Over It And On With It

 In this episode, Christine Hassler coaches Niamh, who struggles with the fear and inner critic preventing her from pursuing her passion for music. Niamh shares her journey of reconnecting with her love for music after being laid off from her corporate job. Despite her progress, she faces a recurring block of fear, especially around visibility and judgment. Christine guides her through strategies to work with her fear rather than trying to overcome it, emphasizing the importance of nurturing and comforting the inner child.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you want to pursue a passion but feel paralyzed by fear?
• Do you have a loud inner critic that stops you from taking action?
• Do you take fear as a sign that you shouldn’t do something?
• Are you afraid of judgment from others?

Guest Insights:

• Niamh has a deep passion for music but is hindered by a protective part that triggers fear and self-criticism.
• She recognizes that fear stems from childhood and struggles with visibility and harsh self-judgment.
• Niamh has tried forcing herself through fear but finds it counterproductive and re-traumatizing.

Aha Moments:

• Fear is not the absence of courage but moving forward despite fear.
• The inner critic often stems from past experiences where visibility and vulnerability were met with harsh judgment or unsafe situations.
• Working with fear involves nurturing the inner child and compassionately acknowledging the inner critic.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Slow down and break down fast-paced, subconscious thoughts to create separation from the inner critic.
• Bring the inner child into the process, comforting and holding her hand through fearful moments.
• Have a plan to support yourself if faced with negative feedback, such as deleting comments and seeking comfort.
• Write and perform songs that express the journey of dancing with fear rather than trying to overcome it.
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ana James MS, CNS, CDN, is a triple certified nutritionist, functional medicine practitioner and cogitative behavioral therapist. She takes a rare approach to women’s weight loss and hormonal health – putting self-worth at the center of the conversation. As a self-worth expert, James has spent the past 22 years studying the complex relationship between food, metabolic issues, and emotions.

Dana has a Master of Science in Medical Nutrition from Columbia University. She is trained by Institute for Functional Medicine and the American Academy of Anti-Aging Medicine. She wrote the Amazon best selling book, The Archetype Diet, which weaves together food, hormones and self-worth. She now splits her time between Europe and US. 

In this heartfelt episode, Christine Hassler works with Pamela, who is struggling to overcome an unhealthy relationship with food stemming from unresolved childhood trauma. Pamela seeks guidance to heal herself for her well-being and to prevent passing these issues on to her daughter. Christine provides compassionate and insightful coaching, helping Pamela make significant connections and encouraging her to seek ongoing support for her healing journey.

Consider/Ask Yourself

• Do you have an unhealthy relationship with food or another aspect of your life?
• Are there unresolved childhood traumas affecting your current behaviors?
• Have you noticed that your children are modeling unhealthy behaviors that concern you?
• Are you seeking a solution for a long-standing issue but feel stuck?

Guest Insights

• Pamela connects her unhealthy relationship with food to childhood sexual abuse by her stepfather.
• She realizes that her behaviors are affecting her daughter, who believes confident food choices equate to receiving love.
• After disclosing her trauma to a friend, Pamela noticed a temporary improvement in her relationship with food.
• Christine guides Pamela in acknowledging her inner child's pain and understanding the roots of her trauma.

Aha Moments

• Pamela understands that her obsession with food is a coping mechanism for her unresolved trauma.
• By addressing her inner child's need for validation and safety, Pamela experiences relief.
• Christine emphasizes the importance of ongoing support to heal from deep-seated trauma fully.

How to Get Over It

• Seek therapy or coaching to address unresolved childhood traumas.
• Validate your inner child's experiences and emotions.
• Commit to a healing journey, recognizing that aha moments are just the beginning.
• Engage in inner child work and somatic practices to release trauma from the body.

Resources

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In this episode I talk about the three things we *must* do if we desire freedom from the issues that are holding us back.  I also go into more detail about what to expect at my live retreat in September that you can register for here: Christinehassler.com/retreat

In this episode, Christine coaches Shreya through her struggle with anger, isolation, and self-sabotage. Shreya reveals a long-standing separation from others, characterized by intense rage and difficulty forming connections. Christine helps her uncover the root causes of these feelings, tracing them back to her childhood and an emotionally unavailable mother. Together, they explore strategies for healing, self-compassion, and the importance of relational dynamics in overcoming deep-seated patterns.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you have a history of pushing people away?
• Do you often feel angry or rageful?
• Are you mean to others despite not wanting to be?
• Were you a deeply feeling child in a home where that wasn’t safe, causing you to find it hard to deal with pain?

Guest Insights:

• Shreya feels a persistent separation from others, accompanied by intense anger.
• She acknowledges a tumultuous relationship with her emotionally unavailable mother.
• She recognizes her anger as a protective mechanism to avoid being hurt.
• Despite feeling broken, she experiences a meaningful connection with Christine during the call, proving she can relate to others.

