-Judgment  
• Unleashing Inner Feminine Power 
• Honoring Emotions 
• Cathartic Movement and Communication 
• Unique Path in Sexuality 
• Embracing Authenticity and Self-Exploration 
• Relaxing into Who You Are 
• Embracing Wholeness and Inner Peace 
• Permission to Explore and Embrace Unconventional Paths 
  
  

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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein
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Does this sound familiar? You're in a non-monogamous relationship, seeking to improve communication and openness with your partners, but you find yourself hitting roadblocks. Maybe you've been told that the solution is to just talk more, but deep down, you know that's not enough. The pain of feeling misunderstood, disconnected, and unfulfilled is all too real. It's time to break free from ineffective actions and unlock the power of healthy communication and openness, transforming the way you connect with your partners.

Deana Tanner, our guest on this episode, is a dynamic and knowledgeable voice in the world of non-monogamous relationships. With her down-to-earth and relatable style, Deana offers a fresh perspective on the importance of healthy communication and openness. As someone who has personally navigated the complexities of polyamory, Deana brings a wealth of experience and insight to the table. Her warm and friendly approach instantly puts listeners at ease, making her the perfect guide for individuals seeking to improve their relationship dynamics. 

Tune in to this episode for an engaging conversation with Deana Tanner and gain valuable insights into enhancing your own non-monogamous journey.

💨 TLDR;

• Embrace the beauty of polyamory and multiple relationships.
• Discover effective strategies for raising children in non-monogamous relationships.
• Master the art of healthy communication and openness in relationships.
• Unlearn unhealthy relationship patterns for a more fulfilling love life.

📚 The resources mentioned in this episode are: 

•  Listen to episode 16 of the show to hear Deana Tanner's previous interview.
• Check out Deana Tanner's website or social media profiles for more information about her and her businesses. https://healthyhumaning.com/
• Download the BRACE Method https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/527367/101147856025421667/share
• Read Deanna’s Essay on Kids and Partners https://docs.google.com/document/d/1D0-vxL6cP3gXiAtsl3eXzz_RX3bZci6fra1EOudTWu4/edit?fbclid=IwAR3vjYpnRbFPGVmH9CWAhj9LS5fSxOIKq3k_72GbBypvZEkAwDDJphm8iPM

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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein
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Curious about unconventional triad relationships and BDSM dynamics?

In this episode, we explore Hannah's journey from swinging to polyamory, the challenges of managing multiple partners, and the significance of setting boundaries and valuing personal time. Discover how Hannah copes with the demands of balancing two partners, work, family, and personal time, and the importance they place on clear hierarchy and boundaries within their unconventional triad setup with a BDSM dynamic. We also discuss the emotional impact, self-discovery, and constant learning within non-monogamous relationships. Delve into a candid conversation that emphasizes the ongoing nature of this journey, the rewarding moments, and the transformative power of non-monogamy on personal growth and self-discovery.

Hannah is an Empowerment & Relationship coach, delighting in the fringes of traditional society. Bisexual, Non-monogamous & kinky, she brings the topic of sexuality and taboo out into the light, to help others shift societal shame and live as their true selves. Hannah is a published author and hosts her own podcast "Kinky & Unpopular" which follows her BDSM journey alongside her partner and her submissive, in their triad type dynamic.

💨 TLDR;

• Embrace the freedom of non-monogamous relationships and polyamory to explore deeper connections and personal growth.
• Establish clear boundaries and prioritize personal time to foster healthy and fulfilling relationships within a non-traditional dynamic.
• Overcome the challenges of managing multiple partners by navigating communication and individual needs with compassion and understanding.
• Create a strong foundation for an unconventional triad setup with BDSM dynamics, fostering trust, intimacy, and mutual respect.
• Cultivate the importance of open and honest communication to strengthen connections and promote emotional well-being in non-traditional relationships.

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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein
STIM IPI: 572 393 237

Brace yourself for an enlightening exploration of non-monogamous relationships, sexual health, and the importance of clear communication. This episode features the insightful Evalene Dacker-MD, who guides us through the intricate world of polyamory, debunking misconceptions and arming us with invaluable advice on navigating these partnerships in a safe manner. We delve into her revolutionary STARS framework that fosters open dialogues about sex, helping individuals to express their desires, set boundaries, and communicate their relationship intentions effectively.

