Seeing Other People

Jake and I are back reflecting on how good it feels to be surrounded by reliable people, the upgrades we’ve made to our apartment, and all the business ideas we’ve had but never acted on. Then we get into the big questions: did dating apps actually make dating easier or just more exhausting? Are you even allowed to date someone who’s allergic to your favorite food? We compare the best and worst parts of being single versus being partnered, and wrap with a wild “Am I The Asshole?” listener scenario involving a self-destructive friend who hooked up with another friend’s boyfriend.

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I’m joined by Judit, a 49-year-old woman living in Barcelona who has never been married and is opening up about what it’s really like to be single at this stage of life. She shares what she wishes she could tell her 30-year-old self about dating, how the landscape has shifted from pre-apps to today, and how she responds when people ask, “why are you still single?” Whether you’re panicking in your late 20s or feeling the pressure in your 30s, this conversation is a powerful reminder that timelines are made up and there’s more than one path to happiness. Follow Judith on IG @it.is.miranda.time and grab a copy of her book https://natodating.com/

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If you’ve ever stressed about your biological clock or worried what your future fertility might look like, this episode is for you. I’m joined by Kirsten Karchmer, a reproductive health expert who’s worked with over 10,000 couples through infertility and founded Conceivable to make care more effective and accessible.We talk about the signs in your cycle you shouldn’t ignore, what you can start doing now—before you even have a partner—to support your fertility, and how stress, relationships, and self-advocacy all play a role. Kirsten’s advice will leave you feeling informed, empowered, and more in control of your future.

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Ciao! We’re back from Italy and breaking down the highlights! Jake crushed it on the golf course while I ate spaghetti pomodoro every single day with no regrets. We talk about bringing your partner on a family trip, being creatures of habit, and then dive into your answers to my Instagram polls. If a relationship feels good but something is missing, is that enough to leave? Would you date someone who checks every box but doesn’t excite you? Are you settling without realizing it? We read your submissions and debate which hit home the most.

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In this solo episode, I get vulnerable about a big life change I’m going through and what it’s teaching me about growth, and timing. I break down two listener scenarios: one from someone in a long-term relationship wondering if they’re settling because the spark feels missing, and another from a single listener questioning whether to lower their standards or stay single while searching for someone who truly excites them. We unpack the difference between healthy standards and unrealistic checklists, attraction versus compatibility, and how to trust yourself when it comes to matters of the heart.

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Conversations with the people we love can feel harder than ever, but small shifts in how we listen and speak can completely transform your connections. I talk with New York Times bestselling author Charles Duhigg (Supercommunicators, The Power of Habit) about how to navigate tricky conversations, build trust, and create deeper connection in dating, relationships, friendships, and family.

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Live from Italy, Jake and I are recapping the Jewish holidays, what stuck with us from the rabbi’s sermon, and what it was like hosting a holiday for the first time. We’re sharing the highs and lows from our travel day to Puglia, including our very first business class flight and whether we think it’s worth the hype. Then we answer listener questions: what to do when your sister gets engaged while hiding emotional cheating, whether random selfies from someone you're dating signal interest, and if it’s a bad sign when someone goes on vacation and never texts first.

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My best friend and former Life in Progress cohost, Carly Silverman, joins me for a catch-up on pregnancy, friendship, and how our relationship has evolved as we’ve moved into different chapters of life. We talk jealousy, long-distance best friendship, what we miss from our Life in Progress era, and what excites us most about what’s ahead.

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I’m joined by dating coach and author Sabrina Bendory to unpack the game-changing concept of detachment — a mindset that transformed her love life and coaching approach. We dive into the fear of ending up alone and how to move through it, what real confidence feels like, how to stop obsessing over texts or social media, break overthinking cycles, and advice for being the only single friend in your group.

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Fresh off a 20 mile run I reflect on how I finally feel like I’ve turned a corner in marathon training. Jake earned some serious credit in the Husband Duties department so I share why expressing gratitude for each other matters. We talk about what we wanted to be when we grew up compared to how many kids now want to be influencers and wrap with a new game called “Popstar or Ilana” where Jake has to guess if dramatic song lyrics are from real hit songs or pulled from my middle school notebooks.

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