Nicole J. Sachs, LCSW, is a speaker, writer, psychotherapist, retreat leader, and podcaster who has dedicated her work and her practice to the treatment of chronic pain and anxiety. She is the author of the books MIND YOUR BODY (Penguin/Random House 2/25) and The Meaning of Truth  (2016) and creator of the online courses “Freedom from Chronic Pain,” “Freedom From an Anxious Life,” and “The Sarno x Sachs Solution” practitioner training. Her brands, BreakAwake and The Cure for Chronic Pain, include a website, podcast, YouTube channel, membership community, and newsletter. Sachs is on faculty at the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies in New York. Learn more about Nicole's work at: YourBreakAwake.com

In this heartfelt and eye-opening coaching session, Christine Hassler supports Darletha as she bravely opens up about her struggles with intimacy, abandonment, and the fear of emotional vulnerability. Despite years of personal growth, therapy, and conscious dating efforts, Darletha finds herself in a recurring pattern of attracting men who aren’t aligned with her values—and pushing them away when things get too close.

Christine guides Darletha to explore the deeper emotional roots of her relationship dynamics, including childhood wounds, generational trauma, and the nervous system’s response to perceived threats in intimacy. Together, they highlight the difference between discernment and sabotage, and how inner child healing can shift these long-held patterns.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone who feels frustrated with their dating experiences, struggles with emotional closeness, or feels misunderstood by their own protective patterns.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you find yourself attracting partners who aren’t quite right, then pushing them away?
• Are you hyper-aware of red flags to the point that it blocks connection?
• Can you tell the difference between discernment and emotional avoidance?
• Are you willing to explore how your nervous system and inner child might be influencing your relationship patterns?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Pushing people away can be a protective response, not a personal flaw.
• Childhood experiences of abandonment can lead to subconscious avoidance of intimacy.
• Discernment is not the same as fear—knowing the difference is key.
• Emotional safety begins within the self, not through control over others.
• True healing comes through compassion, vulnerability, and nervous system regulation.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Practice tuning into your body instead of staying in your head during dates or emotionally triggering moments.
• Acknowledge and soothe the inner child when feelings of rejection or abandonment arise.
• Let go of hyper-vigilance and perfectionism; focus instead on how you feel around a person, not just how they perform.
• Redefine vulnerability as strength, not weakness—it’s the gateway to authentic connection.
• Surround yourself with safe containers and communities (like Be the Queen) to reinforce new relational patterns.

Social Media + Resources:

•  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
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In this insightful coaching session, Christine works with Karin, who has repeatedly found herself in cycles of earning and losing money, leading to a persistent struggle and anxiety around finances. Karin shares her experiences of attempting various methods—from manifesting practices to lifestyle adjustments—to improve her financial stability, yet continually finds herself back in scarcity.

Christine helps Karin uncover deep-seated generational patterns and subconscious beliefs around money that perpetuate this cycle. They discuss the nervous system’s role in financial stability and how chronic anxiety and fear can block abundance, even when consciously pursuing financial goals.

Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of how past familial beliefs, generational trauma, and nervous system dysregulation can influence their current relationship with money. Christine provides tangible insights into shifting from scarcity and struggle toward a more grounded, regulated, and abundant state.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you notice patterns of gaining and losing money repeatedly in your life?
• Are you constantly anxious about your financial situation, even if things momentarily improve?
• Can you see any generational patterns in your family around money and struggle?
• Would you like to shift from feeling overwhelmed and fearful about money to feeling calm and abundant?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Financial stability is closely tied to nervous system regulation.
• Generational patterns deeply impact our subconscious relationship with money.
• Fear and anxiety about money can create blocks to consistent financial abundance.
• It's essential to consciously decide to break cycles of financial struggle.
• Cultivating a regulated nervous system can significantly shift your relationship with money.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Identify and acknowledge your underlying fears and anxieties around money.
• Work actively to regulate your nervous system before engaging in financial tasks or conversations.
• Clearly define your financial desires without minimizing or compromising.
• Decide consciously to break generational patterns of financial struggle and scarcity.
• Practice daily habits that reinforce a regulated nervous system state, promoting calm and abundance.