Aha Moments:

• Christine highlights that Shreya’s awareness of her " weird " behavior indicates it's not her true self.
• Understanding that pushing people away is a defense mechanism provides Shreya with a new perspective on her actions.
• Recognizing the role of her childhood experiences in shaping her current behavior is a step toward healing.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Seek one-on-one therapy or coaching to work through relational dynamics and patterns.
• Allow the protective part of yourself to express its fears through journaling or audio notes, then connect with the part of you that craves connection.
• Practice self-compassion and recognize the protective nature of your anger and isolation.

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Erika Alaura is a psychic, channel, healer and coach. She is a certified consultant in Spiritual Response Therapy, a ThetaHealing® instructor and practitioner, Reiki Energy Healer, Angel Intuitive through Doreen Virtue and a conduit for the Deeksha Oneness Blessing. She's a Master Coach through Evolved Leadership and has studied life coaching and Byron Katie's work through Martha Beck's life coaching program.  Erika integrates her love of Tarot into her sessions as a powerful way to dialogue with the Soul's higher wisdom.

Welcome to Over It and On With It. I'm Christine Hassler, your host. In this episode, I coach Mallorie through her fear and money blocks, providing a blend of practical and spiritual advice. Join us for an enlightening discussion about internal and external work and uncover actionable insights to overcome your own financial fears.

Summary: Mallorie shares her struggles with fear and limiting beliefs about money, which stem from her childhood experiences. Christine helps her identify the root causes and guides her in shifting her mindset and establishing boundaries. The conversation emphasizes the importance of addressing inner child triggers and creating a new narrative around financial security.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you have blocks and fear around money?
• Do you often say, "I can't afford it"?
• Were you raised in a home where money was a source of stress and strain?
• Do you often doubt your ability to achieve your goals due to financial constraints?

Guest Insights:

• Fear of judgment and failure, especially around financial security, can stem from childhood experiences.
• Recognizing that fear is often tied to inner child triggers is crucial for overcoming financial anxiety.
• Establishing boundaries with family members who perpetuate negative beliefs about money can help break the cycle.

Aha Moments:

• Acknowledging and addressing fear-based thoughts about money can help shift your mindset.
• Connecting with your deeper values and desires can motivate you to overcome financial fears.
• Practical steps, such as handling unexpected expenses calmly and groundedly, are essential.

How to Get Over It:

• Recognize and affirm that inherited financial fears are not your beliefs.
• Establish clear boundaries with family members around discussions of money.
• Shift your focus from fear to gratitude and present-moment safety.
• Regularly connect with your inner child to provide reassurance and emotional support.

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Brett Larkin is an award-winning digital pioneer in online yoga classes and teacher training, a successful wellness entrepreneur, author, and busy mom.

Brett’s new book “Yoga Life: Habits, Poses, and Breathwork to Channel Joy Amidst the Chaos” (Balance) empowers you to design your own yoga style. Practice yoga in a way that honors who YOU are, in all your beautiful uniqueness. In a world with personalized medicine and personalized nutrition, you should of course have your own personalized yoga ritual. This is how yoga was always MEANT to be.

In this 2017 re-air, we delve into dealing with difficult people, setting boundaries, and compensatory strategies. Melissa shares her struggles with her in-laws' criticism and lack of support, revealing the challenge of maintaining her self-worth and confidence.

Summary

Melissa moved away from her family and friends to be with her husband. Over time, her in-laws' criticism and lack of support have worn her down. They accuse her of controlling her husband and ruining his life, leading her to question her decisions and struggle with asserting herself. Christine helps Melissa explore her compensatory strategy of people-pleasing and the deeper issues stemming from her past that contribute to her difficulties.

Consider/Ask Yourself

• Are there difficult people in your life who hurt you, yet you seek their approval?
• Do you struggle to set boundaries and stand up for yourself?
• Are you a caretaker who prioritizes others' happiness over your own?

Guest Insights

• Melissa moved to be with her husband and now regrets leaving her support system.
• Her in-laws criticize her, causing her to doubt herself and feel unconfident.
• After seeing how deeply it affects her, her husband has started to stand up for her.
• Melissa has a history of being a caretaker and seeks approval from others.

Aha Moments

• Melissa realizes her lack of confidence stems from trying to fit in and please others.
• Christine highlights that her in-laws' behavior mirrors Melissa's self-doubt.
• The episode emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and standing firm in truth.

How to Get Over It and On With It

• Acknowledge your emotions and release pent-up feelings through writing or physical activity.
• Limit time with unsupportive people and seek out supportive friends.
• Practice assertive communication by setting clear, respectful boundaries.
• Focus on self-acceptance and authenticity rather than trying to fit in or please others.

Resources

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