Delanie Fischer chats with Dr. Judy Ho, licensed clinical and forensic neuropsychologist, tenured professor at Pepperdine University, and TV host, about attention-seeking behavior. They take a deep dive into one common type, sympathy-seeking, to explore its root causes, distinguish between healthy and unhealthy attention-seeking, and share practical tips for approaching conversations with empathy.

Plus:

+ Breakdown of 6 Common Attention-Seeking Behaviors

+ The Biggest Myth About Neuroplasticity—Busted

+ 15 Tips: Self-Auditing, Parenting, and Tough Conversations

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Understand Your Attachment Style with Thais Gibson: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/228cc412/craving-a-healthy-relationship-understand-your-attachment-style-with-thais-gibson

What If You Did The Opposite Action Today? with Dr. Luana Marquez:

https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/273fa5be/self-helpless-snack-what-if-you-did-the-opposite-action-today-with-dr-luana-marquez

15 Signs of Emotional Abuse with Dr. Stephanie Sarkis: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/246a6f64/self-helpless-snack-15-signs-of-emotional-abuse-with-dr-stephanie-sarkis

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Delanie Fischer chats with actor and filmmaker Kit Williamson, best known for Mad Men, Eastsiders, and Unconventional , about the ebbs and flows of a long-term creative career. They dive into the resilience and recommitment required for longevity, navigating big breaks and dead projects, exercising creative agency, and behind-the-scenes insights into filmmaking.

Plus:

+ The Process of Selling a Project vs. Creating a World

+ Avoiding Perfection Paralysis and Releasing Shame

+ Repurposing, Financing, and Getting Resourceful

Unconventional: https://www.revry.tv/originals/unconventional?srsltid=AfmBOoqpHDsMf__K9un9PxTtwQO4rU5U2HGBxcf4lpN7JgG1bcpS429h

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We Need Your Art! For Health, Community, and More with Amie McNee: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/25b6ee3e/we-need-your-fcking-art-for-health-community-and-more-with-amie-mcnee

It's Not Too Late To Start with Jared Champion: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23f7190f/its-not-too-late-to-start-with-jared-champion

Q&A: Publishing, Podcasting, and Creative Entrepreneurship with Literary Agent Lindsey Smith and Podcaster Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23bfb9d7/qanda-publishing-podcasting-and-creative-entrepreneurship-with-literary-agent-lindsey-smith-and-podcaster-delanie-fischer

Making Less And Living More with Creator of Lore and Lust Karla Nikole: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24656068/making-less-and-living-more-with-creator-of-lore-and-lust-karla-nikole

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Delanie Fischer chats with engineer and choreo-roboticist Dr. Catie Cuan about the future of AI, robotics, and the art of human-robot interaction. They explore potential pitfalls, promising upsides, and everything in between—impacting creativity, health, the environment, and human connection.

Plus:

+ Rethinking Machines in Hospitals and Beyond

+ The Evolution of Jobs and Emerging Careers

+ "Uhm...What if a Robot Becomes Conscious"

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We Need Your Art! For Health, Community, and More with Amie McNee: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/25b6ee3e/we-need-your-fcking-art-for-health-community-and-more-with-amie-mcnee

Self-Helpless Snack: "What's Your Favorite Documentary?" (20 Documentaries To Watch This Year): https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2542cab6/self-helpless-snack-whats-your-favorite-documentary-20-documentaries-to-watch-this-year

Need a Strong Dose of Optimism? 5 Tips for an Instant Perspective Shift with Bill Burke: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/255fd6bc/need-a-strong-dose-of-optimism-5-tips-for-an-instant-perspective-shift-with-bill-burke

10 Powerful Journal Prompts with Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/f034e4d1/10-powerful-journal-prompts-with-delanie-fischer-and-kelsey-cook

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Michelle “MACE” Curran—former fighter pilot, combat veteran, and the second woman in history to fly lead solo for the U.S. Air Force Thunderbirds—to share lessons from a demanding, high-stakes career. They discuss tactics for managing fear and self-doubt, navigating pivots and reinvention, and the importance of following your evolving excitement and sense of adventure.

Plus:

+ A Breakdown of G-Force, G-Lock, and Going Supersonic 

+ The Treasure Chest Tip: Turning Missteps into Momentum

+ The Life Lesson Behind Call Signs (and How MACE Got Hers)

Mace's book, The Flipside: https://macecurran.com/flipside/

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15 Tips For Managing Stage Fright In Work And Life with Em Schulz and Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/21e3bc9e/15-tips-for-managing-stage-fright-in-work-and-life-with-em-schulz-and-delanie-fischer

When Your Dream Job Ends with Sam Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23660c46/when-your-dream-job-ends-with-sam-fischer

“You’re So Sensitive”: Understanding Everyday Microaggressions, Implicit Bias, and Best Practices with Billie Lee & Dr. Gina Torino: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2396d366/youre-so-sensitive-understanding-everyday-microaggressions-implicit-bias-and-best-practices-with-billie-lee-and-dr-gina-torino

Defiant Dreams with Sola Mahfouz and Malaina Kapoor: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/226e5e22/defiant-dreams-with-sola-mahfouz-and-malaina-kapoor

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Behavioral Change Expert and Bestselling Author, Karen Salmansohn, to discuss insights from her latest book, Your To-Die-For Life: How to Maximize Joy and Minimize Regret . . . Before Your Time Runs Out. Karen combines neuroscience, psychology, philosophy, and personal stories to share effective mindset hacks, exercises, and the core values that will help you avoid the top regrets of the dying, be present, and have more fun—more often.

