Seeing Other People

We’ve all got something we’re scared to talk about. Maybe you still live at home, haven’t had sex yet, just lost your job, or are quietly working through something painful. So many of us carry shame about parts of our lives we think others will judge, but the truth is, everyone’s going through something. In this solo episode, I’m talking about what it means to truly own your story. Not justify it. Not explain it away. Just own it. I’ll share examples, reframes, and reminders to help you feel more confident in the parts of your life that might feel complicated or hard to say out loud. This episode is your permission slip to stop hiding and start showing up exactly as you are.

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Psychologist, relationship expert, and author Dr. Harry Cohen joins us to explain the power of being a “positive energizer,” what it really means to bring good energy into a room, and why it’s often the smallest things that make the biggest difference. We dive into how to show up better in your relationship, how to recover from mistakes without overprocessing, why most people give advice the wrong way, and what Dr. Cohen has learned from 45 years of marriage.

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Ilana’s back from a fun bachelorette weekend in Maine and shares her travel nightmares, while Jake recaps his boys weekend with Barkley. Ilana’s riding high from her best long run yet, while Jake’s stuck on the couch dealing with his calf injury. We dive into the viral street-side walking debate that has TikTok roasting Jake for his so-called lack of etiquette. We break down what actually counts as bare minimum vs princess treatment in relationships, debating location sharing, gender norms, what chivalry really means, and more.

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When Waverly Colville signed a lease with a stranger named John Guilyard in the summer of 2020, she never imagined she was also meeting her future partner. Two years of friendship, late-night talks, and dancing around their feelings later, one kiss changed everything. In this episode, Waverly and John join us to share the real story of how they went from roommates to best friends to partners — and everything they learned along the way about timing, fear, and falling in love with someone who already knows the real you.
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Breakups today aren’t just about letting go of a person — they’re about navigating texts, timelines, algorithmic reminders, and the pressure to "heal fast." Therapist and Lonely Hearts Club founder Lexi Joondeph-Breidbart joins Ilana to unpack what actually helps people move on, why we obsess over old messages, and how to know if it's time to unfollow, mute, or block your ex for good.

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Welcome to the very first official episode of Cohosts for Life! Ilana kick things off by explaining why this series exists, what inspired it, and what you can expect moving forward. Then we attempt to reintroduce each other before diving into a Q&A for you guys to know Jake more. We walk you through what to expect each week, from Ilana’s marathon training to Jake’s calf injury, what we’re learning on TikTok, what we’re watching, and how we’re spending our time together. Whether you’re here for the relationship convos, the life updates, or just to feel like you’re hanging out with two married best friends, we’re so glad you’re here.

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In this Unfiltered, a listener shares the hard truths she’s learned through dating, heartbreak, and situationships. From realizing you can’t force someone to like you, to learning that overcompromising and over-efforting doesn’t lead to love, she reflects on the patterns she’s finally ready to break. If you’ve ever asked yourself why didn’t they choose me?—this one’s for you.

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Ryan Kenny, comedian and dater, joins me for a hilarious, honest convo on ghosting, dating app fatigue, and the awkwardness of putting yourself out there. We chat about exclusivity talks, bad sex with great people, and why women in friend groups are basically unapproachable.

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In this Unfiltered, a 39-year-old New Yorker opens up about dating a guy who was terrible for her, but ultimately changed her life for the better. Before, she was stuck in the “cool girl” role, hiding her needs and feeling constant anxiety. After this relationship led her to work with a relationship coach, she learned to be honest with herself and others and date without shame, leading to her now connecting with people who don’t trigger her fears.

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Dana, a 31-year-old nurse, shares how her seemingly “on track” life slowly unraveled in a toxic marriage that took a toll on her mental and physical health, even causing heart palpitations. After facing manipulation, family drama, and feeling like a stranger in her own life, Dana hit rock bottom — but that moment became the start of her healing. She opens up about rediscovering herself through therapy, self-care, and leaning on her family, and how she’s now focused on rebuilding her independence and creating a life that actually feels good.

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