Social Media + Resources:

•  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this inspiring and heartfelt coaching session, Christine works with Sarah, who is navigating life after the dissolution of a 20-year marriage. While Sarah has processed much of her grief and feels more grounded, she finds herself in an in-between space—caught between who she was in the relationship and the new version of herself that she is becoming.

Christine helps Sarah explore the deeper roots of her feelings of being held back, which stem from earlier life experiences where she felt disempowered. Through their conversation, they discuss the challenges of moving forward when parts of your old life still linger, and how to embrace your growth without slipping back into past patterns.

Listeners will learn how to acknowledge and honor their own progress, release the need to please others, and fully step into their new life. This episode encourages listeners to choose themselves, embrace their own story, and trust that moving forward—while uncomfortable at times—is worth it.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you feeling stuck between your past and your future?
• Do you tend to hold back because you fear upsetting others?
• Are you fully acknowledging your own progress, or are you still telling yourself an old story?
• Can you trust that your choices, even if they come with loss, are the best ones for your growth?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Holding back can feel familiar, but it doesn’t serve your growth.
• Grief can come in waves, even after you think you’ve moved on.
• Choosing yourself may mean letting go of old relationships, and that’s okay.
• You don’t have to wait for external validation to step into your new story.
• Acknowledging your growth is essential to moving forward.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Identify the ways you are holding back and consciously choose to move forward.
• Allow yourself to feel the grief of letting go without letting it hold you back.
• Practice trusting your choices and recognize your progress without minimizing it.
• Find your support network and let them remind you of your growth when self-doubt creeps in.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this honest and empowering coaching session, Christine works with Elena, who is navigating the emotional aftermath of ending a seven-year relationship. Although the breakup initially seemed mutual, deeper fears have surfaced—particularly around abandonment, self-worth, and what it means to be alone.

Christine helps Elena explore the deeper roots of these fears, which stem from unresolved childhood trauma and modeled behavior from her mother. This episode addresses why we often stay in relationships that aren't healthy, the difference between true forgiveness and repression, and how to break free from generational patterns.

Through this conversation, listeners will learn how to embrace solitude, process anger in a healthy way, and find strength in standing firm in their boundaries. If you’ve ever questioned whether you were too hard on someone, or feared walking away even when you knew it was the right choice, this episode is for you.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Have you ever stayed in a relationship because you were afraid of being alone?
• Do you struggle with repeating family or generational patterns in your relationships?
• Are you confusing forgiveness with repression?
• Do you feel like you're settling for less than you deserve because it feels safer than the unknown?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Being alone in a relationship can feel lonelier than being on your own.
• Anger, when unexpressed, can turn into anxiety or self-betrayal.
• Repeating generational patterns is common, but with awareness and action, they can be broken.
• True healing requires both reparenting yourself and creating new internal belief systems.
• Boundaries are an act of self-love and are essential to change long-standing relational habits.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Embrace solitude as a form of strength, not weakness.
• Practice anger release through safe outlets such as movement or journaling.
• Acknowledge generational influences without letting them define your future.
• Reframe thoughts that tempt you to return to unhealthy dynamics. Ask yourself, “Is this my voice, or my programming?”
• Visualize the kind of parent, partner, or person you want to be, and make choices in alignment with that vision.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
•  Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

With the recent eclipse, equinox, planets in retrograde and schumann resonance activity, a lot of us are feeling pretty crappy! In this episode I share some tips for staying grounded and nourishing yourself during this time.

In this deeply personal and transformative episode, Christine Hassler coaches Sara through the difficult journey of self-forgiveness. Many of us have experienced the weight of regret—dwelling on decisions we wish we had made differently and struggling to let go of the past. This episode offers a path toward healing, self-acceptance, and true forgiveness.

