Today on CC we talk about something that completely shifted my perspective on health and fitness. For years, we’ve been told that the goal is to lose weight—shrink down, take up less space. But the truth is, focusing on the scale might be the biggest mistake when it comes to long-term health and strength.

What really matters isn’t weight—it’s body composition. It’s about having more muscle and less excess fat because that’s what keeps you strong, energized, and capable as you age.

My friend Holly Perkins has been helping women transform their bodies and health for 30 years, and she’s hosting a free three-day workshop called Mastering Your Body Composition. It’s all about shifting the focus from weight loss to building the kind of body that supports you for life.

If you’ve been frustrated with the usual fitness advice and want real, lasting results, I highly recommend this. The workshop starts on March 6th, and it’s free to join. You can grab your spot at hollyperkins.com/christine

In this week’s coaching session, Christine Hassler works with Yasmin, who is struggling with self-doubt when it comes to making life decisions. She questions whether she made the right choice in ending a long-term relationship and in reducing her work hours to pursue her art business. Christine helps her recognize patterns of over-personalization, self-blame, and the need for external validation, guiding her toward self-trust and clarity.

This episode isn’t just about relationships or career—it’s about learning to trust yourself and your decisions. Christine provides Yasmin with tangible ways to move forward with confidence, helping her step out of regret and into alignment with her true desires.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you often doubt your choices and later regret them?
• Are you afraid that the things you truly want won’t happen?
• Do you constantly search for external validation before feeling secure in a decision?
• Are you stuck between moving forward and holding onto the past?
• Do you make choices based on what feels familiar rather than what’s truly aligned?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Self-trust is essential—without it, fear and doubt take over, making decisions more difficult.
• Over-personalizing situations, such as a partner’s actions after a breakup, can create unnecessary emotional weight.
• When we regret past choices, we often idealize the past and forget why we made those decisions in the first place.
• Healing and growth require stepping into new territory instead of clinging to familiar patterns.
• Success in career or relationships comes from embodying confidence, not waiting for external proof.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Identify your inner dialogue and challenge the stories you tell yourself about regret and self-worth.
• Shift from fear-based decision-making to trust-based choices by recognizing what aligns with your long-term vision.
• Take action despite uncertainty—trust that the right opportunities will emerge when you fully commit.
• Engage in daily practices that reinforce confidence, such as journaling about past decisions and affirming your own wisdom.
• Stop looking for guarantees—life doesn’t provide them, but trust and discernment can guide you to the best outcome.

Social Media + Resources:

•  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this week’s coaching session, Christine Hassler works with Ashlee, who is struggling with a question many people face: how do you know if you’re healed enough to enter a relationship? Ashlee shares her experiences with past relationships, childhood wounds, and codependent tendencies that have shaped her fears about choosing the right partner.

This episode isn’t just about dating—it’s about learning to trust yourself and shifting from fear-based decision-making to a place of wisdom and self-awareness. Christine helps Ashlee identify where her fear is coming from, how to recognize patterns, and what it really means to be ready for a relationship.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Have you been in relationships where you felt like you were “dating your wounds” instead of a truly compatible partner?
• Do you ever question whether you’re healed enough to be in a relationship?
• Are you struggling to trust yourself when it comes to picking the right partner?
• Do you find yourself looking for unconditional love in a romantic relationship—something you may not have received in childhood?
• Are you allowing your inner child to do the picking in relationships rather than your wise, adult self?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Healing is a lifelong process, and relationships will always bring opportunities for growth.
• It’s important to recognize whether you are attracting a partner from a place of neediness and past wounds or from a place of confidence and self-trust.
• Codependent tendencies, such as trying to fix or save a partner, often stem from unmet childhood needs.
• Trusting yourself is essential to creating a healthy relationship—without self-trust, fear takes over.
• A partner cannot replace or compensate for the unconditional love you may have lacked in childhood—healthy relationships require personal responsibility for healing.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Identify your inner child’s unmet needs and recognize how they might be showing up in your dating patterns.
• Shift from fear-based decision-making to trust-based dating—stop selecting partners based on what feels familiar (even if it’s unhealthy) and focus on what aligns with your vision of a secure relationship.
• Heal before seeking healing from others—a healthy relationship can be supportive, but it should not be a substitute for deep personal work.
• Create clear relationship values—write out what a healthy, mature, and non-codependent relationship looks like.
• Reframe your relationship expectations—instead of expecting a partner to “fix” or “heal” you, seek someone who supports your journey while maintaining a strong sense of self.

