Seeing Other People

Ilana is joined by Human Design expert and author Erin Claire Jones (@erinclairejones) to break down how understanding your unique design can shift the way you date, connect, and make decisions in love. Erin explains what Human Design is, how it compares to tools like astrology or the Enneagram, and how your chart reveals insights into your relationship patterns and emotional wiring. They talk about the five Human Design types and how each one tends to show up in dating, why we’re drawn to certain people, and how to tell the difference between authentic traits and protective patterns. Erin also shares what she’s learned from working with thousands of couples, how to navigate red flags, and how your design can help you stop second-guessing yourself when it comes to love.

Erin's book "How Do You Choose" is out now wherever books are sold.

Learn more at https://humandesignblueprint.com/ and use code ILANA for a discount on your guide!

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In this episode, Jake plays cohost as we’re joined by comedian and podcast host Jared Freid—someone who’s played an unexpectedly big role in our relationship. From being mentioned on our very first date to inspiring parts of our vows, Jared has been part of our love story from day one. We talk about the grind of building a show, what Jake has learned from Jared, and what it feels like to open a DM from a listener. We dive into a listener question about food sharing, discuss dating with food allergies, and hear the behind the scenes of Jared’s stand-up career. Plus, Jake vents about what it’s like to be married to someone who wants to make new friends.

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I’m joined by Melissa Fitch and Michelle Unger, the BFF duo behind The M Take pod. They’re both married to their long-time loves (a college boyfriend and a high school sweetheart!) and navigating motherhood, partnership, and friendship together. We dive into what they wish they talked about before getting married or pregnant, and how becoming parents at different times affected their friendship. Melissa opens up about feeling disconnected when Michelle was pregnant and she wasn’t, and how they found their way back to each other. We also get into what it really looks like to talk with your partner about finances, parenting philosophies, mental health, and family boundaries before making big life moves .

Follow The M Take on IG and check out the podcast on Spotify!

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Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com 

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I’m joined by Eli Weinstein⁠, LCSW, therapist and host of The Dude Therapist Podcast, for real talk about what women often misunderstand about men, the pressure to be emotionally “on the same level” in relationships, and how to approach hard conversations with care. We also get into the overload of self-help content online, what to watch out for, and how to stay grounded in your growth—even if your partner isn’t quite there yet. Eli also answers some thoughtful listener questions about dating, sex, anxiety, and emotional connection.

Learn more and work with Eli at eliweinsteinlcsw.com

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Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com 

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In this solo episode, I’m sharing some unexpected life updates—including a few medical things I’ve been navigating lately—and TV shows I recently found out not everyone has seen (which feels criminal, honestly). Then we’re diving into modern dating red flags that are actually... green. From not texting all day to taking things slow to living at home and not having social media, there are a lot of behaviors we’ve been taught to panic about that are actually signs of emotional maturity, intentionality, or just being a normal person with a life offline.Let’s break down what’s actually a red flag—and what might just be your inner saboteur overreacting.

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Stop putting off those doctor appointments and instantly book a top-rated doctor today at zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople

Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com 

Your mental health matters. Head to rula.com/seeingotherpeople to connect with a licensed therapist who truly cares

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I’m joined by Benjamin Camras, Flirt Coach and host of Flirtations!, to talk all things flirting—how to build real chemistry, flirt without the ick, and actually know when someone’s into you. We answer your questions about navigating workplace crushes, why great text chemistry can fall flat in person, what it means when you keep getting the “just friends” response, and how to flirt with confidence (even if you’re socially anxious). Whether you love flirting or dread it, this episode has something for you.

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I’m joined by my childhood best friend Jessie — the one who’s seen me through every confusing situationship, career pivot, and major life change. We’re talking about how she went from friends to married with her high school crush, what it was like when the three of us lived together, and her take on the guys I used to date… versus what she thought when she met Jake. We also answer listener questions about being in different life stages than your friends, falling for a friend, and how to support someone through heartbreak.

Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE 

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Stop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today.

Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com! 

Go to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep!

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Author and Relationship Expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip joins me to unpack the invisible load we carry in relationships—why emotional and mental labor often falls on one partner, and how to create more balance without resentment. We also talk about how relationship needs shift from dating to marriage, how to spot self-sabotage, and why independence can be hard to let go of in your first serious relationship in your 30s. Whether you’re single, dating, or deep in a long-term relationship, this episode will make you feel seen.

Follow Dr. Morgan @drmorgancutlip on IG and check out drmorgancutlip.com to order her book and learn more.

Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE 

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Stop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today.

Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com! 

Go to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep!

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Cohosts for Life is our new Patreon weekly series where we (Ilana & Jake) sit down every Sunday—just the two of us—to reflect, laugh, vent, and share the real behind-the-scenes of our lives together. Think of it as our relationship diary, marriage memoir, and life update all wrapped into one cozy, chaotic, honest little episode that drops every Monday.

Whether we're unpacking what made us laugh this week, sharing stories we forgot to tell each other in real time, or navigating the growing pains of being newlyweds, this is your front-row seat to the reality of being cohosts in both life and love.

Episode 1 is our here for you, but the rest will be exclusively on Patreon. Come hang with us 💛

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At 27, Alanna Vizzoni was diagnosed with breast cancer—and everything changed overnight. In this raw and honest conversation, she opens up about what it was like to go from “normal” to navigating chemo, a mastectomy, and a surprise engagement all in the same chapter. We talk about identity, body image, intimacy, and what it means to love and be loved through something life-altering. Alanna shares the moments that broke her, the ones that brought her closer to herself and her partner, and why she chose to document it all online.

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Book a 1:1 dating coaching session or profile revamp with me here

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE 

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Stop putting off those doctor appointments and go to zocdoc.com/seeingotherpeople to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today.

Start planning your dream wedding at Zola.com! 

Go to helixsleep.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 20% off better sleep!

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