We're not stopping there. The conversation takes a turn towards the often-overlooked issue of Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) and the role they play in sexual relationships. Shedding light on the importance of pleasure and owning our bodies, concepts often neglected in traditional sex education, Evalyn provides critical insight on the necessity of regular testing and the misconception that condoms are the only form of protection against STIs. We also tackle the evolving views on common infections like herpes and HPV.

It's time to confront the discomfort around sexuality in the medical field, emphasizing the need to normalize non-monogamy and other forms of sexuality. We discuss the concept of hierarchy and couple privilege, reinforcing the importance of individual choice and non-conformity to societal standards. Laced with personal experiences, our dialogue concludes with an empowering perspective on self-image and compassion. After this episode, you'll be ready to engage in healthier, more fulfilling sexual relationships. Tune in, and let's redefine love together!

Want to connect with Evelin... 

• www.Maketimeforthetalk.com
• www.Evelindacker.com
• Tedx Talk on STARS

📚 Books mentioned: 

• “Polysecure”, by Jessica Fern
• “All About Love”, by Bell Hooks

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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein
STIM IPI: 572 393 237

Astonishing revelations await as we journey into the realm of desires and sexual fantasies with the luminary, Artemisia De Vine. Imagine peeling back the layers of desire, treading into territories unexplored, and gaining a profound understanding of your own erotic wiring. This is not just about sex or fantasy; it's about self-discovery, connection, and pleasure in its purest form.

Dive into the world of stories; the narratives that fuel our fantasies, the scenarios that make our hearts race, and the characters that come alive in our minds. Let's dissect the power dynamic of predator and prey, a trope common in casual sex encounters, and the subconscious desires that control us more than we realise. The influence of these narratives extends beyond the bedroom to shape our relationships, experiences, and perceptions.

Finally, let's turn up the heat with Artemisia as she delves into the world of sex tips. This isn't just a list of 'do's and 'don'ts'; it's a guide to understanding your and your partner's erotic wiring. From communication to exploration, Artemisia shares insightful tips to help you unlock your desires and enhance your sexual experiences. Get ready to redefine pleasure as we navigate the captivating world of desire.

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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein
STIM IPI: 572 393 237

Get ready for some real talk about relationships in this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous with guest Lesley Tavernier. We dive deep into the concept of radical responsibility and how it can transform your non-monogamous relationships. Lesley shares her personal journey and sheds light on the importance of not relying on your partner for happiness. Discover how taking control of your own well-being can create a more harmonious and fulfilling connection. If you're looking for practical advice on personal growth and increasing happiness in non-monogamous relationships, this episode is a must-listen!

 Leslie, a love coach, takes us on an enlightening journey through her personal experiences – from growing up in an unofficially non-monogamous household, living with strict monogamy, and finally embracing her true self in the realm of non-monogamy.

In this episode, you will be able to:

• Explore the freedom and fulfillment of non-monogamous relationships.
• Challenge societal expectations and create a relationship that works for you.
• Take radical responsibility for your feelings and actions in relationships.
• Learn strategies to navigate and overcome jealousy and insecurity.
• Embrace change and personal growth through non-monogamy.
• Discover new levels of communication, trust, and intimacy in your relationships.
• Find happiness and fulfillment by embracing alternative relationship structures.

As we wrap up our heart-to-heart with Leslie, we address the elephant in the room – the radical responsibility each individual carries in a relationship. Speaking to those with self-esteem tied to their partner's actions, Leslie underscores the power of non-monogamous coaching. We uncover the courage required to admit attractions outside your relationship and the challenges of raising kids in a non-monogamous setting. So buckle up, and get ready for an eye-opening exploration of love and relationships beyond societal norms.

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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein
STIM IPI: 572 393 237

Are you in a non-monogamous relationship and looking for ways to enhance your emotional intelligence? Look no further! Join me, Ellecia Paine, as I interview Jessica Fern and David Cooley on the importance of emotional intelligence in non-monogamous dynamics. Dive into their personal experiences, learn how they overcame challenges, and discover practical tools for emotional growth. 
From journaling and meditation to embracing conflict as an opportunity for intimacy, this episode offers valuable insights for individuals in non-monogamous relationships. 
Don't miss out on this enlightening discussion that will empower you to build stronger and more fulfilling relationships!