Upcoming Event: Love Magnet Workshop

If you’re looking to attract love from a place of wholeness, Christine’s free three-day “Love Magnet Workshop” is happening now. It’s not too late to join. Sign up at christinehassler.com/lovemagnet.

Upcoming Retreat: March 2024

Christine and Stefanos will be hosting a transformational retreat at The Art of Living Center. This immersive experience is designed to help you step into your most authentic self. The retreat is open to all genders and relationship statuses. Learn more and register at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this heartfelt coaching session, Christine Hassler guides Morgan through an emotional crossroads: deciding whether to have another child. While Morgan has always envisioned a big family, fear stemming from a traumatic birth experience, postpartum depression, and complex family dynamics with her stepchildren has left her feeling uncertain.

This episode isn’t just about parenthood—it’s about the power of making choices from faith rather than fear. Christine helps Morgan shift from fear-based decision-making to a place of trust and possibility, offering insights that apply to anyone struggling with a big life decision.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you facing a big decision but feel paralyzed by fear?
• Do past traumas or difficult experiences influence your choices for the future?
• Are you struggling with control and wanting certainty before making a move?
• Do you tend to focus on the worst-case scenario instead of what’s truly possible?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Fear-based decision-making limits our ability to embrace possibility and growth.
• Our past does not have to dictate our future—we can learn from it instead of reliving it.
• True empowerment comes from trusting that no matter what, we will be okay.
• The need for control often stems from deeper fears, such as avoiding past pain or protecting loved ones.
• Building a strong support system can help ease anxiety around major life transitions.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Reframe your decision-making process by focusing on faith and trust rather than fear.
• Acknowledge that uncertainty is a natural part of life and doesn’t mean disaster.
• Build a solid support system (mentors, therapists, partners) to help guide you through transitions.
• Recognize that sometimes the answer is “I don’t know yet,” and that’s okay.
• Approach decisions from a place of curiosity, possibility, and inner wisdom rather than fear-based projections.

Special Invitation: The Love Magnet Workshop

If you’re looking to attract love into your life, join Christine for her free three-day workshop, Love Magnet, happening February 11-13 at 2 PM Pacific. Even if you can’t attend live, you’ll get access to the recording! Sign up at christinehassler.com/lovemagnet.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Cathy Heller is a dynamic transformational coach, spiritual guide, meditation teacher, and inspirational speaker dedicated to helping individuals find ease, joy, and fulfillment in their lives. As the host of the Abundant Ever After podcast and author of Don’t Keep Your Day Job: How to Turn Your Passion into Your Career and Abundant Ever After, Cathy inspires her audience to pursue their dreams and live authentically. Cathy has transformed the lives of hundreds of thousands through her teachings.

On her podcast, she has engaged in enlightening conversations with a diverse range of creative entrepreneurs, renowned blogger Seth Godin, actor Matthew McConaughey, spiritual teacher Deepak Chopra, author Marianne Williamson, and psychologist Dr. Edith Eger, among others.

Cathy's passion lies in helping people find joy and meaning beyond material wealth, and she has transformed the lives of hundreds of thousands through her teachings. Her work encompasses meditation, Jewish mysticism, and career strategies, empowering individuals to expand their potential and make a positive impact on the world. Proud mother to three daughters and four Persian cats, Cathy embodies a beautiful balance of creativity, family, and purpose.

Alyssa Nobriga is a renowned speaker, coach, and entrepreneur who’s trained thousands under her methodology. She’s the founder and CEO of The Institute of Coaching Mastery and holds two master’s degrees, one in Clinical Somatic Psychotherapy and another in Spiritual Psychology.

She’s been featured in The New York Times, Forbes, Entrepreneur, Inc., and highlighted as an expert coach by Deepak Chopra. Her cutting-edge work is a unique blend of personal development, healing arts, and business strategy that’s reached hundreds of thousands around the world, supporting them in achieving proud transformation from the inside out.

In this heartfelt and insightful episode, Christine Hassler coaches Julie through the challenges of navigating life’s "in-between" phases. Julie opens up about being in a transitional period, torn between trusting the natural flow of life and taking control to make things happen. This episode explores the delicate balance of surrender and action, and the deep fears and patterns that arise when we’re on the brink of transformation.

Christine compassionately helps Julie unpack the subconscious blocks that come from past traumas, including a sudden divorce and a harrowing school shooting her daughter experienced. Together, they dive into Julie’s duality of being a grounded doer and a deeply spiritual being, providing insights on how to integrate these parts of herself to move forward with trust and healing.

