Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...

• Why potty training blends both physiological and psychological factors and how parents can wrap their head around both to best support your child.
• How parents can understand the biological-psychological feedback loop and how this can affect your child's body and mind.
• How to get on the same page when there are multiple caregivers and providers who spend time with your child.
• Exactly what to be tracking to help you get to the root of the problem and how to determine if your responses are inadvertently perpetuating the challenges and anxiety your child may be experiencing.
• Taking a pause if you notice a regression can be helpful - but only for some kids and in some situations. How to know when a reset is appropriate and when you might not want to use this approach with your child.
• What parents can do to help a child become less fearful and more relaxed in the bathroom.
• What is interoceptive sensory input, and how can this be helpful to focus on and build for your child outside of the bathroom?

REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:

👉🏻 Go to upshurbren.com to lean more about parenting coaching, therapy, and support options at Upshur Bren Psychology Group. Or, click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation call to learn more about the available resources for your unique needs.

ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about how to successfully potty train

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about potty training, constipation, bed-wetting, and pelvic health with Quiara Smith

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions (SPACE) with Dr. Eli Lebowitz

WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU:

Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

Sharon Itkoff Nacache is joining me to break down the myths and truths about art therapy—what it is, what it isn't, and why creativity can be such a powerful tool for healing, integration, and resilience.

Together we explore:

• The common questions people have about art therapy, and how integrating creative arts into therapy can support emotional processing, integration, and healing.

• The difference between open studio models, art therapy, and art psychotherapy and how each can serve different therapeutic goals.

• How art can help us (and our kids) process overwhelming experiences that might feel too big or complex to articulate with words alone.

• Why the materials matter: How Sharon intentionally uses tools like dry or wet media to support different emotional states and how you can use these same principles in your own creative exploration.

• Why creative expression goes far beyond painting or drawing—how journaling, movement, or even doodling can become powerful tools to ground yourself in moments of stress or burnout.

• A simple yet powerful exercise Dr. Sarah uses with her clients to identify and reconnect with unmet needs that you can do too.

• What it means to build "creative resilience" and how it can help you access more joy, safe risk-taking, and a sense of internal flow.

• Sharon's best strategies for those who feel creatively blocked or don't consider themselves "artistic" and why you don't need to be an artist to benefit from creative self-expression.

Whether you've been curious about art therapy or are simply looking for accessible ways to reconnect with yourself and find a sense of emotional grounding, this conversation is full of both inspiration and tangible takeaways.

LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

Co-Create Art Therapy

GET HER BOOK:

📚 The Days Before I Met You: A Creative Space Honoring the Birth of a Parent

ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES:

📚 Your Brain on Art

📚 Art Therapy and Childbearing Issues

📚Art is a Way of Knowing

📚Therapeutic Arts in Pregnancy, Birth, and New Parenthood

👉🏻 Whitney Museum and NYC Health + Hospitals Arts in Medicine department

👉🏻 Postpartum Support International

CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

🎧 33. How parents can use music as an emotion regulator with music therapist Vered

🎧 47. What we hold in our bodies: Unlocking emotions through dance and movement therapy with dr. Lori Baudino

🎧 240. Processing birth trauma: How to make sense of, heal, and move forward after a difficult birthing experience with Dr. Sterling

🎧 282. Beyond the 6-week checkup: A realistic look at postpartum and early parenthood with Dr. Jessica Vernon

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...

• There is no correlation between a baby who self-weans and the development of a secure attachment.

• You're going to piss off your kids a lot… that's totally normal and doesn't mean that they won't form a strong and healthy attachment to you.

• It makes sense your child wants what feels good to them, but that doesn't necessarily mean that what they want is also what they need.

• Helpful Hint: When your child stops breastfeeding, there is often a period of time where they will eat less - and this can lead to more anxiety, especially if you are doing this because of concerns over their nutrition.

• Clothing choices, accessible snacks, and meal planning: Some practical tips for moms who are ready to stop breastfeeding.

• How to build your child's distress tolerance and help them prepare for this big transition.

REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:

📚 Child of Mine: Feeding with Love and Good Sense, Revised and Updated Edition by Ellyn Satter

ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions with Dr. Eli Lebowitz

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about raising healthy eaters with Amelia Sherry

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about picky eating and ARFID with Dr. Yaara Shimshoni

WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU:

Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

In this episode, I'm joined by cognitive psychologist and ADHD expert Eliza Barach to explore the brain-based differences that drive many of the challenges (and strengths!) that come with ADHD.

Together we cover:

• The neuroscience of an ADHD brain and why having this basic knowledge can be so impactful for your parenting!

• How understanding the roles of dopamine and norepinephrine are important aspects of understanding your child (or yourself!) with ADHD.

• Why people with ADHD are more vulnerable to all forms of addictions. And while our culture rewards some addictive behaviors (like workaholism) while condemning others, both can have negative impacts on your mental health.

• How to make transitions easier for your child with ADHD. (Want to learn more about this topic? Check out episode 295. How can I get my child with ADHD go from one activity to the next without a fight?)