We're all human, and emotional intelligence plays a key role in how we interact with others. Jessica and David unpack the importance of knowing how to communicate your feelings and needs, especially when they become overwhelming. You'll learn the markers of drama triangle involvement, and strategies to enhance emotional and relational intelligence. This isn't just about relationships, it's about nurturing growth. We discuss practices to cultivate intimacy, the importance of curiosity in conflict resolution, and innovative techniques such as breathwork and restorative justice circles to help us stay present in difficult conversations.

Writing a book is a herculean task. Writing a book together? Even more so. Jessica and David share their journey of co-writing, discussing how they unpacked and developed ideas, managed critiques, and the crucial role of accountability in their creative endeavor. We also delve into the complexities of identity and relationship choice when it comes to polyamory and non-monogamy, exploring the power of frames and metaphors in public decision-making. From discussing the importance of living out one's orientation, to the best strategies for fostering intimacy, it's a conversation you don't want to miss. Tune in and let's navigate jealousy, autonomy, and the struggles of becoming ethically non-monogamous together.

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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein
STIM IPI: 572 393 237

Are you in a long-distance relationship and curious about exploring non-monogamy? Today's guest, CJ, a sex coach and pleasure advocate, walks us through their personal experience of how non-monogamy played a vital role in navigating the challenges of being apart from their partner across two continents. We take a deep look into the significance of communication, creating a non-judgmental environment, and the importance of touch in maintaining intimacy, despite the miles.

Navigating jealousy and exploration in a relationship, especially in a non-monogamous one, can be tricky. CJ opens up about their journey of confronting the fear of being replaced and how they managed their anxiety without letting it hinder their partner's experiences. We discuss the delicate balance of sharing feelings without spoiling the partner's experience, and CJ reveals how they turned their partner's experience into something erotic, showcasing the exciting opportunities non-monogamy can offer.

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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein
STIM IPI: 572 393 237

Get ready for a compelling discussion that charts the high seas of non-monogamy. I'm thrilled to have the inimitable Dirty Lola aboard with us, an accomplished sex educator and media personality you may recognize from Netflix's Principles of Pleasure and HBO's the Sex Diaries. Her insights are not just enlightening, but deeply grounded in her personal journey, lending an air of authenticity and relatability that is invaluable.

"I always said that. I am very much a polyamorous person in my heart as part of my identity. I view it as part of my sexuality. It's how my brain works." - Dirty Lola

This discussion takes us through the emotional whirlwind associated with navigating non-monogamous relationships. Together with Lola, we uncover the necessity of open dialogue, the art of setting boundaries, and the intricate layers of different forms of non-monogamy. This journey isn't for the faint of heart, as we tackle challenging issues such as managing anger, confronting double standards and comprehending the intricacies of opening up a relationship.

To round off, we delve into the life-altering power of having a partner who validates emotions, listens attentively, and takes responsibility for their behavior. Lola generously shares her wisdom on the concept of compersion and the crucial role boundaries play in nurturing it. Whether you're just dipping your toes into the non-monogamy pool or are a seasoned swimmer, this episode is a treasure trove of insights. So, tune in, sit back, and join us on this enlightening journey into the realm of non-monogamy and polyamory with Dirty Lola.

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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein
STIM IPI: 572 393 237

Listen to this episode if you're a non-monogamous parent  or part of a non-traditional family who wants guidance on how to navigate the challenges and celebrate the unique aspects of your family structure. Koe's insights will inspire and empower you to create an environment where your children feel supported, loved, and accepted for who they are.

Koe, a second-generation sex educator, shares her journey growing up in a polyamorous family and provides insights from her intriguing book, This Heart Holds Many: My Life as a Non-Binary Millennial of a Polyamorous Family. Koe's raw and honest storytelling paints a vivid picture of the challenges faced by children in non-monogamous families and how they're navigating societal structures and perceptions.

 Want to connect with Koe Creation?
https://www.koecreation.com
https://www.twitter.com/koecreation

📚 Books mentioned: 

• This Heart Holds Many: My Life as the Non-Binary Millennial of a Polyamorous Family by Koe Creation (You can get a copy of the first edition from Koe’s website)
• Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá

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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein
STIM IPI: 572 393 237