This coaching session is a powerful reminder that embracing uncertainty and facing our fears can lead to profound growth, and the ability to welcome love and connection into our lives.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you in an in-between phase, feeling torn between trusting the process and taking control?
• Do you struggle with the fear of losing love or experiencing vulnerability?
• Are past traumas or unresolved grief impacting your ability to fully embrace the present?
• What steps can you take to regulate your nervous system and allow love and trust to flow?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Life’s transitions often bring up subconscious fears and protective patterns.
• True surrender and trust involve releasing attachment to specific outcomes and opening to possibilities.
• Grief and trauma, when unaddressed, can create blocks to receiving love and connection.
• Learning to regulate your nervous system and embody trust is key to welcoming new opportunities.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Recognize and release unresolved grief or trauma through somatic or emotional healing practices.
• Practice nervous system regulation techniques, such as compassionate self-talk and mindfulness.
• Visualize and embody the feelings you desire in your future relationships.
• Create space for love by embracing vulnerability and letting go of hyper-vigilance.

Special Invitation: March 2025 Retreat – From Wounds to Wisdom

Join Christine Hassler and Stefanos Sifandos for a transformative retreat, From Wounds to Wisdom, happening at the Art of Living Retreat Center from March 28–30, 2025. This immersive experience will guide you in turning pain into power, discovering your purpose, and stepping into your highest potential. Reserve your spot today! Visit ChristineHassler.com/retreat.

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Social Media + Resources:

•  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
•  @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this heartfelt and transformative episode, Christine Hassler coaches Aubrea, who opens up about facing significant life challenges all at once. Aubrea shares her journey of navigating a job loss, the end of a long-term relationship, fertility struggles, and the passing of her last grandparent—all within a short period. These events have left her feeling untethered and engulfed by grief and anger.

Christine compassionately guides Aubrea through the concept of an "expectation hangover," exploring how life’s curveballs can be opportunities for deeper healing and growth. Together, they unpack the roots of Aubrea's prolonged anger, her relationship with it, and the role it plays in her journey toward self-discovery and emotional release.

This coaching call is a powerful reminder that even in our darkest moments, there is potential for transformation. Christine provides practical tools and spiritual insights to help Aubrea—and listeners—embrace their pain, release limiting beliefs, and move toward a more empowered and aligned life.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you experiencing an expectation hangover—where things haven’t gone as planned, or life has hit you with a massive curveball?
• Are you holding onto anger or grief that feels overwhelming or unfamiliar?
• Do you struggle to find meaning or purpose during challenging times?
• Are you ready to explore the deeper healing opportunities hidden within your struggles?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Life’s unexpected challenges often create space for deeper healing and alignment with our soul’s evolution.
• Anger and grief, when acknowledged and expressed, can be catalysts for transformation and emotional release.
• Subconscious patterns often draw us into experiences that mirror unresolved childhood wounds, offering an opportunity to heal and grow.
• Finding meaning in the midst of chaos can provide a sense of peace and direction, but it requires patience and self-compassion.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Allow yourself to fully feel your emotions, including anger and rage, without judgment or blame.
• Explore the role that childhood patterns or relationships may play in current struggles, while avoiding self-blame.
• Create a sense of certainty by focusing on small, grounding practices and routines in your daily life.
• Trust that even the most painful experiences have a purpose in your growth and evolution.

Special Invitation: March 2025 Retreat – From Wounds to Wisdom

Join Christine Hassler and Stefanos Sifandos for a life-changing retreat, From Wounds to Wisdom, taking place at the Art of Living Retreat Center from March 28–30, 2025. This immersive experience is designed to help you transform pain into power, gain clarity on your purpose, and step into your highest potential. Reserve your spot now! Click here!

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
•  Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
•  Christine on Facebook
•  Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
•  @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Dr. Matt Delgado is a neuro-based chiropractor with a passion for solving health puzzles. After overcoming his own autoimmune battle with Graves’ Disease, he’s made it his mission to transform lives through innovative chiropractic care and simple, effective habits that bring balance to peoples lives. A coffee lover and health nerd, Dr. Matt sees the body as an interconnected whole, with the nervous system as the star of the show. At Lifespring Chiropractic in Austin, Texas, he uses his proprietary TriChord Method™ to unlock the body’s innate intelligence, helping people heal, feel, and perform better.