Plus:

+ 7 Core Values That Ward Off Top Regrets of the Dying

+ The Marble Jar, Greater Than Sign, and Your To-Die List

+ Beast Mode vs. Best Mode and Pleasure vs. Happiness

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Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com

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Flip the Script on Aging: Strength, Vitality, and Purpose with 74 Year-Old Icon Babette Davis: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23c49ad2/flip-the-script-on-aging-strength-vitality-and-purpose-with-74-year-old-icon-babette-davis

Overcoming the Fear of Death with Kelvin Chin: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/20d70e6d/overcoming-the-fear-of-death-with-kelvin-chin

Compounded Grief: Coping With Multiple Losses At Once with Stephanie Edwards: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/250aef7a/compounded-grief-coping-with-multiple-losses-at-once-with-stephanie-edwards

My Dad Was Diagnosed With Lewy Body Dementia with Erika Martin: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/21b228bf/my-dad-was-diagnosed-with-lewy-body-dementia-with-erika-martin

20+ Years Thriving With Stage IV Cancer with Kris Carr: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/22f2b084/20-years-thriving-with-stage-iv-cancer-with-kris-carr

When I Found Out I Had A Brain Tumor with Athena Trombly: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/25e37bb7/when-i-found-out-i-had-a-brain-tumor-with-athena-trombly

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Billie Lee—comedian, activist, and the first openly transgender cast member on BravoTV’s Vanderpump Rules—and Dr. Gina Torino, psychologist and microaggression expert, to share insights from their book, Why Are You So Sensitive?: Navigating Everyday, Unintended Microaggressions. They discuss why microaggressions aren’t “micro” at all, the devastating impact they can have on wellbeing, livelihood, and safety, how to raise our own awareness to become better allies, and practical tips for handling unintended microaggressions with grace—whether you’re the receiver, the giver, or a bystander. This conversation is judgment-free, we’ve all committed and experienced microaggressions, whether we realize it or not.

Plus:

+ The #1 Thing to Do Before Taking Action on Someone’s Behalf

+ Assumptions We Make Based on Gender, Age, Race, and More

+ 3 Common Microaggressions Disguised as Compliments

Why Are You So Sensitive?: Navigating Everyday, Unintended Microaggressions: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Why-Are-You-So-Sensitive/Billie-Lee/9781524873493

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Cultural Appropriation vs. Cultural Appreciation with Trevia Woods: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2505c934/cultural-appropriation-vs-cultural-appreciation-with-trevia-woods

Spiritual Activism with Racial Justice Educator, Rachel Ricketts: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/255a24cd/spiritual-activism-with-racial-justice-educator-rachel-ricketts

Cancel Culture vs. Accountability with Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/38432784/cancel-culture-vs-accountability-with-sonya-renee-taylor

The Body Positivity Movement: What’s Working vs. What’s Not? with Jessamyn Stanley: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/e814d362/the-body-positivity-movement-whats-working-vs-whats-not-with-jessamyn-stanley

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Sam Laura Brown, host of The Perfectionism Project and Founder of Perfectionists Getting Shit Done, to discuss how to approach your personal and professional goals in a way that works with your brain, not against it. Sam shares insights on Power Planning, the importance of clean rest, and an astounding reason why we procrastinate and consistently burnout—it'll change your world forever.

Plus:

+ The 1 Thing To Screenshot Today To Decode Your Schedule

+ Optimal vs. Sufficient (What Perfectionists Must Remember)

+ Screw 100% Follow-Through—Why 80% Is Your New Best Friend

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Cracking The Code To Behavior Change: Troubleshooting Tiny Barriers That Destroy Big Goals with Molly Maxwell: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24e651e8/cracking-the-code-to-behavior-change-troubleshooting-tiny-barriers-that-destroy-big-goals-with-molly-maxwell

12 ADHD Life Hacks with Em Schulz: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/252910dc/12-adhd-life-hacks-with-em-schulz

Hurry Sickness And The Busy Brain Cure with Dr. Romie Mushtaq: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/243d15fa/hurry-sickness-and-the-busy-brain-cure-with-dr-romie-mushtaq

We Need Your F*cking Art! For Health, Community, and More with Amie McNee: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/25b6ee3e/we-need-your-fcking-art-for-health-community-and-more-with-amie-mcnee

Creating A Life Brief And Getting "Fuzzy Clear" with Bonnie Wan: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/251bf5df/creating-a-life-brief-and-getting-fuzzy-clear-with-bonnie-wan

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Dr. Tara—Tenured Professor of Relational and Sexual Communication and Quantitative Research at California State University Fullerton, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, and Co-Host of the iconic radio show Loveline—to unpack the “whys” behind infidelity. Dr. Tara shares the 3 main reasons people cheat, how to begin healing from betrayal, and what to consider for creating healthier relationship dynamics.

