Seeing Other People

I'm joined by my friend, fashion designer and founder of Maison Des Nus, Balim Tezel. We talk about what it’s like to build a life from scratch—moving to the U.S. for college, creating a chosen family in NYC, and launching the brand she dreamed of since childhood. Balim shares what dating for the first time in her twenties taught her about herself and what she was looking for, how she unexpectedly met her boyfriend Vinnie, and how his steady support helped her navigate the isolation of being far from home, especially during the four years she couldn’t leave the U.S. while waiting for her green card. Follow Maison Des Nus @maisondesnus on IG & @maisondesnus on TikTok

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This week, we talk about the chaos of prepping for our move and how we’re handling all the changes together. We also get into Taylor's engagement, which reality TV shows we’d join (and why we’d be like if we were on The Bachelor), plus some marathon training updates.

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I went from hating running to completing my first half marathon and signing up for the NYC Marathon. On this episode I share my full running journey—injuries, mental battles, and everything in between. I cover how to start running without feeling overwhelmed, essential gear, pacing, nutrition, and staying motivated. Plus, I dive into why I actually love running, the sense of accomplishment it brings, and how it’s helped me unplug and find community along the way. Shop my running favorites here https://shopmy.us/shop/ilana?Section_id=136776&tab=collections

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Just because someone ghosted you doesn’t mean they’re a narcissist. Ilana is joined by licensed therapist Carla Litto, LMFT, to unpack what actually makes someone a narcissist, what doesn’t, and why the term is being thrown around so loosely. They also talk about how to recognize real narcissistic behavior in relationships, what to do if you’re in one, and how to heal after emotional manipulation or gaslighting.

Grab a copy of Outsmarting Egomaniacs wherever books are sold and learn more at https://www.carlalittotherapy.com/

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We announce a major life update, talk about how absurd the logistics of living in NYC are, and debate whether or not Ilana should start another new business. We also get into our favorite types of nights out (with each other, with friends, and with family), recap the funniest movie we’ve ever seen (no spoilers!), and complain about books that we hate and why it takes families forever to pick a movie. 

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On this Unfiltered, an anonymous guest opens up about how body image struggles, weight gain, and health issues in her mid-to-late 20s held her back from enjoying life — and almost stopped her from celebrating her own wedding. From dreading engagement photos and dress shopping to nearly eloping, she shares the turning point that changed everything and how she finally embraced the love and celebration she deserves.

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What really happens after someone cheats—and is there ever a way back? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Monique Thompson, a licensed psychotherapist, bestselling author of the Infidelity Recovery Workbook for Couples. She reveals why “going back to the way it was” is never the goal, how to know if your discomfort is about your partner or your own unresolved past, and the science-backed number of minutes it actually takes to heal betrayal trauma (spoiler: it’s fewer than you think). Her no-nonsense, non-judgmental approach will completely change the way you think about cheating, trust, and what’s possible on the other side.

Follow Dr. Monique on Instagram at @drmoniquethompson, learn more at drmoniquethompson.com, and grab her book Infidelity Recovery Workbook for Couples.

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It's Ilana's 31st birthday! We're recapping a fun filled week including the Jonas Brothers concert that broke the internet, way too much sushi, and Jake's first attempt at painting pottery. We share an exciting and nerve wracking life update, and Ilana gets emotional thinking about what her 13 year old self would think of her 31 year old self.

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On this episode of Unfiltered, Sagari takes us through her powerful transformation from a self-proclaimed serial monogamist stuck in toxic relationship patterns to someone confidently single and truly thriving. She opens up about her breakup horror stories (yes, including one during a Broadway intermission), what kept her in relationships she knew weren’t right, and how she finally healed and reconnected with herself. Sagari shares how learning to trust her gut—rather than following advice, checklists, or expectations—changed everything.

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This week, I’m joined by my run coach Victoria Sekely, DPT, for a candid conversation about living life on your own terms. We talk about the shocking way she met her husband, why she never wanted a traditional wedding, and her decision not to have kids. She shares how she navigates changing friendships as her friends become moms, finds fulfillment in other ways, and deals with people questioning her choices. We also get into letting go of grudges, protecting your peace, and the mental load of social media.

Follow Victoria at @trainsmartrunstrong on IG, @trainsmartrunstrong on TT, and learn more at her website trainsmartrunstrong.com

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