In this deeply tender session, Christine works with Holly, who’s navigating the exhausting grip of fear and the inner conflict that arises when she tries to override it. Holly describes the frustration of knowing she’s done the inner work—yet still feeling paralyzed by fear when it comes to speaking up, setting boundaries, or simply sending a message to a friend.

What emerges is a powerful reframe: fear is not the enemy. It’s a messenger from past pain, particularly childhood wounds of abandonment and emotional neglect. Christine guides Holly through a shift from judgment to compassion, from pushing through fear to gently parenting the scared parts of herself with curiosity and care.

This conversation is for anyone who feels “stuck” in their fear despite years of personal growth—and who needs a reminder that softness, not force, is the path forward.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you judging yourself for still feeling fear, even after doing years of self-development work?
• Do small tasks, like expressing a need or setting a boundary, send you into overanalysis or self-doubt?
• Were you raised in an environment that didn’t feel safe or affirming—and are you carrying those patterns into adulthood?
• What might shift if you treated your fear with compassion instead of frustration?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Fear often stems from childhood wounds, not present-day reality.
• Self-judgment reinforces abandonment. Compassion heals it.
• We don’t have to “push through” fear to transform—it’s more powerful to honor it, tend to it, and respond with care.
• Hyper-independence can be a trauma response—not a personality trait.
• Healing happens through curiosity, compassion, and courage—not pressure and shame.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Practice speaking to yourself the way a nurturing parent would: “It’s okay to be scared. I’m here.”
• Try the three-step emotional approach Christine recommends: Compassion → Curiosity → Courage.
• Journal about where fear still holds you back—and what your younger self might need in those moments.
• Explore whether you're bypassing your feelings by “pushing through,” and ask what might happen if you softened instead.
• Identify safe relationships where you can start practicing self-expression and vulnerability in small ways.

Upcoming Event: The San Diego Women’s Retreat (Oct. 17–19, 2025)If this episode resonated, you’re invited to Christine’s signature women’s retreat—a high-frequency, transformational experience designed to reconnect you with your truth, your joy, and your courage. Whether you’re in a season of rebuilding or simply seeking maintenance for your soul, this retreat offers intentional support and sacred community.

Early bird discount ending soon. Learn more and register at: christinehassler.com/retreat

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In a world that glorifies giving and doing, receiving can feel foreign—or even uncomfortable. But true feminine power lies in your ability to allow love, support, abundance, and guidance in. In this episode, I explore why receiving is your divine birthright!! And how you may be blocking it and can begin to open more fully to what you truly desire.

In this heartfelt, full-circle session, Christine reconnects with Anneke—the very first person she coached on the podcast ten years ago. What unfolds is a deeply moving reflection on growth that isn't measured by external milestones, but by the quiet, powerful shifts that happen on a soul level.

Anneke opens up about her journey through addiction recovery, burnout, grief, unexpected caregiving, and stepping into true self-love. Over the last decade, she’s released people-pleasing, healed from codependency, and discovered what it means to care for herself without performance or guilt.

This episode challenges the cultural obsession with checking boxes and invites you to redefine what a “successful” decade really looks like. If you’ve ever questioned your progress or minimized your own transformation, this conversation is a must-listen.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you focused on external achievements while overlooking your inner growth?
• Do you struggle to give yourself credit for how far you’ve come?
• Have you been moving through a quiet season of healing or rebuilding that’s hard to explain to others?
• What would it feel like to reclaim your creativity and joy without needing it to be productive?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• True transformation often happens in the unseen work of self-trust, boundaries, and healing.
• Asking “What about me?” is not selfish—it’s sacred.
• Rest, creativity, and reflection are just as valid as action and ambition.
• We are not here to perform our lives—we are here to live them authentically.
• It’s okay to have mixed feelings about the roles we step into, including caregiving or parenthood.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Take a moment to reflect on the last ten years of your own life. What have you healed, endured, or learned?
• Release comparison. Shift your focus from goal-line success to soul-line growth.
• Create space for a joyful, unstructured creative practice—just for you.
• Allow yourself to ask: Who am I now? And what do I want moving forward?

Upcoming Event: July 1st Group Coaching Call on ReceivingChristine is hosting a powerful live coaching session on the art of receptivity. Especially for women—but open to all—this session will explore how to shift from depletion to flow, and how to access the power of receiving as a divine birthright.