Plus:

+ 2 Sexual Health Myths Debunked

+ Serial Cheaters vs. Serial Monogamists

+ A Breakdown of Catastrophe Theory

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When My Husband Came Out: Sexuality, Betrayal, and Healing with Jessica Frew: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/229e6642/when-my-husband-came-out-sexuality-betrayal-and-healing-with-jessica-frew

Meeting Your Soulmate (While Married) and Breaking Free From "Good Girl" Conditioning with Amber Rae: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/21afaab6/meeting-your-soulmate-while-married-and-breaking-free-from-good-girl-conditioning-with-amber-rae

Diagnosed Narcissist (Lee Hammock) and Clinical Psychologist (Dr. Ramani) Offer Insights Into Manipulation And Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD): https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/241deda3/diagnosed-narcissist-lee-hammock-and-clinical-psychologist-dr-ramani-offer-insights-into-manipulation-and-narcissistic-personality-disorder-npd

Deceptive Affection, Betrayal Trauma, and Multidimensional Healing with Támara Hill: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24cc8b07/deceptive-affection-betrayal-trauma-and-multidimensional-healing-with-tamara-hill

Your Burning Relationship Questions Answered with Rachel DeAlto: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/3f1ddb9c/your-burning-relationship-questions-answered-with-rachel-dealto

Is It Porn Addiction? Inside the Impact, Neuroscience, and Recovery with Steve Moore and Mark Kastleman: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2230ec70/is-it-porn-addiction-inside-the-impact-neuroscience-and-recovery-with-steve-moore-and-mark-kastleman

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Astrologer Madi Murphy, Founder of CosmicRX and Author of In the Cosmic Zone: Embody the 12 Astro Archetypes to Unleash Your Genius and Activate Your Authentic Self, to discuss all things astrology—history, skepticism, archetypes, planetary transits, and leveraging your unique natal chart to create a life that feels like you. Madi also shares how her husband went from astro skeptic to believer, how she integrates a variety of tools and modalities into her practice, and even gives Delanie a live reading based on her own birth chart to explore life transitions, purpose, and what may be on the horizon.

Plus:

+ Does Your Sign Actually Dictate Your Relationships?

+ Nodal Return, Jupiter Return, and Retrogrades Explained

+ The Big Dream Madi Manifested a Little Too Hard

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What’s Your Human Design? with Krystle Alfarero: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/4eebd9b0/whats-your-human-design-with-krystle-alfarero

Enneagram Personality Test Results with Taylor Tomlinson, Kelsey Cook, and Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/93ee0232/enneagram-personality-test-results-with-taylor-tomlinson-kelsey-cook-and-delanie-fischer

Myers Briggs Personality Test Results with Taylor Tomlinson, Kelsey Cook, and Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/82eb04b2/myers-briggs-personality-test-results-with-taylor-tomlinson-kelsey-cook-and-delanie-fischer

The 4 Attachment Styles (And Our Quiz Results): https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2283b7fd/the-4-attachment-styles-and-our-quiz-results

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/dd3a637b/the-5-love-languages-by-gary-chapman

The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/dfdf5c79/the-four-tendencies-by-gretchen-rubin

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer (Attempt To) Read Their Birth Charts: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2857914b/were-reading-our-birth-charts

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Delanie Fischer is joined by Amber Rae, author of Loveable, to unpack what it was like to meet her soulmate—while still married to her ex-husband. Amber shares her feelings about experiencing a lonely marriage, the days leading up to her decision to leave, how she transformed internalized shame, where she and her ex-husband are now in life and love, and lessons learned—as well as those still a work in progress. This episode offers a very honest perspective on the sometimes messy, imperfect ways relationships can start and end, and what can keep us stuck in environments that aren’t meant for us.

Plus:

+ 3 Game-Changing Tips for Writers and Creatives

+ What Your Anger Might Be Telling You

+ Amber's Favorite Journaling Exercise

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The 4 Intimacy Styles with Dr. Viviana Coles

When My Husband Came Out: Sexuality, Betrayal, and Healing with Jessica Frew

My Parents Kept Their Divorce A Secret For 3 Years with Nishima Gupta

Craving A Healthy Relationship? Understand Your Attachment Style with Thais Gibson

How Being Children of Divorce Has Influenced Our Relationships

How To Un-F*ck Your Relationships

Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix

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