• Specific and real-life strategies parents can implement to add more stimulation to boring tasks that will decrease the amount of fights and power struggles between you and your child.

• Why kids with ADHD are so prone to meltdowns and how pointing out the logic to your child in these hot moments can help lay the foundation for more self-regulation in the future. (But, only if you do so in the "right" way.)

• Activating your child's Task Positive Network can be regulating for the nervous system—what parents can do to get this part of your child's brain to turn on.

• The failing of the system for diagnosis of ADHD, especially in girls and marginalized communities, and why getting a diagnosis is so vital for allowing proper support for a person's unique strengths and challenges.

• If you've ever wondered whether your child might have ADHD, felt unsure how to support them without constant conflict, or simply wanted to better understand their needs, this episode is packed with clarity, compassion, and expert insights you can put into practice right away.

LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

https://www.neural-revolution.com/

ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES:

👉🏻 How ADHD can impact driving

👉🏻 Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder in Women and Girls: Uncovering This Hidden Diagnosis

👉🏻 Interested in learning more about Upshur Bren Psychology Group's Parenting Your Child with ADHD 8-week virtual workshop series to empower parents of children, adolescents, and young adults with ADHD? Go to upshurbren.com/group-adhd or schedule a free 30-minute consultation call to learn more.

CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

🎧 250. How to make mindfulness more "user-friendly" for parents with ADHD with Dr. Lidia Zylowska

🎧 235. BTS: How can I prepare for an IEP or 504 meeting after my child receives an ADHD diagnosis?

🎧 178. ADHD and attachment security: How to connect with and support your neurodiverse child with Dr. Norrine Russell

🎧 131. Q&A: How do I help my child with ADHD utilize school support systems without feeling embarrassed or self-conscious

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...

• How do you know when to encourage your child to stick with an activity versus when it's okay to let them step away?
• Does your approach change if the activity is a team sport versus an individual activity?
• What are effective ways to talk to your partner about these concerns without triggering defensiveness or shutting down the conversation?
• How sibling dynamics along with parental expectations can influence a child's interests and shape their developing identity.
• A helpful phrase you can use that may reduce some of the pressure and urgency, leading to lessened friction and tension between your partner and child.

ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about the hidden dangers of an achievement centric approach with Jennifer Breheny Wallace

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about temperament and personality development with Dr. Koraly Pérez-Edgar

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about whether or not it's okay to let your child quit an activity

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about navigating conflict in your relationship with Dr. Marina Rosenthal

WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU:

Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

Dr. Wendy Rote is joining me to unpack some surprising and even counterintuitive findings about kids, smartphones, and social media. She and her team are in the middle of a groundbreaking longitudinal study following tweens over time, giving us rare insight into how technology is shaping the mental health and identity development of Generation Alpha.

Together we explore:

• Why the question "Is social media making kids depressed?" might be the wrong one to ask and what we should be asking instead.

• A finding that might shock you: Kids with smartphones actually show better physical and mental health outcomes in some key areas.

• What kind of social media behaviors are linked to more depressive symptoms and why it's not as simple as "time spent online."

• How compulsive checking could be a major mental health red flag that parents often miss.

• New, not-yet-published finding on the real impact school cell phone bans have been shown to have on kids.

• Why do some kids without phones actually report more cyberbullying and what that might reveal about exclusion and social dynamics?

• The one tech rule that makes the biggest difference in kids' well-being that has a greater impact that time limits and parental control setting.

If you've ever worried about screen time, debated a phone ban, or felt unsure how to support your child's relationship with tech, this conversation will give you fresh perspective, surprising data, and tangible guidance rooted in real research.

LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

👉🏻 Learn more about Dr. Wendy Rote's research on ResearchGate and Google Scholar

REVIEW THE STUDY:

📚 Life In Media Survey

ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES:

📚 The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt

🎧 Regulation, reward systems, and rest: Rewiring the way our kids interact with screens with Alé Duarte

MORE PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

🎧 264. The hidden dangers of EdTech: How technology in schools impacts learning, child development, and mental health with Andy Liddell

🎧 242. Have phones displaced our ability to play and have fun? How to be intentional with your tech use with Catherine Price

🎧 103. Secure attachment vs. social media: Navigating their effects on body image from early childhood to teen years with Dr. Miriam Steele

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...

• It's okay to set boundaries without needing to justify why you are setting them.

• How to communicate your boundaries to a friend or neighbor (with a sample script you can use!) to honor your needs without burning a bridge.

• Effective communication strategies and suggested responses for setting restrictions on allowing one of the neighborhood kids to come over uninvited - and how you can respond if your friends or neighbors pushes back.

• What if your neighbor sees that you let other kids come over unsupervised?

• A reminder that both the mom setting the boundary and the mom receiving it could benefit from hearing.

ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about fostering deep and meaningful relationships with Dr. Rick Hanson

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about setting boundaries with family members

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about parental dysregulation with Dr. Amber Thornton

WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU:

Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

Jennie Monness is joining me this week to break down the difference between developmentally normal (and healthy!) anxiety and signs that your child may need additional support—and how you can adjust your parenting approach to effectively support both.