Date: July 1, 2025 Time: 3:30 P.M. / PT (USA) Register at: christinehassler.com/group Includes a bonus meditation visualization and session replay.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this episode we explore the often uncomfortable—but deeply necessary—“in-between” phase of personal growth. This is the space after an identity, role, or version of ourselves has ended, but before the new one has fully formed.

In a culture that values clarity and forward momentum, this period of not knowing can feel disorienting. But it’s actually a sacred part of the death-rebirth cycle—a time to pause, shed old layers, and allow what’s next to emerge organically.

If you’re in transition and craving answers, this episode will help you surrender to the wisdom of the unknown and trust the unfolding process.

In this insightful and milestone 500th episode, Christine coaches Lisa, a woman actively working to recalibrate her nervous system after decades of living in survival mode. Through their work in Christine’s Be the Queen program, Lisa has become increasingly aware of how her high productivity and people-pleasing patterns were actually rooted in hypervigilance developed from childhood emotional abandonment and a toxic past relationship.

Christine helps Lisa move beyond traditional nervous system tools like breathwork by exploring one of the most overlooked regulators: the mind. They discuss how belief systems, people-pleasing masks, and unconscious behaviors can keep the body in a dysregulated state—even when things look “successful” on the outside.

Whether you're a high achiever who struggles to slow down, or someone who feels stuck in a cycle of stress and self-doubt, this episode offers a refreshing look at how mental and emotional honesty are key to calming your system and reclaiming your peace.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you always “on,” afraid that if you stop doing, your worth might come into question?
• Do you feel triggered by others’ behavior and immediately spiral into old thought loops?
• Are your validation-seeking habits tied to unresolved childhood wounds or past trauma?
• Can you give yourself permission to operate from truth rather than performance or perfectionism?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Your thoughts and beliefs are major regulators of your nervous system—not just your breath or body.
• Hyper-productivity often masks dysregulation and old coping mechanisms.
• Rewriting internal stories like “I’m only worthy when I produce” helps calm the system long-term.
• Nervous system regulation isn’t about doing less—it’s about doing from a place of grounded self-worth.
• You can’t fake authenticity; regulating your system starts with radical honesty about what’s true for you.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Begin your day by asking, “What do I really feel right now?” before reacting from habit.
• Use mental inquiry tools like Byron Katie’s “Is it true?” to deconstruct spiraling thoughts.
• Notice when you're chasing outcomes or approval and redirect into curiosity or creativity.
• Instead of defaulting to performative politeness (like saying good morning out of obligation), check in with your body and ask what’s real for you in the moment.
• Remember: It’s not always about doing less—but doing from a regulated, authentic place.

Sponsor: Beam

Struggling with sleep? Beam’s Dream Powder has helped Christine sleep deeper and longer, without the grogginess of other sleep aids. This science-backed blend includes magnesium, reishi, and melatonin to help you fall asleep faster and wake up refreshed.

Christine’s listeners get up to 40% off Beam’s best-selling Dream Powder.

👉 Shop now at shopbeam.com/overit and use code OVERIT at checkout.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Melody Wilding is an executive coach, human behavior expert, and author of Trust Yourself and Managing Up. In this episode we unpack how high-achievers often sabotage their careers through people-pleasing and emotional suppression.

Melody shares why sensitive strivers (a term she coined for deeply feeling, high-performing individuals) often struggle to advocate for themselves in professional environments — and how this disconnect leads to burnout, resentment, and career stagnation. We explore the difference between being collaborative and being a doormat, and how to set boundaries that actually earn respect rather than risk relationships.

Learn more at melodywilding.com

In this raw and revealing coaching session, Christine Hassler coaches Bridget, a woman navigating the painful territory of jealousy, comparison, and unmet desires. Bridget candidly opens up about her long-standing struggles with being single and childless—two areas that trigger deep feelings of not being “good enough” when she sees others with what she longs for. 

The coaching session explores not only the emotional roots of these feelings but also how deeply ingrained patterns from childhood can skew how we view ourselves in relation to others.

Christine guides Bridget to understand that jealousy isn’t a flaw—it’s a signal. A signal that we may be projecting our own unlived qualities onto others, which can be used for self-discovery and healing when viewed with compassion. Through tools like “positive projection” and reparenting, Christine helps Bridget shift her lens from lack and comparison to abundance and self-trust.