Christine helps Sara navigate the emotions of guilt, self-judgment, and the pressure to "fix" herself, while also uncovering the deeper wounds that have shaped her self-worth. Together, they explore the impact of childhood conditioning, the importance of self-compassion, and how to break free from patterns of self-criticism.

This coaching session is a powerful reminder that we are not defined by our mistakes and that true self-love means embracing all parts of ourselves—even the ones we struggle to accept.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you holding onto self-judgment for something you’ve done?
• Do you find it easier to forgive others than to forgive yourself?
• Have you ever attached your self-worth to external validation, such as your appearance or achievements?
• Are you ready to let go of shame, guilt, and regret, and embrace self-compassion instead?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Many of the “mistakes” we regret are actually opportunities for growth.
• Forgiveness is not about condoning what happened, but about freeing yourself from self-punishment.
• Our childhood experiences shape our self-image—but we have the power to rewrite our story.
• True healing begins with self-compassion, not self-criticism.
• We can learn to see ourselves beyond the surface and appreciate our true, authentic essence.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Reframe your perception—instead of seeing your actions as "mistakes," view them as learning experiences.
• Practice self-mothering—speak to yourself with the same love and gentleness you would offer a child.
• Challenge self-judgment—when you hear your inner critic, ask, “Would I say this to a friend?”
• Shift your focus from past regret to future growth—each day is a chance to choose self-compassion.

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• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
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In this insightful coaching session, Christine Hassler helps Venus navigate deep emotional wounds related to past relationships. Venus struggles with feelings of being replaced and not being chosen, which stem from childhood neglect, abuse, and enmeshment. She finds herself caught in patterns of comparison and pain over an ex possibly moving on with someone else. Together, Christine and Venus unpack these core wounds, working toward reclaiming empowerment, self-worth, and emotional sovereignty.

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt stuck in the past, struggled with self-worth after a breakup, or wants to heal old relationship wounds at the root level.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you still emotionally attached to an ex, even though you know you were incompatible?
• Do you struggle with feelings of being replaced or not chosen?
• Have childhood wounds influenced your relationships, making love feel like dependency or codependency?
• Are you trying to “pray away” pain instead of working through it?
• How can you shift from a fear-based desire for validation to true self-empowerment?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• The pain of feeling replaced often stems from deeper childhood wounds of neglect or not being chosen.
• Healing is a process that requires presence, patience, and self-compassion—there’s no quick fix.
• Breaking patterns of comparison and self-judgment is crucial for self-empowerment.
• Taking up space, moving energy through the body, and developing personal sovereignty help break cycles of emotional pain.
• The shift from being disempowered to reclaiming choice is the core of deep healing.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Recognize disempowering thought patterns and actively redirect them.
• Use empowering language—instead of asking, “Why did this happen to me?” reframe it as, “What am I choosing at this moment?”
• Engage in movement and expression—dance, sing, walk, or scream into a pillow to release stored emotional energy.
• Practice self-acknowledgement—celebrate progress rather than focusing on how far you still need to go.
• Trust the process—deep healing doesn’t happen overnight, but consistent efforts make a lasting impact.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Steven Kessler has been a licensed psychotherapist, studying many different healing modalities and maps of personality, including Character Structure, the Enneagram, NLP, energy work, Thought Field Therapy, and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). He is a certified EFT Expert & Trainer.

Steven has also spent many years studying the evolution of human consciousness. His bestselling book, The 5 Personality Patterns, deepens the insights of character structure and, for the first time, presents its map of the human personality to the general public. Many people claim that reading it has been a life-changing experience, which has enabled them to finally understand both themselves and others.

On this podcast we talk about his newest book, How to Have Better Relationships, which teaches the skills you need and actions to take to connect better with others based on the 5 personality patterns.

You can access Steven's first interview where we dive deeper into the 5 personality patterns: https://christinehassler.com/2021/07/coaches-corner-292/

and his books and courses: https://the5personalitypatterns.com/shop/