Together we explore:

• Why our instinct to remove discomfort may actually make anxiety worse—and what to do instead.

• How to support children with separation anxiety, and the surprising stressors that often go unnoticed during transitions.

• Utilizing strategies to help your child feel more grounded, like routines, visual schedules, and previewing.

• The difference between information gathering and reassurance seeking behaviors in children - and how knowing this difference can impact which parenting tool you use to best support them.

• Dr. Sarah's simple "anxiety formula" that helps you know exactly where to focus your support.

• How to get to the root of your child's fear, when it isn't so obvious to decode and identify for parents.

• Play therapy techniques and somatic work you can use to explore the fears that are hard for your child to talk about or that they are avoiding outside of playful environments.

Whether your child is anxious about school drop-off, starting something new, or just seems to struggle with big feelings, this conversation will help you feel more empowered to support them—without needing to rescue them from every hard emotion.

LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

• https://www.jenniemonness.com/

• https://www.unionsquareplay.com/

• https://charmspring.com/

FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA:

📱 @jenniemonness

📱 @drsarahbren

ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES:

• Beam : Breathwork + Meditation App

• Hatch Restore 3 light

MORE PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

🎧 3. The Wonders of Play: More Than Just a Way to Pass the Time with Jennie Monness

🎧 82. Tips for traveling with babies toddlers and children what every parent needs to hear before their family vacation begins with Jennie Monness

🎧 105. How RIE can evolve into lifelong respectful parenting: Growing your parenting approach as your child grows with Janet Lansbury

🎧 202. Regulation, reward systems, and rest: Rewiring the way our kids interact with screens with Alé Duarte

🎧 72. Supportive parenting for anxious childhood emotions space how a new treatment for childhood anxiety and OCD is revolutionizing care with Dr. Eli Lebowitz

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...

• What to do when your toddler spirals from silly to overstimulated in seconds.

• Unpacking the difference between dysregulation and high arousal—and why this distinction matters.

• Strategies parents can use to share joyful, silly and playful moment with your sensitive child without overwhelming them.

• If you stop being so silly and fun, is that over-accommodating and bowing down too much to your child without teaching them that they need to handle this?

• When these stimulation meltdowns happen, what you can do to recover.

• How you can build your child's tolerance for the silliness while modulating the intensity to help you.

• How a playful response can also help move you out of a shame response.

• Is there a different strategy to use if this high arousal overwhelm comes from a more fun and silly moment versus you losing your cool and yelling?

REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:

👉🏻 Click HERE for my workshop, Be the Calm in Your Child's Storm: How to Keep Your Cool When Your Child Loses Theirs, to get the exact therapeutic interventions I use with my patients that can change the way your brain and body interprets your child's dysregulation to help you stay cool in the heat of the moment.

ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about managing dysregulated from positive emotions

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about parental dysregulation with Dr. Amber Thornton

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about what to do when you lose your cool with Dr. Cindy Hovington

WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU:

Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

What if the way we talk about birth is shaping the way we experience it—before it even begins? Joining me to unpack this is journalist, professor, and author of Invisible Labor: The Untold Story of the Cesarean Section, Rachel Somerstein.

Together we explore:

• The hidden biases and ingrained language that shape how we view birth—why terms like "failure to progress" reinforce harmful narratives.

• Why flexibility is a powerful tool in birth and parenting—and why we so often slip into rigidity when we feel anxious or out of control.

• The societal pressure to "do birth right" and how it impacts a birthing person's experience.

• The troubling reality of whose life we prioritize in birth and what that says about our values in America.

• Why do some births lead to trauma while others don't? What the research reveals about the difference.

• The importance of preparing for a c-section—even if it's not part of your birth plan—so that you feel safe and supported if it happens.

• Simple but impactful shifts that could make c-sections a more positive experience.

With 1 in 3 births resulting in a c-section, this is a conversation every birthing person deserves to hear. Tune in for a thought-provoking deep dive into the realities of modern birth and what we can do to reclaim agency in the process.

LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

👉🏻 https://www.rachelsomerstein.com/

📚 Invisible Labor: The Untold Story of the Cesarean Section and the Disturbing State of Maternal Medical Care

FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL:

📱 IG: @rachelesomerstein & LinkedIn: Rachel Somerstein

📱 IG: @drsarahbren

ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES:

👉🏻 Click HERE to download my free interactive workbook, My Mental HealthPostpartum Checklist, that will help you create a personalized mental health support system for yourself allowing you to feel more confident and relaxed, knowing you have a plan for whatever your unique postpartum experience may be.

CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

🎧 240. Processing birth trauma: How to make sense of, heal, and move forward after a difficult birthing experience with Dr. Sterling

🎧 282. Beyond the 6-week checkup: A realistic look at postpartum and early parenthood with Dr. Jessica Vernon

🎧 35. Rethinking the birth plan: How to create a plan with your OB/GYN that supports resilience and reduces anxiety during and after pregnancy with Dr. Shieva Ghofrany