This episode is essential listening for anyone who finds themselves stuck in comparison loops, struggling with envy, or feeling left behind by life's timelines. If you've ever looked at someone else's life and thought, “They must know something I don’t,” this one is for you.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you often compare your life to others and feel like you're falling short?
• Do you feel left out or behind when it comes to relationships, family, or success?
• Is jealousy something you were taught—something modeled in your family of origin?
• Are you ready to reclaim your sense of self-worth and step into greater self-trust?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Jealousy can serve as a tool for growth when reframed as a positive projection.
• Often, the qualities we admire in others are ones we haven’t fully owned in ourselves.
• Chronic comparison stems from childhood imprints, often passed down from caregivers.
• Confidence in decision-making strengthens our relationship with ourselves and builds autonomy.
• You are not less than anyone else—there is no secret formula that others have and you don’t.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Practice positive projection: When you're jealous of someone, ask yourself, “What qualities am I seeing in them that I haven’t yet recognized in myself?”
• Build self-trust by making confident, embodied choices—even small ones. Flex your decision-making muscle.
• Reframe comparison as separation. Instead, use it to connect with the qualities you desire to cultivate in yourself.
• Visualize removing the “comparison glasses” and choosing to see through the lens of truth, where your worth is not tied to others’ outcomes.
• Work with a therapist or coach to reparent the younger parts of you that never got to fully develop autonomy or self-approval.

Upcoming Events:

Christine’s Signature Women’s Retreat

Christine is still honoring the early bird discount for her upcoming Women’s Retreat! This transformational experience is designed to help women heal the sister wound, release patterns of jealousy and competition, and experience deep, soul-level connection and support. You’ll leave with greater confidence, clarity, and connection—with yourself and with other women. Visit christinehassler.com/retreat to register and learn more.

Questions? Email [email protected]

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corne
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode, I share my personal experience visiting the ancient Kom Ombo Temple in Egypt — a powerful place dedicated to duality and balance. As I reflect on the energy and symbolism of the temple, I explore how it mirrors our own inner journey: the need to embrace every part of ourselves, both light and shadow. We dive into the power of neutrality — not as indifference, but as a grounded space of acceptance, where true transformation can happen. This is an invitation to see your life without judgment and to remember that all experiences serve your evolution.

In this deeply insightful and emotional coaching session, Christine Hassler works with Kate, a courageous woman who has spent much of her life relying solely on herself. While Kate has achieved personal and professional success, she finds herself feeling stuck when it comes to romantic intimacy. Her high-functioning independence has become a barrier to receiving love—and allowing herself to be truly supported by others.

Together, Christine and Kate explore the roots of hyper-independence, including childhood dynamics, family roles, and the need to feel “in control” in order to feel safe. Christine gently unpacks the difference between strength that empowers connection and armor that blocks it. As they navigate Kate’s fears of vulnerability and trust, the conversation opens the door to softness, receptivity, and true emotional intimacy.

This episode is a powerful listen for anyone who identifies as the “strong one,” has trouble receiving help or affection, or longs for deep partnership but doesn’t know how to shift lifelong patterns of self-protection.

• Do you often feel like you have to handle everything on your own?
• Is it difficult for you to ask for or receive help?
• Are you drawn to relationships where you feel emotionally safer staying guarded?
• Do you believe that letting your guard down means losing control—or being weak?

• Hyper-independence is often a trauma response rooted in childhood survival strategies.
• Being strong doesn’t mean being closed; real strength includes openness and the willingness to receive.
• Letting others in starts with letting ourselves feel—especially the parts we've kept buried or dismissed.
• Shifting from control to trust is a journey of nervous system safety and self-compassion.
• You don’t need to be “fixed” to be loved—you need to be seen and softened.

• Notice where “I’ve got it” may actually be a defense, not empowerment.
• Practice small acts of receiving: compliments, support, kindness, physical affection.
• Reparent the younger version of yourself who had to grow up fast—give her what she never received.
• Use body-based practices to reconnect with your emotions and signal safety to your nervous system.
• Explore relational growth in environments that offer support, compassion, and emotional safety.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

After a six-week pause, I’m back — and in this episode, I share why I stepped away from the mic and how choosing rest, stillness, and deep self-honoring changed everything. I talk about my recent journey to Egypt, where I felt the powerful presence of the Neteru and a deep soul connection to the goddess Isis.

This episode invites you into that energy. I’ll guide you through a heart-centered meditation to connect with Isis — the divine mother, healer, and bringer of light. If you're moving through a season of transition, seeking healing, or simply craving spiritual connection, this meditation is here to hold you.

✨ A reminder that your inner temple is always waiting.